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My cat is riddled with fleas and i'm not sure how to get rid of them we've tried every treatment possible. The problem is shes got friendly with a headgehog i know it sounds weird but they sleep together so i'm not sure what to do because headgehogs are covered in fleas and it keeps passing them onto my cat and i cant keep her locked up in the house all the time becuase thats cruel any ideas please.
You could get some treatment for the dog and see if that gets rid of them if not you can either buy you cat a flea collar or you can get some of that shampoo for cats that get rid of fleas and keep them away. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
ohk so im freaking out because today i was going upstairs and my dad asked me if i ate and i told him yes in an attitude because lately i've been wanting to be alone. and he just annoy's the crap outta me cause he'll just stand there staring at me and being like what are you doing? its so frustrating. but anyways he started screaming at me he was like wtf is your problem nd i was like nothing why & he was like well look at your face your attitude. and we kept arguing and then he was like soon im going to have a long talk with you because i've been finding out of things you do and none of those are good. and i have proof so i know that they're true. and i havent told your mom yet cause she's sick.... so i was thinking about all the things i've done and i dont recall doing anything bad. and he also said ohh you need to fall off your high horse fast & crap and he also told me how he has connections and he's going to send me to some private school, im literally pissing my pants because im so worried please please help me gimmie advice or sumthing anything can and will help right now !!!!!!
Go up to him after you both have some time to calm down and tell him why you had the attitude that way he knows. As far as the other things are concerned talked to him about them but no matter what he says don't let him get to you because then he will know what else makes you tick and you don't want that do you. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
My dad smokes and im really worried about him. I really want him to stop, but i dont know what to say and i dont want him to get mad at me...what should i do? thanks in advance *i do rate8
Tell him how you feel about him smoking and that you want him stop because you want him to be around for along time. Hopefully if you tell him that in a nice way he will think twice before lighting up again. Also he will think about what he can do to quit the habit. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
I move around alot, bouncing from Dad to Mom to Dad and back to my Mom ... once again I want to move back to my dad's but it is so much different this time here are some of the major reasons why:
1.My dad's Cancer, I feel so horrible not being there taknig care of him
2.My depression; Up here I thought I would be happier but I'm missing so much of my life that is going on down there my depression meds aren't working anymore becuase my depressions getting worse
3.All my friends are down there ... I can't make friends up here, I've been here for 6 months and I haven't made one friend ... I jsut don't want to becuase I only want my friends from CT I know everyone who is reading this is prolly like "If you try then you'll make friends don't give up" but I have tried and ... I just want you all and not some fucking Redsocks loving, black people hating, homophoboes that are up here
I know thats only three things but here are the reasons why I'd stay up here:
1.my mom's feelings
I just can't do things to make others happy anymore if it makes me depressed ... I'm growing up, I'll be gone off to college soon and I just rather be a happy person going off bymyself knowing I have friends right back at home then going and being depressed and not remembering social skills to make friends becuase honestly ... ever since that bastard Adam "hypnotysed" me under his spell I have lost all sense of myself and I have been trying to get it back since I broke free ... I just want to be happy
Please Help,
Gizmo
You should difinitely spend some more time with you dad. I think that you should move in with him until he gets better that way you have nothing to feel guilty about.Your friends are there and it also seems like your happier down there. Wait and see what happens with you dad while your staying with him and hopefully things will work out. Hopefully after you dad gets better then you can move back with your mom but in the meantime I think that your mom will understand if you decide to move in with him. The only thing that would make her sad is if you forget about her and don't call or visit her once in a while. I hope that I helped you but if not you can visit me at my column.
I have two cats, one full grown and one almost full grown. Ive raised them together in my own apartment since they were both kittens, and they are bad. I try to train them and discipline them but they are just bad cats. They claw everything, jump in the windows and mess up my blinds, knock over cups containing drinks that stain, and jump up on counters and tables. I love these cats, but with all the damage they are causing, I don't know if I can keep them. I don't want to get rid of them. Someone said that getting them fixed calms them down, but is that true? What can I do to make my cats calm down and be good? Ive grown up with cats all my life, and this is the first time Ive had a discipline problem.
