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Hey guys! I'm Kaylie. I will be as straightforward, and honest as I possibly can. Feel free to ask me anything!
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"Ok so there was this guy,hes so cute, Well I thought He liked my best friend but ke's been sitting by me and stuff. Well I really like him and I want him to ask me out or kiss me or something what should I do to tell kim I want him to do this?" Hey thanks for answering this question for me!!!! Just to follow up today he told me he's having a bad day. I asked why and he said"Well there's this girl I really like and have been trying to get closer to, But she thinks I'm in love with her best friend, But I've been really wanting to ask her out." EEEKKKKK! My FIRST boyfriend YAY!!!! Theank you so much and could you mind suggesting what I do next???
Please???? =) =)
Get to know him more, and when the time is right, kiss him. Even guys like it when the girls make the first move.
I'm dating this guy. I don't know him very well but because of past experiences, I have decided not to date a friend, someone I'm particularly close to. I need a new experience! He just graduated from my school, and I am a junior now since school just ended. He is very sweet and talkative and I really enjoy talking to him. We haven't met in person but he and I are planning to go to Perdido on Saturday. He has a car and such. We've only been dating for a day or so but I feel so weird. I feel like I'm not getting anywhere in the relationship. I feel like I'm not getting to know him. Is it normal to feel this way when actually dating someone you really don't know about? I'm sure I'll get to know him as the relationship goes on, but still. Any advice?
Right now, you are in a -if you want to put it this way- distance relationship. You haven't even met the guy in person, and that can be extremely dangerous. You've heard the stories of people dating online, or over the phone, and when they meet face-to-face, the person could be some really old freak, and they end up messing the other person up big time. You need to be really careful with him, unless you know that he is not some old guy who's trying to mess you up.
As far as normal goes, it is normal to feel weird when dating someone you don't know. Just be carfull when you two meet personally.
So there's this guy in my school and he's a year older than me. i'm 15 and he's 16. i'ved liked him for 3 years and like a month ago i said "heyy." to him on facebook, but he didn't me ook at say anything back, but he did tell all of his friends, cause they look at me constantly. Then he pointed my out to a couple of friends and said "yeah that's her." why would he do that? and he knows i like him, and he always stares at me everyday. i need help, do you think he likes me, or not? i mean he knows how much i like him, and this isn't just a crush. its something more. so please give me some advice, thanks. :)
It sounds to me like he's confused right now. Talk to him, and find out if he even likes you as a friend, or maybe if he like-likes you. Just try to get to know him, and play it by ear.
Help me... I want to kiss my boyfriend so bad, but I barely see him outside of school and I dont want to rush it cuz weve only been together for a few weeks... But I'm anxious to have my first kiss and I really really like him a lot and hes my BF but I don't know how to kiss him at school cuz all my friends would laugh at me and rumors would spread... and I dont know if he's ready... my friend was teasing us and asked him when we were gonna kiss and he didnt answer.. what does that meannn????? any advice????
It could mean that he's just as nervous as you are. Ask him how he feels. Maybe he does want to kiss you, but you just don't know it yet. He doesn't know that you want to kiss him, so I think that you should definitely tell him. Good luck!
thanks alot and i just wanted to know why he would keep me around for a year if he's just gonna mess me around?
Because you two have been together for a year, he's probably started thinking that he's going to take advantage of you, so he'll start treating you like crap. You need to end it with him. Nobody deserves to be in a verbal abused relationship.
me 18/f bf 20/m
my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and throughout our relationship i keep dealing with people telling me that he's cheating on me but i didn't believe it. so recently i checked his facebook messages and i saw a really dirty conversation between him and another girl as well as explicit pictures of her, so of course i asked him about this and he told me that his friend was flirting with this girl and his cellphone battery was flat so he used his phone to chat to this girl so in other words he is saying that it was his friend chatting to this girl and saved the messages to his phone, a part of me wants to believe him but i can't trust him and i don't have it in me to break up with him because he makes me believe that all of this is true. what do i do?
I definitely think you need to end it with him. He's not worth being with if he's going to do that.
Another word of advice, if he tries to come back, like saying "I love you and I want you back," then he's just desperate to have a girlfriend, and he's very insecure about himself. You need to just let him go, and find someone who will not cheat on you at all costs.
Ok so there was this guy,hes so cute, Well I thought He liked my best friend but ke's been sitting by me and stuff. Well I really like him and I want him to ask me out or kiss me or something what should I do to tell kim I want him to do this?
I think that you should tell him that you like him. Sometimes the guy wants the girl to make the first move. If he does like you, then get to know more about him, and then kiss him. Good luck!
