I like to help people so feel free to ask me for any advice :) I'm not a font of all knowledge but I can offer honest realistic advice.
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what does bulimia do to the body? (link)
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Bulimia nervosa does almost identical damage to anorexia nervosa, it is not considered as bad because the individual does gain SOME nutrients but essentially all it is, is a prolonged suicide, longer and more painful than Anorexia. One of the major effects is that it will lead to infertility in both males and females, it also makes you look extremely unattractive and leads to a failure of most internal organs.
Brain process has been proven to slow down affecting IQ and energy levels are drained. Once developed it is incredibly hard to overcome, and I would highly recommend anyone who feels a dramatic change in dieting behaviour to seek help Immediately.
I would also like to point out, if you are considering adapting this eating style as an "easy-diet" it will fail. Dieting is a fad introduced by Hollywood, before the era of films forcefully restricting food intake was unheard of. Also, as stated earlier, developing this would cause major psychological and psychical health issues which could prove impossible to overcome. If you need anyone to talk to about this feel free to send me a message :) best of luck
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How old are you? Are you happy with your age? how's life treating you? (link)
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I'm 18, 19 by the end of the year.
I can say in some area's im happier, I understand things better and have more stable people in my life who I rely on but equally as a child a lot of my current worries (finding a job, university etc.)
Generally life is good, I have someone that loves me very much and helps me through things, however it's been a rough time with family life. My parents are getting divorced and it's pretty nasty but other than that I guess I can't complain :)
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Hi everyone, I'm thinking about getiing side bangs and I'm not sure if they get annoying and are always in the way... Are they ever a bother? (link)
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(I am assuming bangs means fringe as I'm british lol) but no a side fringe isn't too much of a bother once you get used to it, plus you can get it cut how you like, if you have a large amount surrounding your eyes then you clearly will find it a bother more often than someone who gets it cut above the eyes.
Either way, the fringe grows out quickly so if you don't like it won't take long to fix and it shouldn't be too much of a problem. Also you will probably need regular visits to the hairdresser to keep it maintained etc. Good luck :)
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I'm 15 and male and i'm in highschool and i want to ask a girl out. i'm not he most 'polpular' of people but if i don't get a girlfriend soon i'm going to explode. please give me some tips. (link)
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well heres my best bit of advice: confidence overcomes everything else! even guys who are not attractive or popular or rich (whatever criteria you want) can get with the most stunning girls just by being confident with their approach. Now that doesn't mean be cocky (all though some light humour can work a treat too) or mean, still be nice but try to not show any nerves when you talk to her a lot of "uhmm"s and "err"s are not a good way to go.
It would also be worth doing a quick soul search to make sure you want to be with this girl for the right reasons, just because your friends have girlfriends doesn't mean you need one and it would also not be fair on the girl, if you genuinely have feelings for her then go for it :)
Now onto the girl, there are some subtle hints girls use for guys they like, not all girls are the same so you need to wing it a bit. some girls will try and catch your eye a few time, once or twice could be a fluke but several times (especially over a period of time) is usually pretty big signal, they may invite you to join conversations or invite themselves to join yours etc. so long as when you talk to her she doesn't seem to reject your presence or try to block you out then your safe to say she doesn't mind your company at the very least.
if you do know her and talk to her often then it should be easy enough, invite her out for a film and act as though it is just going to be a friendly day out then if the time feels right tell her how you feel about her, or try to tease it out of her and pay close attention to her responce, if she's embarressed about liking you she may hesitate and lie but you can usually pick up on it, that would be your que to ask her out, if she's pretty confident about just being friends don't give up hope, just play your cards right and carefully.
If you don't know her, its a bit trickier, confidence is key for this one! and a bit of conversation never hurts either, if shes sat with her frends think of a reason to come and talk to them (any of them) talking to all of them would be a good indicator that you won't mind her being with them too and gives you time to make them all laugh, then again, wait until the timing feels right to ask her to a more private area. I would say this approach may take a while and may need to be repeated every few days for the desire effect, but once you get your introductions out of the way, nothing to stop you just saying hi and asking about her day etc. in the hall way between classes.
to summarise:
Confidence and a sense of humour is essential
the right timing and to be able to see hints and ques helps greatly
and don't be mean and act touch and cool because chances are it would destroy any chances you have.