First of all declawing is illegal so you can't do that. What you should do is cut their claws once in a while they won't be able to claw things if their claws aren't sharp.Get them some toys to play with so they will be occupied. It doesn't sound like your training them if they get on the counters and tables cause if you have been training them they would know not to do that. When you train them and they are doing something wrong you can do a few things to make them stop like say "no", "stop", clap your hands, and if that doesn't work you can get a can of air refreshner and spray it that will stop them too. One other thing when you say those things you no and stop say it in a deep voice that works. I hope that I helped because I have cats too.
my question is how can you tell that guy is a virgin or not girl you can tell pop cherry but what about guys do they have some sign taht they are virgin? thx
That is a good question I don't think you can tell if a guy is a virgin. But I am curious myself to see if any of the advicenators know if you can tell if a guy is a virgin.
okay this is a big problem. My cousin Kim who is really important to me got married for the second time to this guy john. Well, before this my cousin and I were really close even though I live in Ny and she lives in Pa. we always wrote to each other and called each other and all that. I guess I should tell you that she has four kids, her two oldest are from her fist marriage and then the third child christopher is from this guy that she was dating before she married john and then she just had nicholas with john not too long ago. Anyway, I just found out that he has been beating on christopher and he has bruises all over him and he tells him to go to bed cause the boogey man is going to come get him and he is only 3. well my cousin's mom noticed the bruises and her husband went and talked to john about it and after that the kids stopped going over there to be babysat. Then I found out that john kicked my cousin down the stairs when she was pregnant with nicholas and he has hit her and thrown stuff at her. also they got in a car accident, my cousin, john, christopher and nicholas. and for some reason I think it was planned, cause john was driving. I don't know what to do. I am so worried about her and I have tried emailing her and writing her a letter and I haven't heard anything back yet. I can't call her cause I don't have her phone number and pretty much noone in my family does. I can't get a hold of her sister. I am so worried about her and all I think about is the next phone call I get will be saying she's dead or seriously injured because of him. HELP please.
You should either talk to your aunt and see if she has the new number. If she doesn't then try to get a hold of her friends and asking them because someone has the number you just need to find out who. As far as your cousin is concerned I am surprised that she doesn't try to leave John because no one should have to put up with a guy like that who abuses her kids. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
So some new neighbors just moved in a couple months ago. I am almost positive that he beats his wife. They have two young daughters. I have no actual evidence.
Is there anyone I could anonymously call to look into it?
I think that the first thing you should do is see if his children look like they have been hit. Sometimes abusers hit their kids too. If they don't act like they have been hurt then you could worry about the mother. If you want you can try to become friends with the two girls and that way you can see for yourself you go in the house what is going on. If you see him beating the mom up and leaving evidence on her that can prove he is abusive then you can call the police and tell them what you saw. That way not only are you telling them about the abuse but you can also tell them that there is evidence so they would have to take him away. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
There's this guy that live in WV and I really like him but he already has a GF. I really want to be with him but guys here are asking me out. I want to be with him not the guys here. What should I do?
You should forget about him I know that it won't be easy but he already as a girlfriend and you have been asked out by those other guys why not give them a chance. That way you won't be alone much longer. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
how should i ask a guy to homecoming?
we've been tiptoeing around the idea of going together for a while, and i figure i might as well just ask him already so i can keep life simple
YOu should just ask him the sooner the better because if you wait too long some other girl might ask him and then you will be sorry that you didn't when you had the chance. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
There's a homecoming dance on Saturday that I want to go to. There's a girl I really like and want to ask her to go with me. People have told me that I should ask her. I've never done anything like this before and am really nervous. Can you please give me help on what to do? Thanks a lot.
Just take it easy because it's never easy when you ask a girl out. But girls like it when they are being asked out. Here are some ways that you can ask her out. Write her a note, talk to her before school if you see her, during lunch if you need some more time, or you can wait until after school that way you have all day to think about what you are going to say and how.I hope that I helped you but if not you can visit me at my column.
what is the difference between being a couple and just dating?
being a couple means that everyone knows about it and dating is just when you are hangout together and going places with each other. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
so my boyfriend brandon and me were surposed to go out to dinner with my mom tonight. and he went to get new speakers today for his truck so hes been installings them all day. well i told him were going at 6. its fucking 5:51 right now.
he doesnt have his cell with him and hes not answering his house phone. and hes idle on aim for 2 hours. im pretty pissed. and its really embarassing for me cause my mom is like wheres brandon. so yeah i dont really know what to do. i guess im just going out with my mom now. but i need a good away message for this asshole to read. cause i know he reads them.this is so not like him, hes honestly the greatest guy ive ever known and im extremely happy with him. im just pissed at him right now. and he even told me today when i asked him if hell be done in time "yes i will babe cause i know youll hate me forever if i dont go"...so he KNOWS im going to be pissed already. hellppp..and can you please help me what to put on my away mssg?
