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Hey. I love giving advice. I enjoying giving advice about the sexual things, I've been thinking about getting a degree to be a sexual education teach or, or a sex therapist. I my second best would be friendship[s] and relationship[s]. I am 21yrs old. I have a pit bull named Zip. I work at a middle school as a nutriton assistant. I have 4 god children, 1 boy, 3 girls.

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Is there anyway my boyfriend can control himself while having sex? Like make himself last longer?

my ex would pull out sometimes to calm down so he could enjoy having sex with me longer. try that. not right before he cums but when he thinks he is tell him to pull out and to calm him self down...not to the point to where he goes soft again. but to the point that he knows he is ready to go back in. also the age has stuff to do with it more expirced (SP) guys can control it alot better then newbys

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I am 5 months pregnant and I was wondering if it is ok for me to have sex ? is there and consequences to having sex while pregnant or any advantages to having sex .

ok you can have sex. ask your doctor also. i had some friends who where pregnant and they have and did have sex while they where. and nothing is worng with them. the doctors told them it was ok.

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im not christian but my gf is, and i would like to know. in the christian religion does the no sex before marriage include oral sex?

no sex means no sex in any way you wanna call it. dry, oral anything. but talk to her about it. see how shes feels and more then anything RESPECT what she wants and how she feels about it

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I hope this isn't inappropriate but I have heard guys talk about good "dirty word for vagina".. no they don't really say that but just think of what that word is. Sorry I'm trying to make this sound half-way decent. But what is that, good P-word? What makes it good.. what makes sex good? lol sorry I'm just curious I'll rate good for anyone who's nice

pussy!! ok. what makes a good pussy. nice wet and tight. that is what good pussy is. guys like tight wet things around there penis. that is what makes sex good and that is what a nice pussy is

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ok....this is hard to talk about but im going to try to get it out best i can.im in college, and i really like this guy( ill call him rob) for a while. we never hooked up or anything, but talked dont the phone here and there.sometimes he use to joke around about things he wanted to do with me sexually,but i always just thought he was kidding because we were kinda friends.so this one day, i was really drunk and he called me to come over to his apartment. i was so excite because i really like him and he alwasy told me what a great girl i was and how he liked me alot. i thought one day he was really gunna get serious with me. Anyway, i went there and he told me he wanted me to listen to some song in his room, i went in and when i did his roomate was in ther and i kind aheard him tell him to leave, then he left rob locked the door. i started to get nervous because i wasnt really expeting to hook up with im or have sex, but i just went with it because i was so drunk. we end up starting to hook up and then it just got bad. we started to have sex, which was ok with me because i thought he really like me and it was going to be so great.it ended up be the most hurtful thing i have ever gone through, pyshcially and emotionally. he was having sex with me really rough, and it hurt really bad, i was very drunk but i managed to say your hurting me, so he would stop, but then he would just do the same thing again. he was throwing me around the bed like a rag doll, and i was crying inside.i said stop it hurts, but he took that as "stop for a sec then start again" this went on for a good 20 mintues till i fianlly made up some excuse to leave.when i left i cried the entire way home. i got home and i had bruises bewtween my legs already.i was so hurt because i though he like me and he treated me so terribly....but what i always wanted to know was...is that considered rape or something close to it???sorry so long, i just pushed it out of my mind for song long becauseit really screwed me up in the head to the point i cant trust guys anymore and talk of sex with a guy totally scares me...advice please what do you think??im i blowing this out of poportion? because i didnt exactly say or scream stop like i was being raped....i dunno please advice

that would be and iffy thing if it went to court cause you where drunk, but i would say it was rape. cause he didn't it soo roughly. but also he could have thought you liked it like that. also i don't know what he said he wanted to do to you but you "going along with it" would have made him believe you wanted it as bad as he did.

i would say it would be rape but from the law point of veiw that might say no. cuz of almost everything you have said.

i know this sucks and your going to have a really hard time getting over this.

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Me and this guy have been seriously talking latley. We hang out, go to the movies, and flirt a ton. The thing is i am 17 and he is 32, and people seem to have a problem with that. We havent done ANYTHING that can get any of us in trouble, so whats the big deal? Besides, i will be 18 in 2 months.

ok he may not be tha same age as your dad. but that could seriously be like your dad. it's just a lil werid. i really don't wanna be judgmental on you. but i totally don't think you should be doing this...sweetie ask your self this. why is he with a girl that is a billion years younger then him. something just doesn't seem right. i'm 18 and i think 25 is to old. just be careful and don't have any sexual thing with him cuz that might be what he is after. i could be wrong. but if you stay with him it'llbe like you haveing sex w/ Hugh Hefner. so think about this.