I wish you good luck :)
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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
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Don't. It's not just hard work emotionally but physically too, the younger you are the more difficult pregnancies are (a lot of teenagers end up in labour for days before the child is born). money is always an issue and it would be unfair on the child if you couldn't afford basic essentialls
(nappies, bottles, toys, clothes, cribs, push chairs, doctors bills etc.)
Then there's school, it is a very bad idea to miss school at your age, it has a huge effect on your later life and you will regret the decision.
The idea is attractive but chances are the guy your with now won't be around for 18 years and once the hard work kicks in, chances are he will leave anyway (men have that option easier than women). If I were you I'd wait a few years and maybe volunteer to be a child minder then you'll be able to get a mild taste of parenthood but you'll have to imagine doing it 24/7 (plus getting a job to keep income up). Best thing to do is wait until you're at least 18+
good luck
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what is sex? (link)
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You are obviously either too young to know or live a very sheltered life. Sex is a form of affection shown between too adults involving heavy psychical contact and if done between man and woman can lead to children :)
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Hi.I just want to ask you a question as regards the ''sex before marriage'' thing.Where in the Bible is it forbidden?Who defined fornication as being sexual intercourse before tying(tieing) the marriage ''knot''? And..if one can not wait,then he should marry,according to what Paul said in Corinthians.Ok.But..what if one can not marry at the moment because his parents think he has to get married at 30?or even later?So...does that mean that he has to 'burn'' until the time his parents or other people deem ''right'' for him to get married?If i'm not commanded to ''burn'',why should i?And...masturbation.Is it natural?I have masturbated too,and i,by GOD'S GRACE,have tried to stop it,not doing it now.But,what is the way out?If GOD created human beings and made sexual desire part of the physiology of both married and unmarried people.When married people have the desire for sex,they just do it.When unmarried people(because of certain circumstances) have the desire for the same..what should they do?why does one principle apply to a group of people and does not apply to the other?Where in the BIBLE does that come into play? (link)
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I'm not actually very religious, so I have no actual quotes etc instead I'm going to give you my own advice:
The bible was written many many maaany years ago, and much of what it states is supporting of social constructions at the time, in today's age it's better to take what's in the bible with a pinch of salt.
Masturbation is also entirely natural and fine, it is just a part of human nature and there is no shame in doing it, equally like sex before marriage. looking at it from a scientific point of view (bear with me): Swans mate for life, and ideally people believe humans should too, that means the first "mate" should be the only one, with exception to early death, However, we are not birds. It is evolutionary stronger to mate at a younger age in theory, it increases the chance of human survival, but now with the largest life span recorded in history its accepted that people should initially wait until they are at the very least in their late teens, and as another social construction, protection should always be used as society looks down on you teenage mothers.
Again, the Bible was written when women were expected to be producing children by the time they were 15 if that, so the wait wasn't long between reaching sexual maturity and actually finding a wife as opposed to now where by 12/13 teenagers begin to develop sexually and usually won't be married until their late 20's early 30's.
Do what makes yourself happy, be careful and respectful to every one and god can't possibly have a problem, after all Adam and Eve were never claimed to be married and they created a whole race haha (presumably). I hope that helped (and do remember if you decide to do anything to use protection and be safe!)
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im 12 and i got my period when i was 11 im wondering if there is a way i know when my period is coming so im asking how to schedule my period. i dont get cramps or anything to know when im getting it like some others, im happy about that but im not happy about not knowing when its coming. (link)
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Typically you have a period every 4 weeks, if your regular that is. it can be a bit of guess work but the best way to schedule is to get a calendar and mark the first day of your period and the last, then after a few months you should see a pattern begin to emerge (such as it's always the last weekend of the month), but that won't work if your irregular
The other option is to go onto the pill which essentially stops an egg being released until you reach your last pill of the month, then you have a period again and pick back up on the next months pack. that way you can decide when you want to start your periods each month and it will always be the same
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So mother is very judgemental, and ask a whole lot of questions about things I tell her, but I feel very uncomfortable talking to her. I lost my virginity at 13 but felt very guilty so I didnt do it anymore until now I am 16 and has recently start hsving sex again, but I havnt told my mother because shes gonna ask alot of questions. I espesially dont want to tell her I did it at her house which she doesnt like people in. HELP???? Im a female if this helps (link)
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Well to be honest, it's your life, not your mothers. If you feel uncomfortable telling her no law says you must and in a few years time she will have probably guessed you are anyway. If you know your mother wouldn't approve of certain things try to respect her wishes but otherwise just enjoy yourself and be responsible :)
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I'm 15 And Pregnant I Just Found Out And I'm 14 Weeks And My Mom Wants Me To Get An Abortion But Yes I Don't Want The Abortion But The Thing Is... I Haven't Told My Dad Cause He'll Kick Me And My Mom Out Of The House And We'll Have No Where To Go? No Family We Have Here Where We Live So It's Hard On Us She's Really Mad At Me And The Father And The Baby's Daddy Is Still In The Picture And Wants The Baby No Matter What But My Mom Wants To Put A Restraining Order Against Him Since He Is 17 We're 2 Years And 8 Months Apart And She Wants To Get Him For Rape Which Isn't True, But Me And The Father Want The Baby It's Just My Parents Opinion. And If He Gets Put Away Again It'll Be For 6 Years I Don't Want That For Our Baby And Not Have Our Baby Grow Up Without A Dad Or Aleast Knowing His/Her Daddy. What Can I Do??? :| (link)
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In my honest opinion, I agree with your mother. It is your choice of course but I beg you to consider these things:
at 15, your young and be serious about how you will get a job if you miss your exams and school for having a child, yes you can apply to night-collages but not for a while yet.