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I've been talking to this guy for three months now. He lives in Minnesota and I in Florida but we have been getting to know each other. He is amazing. He's extremely sweet and funny and flirtatious and he has everything I want in a person. He makes me feel so happy and complete. He told me he's already in love with me and even though long distance is tough, he's willing to make it work. I really feel a true connection with this guy.
but then there's another guy. He lives by me. He's very smart and funny and not afraid to be honest with me. He's dated my friend but she cheated on him and such, but I feel a little bit attracted to him. I can see myself with him.
but this is just so hard. I really like the first guy. I don't want to just toss him aside. if I tell him I am talking to someone else that's closer to me, he'll be extremely hurt! I don't want to just say get lost. Because I know he feels strongly for me and is willing to make things work no matter what. I don't wanna lose him. I've gotten to know the real person he is. He doesn't deserve to be thrown away, and neither does our connection. I'd feel horrible. I wouldn't be able to live knowing I hurt him so bad when he's so loving to me. Long distance is tough. I can't hold him and kiss him and spend time with him like I could with the other guy who could see me everyday.
i don't know what to do. I cried today. I would feel so bad if I hurt the first guy that I have an awesome chemistry with and did the same to the other guy for someone I probably won't see until next year... Please help!
Ok, first of all, have you personally met the guy? If not, he could be some old guy trying to turn you on, and try to get you to meet him, then try to do something that could physically hurt you. If you have met him, then go for it!!
As for the second guy, if you have known him for a long time, then he just possibly might be better for you, then again, he might not. It just depends on how you feel for both of them.
If you have a hard time deciding which one you want, (this may sound dorky, but it works) make a pros and cons chart, and put good and bad things for both guys, and see which has a better outcome. I hope things work out for you.
Im in love with a person who i think has an abssesive compulsive love personality disorder. I'm in a relationship that i want to save.we been together 1 yr and 3 months now. I love and and he claims he loves me. He isolates me from family members and friends, he hsa to go everywhere with me,he tries to control my finances,he monitors my phone calls, he calls throughout the day somtimes 30 times. We broke up in april 22 2011. he moved back to mississippi. he is suppose to catch the train monday night june 6th to come back here to illinois. he claims he has been faithful, i haven't been faithful cause i don't believe him. We are suppose to go to family counseling june 9th. he say he wants to change. I never call him down there cause he says his family don't like me. i don't know what he is doing. I plan to untie my tubes in march 2012. to have his child.I have 3 kids already. At 1st i said no but he pressures me. so i gave in. today he called saying he is trying to get in touch with the person who is to take him to the train. Its now 4:48p ,train leaves at 7p. Im getting a strange feeling.I am a female age 32. Do you think i should continue this relationship?
No. He's a jerk, and you don't deserve someone who is so controlling that he'll monitor your calls. He's not worth being the father to your child. I wish you luck.
I am 18 years old. I was at Barnes and Noble's and a guy came up to me. We started talking and he asked me out on a date to a play. He wants to eat out before and then attend the play. I am strapped for cash so it is bad if I expect him to pay for everything. This would be my first date so I am not entirely sure how this is supposed to work. I feel bad for making him pay for everything considering it would be dinner and a play. The tickets for the play is $30. Also, I feel like I would be putting women's rights back 50 years if I let him. I already said yes and he is new to the city so if I didn't work out romantically I feel we could be friends.
You could get ahold of him one day, and ask him how much money you should bring, and if he says anything about paying for you, then you're ok. If not, then maybe you should suggest going somewhere else for a date (something that is absolutely free, or inexpensive), and explain to him that you don't have the money for the play. If he's a real gentleman, he'll pay for you 100%.
