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I haven't had girls that are friends in a very long time. I have a few close guy friends now and most girls either don't like me or I can't stand them. I'm 19 and recently started to get to know a few girls from work. I feel a little left out since they have all been friends for awhile but they're very sweet and have been asking me to hang out lately. The thing is, I don't even know how to act around girl friends anymore! I'm scared of sharing secrets or telling them my feelings/opinions. What can I do to relax myself and to open myself up? I know they want me to be more outgoing with them.
I know its hard to do, but look past the boobs and treat them just like your guys friends-- just don't say "dude" every 10 seconds, talk about cars, sports, or girls, or use that fake deep voice that the boys do. Otherwise, keep it normal.
Girls love when you tell them your feelings or share secrets, they think you're so adorable and possibly can put you into the potential boyfriend zone. Just don't hold back, especially if they're "very sweet" like you say your friends are.
When you're not around them, just try to remember to remind yourself that girls are just people, too, just like you, and that they won't judge you (especially if they're friends) and they're not better than you, so you shouldn't be nervous. (That's how I got myself to relax around guys, it really works.) You'll forget all this when you meet up with them, but if you say it enough when they're not around, you'll be programmed to just act chill around them.
Outgoingness (is that a word? hahh) will come with getting more comfortable with them. The more you guys hang out, the easier it will be. Trust me.
I can tell you're a really sweet guy and I'm sure you'll have no problem being yourself around girls in no time :) Good luck, hon
Give me advice how to get ungrounded
This is really caniving and will probably make you feel guilty, but most of the time, it does work.
Stop screaming, yelling, whining, crying (etc.) about it right now. Its just hurting the situation.
Next, write a long, long, long... long hand-written letter of apology to every person you offended. Individually. The longest lertter should be to the person/people who grounded you. Say you're so sorry for what you did, you're so immature and you definitely learned a lesson, yada yada yada. Make sure to say that you deserved everything you got (punishment-wise) and that you respect their decision. Don't mention anything about being un-grounded yet. Don't suck up, because parents have a radar for that. Unless you get grounded often, write that this definitely changed your outlook on how you treat/do ____. Like, if you yelled at your parents or something, tell them that from now on, you'll treat them so much better, because you realized how much of an @ss you were being before. Just BS it.
Wait at least 12 hours between the time of grounding to give it to them, preferably overnight. Give it to them in person if you can, with a hug or even a kiss on the cheek (if its family hah).
For the next few days make sure to use your manners and even toss around a few I-love-you's to show them you "really changed."
They may unground you. They may not.
Mine did :) haha
If they do, you can gradually phase out of the phoniness. If not, keep it up for as long as you can stomach it haha.
Good luck :)
Okay. I'm a 19 year old girl. I know this sounds really wierd, but i am in college and i have absolutely no money. I got to school on a scholarship and ive had to get loans for room and board. I have no money to eat or support myself with so i do something i'm not proud of. I am a stripper. But the thing is i really love doing it! its so much fun and a great confidence booster! but do you think i should stop doing this degrading thing even though it makes me happy?
That is a very tough situation. Although I am strictly Catholic and believe in abstaining until marriage, if I was in the same situation as you (I probably will be in 2 years, sadly) I would do the same thing. Stripping makes big bucks. It is degrading, but its not like you're telling the men to go or making them come anyway-- you just work there, and if you didn't, somebody else would. Its not like this is your hobby. And I completely understand about the confidence thing.
I went to a concert this weekend, one of the first concerts I've been to where there was both thousands of people and had music that most people dance... well, raunchily, to- rap, not rock or soft music. There were hot guys EVERYWHERE, AND hot girls, at least I felt that they were hotter than me, so at first I was so insecure and self-conscious. If I didn't dance out, I felt like a loser, but if I did, I felt rediculous. However, surveying the crowd, I noticed it wasn't exactly the hottest girls getting attention from the guys, it was the ones who were having a good time and letting loose. I built up my confidence and just decided to throw my hands up and have a good time. By dancing out, I felt sexy, and even if I didn't think I looked it at first, I soon began to believe that I was. I hooked a guy at the end of the night :) That may have been the biggest confidence boost I have ever gotten.
