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I am a person who loves meeting people and giving them advice at their most vulnerable moments. I don't don't give advice for anything rather than my want and need to help people. I just feel happy when someone feels clear or has weight lifted off their shoulders when i give them advice. I am not saying I am perfect or mother Teresa but I can say that with life you get knowledge and the power to give someone advice on something using both your heart and mind. I have a wide range of advice I give because I believe that anyone with a soul can find someone else that needs help an answer. Technology,love,and limitless troubles are something that I love helping with. Whether someone is 14 or 45...I don't care. People are who they are. They are not perfect because they are indeed human. With that I know I have a lot of advice to give.advice
Ok, so i have to write a 7-10 minute speech on something that interests me. I know what i cant write about, like abortion or something similar, but i am confused on what i should write about to perform in November 2009. I need the speech topic as soon as possible so i can start working on perfecting it so i can place high in the tournaments.
What should i write about?
In think you should write about the best things that happened from 1999-2009. a decade of lifes change from the best to the worst. It is a good topic to many people. You can be the person to personally put in your own words.
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just turned 19- female.
not feeling pretty isnt really something ive had a problem with UNTIL now. my brother whose 22 always says i look like cindy lou who from the grinch and everyone always agrees, i think its because of my nose (which ive always been insecure about) and then last night this guy was like you kinda look like a chimpmunk. and i was like ooooh thaaanks? now i am so embarassed and feel like when someone looks at me their going to think i either look like cindy lou who or a chimpmunk or something like that. its not a good feeling. thanks to them my self esteem is very low now. what do i do?
So who cares....... ok so you do
think about it. maybe a guy.. the one your meant to marry loves chipmunks and your nose. We may all be equal but we're all different. We don't have the same faces unless we're twins.....
Use that nose for something better and forget about the disadvantages and try using the its best advantages.
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Hi!
13 1/2 f Sorry it's long..please read?
Well, my ex boyfriend (Joseph )went out with my friend (Taylor)I warned him about her before I told him that she's not right for him she cheats on guys, she does things with guys ,and he's a strong christian and she's really wrong for him.He won't believe me though. My friend told me that she doesn't like him she's in love with this other guy ..Matt(she asked him out) and if Matt says yes she will dump Joseph.If ,he says no she'll stay with him..just for the fun of it. I really want to tell Joseph about it, but he won't listen and he'll think I'm just jealous..and I'm not. I really care about him. I think I love him. We are good friends.Taylor and I talk on the phone together and we 3 way him..she doesn't talk to him at all it's just me and him talking. We get along great. He went out with taylor because he thought I lied about taylor doing that stuff when it's true.On the last day of school we all were hanging out and he was holding her hand and putting his arm around her..it made me feel really bad. I acted like I was ok with it. I even told them that they are a great couple ..and for some reason he frowned when I said it. He gave me a hug,before we all went home. Before that he put his arm on my shoulder..wrote on my arm..lol signed my shorts. lol and my face!:) That same night him and his friend Chris called me and he said that Joseph was stuck in a tree for me. ha ha he asked me that night who my favorite boyfriend was and if it was him, and I hesitated and I didn't say it was him ,even though it was. I skipped the question. :/He also was talking dirty to me. Well, I was joking and I said " Are you a undercover model Joseph "? haha
He said " Yes. I'll give you my signature, but not on pen on paper". ;)
I said "On my face like you did today"?
He said.." Somewhere you would like it."
Than I said "EXCUSE ME"!!!?
chris said " He wants it under the sheets in his bed".
I said " I'm not THAT desperate".. lol I think I hurt his feelings when I said that. He said after that..
"...I'd only do that with Taylor anyway".
So he was joking but..do you think he still likes me?Even if it was a joke who would say something like that if they didn't really like that person? When we were going out he told me he loved me, and he told me it every night on the phone before I went to bed.When I told him that he said it back, when taylor told him that he said" uh.UHH k?:/" We had so much fun..than he started to like both of us. Taylor never talked to him at school and she got mad when he didn't talk to her...he's shy..and well he talked to me. So,I really care for him and I don't want to see him get hurt even though he hurt me. I like him and seeing my friend being so unfaithful to him make me sick. What should I do?
You care about your friend greatly so give him some space. You learn by your mistakes and he will learn from his. I know you car for him as a friends but he needs to finds out by himself. As a friends you need to know that helping sometimes is not a good idea. Around you there is a defferent world so stop trying to fix other peoples mess. It will lead you to many worse tyhings. You told him already so now just wait for him to notice your right.
it hurts, but it will hurt 10x worse when you try to fix it!! don't think too much about it because you will be part of it which is the worse idea known to man.
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" I didn't notice I loved her until she was gone"
1000s have shared this saying maybe one more will help you......
will blubster put viruses on my computer?
No but certain files will insert viruses which is good to have a Persobnal computer protector. I myself have Norton antivirus which helps me. It like 40.00 for one year each. It lets you have fun and protect your computer.
