Well, I'm a serious sometimes funny type of person and usually my problem evolves in my love life :) ain't as lucky as you are.lol. I'm 16 and somewhat emotional. They say one of my assets is being sensitive to the feelings of others and one of my bad habits is playing with my hands while looking for words.
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My parents have officially said that I can have the name as "going out" with someone. There's this guy I've had my eye on for a while, but he has turned me down on several occasions. We're not exactly friends, and I haven't exactly asked him out. He knows I like(d) him and he's kinda weirded out by it. At the next dance should I ask him to dance?
(oh, I'm 13/f) (link)
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If he knows that you like him and he turned you down in several occasions then maybe he's distancing himself from you. What's his age? is his age the same as yours or not? If he is older then maybe he's uncomfortable with the fact that a younger is liking him or maybe he doesn't want to be with you. To avoid embarrassments, maybe you should look at his body language when he's around. You'll know when he likes you too if he changes he's attitude when you're around. If he's sending signals that he likes you too then maybe that's the time you'll ask him to dance.
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Okay i have a friend 2 friends i will call them K and C. Me and C have known each other for a long time but so have me and K. And K gets mad at me like every week because i am hanging out with C. Also K gets mad at me becuase i call her friend "Sarah" A loser who wants to be come popular and mean stuff like that. But K is also calling C meaner stuff that i will not say on here for certain reasons. And i told C some of the things that K said about her so K is mad at me AGAIN and it is getting really anoying. And yesterday she said sorry to me and i said that i can not forgive her for a while because she does that every week and she says she doesn't but she does so i am just hanging out with C. I am doing the right thing for just letting k have me as a friend for a little while. P.S. I RATE HIGH!
Please answer i really need the help. And if it helps i am 13 and a female. so are my friends. (link)
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Maybe K is saying something bad to C because you also called her friend a loser. If it isn't then maybe you should distance yourself from K because your fight might worsen and you'll be enemies. Just don't say anything first to C because it'll worsen the situation. Hope I helped!
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okie so the easiest way to put it is that my parents are complete conrol freaks and i cant do ANYTHING without them either noeing or okaying or watever and if i do im in complete trouble, can never go out agin, and watever else rite? AND they also threaten all the good in my life so that i HAVE to follow themm... ive thought about calling a child abuse service or watever but i thought that just might be a bit selfish because i have two siblings who reallie need the family until they're ready...and its so annoying because i cant do anything about it (dont ask why.. i just CANT) so im stuck like this for another three years and i really dont think i can survive that long. i mean who can??? if you were here youd probably noe. i dunt even talk bad about them to my friends and all my friends are scared of them. even my best friend is. o and they always go back on theyre word and change things around so that the story fits what theyre saying and they make you have a lot of accomplishments just so they can brag about it and all to all theyre friends and them even if its something you dont want to do and if there is something you want to do but they dont think you should because there is like "no point" (i.e. sports... they wont lemme try out for any of the sports teams at my school and they say its because of money reasons but they pay A LOTTTT more for my brothers' sports EVERY YEAR than they would for a sport). **btw that felt better just righting about it...** but anyways what should i do about it?
--DrIvEn CrAzY-- (link)
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Maybe you should talk to your parents directly. Ask them why they let your brother do sports and you can't. Confront them and listen to their answers. It shouldn't be necessarily both of them. Go to the parent that you are more comfortable with talking these stuffs. Let yourself understand why they are doing these things so that you can last for three years or more. Hope I helped!
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A week months back I was informed my friend gave someone else a hand-job. She's 14. I know, to some people this is normal, but we live in a nice small town where nothing like that ever really happens. Here it's different. I asked her if there was anymore and she 'swore on her music' I told her to never let him back in her house again because she claims he forced her into it. (She's in love with music, anything that has to deal with music). SO, naturally I believed her. Yesterday I found out new information. She had given a hand-job twice, a blow-job one, made out alot and let him feel her up. She never told me. She claims that she's scared, I would be too. I'm so mad about her not telling me. I'm her 'best friend'? Why don't I feel like it? (link)
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You don't feel like you're her bestfriend because she doesn't consider you as such. She doesn't want you to know she's doing those things for the reason that maybe you'll get angry. These are the things we can conclude if your sources are reliable. What if the information is wrong? If it is right then confront her. See if she is lying or not when you ask her. You'll notice by the way she acts. After that, tell her the consequences that might happen and convince her not to do it anymore. If she does not listen. Just let it go. You've done your part as her bestfriend.
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Ok alot of people i know think that i'm not a virgin ( even my own family). I haven't had sex and so what i know alot about sex. and they think i've given oral too.which i have not.i tell them over and over again but thyey don't belive me. And ruemers are already goin around that i'm a ho. What can i do to make them belive me? (link)
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Maybe your actions speak that you aren't though you aren't conscious of it. Try to act prim infront of them and if you're disturb by what they are judging about you then tell them straight that you are a virgin and if they don't believe why should I care much about close-minded people? You don't need to prove it to them if they are that close-minded, at least you told them the truth and nothing but.