Anyway my point is that that experience was great for me. Was I proud, exactly, of how I was dancing? Haha nope! But I had a good time, and its not like I act like that 24/7. I think the stripping is fine, as long as you don't bring your clients home with you.
Hope I helped, hon, good luck with the money situation
Alright guys I really want to know what to do when in a relationship. I'm talking about a teen relationship. I'm exactly 13 years old and I want to know what should a 13 year old be doing when in a relationship? Ex: WEEK 1: MAKE OUT
MONTH 1: FEEL UP
like that
I really want someone my own age to anaswer this this and not someone older saying I'm too young for this stuff. Like I think after 9 months is good to start having sex but wat do u think? And I mean actual sex not like bg's or hj's and please include those in their! thanks!
You gave a low rating to all of the answerers, but all of their answers were good ones.
Here's my opinion, and I have a feeling you'll rate low, but just hear me out, and maybe think about what I'm saying, OK?
I'm 15. Not exactly your age. But I'm pretty close.
In middle school, I always wanted a boyfriend so badly. So, so badly. I'm pretty sure that if a guy was half sane, I would go out with them. (The one guy that did ask me out in that time period, was, disappointingly, not sane, lol) But somewhere along the line (maybe a few months before my 14th birthday), I realized that relationships were way too complicated to deal with at my age. Looking back on it, it was soo much better to not have gotten into any serious relationships back then. Why? So that I wouldn't have to wonder what you're wondering right now. Wouldn't have to ask myself when to kiss and why, obsess over whether he still likes me or not, play the jealousy game of "oh, you were SO flirting with her when I wasn't around!" Didn't have to do any of that. And I got by just fine.
During that summer before freshman year I realized that unless you're with someone that really matters to you, relationships will mean nothing.
And you're asking yourself, what does this have to do with my question?!
Everything, sweetie.
If you're with someone that really matters to you, making out, even having sex will come in good time. It isn't something to be planned, not saying, "In exactly ten days after school, I will give you a hand job." No, none of that. if you're with someone you really and truly care about and love, then you won't need to worry about that. Because the guy will make you comfortable and won't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to, or worse, allow you to do something that you're not ready for, even if you think you are. Cause he'll love you too much. And unless you've found a guy like that, not only should you start to look for a new one, but by no means should you consider giving him the time of day.
If you're looking for a set time frame to answer your question, you're never going to get one, sweetie, and the ones you will get will be absolutely wrong. Love has no timelines.
... But most importantly, if I haven't gotten through to you at all (I pray to God that's not the case) remember to use birth control or condoms if you plan on being sexually active. Lord knows we don't need another teen mother.
Me? I'm still waiting for my first "real" boyfriend, "real" kiss even. And I honestly don't care, because I know that when I do get those precious firsts, they will be a whole lot more special than those kids that had their firsts at 12/13. Just like those kids (like you, maybe?) who plan for sex with their boyfriends when they're in middle school, then regret it a few years later. I'd much rather save myself for marriage and never have to regret anything, because I'd be with the man forever and always.
Eventually, you, too, will figure out its all about quality, not quantity.
God bless, sweetie, I hope He shows you the light
hey, i have a little sister, and she's only like 7 right? and she knows things that she REALLY shouldn't know! like she knows soulja boy and sex stuff and ... other things. anyways, is our generation changing by the minute? I heard her talking to a boy about sex! help!!
Yeah, its definitely a new generation for them. I don't know why, most likely because they're exposed to so many ads and such promoting things that aren't suitable for kids of that age.