Similarly, a baby costs A LOT, diapers, toys, cribs, they get ill easily, doctors check ups everything adds up and unless some charitable person decides to pay for everything its unlikly you will afford it
Also, you are 15, yes it might seem fun to have a little baby and play happy families but when your 18/21 I bet you will want to go out, hang with friends. They might stand by you, but I am sure the friends you have now would rather have a girls night out than a coffee at daycare.
there are a lot of issues to deal with and I would consider them very carefully, if you have family support it may be easier but if your father would honestly disown you I think you need very very careful consideration. Also, be warned of the usual excuse men use when they're bored of a child:
"It's not mine. I'm not paying child support."
I wish you luck
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I think i might be pregnant, im only 14 & im scared, but i dont know how to tell my family? (link)
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Personally, I would first contact a family member I trust who wouldn't judge me a grandparent or maybe a very close family friend/aunt whoever, who will be able to talk to your family for you, that way you avoid the initial anger, and once your parents have calmed down they will be able to help, but the choices are your's and be prepared for a bit of conflict, it might be worth it to just buy a pregnancy test before hand to make sure you are, and if you are all safe learn the lesson and go on birth control/make him wear condoms :) I wish you luck
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what is the precentage of getting prednant while on birthcontrol but using no condom?
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Typically if you read the leaflet that comes with most birth control it will give you the accuracy of protection, if you are on the pill I'm pretty sure it is 99% effective, but if you are worried you can always buy a pregnancy test :)
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My name is Kailey and i am a 17 year old female. my problem is within my body, or i guess you could say outside of my body. My Labia is alot larger than normal, and i dont know why it just is. I dont know what to do because i know guys dont like them, i watched a movie called hallpass with my boyfriend..alone and there was a whole scene going off about how large mouthed vaginas aren't okay. And also Dane cook thinks there discusting. I am a very good looking girl and my boyfriend is very attracted to me.. but i wont let him go down on me or anything because of how i am. i just need to talk to someone about this because it really makes me unhappy and i wish i wasnt so different :( (link)
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Well, to start with all vagina's are different anyway, no one really has the "perfect" one and chances are your boyfriend won't care so long as he's getting some lol. Anyway, the reason people make fun of the "fat pussy" deal is because typically people that are very stretched out are considered sluts (through multiple sexual experiences) and the idea of them being wide/loose is supposed to be unappealing to men who like a tight fit. But typically, very VERY few men would leave a girl because of the shape of her privates (unless there horribly diseased but in this case that doesn't seem to be the problem).
If however, this is a problem you seriously can't get over, you can make an appointment to see your gynecologist and consider vaginal reconstruction, which is a form of plastic surgery which reshapes them and is common among porn stars, but I repeat, few men will spend hours musing over this, when it gets to sexy time, they think wit their little heads and that means no time for admiring haha. anyway best of luck to you and your boyfriend, and hopefully with age you'll understand that this isn't a big deal :)
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Well basically life is pointless for me all i do is live in a world full of People who can't see outside the box. And push me around because i do. I have no friends really and I don't really care to live anymore. I plan on an OD on pain killers. But I just am scared I will live and have to explain to my parents (who have caught me cutting twice) any suggestions? (link)
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My advice? don't do anything. You may feel like the people around you are restricted in their thinking but face it, there's billions of people in the world, I would go so far as to say twenty of them at least match your desires. It sounds to me like you are young and the young are typically naive, they don't see past their own neighbourhood, there's a whole world to explore, and people who think outside the box usually end up in the best positions later on, you just have to be strong for now until you can get out and explore.