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P.s
Don't download any virus protection online. It is the virus itself!!!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 ½ months. If we didn’t break up sometime last year, we’d be dating for over a year. Lately, I’ve felt that he’s been kind of distant. We used to be so passionate about each other, but now we’re acting more like friends. We rarely ever kiss and we haven’t had sex in two months. I miss the old spark that used to be there, and I love my boyfriend to death. I think he still loves me, too, but I just think he’s getting bored or something. Lately, I have been a little depressed, because of all this. And we got into a fight the other day because whenever I see him, I down his vibe with my vibe. Ive been trying to make it better, but I still sense a little distance in his voice, and the way he looks at me. He’s also been getting on the computer more and drawing a lot more when I come over, leaving me with nothing to do. What can I do to take us back to the way things were?
You just need a some fireworks!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do something out of the ordinary. HJe has seen all your tricks so learn some new ones. A relationship has 3 Rs.
Right
RESPONSIBILTY
Respect
Do somthing so suprising that he drops that notebook or shuts of the computer just to be with the one he adores. You!!!
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ok. soooo.
i'm a pretty skinny girl, but i have a somewhat thicker vagina.
and one night this guy asked about was it fat or nnot?
is it good if it is?
or is it bad?
or what?!
help please.
thanks in advance!
Look in this world there are a lot of people. Everyone is different in their way. Dont fret and live your life to the fullest because to many guys you are stunning!
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I'm thinking of buying a MacBook real soon. For those of you who have experience with MacBooks, do you like it? Are they easy to use? Are they worth the money? Any general reviews?
Thanks!
I have both a mac laptop and desktop and i find it really good to use on. You could also try dell because it also works really well. So either choice is good. Just think about your budject and it will help!
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Well i kinda got two situations here the first one is about my friend. You see she has this class with this boy that ive been liking for awhile and so do i we all are in the same classroom. But anyways latley they been kinda getting close you know and like i try not to get mad about it because she knows i like him and stuff and i kno she wouldnt do nothing to interferr with that. So about few weeks later she wa tellling stuff on what my crush been saying to her like asking her to the prom and stuff and i figure he was just playing because he just that kind of guy that plays like that. And then few weeks later after that he had ask her what would she do if he ask her out and she said no because she knew i like him and she told him that. But you see my point is this they be talking and flirting alot in class. And like at first i didnt really care but then it started to bother me. She saying she dont like him like that but if she dont then why she keeps doin the things she doing to him. I mean i dont care if they talk like friends or whatever but its like they getting closer by the min. And she does this right in fron of me both of them. And by the way the boy knows i like him and stuff. Whic leads to another situation. This boy that i like ive been liking him for awhile now and like he knows i like him and ever since he found out he be flirting with me and stuff. Which made me believe that he may like me to but then again i dont know cuz he likes this one girl or watever. ANd i was told that he dont like me. But if he dont why is he talking to me and flirting with me and stuff. Its just the things he does and say that make me believe he likes me. And whats going on between him and my friend am i over reacting or is somthing really going between them. And if he dont like me and knows i like him why does he send all the signals that make me believe he does. Im just confuse with it all.
First of all you need to seriously cool down. Don't give a guy any attention. Try one of his friends. Think about it. He's with your friends. What about his friend that maybe in your class.
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i sort of dropped my laptop, less than 6 inches, onto the floor (but it landed on its bottom). one side hit before the other, and the other side i had a grip on so it didnt hit very hard, or even at all.
now when i try to turn it on a blue screen shows up saying that the system has recovered from a serious error.
any ideas on what may have happened or what i can do to fix it?
That happens when your whole computer need a boot. It should work when you press enter. If not then some damage must of have definetley hurt your computer system.
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what does a guy think when he first goes down "there" and fingers you? does he think its gross because it's wet???
Actually it is completely the opposite. The guy thinks its hot when it's wet so don't worry. So dont worry.
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frist of all i would like to introduce my self i am abenezer from awassa city of ethiopia.i like this team very much i have enjoyed good things as well as good behavioural change.i am 16 years old boy.my question is i wanna get a friend boy or girl to discuss differnt things as a world.
thank u a lot!
Hi. I have the same story as you. I was born in Addis, Ababa. I lived there since I was 8. Now I live in the U.S. and I speak amharic, English, and Spanish.
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
This is a tough advice to give because you can go on it two ways. I must say you definetley hurt the guy. First of all he is sensitive so he will take certain situations like you cheating on him a different way than other guys. Not a lot of guys are sensitive so you have to be careful. In most situations like yours a girl will blow up because she wants her guy to be like most other guys like your ex.
Many people may have a high relationships from best friends to boyfriend and girlfriends. You need to know that if you care about someone you put put them ahead of yourself. You hurt the guy and now you feel guilty.