Personally, I get concerned when I see little kids wearing Hollister or abercrombie, even if its just a sweatshirt, because it shows that their mums are clueless. I know MY momma wouldn't let me into a store with a picture of a naked guy in front selling clothes that don't cover much skin at the grand old age of eight. How will they allow their kids to dress at ten? Thirteen?!
And the music... I'm not saying its bad to listen to, because I listen to some of it, but I mean, honestly, stick to Kidz Bop - even though that stuff is horrible, my God...
And I love how parents are subconsciously buying into this whole my-kid's-a-teenager thing by endorsing in iPods and cell phones for their first graders... iPods, whatever, if you got the money, go ahead and spend it, but why the hell do they need cell phones?! Maybe to set up dates with their boyfriends. hah.
Yes that was my rant for the day, thanks... I have a problem with this whole little kids acting older thing... I believe that I grew up in good time, not too fast, not too slow, and that these kids should follow suit.
Using the Avex DVD to iPod Converter, how long does it take to convert a DVD?
Using a different brand of DVD converter, for every 3 seconds in the movie, it takes 2 seconds in real time. Assuming the Avex one is fairly new, it should be about that long.
13/f
ok is it un normal to still be a virgin or not hooked up yet for my age?
Are there 13 y/o's having sex with each other? Yeah, of course, I'm not gonna lie. But at least 95% AREN'T. Don't be one of those >5%.
The attitudes of the answerers before me surprise me, they're so lax, like yeah, it happens all the time, but you kind of should probably wait. No. You HAVE to wait. You'll value it much more when you do it with somone you truly love, and when you're much older and fully understand what it means and your responsibilities.
Besides, who wants to gamble with STDs and pregnency? Not me.
Okay, so theres this huge chunk of my hair that is oily straight after I've washed it, and I have no idea why.
At first I thought it was the way my hair was drying. But even if I naturally dry it, or blowdry it it's always the same part that's oily.
Even if it comes out oily, and I rewash it especially focusing on these oily parts, it still comes out oily.
I've tried so many things. Different shampoos, blow drying it, naturally drying it, using my wet 2 straight hair straightener, using no conditioner, using conditioner, focusing on the oily parts but it just doesn't help!
It's annoying that I can never wear my hair down anymore, and that's when I look the best :(
Are you touching your hair often? The natural oils of your hands can get on your hair and make it look oily.
Also, I don't know if you considered this, but if you use too little shampoo, it could keep your hair oily.
Next time you're in the shower, use lots of shampoo around the problem areas and no conditioner. If that doesn't help, and it doesn't have to do with touching your hair, I would go to a hair stylist and ask them what special products you could use.
Good luck.
i know what palm reading is but what is it? i mean like what do they do for it? i know its fake but for fun. but what does somethings mean? its so weird.
Its just for entertanment. One line is supposed to tell you the quality of life, one about how much wealth you're supposed to posses... silly things like that. Its really interesting though, even if you forget what the lines interpret in a day, lol. There's probably a book in your local library about it, you should check it out if you're interested.
heyy :)
okay so i got an ipod touch but i have no clue how to put movies on it.
i downloaded movies from limewire,
but it wont let me open them on itunes.
thanks
There are no free products out there that work. Trust me, I tried them all. Unless your "movie" is under 5 minutes long, you're not going to get a full movie with full audio anywhere. I downloaded over 10 programs and tried them all-- nothing.
I got this program as a gift for Christmas that works really well-- Cucusoft Video Converter + DVD to iPod Converter Suite. 40 bucks, but easy and fairly fast to work.
Once you download it onto your computer, all you do is open it, put your DVD into the CD drive, locate the file on your computer, click a button, and the movie starts to download itself. It goes at about a 2:3 speed; for every 2 seconds in the movie is 3 seconds in real time. So if you have an hour and a half movie, its gonna take you about an hour for the movie to process. (Internet goes slowly, but Word moves at regular speed.) After that, a box pops up and you just drag'n'drop the file to the Movies section of iTunes. Very simple.