Also, how selfish to steal your existence from your parents, who love you and spent their lives supporting and caring for you, do you honestly think they would just shrug and move on if you died? they would be mortified and question themselves as parents, and your grandparents? friends? you do exist and people do know you and would miss you, the best advice I can give you is talk to your family (anyone who you are close to) and tell them how you feel and see if they can get you professional help :)
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me and this guy kinda have a thing and he wants to have sex but i dont know if im ready yet...im sixteen and he is eighteen and he has had sex multiple times and im scared he might have an STD or something. he has asked me if im still a virgin and i said no because i didnt want him to think i wasnt cool or anything. was it a bad thing that i lied to him about that? and should i tell him the truth? im also scared because this will be my first time and i dont know how it feels, i dont wanna bleed because i think that would be embarassing, and i dont wanna scream because if it hurts too much! and some of my friends say save sex till marriage because you can never get your viginity back..what should i do? (link)
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First of all, no shame in being a virgin and definitely no shame in wanting to wait until you're ready, nobody should force you and if this boy respects you he'll wait. Most people actually find it admirable to be a virgin. I do understand why you lied however, as I was a virgin at 16 and a large emphasis was placed on sex back then, once I became 18 everyone had large respect for me for keeping innocent for so long, so don't worry yourself about that.
Also, as far as saving sex till marriage, it's your choice, some people would rather loose their virginity to their husbands as a sort of show of trust I suppose, some people would rather be married and be able to please their husbands from the start, admittedly, it is increasingly more difficult to save yourself until marriage, so do what you feel is right there.
Onto the boyfriend issue, STD wise, you have every right to refuse until he is checked (be cautious that he may be lying to get into your pants though) and I do recommend you tell him the truth, more so if you decide to have sex with him solely on the grounds that usually men have to be much more gentle than usual when they are with virgins, and if he doesn't know, it could be very painful for you.
As for the feeling, I personally found it very painful, but I didn't bleed, and since I was with someone who cared they went slow so it never made me scream or anything. Every girl is different however, I've had friends who screamed and I've had friends who bled a lot, I think its a combination of the pace you move and what kind of person you are. Just remember to have a lot of foreplay before you begin (kissing, touching etc.) and don't be afraid to ask him to stop at any point if it becomes to painful, just apologise and tell him that you can't do it yet, he may be somewhat annoyed, but if he loves you he should be fine, and if he doesn't then you don't need him anyway :)
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ok so like im 16 and 2 yrs ago i was spending the night at my friends house and she (and i)both gota little curious on how sex feels so we did a lil sum sum,would girl on girl be considerd 'real' sex??? (link)
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It really depends on where you stand, some people consider any form of intimate action to be sexual while some would only consider male-female relations which involved penetration to be sex. You could say this was your first time, or just say it was harmless curious fun. entirely up to you at the end of the day, just try to be honest with yourself and your own morals :)
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so me and my bf decided we r gunna get crazy and get dwn (have sex) and he starts to put his .... inside me and i strt bleeding while he is inside me i thnk he popped my cherry but cld that get me pregnant???? (link)
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If you didn't use protection, yes there is a risk. even if he did not cum inside you the risk is there, admitdly it is a very minimal risk but people have gotten pregnant on loosing their virginity before. chances are he did pop your cherry and that caused the bleeding.
If he did not cum iside you, you only did this once and you did not use any form of protection (the pill/condoms etc.) theres a chance you're pregnant
If you have been using protection, I would not worry greatly.
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How Do you put eye liner on your top lid? (link)
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Personally, I use liquid eye liner, and I usually do it as the last part of my eye make up. I close the eye I'm going to apply to and use the mirror to guide my hand. I very gently glide it along from just above the tear duct to the other side and add a very slight flick off the end. If it doesn't look very visable I may put another layer on but try to avoid a thick block, a slender smooth motion is really all that is needed.
http://s1122.photobucket.com/albums/l529/Lost_in_Fantasy/?action=view¤t=Snapshotofme430.png
That's my example of how it would look :) I hope that helps.