You need to analyze what you did. First you made a mistake of not talking to the guy. He cared about you so much but you have a shield. From your story I can see that you both helped eachother in hard situations, but when a complicated one came you ignored it.
You made a big mistake on ignoring it because things kept happening and your problem blew up that you did something so unforgivable to the guy. I can tell the guy was very hurt but look at this way....
You feel this awful but how does he feel you hurting him so much in addition to losing the important girl in his life. You may not know it but this is hurting him so much that he doesn't want to remember you which is hard cause if he's that sensitive then he is still in love with you.
Try letting him be a lone for a while. It will ease his pain which maybe will help him understand that losing you guys relationship is not a good idea.
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live your life to the fullest because the next day might not come.
im 13, ive gone through puberty and everything but i havent gotten my period yet. ive had bad cramps and discharge for about a year now and i dont know if its normal.
ok. So you have discharge. Discharge is a sign that your period or menustration will soon begin. Do not be in such a hurry. The time will come when it is right. Bbut be careful, because heavby discharge is not a sign of a period, but it is close. I have discharge everytime when i dont have period. It is a good thing you have it because it will tell you when your period will begin and also stop.
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life is complicated .hence my name. I am here to help you when your life gets more and more complicated.
can tanning cause your period to come later then usual?
No tanning doesn't affect your inside body like that at all.
can a girl get pregnant if a guy cums in her anal?
no a girl cant get pregnat like that because the cum is going in to her anal not vagina. pregnacy is only for with sperm and vagina so no she cant get pregnat.
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i really want like a bag/purse that has a peace sign. anyone know where i can find one? or should look?
walmart
victoria secret
forever 21
charlotte rousse
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while, and we've had oral a lot, but when it comes to full on sex, it just wont go in. =| i dont know why! im pretty sure im too tight, but what should i do, we have condoms and everything, but it just wont go in.. i donno, maybe we arent trying hard enough, but we are usually just in the mood, and really want to, but it wont work?! (yes i realize this is pretty embrassing, but i really dont care, i dont get awkward, or embrassed)
Actually it is you. It is not that it is too tight but you are reacting to the advances. You are nervous and you are pushing it too tight. So relax and it will work. Take deep breathes, and tell him you are ready.
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what is the real reason chris beat up rihanna?
Chris actually had been abused by his mother's boyfriend. That is why he abused rhianna, because he was introduced to abuse at age 13 to 15.
Did you know that they are already back together?
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me and my bofyriend are on a break..
anyways idk i have never broken up really or stuff like that im not good with it or know the best way to act what to do but this is a long relationship and my first almost 2 years and were 18..
idk any tips?
im hoping this will make him realize more of me and how much he needs me
cause he started to take me for granted and i dont like that
so any ideas?
any personal experience
i will love you if you help me out, share stories hgive advice anything thank you!
Ok i am not 18 but i have an older sister. She reminds me of you so i will share this story. She had a boyfriend that took her for granted. She moved on and he noticed that when that person is gone you feel like you need them, but she did what was right. THE END!
So if your boy is taking you for granted then leave. Dont do anything that makes it look like your dependent on him. Hey do you remember your friends from high school. Forget about him and meet up with to talk about the old days. A week will pass. If he wants you then have a talk an show him how you really feel and not what you dont feel. He will understand but if it doesn't then think about this. There is more than one fish in the sea. There is more than one bird in the sky, and there is more that one boy you like in this world.
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WHEN SOMEONE TAKES YOU FOR GRANTED THEN LEAVE AND SHOW THEM HOW YOU REALLY FEEL.
ive known this guy since like 8th grade..and he was in 7th grade, and i didnt know him like REALLLLY SUPER WELL. But we talked and such, but i moved on to high school and didnt see him for a year. And now hes a freshman and im a sophomore. And we started talking again and we both want to hangout sometime =D we talk everyday..but sometimes i think the convos get boring..any ideas or good ways to talk to him? or bringing up topics to talk about and not get bored about it? We usually just text eachother..but i see him once a day after a class for a couple of minutes. He's sooo sweet! But I dont know how we should hangout? Like I know him, but not incredibly well. And he has freshman friends and idk if he'd be comfortable or it wouldnt be fun for him if me and him hung with my friends..i'd probably feel the same towards his. But I'm pretty sure this guy is gay, but he's the sweetest guy! I dont know what to do with him..we live like 15-20min away, but i live near a park. I want to get to know him better, but i dont want it to be awkward..especially since this will be the first time we'll hangout AS JUST FRIENDS, obviously. So what should I do with him? He's super friendly. Should I hangout with him alone, or with someone else tagging along? And where should we go? Or do???????? im 16/F thanks.
Maybe your conversation is boring due to the fact you worry too much. just relax and be yourself. Before you moved, you guys were friends and you didn't worry about those things. But now your e in a different place, so mix it up and BE YOUR SELF. If you want to make conversations non boring talk about something that you both like, Maybe it will lead you to something more than friendship. Or not. IT is your choice!
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