I hope it works for you, good luck.
so heres the deal
ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years on and off.. im really in love with him and this weekend was crazy.. friday we stayed in a hotel 2gether.. and we hang out all the time.. i live in missouri and he lives in illinois. he comes and picks me up all the time.. he calls me his shawty..
the thing is, hes bout 2 b locked up.. hes turnin himself in about 2 weeks.. im waitin on him.. hes not going in for something real bad, it was a big misunderstanding and hell be out real quick.. should i stay with him????/
thanks=]]
If your guy did anything the least bit illegal, you should definitely call the relationship off. You do not want to be involved with somebody like that. Even if you can hold your own ground and not succumb to his ways, the cops could interrogate you about what went on, and you don't want to have the pressure to lie about something if you're still together. Simply put: if he did something bad, break up with him, because you could go down with him, one way or another.
Does anyone know where I can download a safe, free DVD ripper?
It needs to be safe.
(I know most aren't free, so maybe one with a sample or something)
Try Videora, it may work for you, depending on your intentions of what you want to do once you rip the DVD. Videora converts the DVD to iPod format, but I'm pretty sure you can just change the profile of it to rip to any format. Look here for a guide and download options: http://www.videora.com/
Good luck!
The other day before an English lesson, the whole class was waiting outside the room for the teacher to arrive.
I was standing there and then the guy I liked walked past so I said hey, and he stayed there talking to me.
We were about a meter away from everyone else and then he kissed me...like we were making out for aagggeesss (but it was amazing, and the best ''kiss'' of my life :) :) )
Suddenly there's like an awkward cough and we break it off and look and it's my English teacher standing there with a slightly amused look on his face and a raised eyebrow.
He said '' (my name here) you know..you're about 15 minutes late for my lesson...and...'' he doesn't finish his sentence.
I suddenly realised that I had been making out for 15 or so minutes, and my hand was playing around the front of the guys trouser waistband..and he had a hand up my shirt..(not like on my boob)
He kissed me on the cheek and said ''ill wait for you after''and walked off to his lesson.
The thing is that my teacher is quite old....but he doesn't really care what we do. He never gets pissed off and always makes rude jokes and whatnot.
I'm just wondering what I could've said to him.
After the guy walked off I said ''I'm really sorry Mr._____...I didn't realize..we got kind of carried away...''
he just replied ''you don't need to explain'' and he walked into the classroom.
Now I always go red when I see him in the corridors and I had a double English lesson today with him. I used to be like one of the more outgoing students and I always made jokes with him..now he kind of avoids me and I get embarassed.
Should I say something to him?
Thanks!! He's honestly my favorite teacher!
15/f
At my school, things like that go on all the time, even in front of teachers, and they take no note of it.
You may be embarrassed, but take this weekend to get the facts straightened out. Your English teacher caught you making out with a guy. I'm sure he made out with a girl in school when he was your age (although that may be a nasty picture, lol) and I'm sure he's seen other people making out in the halls.
Go back to the way things used to be, and continue to be outgoing and make jokes. Sure, I bet its a little embarrassing right now, but in a few days, both he will have forgotten about it, and I hope you do, too.
I hope everything works out.
im asking his question say that im my sister but im not its just going to be easyer to say me instead of my sister ok so here it is:
Im f/10 and I have a friend that is 13 and i care about her alot whenever she is sad i try and confert her and when she is happy im happy with her i do so many things for her but she just dosnt act like she apreciates any of it i dont even think that she cares about me she never thanks me for christmas i saved up all my money to get my sister and her psp's my sister jumped in joy and thanked me 5 billions times and then i asked my friend if she liked hers and all she said was yeah she didnt even say thank you and then she doesnt act like she cares about me every time i try to get together with her she just says im thinking of getting together with my friend that day or somthing like that and then the stupidest snootyest girl at school invites my sister and my friend to go to the mall with her and my sister asks if i can come and she said it was ok and then the whole time i was none stop talking and everyone was ignoring me except my sister i try so hard for her to like me but she just never seems like she really cares about me i really want her to want to be friends with me its just so hard im am constantly nice and friendly but she just dosnt care what should i do please help.