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Is it better to wash your hair in cold water or in hot water? Is it less damaging? (link)
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It depends. But if you'll use conditioner then it's better to use hot water in washing your hair. Hope I helped.
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hey... my boyfriend and i just had a big talk and he wants to be in "time-out"
i have no clue what that means just that theres no kissing at school (so he said). now i dont know how to act around him or what to say to him
My questions are ... what do you think time-out is and how should i act around him at school???... im so confused and lost in all of this (link)
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I think he means he wants space to think things. Maybe you can do as he want. Give him space and don't get mad at him or nag at him because maybe he'll get angry at you. Just act as if there's no problem but don't push him into admission. Maybe he has a big problem. He'll come out of it sooner or later.
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I'm 13 and my brother is 15. He picks on me a lot and sometimes makes me mad but i love him very much. I just wish we were closer. I try to talk to him but he don't talk to me much. How do I get my brother and me to be closer? (link)
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find out something about him that he wants to keep secret. Know more about his secrets. As much as possible you need to know his secrets in order to be close him. If he knows that you know his secrets without letting him get angry. Just look at his daily activities and find out "accidentally", then maybe he'll get to talk to you more.
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This may sound like a dumb question but how do you know when your truely in LOVE? (link)
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When you're truly in love it's somewhat the same with crush but you'll know it's love because it'll last forever. Like you're willing to be with him and sacrifice for his happiness. You know when you're inlove when you're willing to accept his bad traits and think of them as good. You also know when you're inlove when this someone will inspire you to do good or change for the better. Love is not selfish. So you're willing to let go of him though it hurts so much for his happiness. Being jealous is not a true sign of love. It just meant that you are not sure if he/she loves you as much as you love him/her.
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i wrote before about "carl" and what had happended well i stil realli want him and i want to tell him but i dont know how i mean you wont just go up to him and tell him you like him when hes taken right or is that what i should do? i dont know but anyways, we started talking more now well more than before and we joke around and stuff and i just wish hed like me like i like him but i dont think he does. and i was talking to my best friend about it and she told me she was getting made cuz all i ever talk about is "carl" and i told that i do cuz i love him so much and i want to be with hi and nothing would make me happy until we are together and she looked at me like i was on drugs. so what im asking is should i tell him and if so when and where and HOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!plz help im so cunfused. (link)
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Because you're close then you have easy access to him. Be friendly with him and smile at him a lot during you're together and show through body language that you like him. But still if he doesn't get it then there's no harm in telling him straight. You'll find out for yourself if he likes you too and save your best friend from getting bored at you for always talking about carl.
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I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait? (link)
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I think you should go by your wishes and wait. What if he'll just leave you alone after you have sex with him. If he leaves you after having sex with you then you're at a loss because your virginity was broken and you might get pregnant but if he leaves without having sense then you aren't at a loss and can find someone else.
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WILL RATE HIGH my ex boyfriend is really worrying me. i broke up with him because he started to make me think that all he wanted from me was sex. im 14 hes 15. he was asking me if was a virgin (which i am), if i would leave him a sexy message on his messge maching, and he wasnt actualy talkin to me on the fone, it was all thr txt msgs.when i tried to talk to him he wouldnt pic up. and i cant stand relatiotships where there is no communication and he knew that was important to me. i went out with him once before and he broke up with me "because he thought i didnt like him" which didnt make much sense because i always made the first moves, he seemes like a whole different person now. anyway, i knew he drank occasionally and what i thoguht used to do some drugs. but i dont know, he says he has an anger problem and that he's going to get homeschooled. i think that would be worse for him. i know he has problems at home, but his parents are still marrried. he hurts himself, like he beats himself up and i dont understand. i dont think its anger problems i think he nees counsoling. i still care about him and i dont want him to do this to himself. i dont know what i should do...i dont want him to hurt himself (link)
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Ask yourself. Are you willing to do your best to save your ex? Then if you say yes then talk to him and make him understand, if he doesn't listen then maybe you can talk to the one he's close with or an elder/ guidance counselor. Ask him also what's the problem. Then if you can help without harming yourself then do it. But if you'll be harmed in the process then ask yourself do you prefer to save yourself or him?
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I moved to a new state last summer and i havent made that many friends at my new school. There was this girl who was also new who didnt know anyone and she was really down to earth, so we became friends. Over the school year shes become very stuck up, materialistic, and rude to people who try to be nice and talk to her. So im her only friend, and for a while she was my only friend. Ive made some friends with some very nice guys which have invited us (me and my friend) to sit with them during lunch. She never wants to because she thinks shes too good for them. I really dont see anything wrong with them, they are just trying to be friends with her. So i told her to stop being mean and to come sit with them sometime. She always refuses, which means im stuck with her and i dont get to sit with them. Then they get upset (not mad at me) when we dont sit with them. Each day she becomes even more and more rude and i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Sometimes i feel like she doesnt like sitting with me either. Today during lunch she was on her phone for 45 min out of 50 min. She just kept me sitting there, and when i said i wanted to go sit with the guys she said no. I got really mad and just got up and left to go sit with them because i didnt want to just sit there and listen to her conversation. It was rude for her to be on the phone the ENTIRE lunch period (which is the only time i see her). Anyways, do you think i had the right to do what i did? I know it wasnt very nice, but shes been so mean to people and i thought she deserved it. What would you do in my position? (link)
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Yes you had the right. i think I would do the same thing if I were in your position. You don't deserve to have a friend that's rude to you and your friends.
