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He wants his freedom?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 year and 8 months, im not sure whether or not i should call him my boyfriend anymore though, were having a really rough patch, and things dont seem to be working out anymore.. i love him so much,the only problem i have with him is if he goes to his friends house where there are alot of girls there, and they dance and act like complete sluts, this is the ONLY place i asked my boyfriend not to go, and yet he complains saying i dont give him "freedom" he has always been so controlling, not to lie so have i, but NEVER as controlling as him, hes such a sweet guy, but hes kind of an asshole to be honest, and now that his friend came back from another country, he broke his promise of not going to his house because he KNEW it made me feel very uncomfortable, and i always promised him and kept it, whenever he had a problem with me doing something id do it, and now that he broke his promise he says he doesnt want to be with me anymore? =/, hes been so mean to me.. and saying that hew ants to move on with his life.. can anyone tell me whats going on? we were soo good before his friend came.. please no one write me saying its about another "girl" or whatever, my brother and him are best friends.. and my brothers 20 and my brother knows whats going on and he told me that he doesnt even talk to any girls, its not even about girls, he keeps talking about how he wants his freedom, and then my brother tells him he can work things out with me, and he says he actaully wants to, then the next day he says he doesnt want a relationship anymore.. he threw me away like im totally nothing.. and we were SO close, talking every single day.. he was like a dad, a brother, a boyfriend, a best friend.. and i was the same way with him, PLEASE someone telll me whats going on.. because im rlly heartbroken =/
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Your boyfriend doesn't have insecurity issues, Your boyfriend wants to play the field and isn't being upfront about it. Instead of being honest, He is beating around the bush and doing things the easy way.
Basically, Your boyfriend no longer wants to be in a relationship. This is not your fault, If he is an asshole then obviously he doesn't deserve to be with you. Sometimes it takes people a while before they show their true colors but it's his loss. If you want commitment you are better off finding someone who will respect you for who you are. This asshole isn't committed and him going to a house when he knows there will be girls flirting with him is a red flag and a warning.
I promise you one thing; If he treated you like shit, He will treat the next one just the same. People don't just magically change. You need to realize you are better off and don't need the drama, If your boyfriend wants to be an asshole then let him. I would take some time off for awhile and let yourself heal, Trust me when I say this one the only person with regrets will be him in the long run but in the meantime cut contact and don't talk too him. If he didn't deserve you in a relationship he certainly doesn't deserve you as a friend either.
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It sounds to me that he is very insecure about himself. I think that you need to pull him aside, and ask him why he thinks you're not giving him him "freedom." He might give you a crappy answer because he's so insecure. Maybe you should break it off with him, and find some other guy who will treat you better than the boyfriend you have now.
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