and remember this is a question for my sister im not really 10 im 14 and its not like she thinks she is being nice and friendly i think she is being eltra nice and friendly and her friend just dosnt seem to care i would really like answers i dont like to see her being used to get whatever someone eles wants and then never talking to her please help this is for a little kid that will never let this go i dont want her to get hurt please help and thank you to all who answer
Your sister's friend is no friend at all. Getting her a PSP and not even THANK her?! And barely hanging out with her, and when she does, ignoring her?!
Advice to your sister: Start hanging out more with other friends and make her other friendships stronger. Meanwhile, don't make an effort to be good friends with this girl anymore. Smalltalk is fine, but she shouldn't make any extra efforts, since obviously this other girl isn't making any either. No more gifts, for sure.
And good for you, for asking this for your little sister, it shows that you really care about her. Let her know that she can talk to you about her problems whenever she needs to.
I hope everything works out.
ok so to start i go to a house school its were you get home schooled at some one eles house im 13 another girl is 13 my sister is 12 and the boy is 12 also and one day at school the boy was talking about his ex girlfriend and one thing he said was his girlfriend was "loded" do you think that its ok for a 12 year old to say stuff like that because im worried about him do you think i should stop freakin because of a stupid thing he said thanks
Loaded usually means that someone has a lot of money and material items. Its not an offenseful word, unless the other person doesn't like to be called very rich and likes to keep their finances to themselves. Otherwise, its fine to say at any age. Its a slang that isn't used while talking with just anyone, but saying "crap" is worse than saying "loaded."
I can't think of any other meaning of loaded... like, drunk? That wouldn't make sense, though, because being loaded in that context would be temporary, and how you described it makes it sound like he was describing a characteristic of her. Howver, if that's the case, then you shouldn't be worried for your friend, you should be worried for his ex, lol.
Yes, I do think that you should "stop freakin" because your friend said nothing wrong. And even if he did, its his words and his decision to say them, not yours.
Okay so first of all I'm not at all over weight, my appearance is thin. I'm 16 and 100 lbs, but that doesn't really matter too much.
I want to lose the fat on my lower stomach- because if I'm wearing a tight shirt it looks somewhat bad. I don't know if people notice but it bugs me.
Haha anyways it's a hard spot to target with exercising so I've heard.
Does anyone know good exercises for this? besides crunches? I have a yoga ball too, would that help?
Thanks in advance (:
Purchase the newest issue of CosmoGIRL! (it has Jessica Alba and Pete Wentz on the cover), if you don't already subscribe... inside they have a 6-minute workout concentrating totally on your abs. I tried it out, and it feels like its working. 6 minutes for 6 weeks. Pretty good.
Good luck!
ok so first of all is it strange that after 2 days of my period it skiped a day and then the next day it started back up and second if you have dont have your period do you still have to change your pad or can you just keep it on until you do have your period
ATTN: Look to the bottom for the answer to your question from your feedback. If you have any more questions for me, please ask me personally through my advice column, its a lot easier. :)
To start, yes, that is normal, especially in the first three years of starting your period. During these years, your period can be very irregular in the time in which it arrives, its duration, the heaviness, the cramps-- everything. So don't worry if something is messed up every once in a while. Just make sure to tell your doctor at your next physical, because tracking your period is important, especially before you start seeing a gyno.
Second-- If you do not have your period, there is no reason to wear a pad or tampon. Actually, wearing a tampon while you are not menstruating is actually dangerous-- TSS, Toxic Shock Syndrome, is a something that occurs when you have a tampon in for an excessive period of time. If you have a tampon in all of the time, that makes you more suseptible to the illness. So that is a huge NO! for tampons all the time. However, pads are okay to keep in 24/7, but there's really no need to. A few girls and women keep a pantyliner in their undies most of the time to prevent discharge (goey, white stuff that comes out "down there," usually most often before, during, and after your period.) If you do not have excessive discharge, however, there is no need for that.