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ok, so my bf and i will just be talking and what not and he is lying on the couch and i just want to say to him" oh my god you are so effing hot i have every reason on earth to jump on top of you and furiously make out." But that would be wierd.... so how can i get to that place where i can actually do that. how can i "seduce him" into making out with me without sounding desperate?
PLEASE I NEED GUYS FOR THIS TOO!

personaly just lay on top of him and give him random kisses on his lips and shit. do a lil tease and then soonhe will get the picture and have a great make out session

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okay i love my boyfriend joe and everything but i'm still love sick over my ex-boyfriend schuyler. i miss him so much. like everything about him. the way he held me and the way he told me i love you. even the way he looked into my eyes. we've gone out three times and each of them had been over 7 months long. the time before this time that we broke up he said it was the last time it wasn't we went out again. Now this time he said it was the last time and i think he meant it. The only reason i think he broke up with me is because that i told him i wouldn't do it with him anymore. we were engaged but now we aren't and i miss him. What should i do i love my boyfriend joe. but i miss and love my exboyfriend schuyler. helpppppp!!!!!!!!!!i'm so confused.

why this is a hard one. talk to the ex see if he really mean it he had to of loved you if yall were goin to get married. ask him out to lunch or something and talk things out figure out where you stand and if there is anyway yall will be together again. let him know you feel and let him tell you how he feels. and as for Joe don't hurt him. frist figure things out w/ Schuyler before you break things off with Joe. cuz your ex might not come back and then you can stau with Joe and have something amazing with him.

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whats a player means? if you flirt a lot it means ur a player? cause my friends are calling me when they see me talking to the guys...

player. knows how to talk with people and can move from one person to the next. you flirting really ain't player materal.
you date a guy. two days later you got another one on your lesh....don't hate the player hate the game. ever herd of that. the game is how you sweet talk and get them in and wrapped around your finger. most girls really ain't players they will call you a slut before they call you a player

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Well, Im a freshman and my boyfriends a senior. [Except were only 2 years apart]. He got a scholarship to go to away to college before we'd gotten together. So I knew that he'd be leaving when we started going out. [3 1/2 months ago] I love him very much, and Im going to hate to see him leave. He says that he might only stay one simester because he'll miss me too much... :/ but i dunnooo. anyway.. i was just wondering if you think I should break up with him now.. so i don't get more attached when he leaves, or wait until right before he leaves for college?

i would say now. or a lil between the time. cuz he is a senior he will be around other girls and there will be major temptations. TRUST ME. yeah it's hard to hear. but it's true. plus it's his freshman year at college away from his parents and able to do what he please. i don't know him personaly but he might end up partying and all that. so i think you should break it off to save both of yall the stress and cheating.

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any tips how to talk with my crush?

be your self. don't play fack. talk about what your crush likes. ask em random nice questions. and flirt alil and if you want. say random things to em to hit ya got a crush!

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me and my boyfriend broke up today because another boy blew a kiss at me and i laughed -- which he considered flirting i didnt do it on purpose so we broke up and today after school he told one of my friends he was just made and he wants to get back with me as all day at school he screamed and yelled at me and told me he didnt want to go on our class trip with me any more and we always fight and argue is it worth the troubles? should i get back with him or not? i love him but i dont think i can handle this anymore. Should i move on to see if theres better things or stay with the person i love that always hurts me? some one please help me!

babygirl move on. you need better. if he is going to flip over some guy blowing you a kiss then he aint worth it. he should know that your his and he should have taken that as a complament cuz someone else thinks you look good and should make him feel good that he has you. and if yall always argue then it isn't health yeah it's going to be hard to move on trust me been there done that. but you'll soon meet someone else. trust me arguing and stupid fights are just the start of it. cuz who knows how one of your fights could turn out. not trying to scare you but i'm just saying you really never know. you may love him but if he always hurts you then he truly doesn't love you. and love is a VERY strong word. so please becarefull how you use it. MOVE ON SWEETIE!