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My boyfriend's mom is so controlling! She tells him what to do all the time, and the worst part is, he does it! For example, she told him to wear something even though it didn't match at all, yet he ended up wearing it cause she told him to! It drives me completely crazy! He does stuff like that all the time for her! I really want him to stand up for himself, but he says he has to do what she says because she pays for everything for him. And another bad part to this problem is that he's 23, we've been dating for 2 years, and he's about to graduate college! I want to confront him, but I don't want him to get angry with me for it. How should I go about it? (link)
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When you have one of your usual talks, talk to him about it but not in an angry way just the usual one. Tell him that sooner or later he needs to make his own decisions and not rely always on his mother. That sometimes it's not right to let his mom rule always over him. That our own selves also know what's best for us. Then if he won't listen, then ask yourself. do you still want to push through with your relationship or not anymore?
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Well I really really like this guy Kyle he's 2 years older then me and we talk alot I've just never hung out with him in person. I try hinting to him that we should go somewhere. I want to just come out and ask him but now I have a small not huge problem but it's still there, there's this other guy scott and he started to like me he's a year older and I'd never really talked to him or anything but now we hang out alot and I have SO much fun with him he won't make a move or anything bcuz he knows I like Kyle.But Scott I must say is growing on me. He's really jelous though. I know I sound all broken hearted about it I just know I'll make the wrong dessicion and regret it. Any ideas? (link)
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Make up your mind. Who do you like more? Kyle or Scott? If you think Scott is getting into you more than Kyle than tell him. He deserves to know since you're going out with him but if you like Kyle than Scott than don't let Scott expect something. The more you're dating the more it'll hurt for Scott when you go back to Kyle.
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ok, everybody has a different deffintion of love, and i want to know what you think about it. it can be serious, or just goofy. i dont care, but i wanna know that you all think of it. and do you believe in love at first site?? thnx (link)
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For me, love at first sight is not true. you're just attracted to the physical aspect of the person. You didn't know yet the real attitude of the person. It's just saying your judging the book by the cover. But it's possible that the attraction will develop into love. True love is not as intense as crush or puppy love but it'll remain forever. You care for the person and even some of the bad aspects of the person you're inlove with became a good aspect for you. You'll know when it's love when you're willing to sacrifice yourself for this person's happiness.
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ook here it goes...
well i like this kid down my street...and my neighbors cousin basicly took him away from me! She dont live here she lives like a halfhr away but w.e[she didnt kno taht i liked him] but i was soo sad that day i was cryin my eyes out its nto fair evry guy i like is either taken away or just isnt interested. now he likes her alot and it pisses me off i dun kno should i get ova him and move on or still like him and go for him? [ there not goin out but i think they r planning 2] gimme some advice on everything plz![what i should do, how to cheer up,how to mkae guys like me etcc.]
Ill rate!!!! (link)
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I think you still have a chance. If you really like him then go for it. You can go to his house and drop a neighborly visit and befriend him or if you don't like it then find another way to see him but if he doesn't seem interested then just move on. You can cheer up by concentrating on something else other than your love life. You can make guys like you by being yourself and being what you are. You can also wear fashion outfits and stay calm. Don't drool or show to the guys that you're really really interested in them. Pretend that you think of them as your friend only.
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There's this guy name James...well,in 7th grade, I heard he used to like me and he was going to ask me out...well I HATED HIM...I still do! I'm not in 9th grade and I thought he was over me because he has all these girlfriends...But lately, everytime I just happen to glance over, I see him looking at me! It makes me really nervous..(I'm in 10th grade now) Do you think he likes me--ughh so grossssss...I RATE (link)
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i think he still likes you. if you don't like him, then ignore him. In the first place, why do you hate him? Whatever the reason is, it depends on you if you'll notice him or not.
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ok here the thing. i like this one girl. i've heard she likes me too but i'm not sure.and we haven't talked in about a year. (we've went out before)wat do i do?
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I think you should try to call her or make communications with her. take the initiative. Maybe she doesn't want to call you first because she's shy since she's the girl you know then after that maybe you can ask her how she is and if you can meet somewhere. That kind of thing.
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Is it a turnoff if a girl asks a guy out???
And can you like kinda clarify... i really need help... anyone... i rate high
Gomesy (link)
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It's not a turn off usually these days. Mostly shy guys feel relieved because you took the initiative except for those who are conservative. Maybe you can do it by like making it appear as coincidence. Like for example you go to him (when it's lunch time) and talk to him and ask him have you eaten? If he says yes then say "oh tomorrow i needed your help...etc. are you available?" Try to find a reason why you'll go out with him then after that pretend that you care for him just like a friend. (to avoid embarrassment)
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