I'm guessing you're new to the whole period thing? Just keep a pad with you in your purse, backpack, etc. until Aunt Flo makes the visit. There's no need to put a pad on before the blood comes out, even if you know its coming soon. If you're really nervous, keep one in your pocket. Make sure to change your pad at least every 4-6 hours if its a heavy flow, but keep it in for no more than 12 hours at an extremely light flow. Rule of thumb: if blood is covering the part of the pad that you can see, and slightly drenching into the interior part, change it. After there's absolutely no more reddish-brown stuff coming out of you, there's no more need for a pad for another 28-31 days. Whoo! :]
Everything will be fine, hon, just relax. If you have any more questions, you really should ask your mom, or an older sister, aunt, cousin, etc.
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Okay, so for the answer to your question on feedback: You should DEFINITELY tell your mom. There's nothing embarrassing about it-- its part of growing up. I mean, she's going to figure it out sooner or later. When you're 18, she'll be worried about your cycle, and you'll already have had it for years! Next time when you and your mom are fairly alone in the house (no boys!) and she's not stressed, just bring it up nonchalantly: "Hey mom, could you pick me up a pack of pads at Wal-Mart? I have my period." No need to tell her when you got your period or for how long, unless she asks. Also, don't feel ashamed abotu knowing what sex is. They teach it in school, and shame on your mother for not telling you about it sooner or even informing you about simple things about your period. I remember my doctor telling my mom to talk to me about it at age six! Anyway, don't be embarrassed or ashamed, all girls get it.
I hope everything goes well. If you need anymore help, feel free to ask me a question on my advice column. :)
i really need a new sn cause mine is really dumb so a couple things about me:
i am very outgoing and friendly
i love life and laughing and smiling (so you understand my personality)
my fav quote of w/e its called cause i cant remember right now is Live, Laugh, Love
im 14, im a freshman i like flowers and love butterflys ummm i dont know what else to say and everything i put sounds really dumb lol but uh ya so if u canhelp me i would be so greatful cause seriously my sn is so dumb
i also am a very strong Christian and love the Lord above everything and i am a very unique person thanx!!!!! :]
laugh x it x outt
bubblyy x3
christian x girliee
xo [school initials] sweetie
example) if you went to a school named.. john adams high school (boy meets world, haha) it would be xo ja sweetie
then there are always sns with you name.. say yours was katie-
katieeeee xo
katie sayss
katie loves youu
x3 katie love
I hope I helpedd.
what the diff about "compliment" and "comPLEment"?
A complIment is a positive comment you give to someone. "I love your blouse!" "Your shoes are soo cute." ... etc.
A complEment is something that works for another thing, or makes it better. "That brown complements the blue." "Those new curtains complement the shape of the window." (Think of 2 things complImenting each other. :])
I have been looking forward to superlatives in our yearbook this year, but also dreading it. I am very smart, pretty and some other stuff, but there is always someone who is going to be picked for being smarter and prettier. It really burns me up, because no matter how much I study and work on my make-up and hair, there is always someone better. I just want to be the best, in one thing at least. I am reasonably popular, so that is not the problem. How can I just be the best in something?
There's always going to be someone better than you somewhere. Likewise, there's always going to be someone worse than you somewhere. Don't let your so-called popularity, beauty, and smarts go to your head.
Settle for the facts that you try your hardest to be smart. (The most pretty thing, though, should not be that high of a pririty in life, so I'm not going to even go there.) As long as you gave it your all 24/7, that should be good enough for you. Who needs superlatives to tell you how hard you've worked? You knew that already, and people recognize that, even if they don't vote for you.
I hope everything works out for you.