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My and my boyfriend went all the way the other day and about 20 minutes after we were done i was bleeding out of my vagina, not heavy like a period buti could tell i was bleeding. It only lasted a few hours also. I have had sex before once but that didnt happen after words! What happened? Is something wrong? Please help

well. you said you have had sex before. this happened to me. i had sex alot and it did that when i lost it. but when i got with this guy his penis was bigger then any other guy and he "popped my cherry" even more. it's normal. also sometimes it'll do that when you don't have sexy for awhile and then have sex again.

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ok so i feel very embarssed to ask this question.

but. im a lesbian.
and ive never done anything with a guy, but ive done stuff with girls.

but i was wondering...when do i consier myself not a virgin. i mean when it is a girl and guy it is obvious. but with 2 girls...its not so obvious to me...soo does any one know?

ok it just really depends on you. my cuz is a lesbian and i had this talk with her. i may be wrong someone may be better at telling you this. but i would say when you played with each other and such things like that. but i feel as if it's up to you to say you've lost it. you can say you lost it lesbian wise but not guy wise. but personly if i was lesbian the moment a girl played with my in anyway fingers tounge toys i would consider my self as losing it. but like i said it's really how you feel if you have or not. hope i helped let me know.

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ok i think getting high would be worse than getting drunk, but my friend doesnt belive me. do any of you know which one is worse for you?

thanks

I THINK! that drinking is worse is does alot more to you

how could pot be bad when there thinkin about makin it legal for heath reasons cuz pot calms me down and not be so bitch and stuff like that

un like beer can make you mad and get in more fights

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alright well me and my friend are writting a paper to her mom on why she shoudl get her belly button pierced but i need some more ideas on why she should =] anything you give me but what i have i'll rate you a 5 guarentteed

heres what i got
- it's cute
- can tell your personality according to what you have dangling from the belly button ring =]

thanks guys,
charmed3fanatic ;]

well lets see i'm 17 and i got mine done about 3 months ago. and it was a suprise to me. my moms birthday present to me.

took me about 3 years to get it

just print out some somethings about pirceings like how to keep em clean the ask her to go to the tattoo place and have them to tel lyou how they do it and what you need to do after you get it done let her talk to them and ask the question that might concer her about it

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ok, well here's the story. i'm having my 14th b-day party and i am not having a big thing, all my frends r from skewl but 3 of them kno each other and the other on doesn't rele kno the other one. i'm thinking about a slumber party but i dont want to make the last girl feel left out. wut do i do???? help plz!!!

set up a game that yall all can play so she don't feel left out...but also. when you have a lot of girls get to gether there is always goingto be one sigled out or people or going to go off on there own. so set something up watch movies talk about boys share stoires...kind of like truth or date but w/ out the dare just ask each other questions. as long as you treat everyone equal and make sure everyone is still intact w/ each other and not being a loner then things should go well.

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Me & my mom made a deal that I can get an Ipod if I raise up my grades.

Well I did, but I just don`t know if I should get a Nano or just one of those regular Ipods.

Which one should I get??

I'm just confused & I don't want to end up with the sucky one. Thank you.

personaly i would like the regualer one cuz it's bigger

but i would love the nano cuz it's small and can fit anywhere and listen to it at school and stuff like that w/o gettin in trouble..

she pick out the pros and cons of havein each and see what you come up w/.

hops that kind of helped

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What is the difference between goth, punk and emo? Also, can you be christian and goth, or punk.

EVERYONE HAS A LIL GOTH PUNK EMO IN THEM

mostly...

people who label seee

Goths: black cloths. death meatal music. hates the world. worships stan.

Punk: skater boys. fun/hardcore music.

Emo: slits there wrist. always sad. stupid sad music

that is how people see it. to me i don't label i see everyone is the same. i us to me "emo" then i went to a "goth" stage. most people go through those. it's normal at a age.

yes you can be christain and still have the "gothic" look and punk stage. i know alot of people like that. actually most of my friends are that. it's normal. some people may think your not a christian when your like that bC most people are sterotpic.

i went to a chruch retart one time and a few of them people where "gothic" so it's normal. and yes you can be

you and be anything and still a christian it just all depends on your belifes

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hi i just want to know that can we have sex during pregnancy, if yes then till which month,
or if no then why.
please answer me.

you can have sex while pregnant at anytime. my best friend is pregnant and her doctor told her that she was aloud to at anytime.

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