I've known this girl for almost a year and she's such an important part of my life, she's my best friend, my lover, the girl I've always wanted. We became close very quickly over the summer and started to take it a step further once school started. Things were kinda rocky because she had a boyfriend who was a total ass but it took her awhile to break up with. She did eventually break up with him and so we officially started talking about a relationship. At that time I was 17 almost 18 and she was 15 almost 16. The only main concern was her parents accepting our relationship because I'm black and she's white so her parents told us to take it easy for awhile. Well things were really good until all of a sudden one day she tells me she likes being single more and doesn't feel like she's ready for a relationship. Usually I'm understanding but I've had this happen to me numerous times and this time was it so I got pissed and we got into a fight. Things sort of cooled down and we made up. About a week later she tells me to come to a bball game to hang with her so I go. I get there, we hug, talk, etc and then this guy comes and sits in front of her and lays back into her lap. At this point I'm hurting but trying to hide, everyone including her could see it. She asks if I'm mad and I just say I'm upset, we hug and talk for a bit and then I leave. She texts me and tells me she still likes me and I can't really remember the rest. So again things cool down, everything is normal and then she tells me she's going to a party with drinking at smoking. Once again I'm pissed because I'm straight edge and she herself said all that stuff was stupid. The day after that we get into a fight a huge fight and pretty much say we're done with each other. 2 days later she texts me saying she needs me more than anything she's ever needed before. The same goes for me because. I can't live without this girl. We have a moment, make up, but things didn't really get better. The more she partied, the less I saw her, the more we fought. She had pretty much changed from who she was and I told her that numerous times. I then find out she's talking to some other guy and he's pretty much the opposite of me, pothead, got in a wreck recently, etc... Then two weeks later the guy breaks it off with her and she's crushed. I tell I'm sorry but also tell her that she pretty much did the same to me and I've been hurting everyday since then. She tells me she loves and can't live without me. Let me add this, before she started acting out whatever she said to me like making promises, saying she can't live without me, she backed all that stuff up but as she started changing she stopped proving herself to me. So after that thing are ok, not great or better just ok. Whenever she'd tell me about a guy she'd say they're just friends I guess so I won't freak or maybe because she still has feelings. She still has flashes of her old self(who she really is), she recently said she's never smoking again because she had an epiphany but says she likes drinking too much to stop. She is the only person that has figured me out and I know she cares about me dearly but her current lifestyle has clouded all that. I told everything what she used to be and she said she wants to be that person again so bad and so do I. I know she still has feelings for me, she's coming to my graduation, she shows she still has the things I've given her. We don't talk as much as we used to which was all day everyday. I honestly, sincerely, cannot see myself with anyone else, even though I'm going to college I still want her around and she hates I'm going to college I just know, no matter how much she says she only wants to be friends, I just know she still has feelings for me and I won't give up until she finally realizes it. So what is your take on this? Is this a phase that she will grow out of and come running back to me?
It is extremely rare that a person will grow out of that kind of phase. I've heard about many kinds of relationships like yours, and what I think is that when she keeps saying that she wants you after you two take a break, that means she is very insecure about herself, and she's desperate for anybody to tell her that they love her, and want to spend the rest of their life with her. Druggies are not the best kind of people to be in a relationship with because they get all bi-polar about everything, and they just ruin the connection with everybody that they "love." In my opinion, I think you should just let her go, and find someone who will never treat you like she does. Good luck.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 year and 8 months, im not sure whether or not i should call him my boyfriend anymore though, were having a really rough patch, and things dont seem to be working out anymore.. i love him so much,the only problem i have with him is if he goes to his friends house where there are alot of girls there, and they dance and act like complete sluts, this is the ONLY place i asked my boyfriend not to go, and yet he complains saying i dont give him "freedom" he has always been so controlling, not to lie so have i, but NEVER as controlling as him, hes such a sweet guy, but hes kind of an asshole to be honest, and now that his friend came back from another country, he broke his promise of not going to his house because he KNEW it made me feel very uncomfortable, and i always promised him and kept it, whenever he had a problem with me doing something id do it, and now that he broke his promise he says he doesnt want to be with me anymore? =/, hes been so mean to me.. and saying that hew ants to move on with his life.. can anyone tell me whats going on? we were soo good before his friend came.. please no one write me saying its about another "girl" or whatever, my brother and him are best friends.. and my brothers 20 and my brother knows whats going on and he told me that he doesnt even talk to any girls, its not even about girls, he keeps talking about how he wants his freedom, and then my brother tells him he can work things out with me, and he says he actaully wants to, then the next day he says he doesnt want a relationship anymore.. he threw me away like im totally nothing.. and we were SO close, talking every single day.. he was like a dad, a brother, a boyfriend, a best friend.. and i was the same way with him, PLEASE someone telll me whats going on.. because im rlly heartbroken =/
It sounds to me that he is very insecure about himself. I think that you need to pull him aside, and ask him why he thinks you're not giving him him "freedom." He might give you a crappy answer because he's so insecure. Maybe you should break it off with him, and find some other guy who will treat you better than the boyfriend you have now.
I like this boy and I hear he likes me too and by the way we are 13 I'm a girl and we are friends and talk and stuff and I wanna kiss him sometime maybe and I'm nervous and people keep telling me "oh dont be, I'm sure he's just as nervous" Or "don't worry he hasnt his first kiss either, he doesn't no what to do" except he's told me people he's kissed and made out with so I'm afraid he's good and I won't be. I really like him and i wanna kiss him but Im too nervous. All advice helps! Thanks ! (:
First of all. You're only 13. I'm sure that if you give it some time, you'll be more than ready to get that kiss. Don't rush into it. It'll be so much better if you wait. Good luck!
Im a guy, me and my gf were making out yesterday and everything was good. She is really hot, and has a tight body, and she always tells me that i make her feel good. But she only says in an emotional kind of way. How can i make her feel good physically? I usually stroke my fingers on the inside of her legs, but she doesnt get too aroused. What are some things to try that she will love?
Depending on how your girlfriend reacts to certain things, you might not want to get "too close." Sometimes just stroking her hand, cheek, or rubbing her back might do the trick. Let her tell you if she feels comfortable or uncomfortable with the way you touch her. Good luck!