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I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact.
-He comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other
-He'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home
-I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name
-He asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring)
-He asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students
-One time when I visited him it was during a practice with the kids so I sat there at his desk and saw how the kids were doing and then I went back again with my friend the following week and he didn't let us sit in but he let me sit in alone the week before
-The first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
-The following week, I went alone so he would let me sit in and listen and after every kid had left, he exited his office and was walking out the door to drive home when he saw me standing at the door, he acknowledged that I was still there and asked if I had a ride, if I didn't, he could drive me home. He never offers kids rides home, ever.
He's the only teacher that I still make an effort to see because he was a very important person in my life.
--what do you think about us? more than just student teacher?
I really need to know if you think we are "wrong" because I am going on an 11 day school field trip out of the country and he is the head of the arts, which is what I am going for, so I will be with him everyday. So, are you like everyone else and think we're together or something? (link)
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Okay, this is how I'd like to start, by explaining the concept of "Grooming". Grooming is when an elder person (usually male) pays large amounts of positive attention to a younger child, this builds a foundation of trust on the child's part and makes them very easy to manipulate into things such as sexual favours. And yes, Grooming can last for several years before the predator can be successful.
Your story makes me very concerned for your well being, Teachers have to follow the law and remain professional with all students, the only exception is if the student is family or neighbours (EG the teacher is good friends with the students family). Anyway, from what you have told me here, this is classic grooming, and I would be very careful if I were you.
This may help, think back to when he began showing you attention, were you alone very often? did you have family troubles? these are some signs that people can lock onto and make you an "easy target" in their eyes. By all means, a strong teacher-student relationship is a good thing, but personally this feels like it has breached the limits.
If I were you, I would go on your trip, enjoy yourself but keep yourself to your friends more than this teacher, try to avoid being alone with him and please remember, if he ever asks you to do anything you don't want to do or know you shouldn't, do not be afraid to say no (no matter what he says.) If you become afraid for your well being, find another teacher and tell them exactly what happened, they are supposed to protect you and this teacher of yours can easily shift his attention to a younger, easier to overpower girl. Be careful and watch for the signs of a sexual predator. If you need to talk you can message me whenever you like :)
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I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact.
-He comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other
-He'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home
-I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name
-He asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring)
-He asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students
-One time when I visited him it was during a practice with the kids so I sat there at his desk and saw how the kids were doing and then I went back again with my friend the following week and he didn't let us sit in but he let me sit in alone the week before
-The first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
-The following week, I went alone so he would let me sit in and listen and after every kid had left, he exited his office and was walking out the door to drive home when he saw me standing at the door, he acknowledged that I was still there and asked if I had a ride, if I didn't, he could drive me home. He never offers kids rides home, ever.
He's the only teacher that I still make an effort to see because he was a very important person in my life.
--what do you think about us? more than just student teacher?
I really need to know if you think we are "wrong" because I am going on an 11 day school field trip out of the country and he is the head of the arts, which is what I am going for, so I will be with him everyday. So, are you like everyone else and think we're together or something? (link)
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Okay, this is how I'd like to start, by explaining the concept of "Grooming". Grooming is when an elder person (usually male) pays large amounts of positive attention to a younger child, this builds a foundation of trust on the child's part and makes them very easy to manipulate into things such as sexual favours. And yes, Grooming can last for several years before the predator can be successful.
Your story makes me very concerned for your well being, Teachers have to follow the law and remain professional with all students, the only exception is if the student is family or neighbours (EG the teacher is good friends with the students family). Anyway, from what you have told me here, this is classic grooming, and I would be very careful if I were you.
This may help, think back to when he began showing you attention, were you alone very often? did you have family troubles? these are some signs that people can lock onto and make you an "easy target" in their eyes. By all means, a strong teacher-student relationship is a good thing, but personally this feels like it has breached the limits.
If I were you, I would go on your trip, enjoy yourself but keep yourself to your friends more than this teacher, try to avoid being alone with him and please remember, if he ever asks you to do anything you don't want to do or know you shouldn't, do not be afraid to say no (no matter what he says.) If you become afraid for your well being, find another teacher and tell them exactly what happened, they are supposed to protect you and this teacher of yours can easily shift his attention to a younger, easier to overpower girl. Be careful and watch for the signs of a sexual predator. If you need to talk you can message me whenever you like :)
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