If he is such a great guy like you described then calk down. First of all it's not easy for any guy to meet there girlfriends mother I mean they wouldn't know how to act. I mean how would you feel if you were going to have dinner with his parents you know that you would be nervous and would try to find a way out of it. Just give him some time to come around and maybe he will feel better if he got use to the idea first. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
OK i asked a question like this b4 but no one answered so i am answering again and I PROMISE TO RATE YOU A 5 IF YOU ACTUALLY GIVE ME A REASONABLE ANSWER-
My face turns red. A lot. I can't feel it turnign red but I know it turns red b/c my bffs all say it does. And I can definitelly trust the and all...
It turns red when a guy flirts with me, when I am up in front of class and presenting, and more times. WHAT DO I DO FROM KEEPING IT TURNIGN RED!
That happens to me sometimes too. I think the only thing we need to do is just stay come and not worry about the situation your in that way your face won't turn red anymore. Sometimes it does help if you have a wet paper towel or something to cool down. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
Don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but I don't think she feels the same way. See, I'm a 9th grader, and along with school, I also have a part-time job that ends at 6pm. Then when I get home I have to do homework, then my mom makes me take out the garbage, unload the dishwasher, fold laundry, clean my room, and dust. By the time I'm done it time for bed.
My mom doesn't treat me like Cinderella and make me do everything, but its sooo annoying when she's makes me do these things when she's off the whole day and she does NOTHING. How can I let her know I need a lighter load?
Well you can tell her that you don'g really have alot of time like she does because when you get home you really need to get your homework done first and then if you have some time before bed then help her out by doing a couple things but not all. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
I have no clue what to be for halloween. I can't go out and buy a costume, but i MAY be able to go and buy some acsessories. I have A LOT of makeup to work with. Please help me.
Just try to put something together yourself. It doesn't really matter what you are trying to look like the fun thing about Halloween is just dressing up like something you wouldn't usually wear everyday. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
hi i think im beginning to have a crush on this boy Michael, Michael is a senior and I am a sophmore, I met Michael last year when my cousin who was a senior last year took me to a party at his house, it was in the winter and very snowy and we drank s we stayed there. everyone was downstairs playing beerpong and i was in his living room tired, about to passout and he sat on the other couch and talked to me, hes just naturally a really nice yet really popular kid. so yeah in school he usually makes eye contact with me but we havent really talked since last feb/march? so i went to the football game with a bunch of people and i saw him on the bus and he was lookin at me ( well i think) and so somehow i had balls today and IMed him saying "nice game last night" and he said "thanks, i still couldnt play though" and i said ohh yeah.. then we didnt talk and i dont want to IM him again, and he obviously knows who i am ( my sn basically says my name) i want him to kind of get the feeling i like him (rmember we dont talk) what should i do when i see him in the halls at school? thankss
Just start small talk everyday like say "hi" or "hello" when ever you see him in the halls. Then after you get use to that then you can start asking him how he's doing. Then after a few days try to make a conversation with him. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
Ok, My best friend and I like the same guy. He is my neighbor and he is everything you could ever want in a guy, humor, kindness, intelligance, and after having so many bad relationships, we both have fallen hard for this guy.
Anyways about two months ago we desided to tell him that we both liked him. He had been sending the right singnals as far as we could tell, but then he told us he likes us both and he doesn't want to ruin the friendship by picking just one of us. One day he'll like her more it seems, and then the next it will be me.
Was that just a cover up that he doens't like either of us and doesn't want to hurt our feelings, or was that the real truth.
Well now it's two months later and he's still doing the same thing. Somedays he'll act completely interested in us, and then others he's just kind of blah. He likes to talk about other girls in front of us, compliment us, and hang out all the time, so what DOES IT MEAN?! We don't have any clue on what to do because guys are just so hard to read! Please help!
It could be that he like only one of you and doesn't want to hurt the other ones feelings.
Theres this New kid in my grade and i wanna talk to him and ask him questions and such but i dunno i have no idea how to start out. Me and my friends titled him a Bad Boy. So how should i get to know him?
Just go up to him and say where are you from and continue by asking him what does he think of his new school. Just keep asking him things about himself and where he's from. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
OK I need help I want to throw a good Halloween party but I dont even live in a House I live in a trailer park theres nothing wrong with that but I dont know if theres enough room and how many people I should invite what games to have, what time should it end and start, and how should I decorate, and how much will this cost I rate high. Thanx
It will probably cost around 50 dollars. Twenty-five for the food and the other twenty five for decorations. You should invite about twenty. The party should start at eight or eight thirty that's when it starts to get dark. Games you can the mummy game where everyone has a partner and they make their partner into a mummy cover them up with toilet and see who can do that the fastest. Have some good food and don't forget music. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.