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Stripper
Okay. I'm a 19 year old girl. I know this sounds really wierd, but i am in college and i have absolutely no money. I got to school on a scholarship and ive had to get loans for room and board. I have no money to eat or support myself with so i do something i'm not proud of. I am a stripper. But the thing is i really love doing it! its so much fun and a great confidence booster! but do you think i should stop doing this degrading thing even though it makes me happy?
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That is a very tough situation. Although I am strictly Catholic and believe in abstaining until marriage, if I was in the same situation as you (I probably will be in 2 years, sadly) I would do the same thing. Stripping makes big bucks. It is degrading, but its not like you're telling the men to go or making them come anyway-- you just work there, and if you didn't, somebody else would. Its not like this is your hobby. And I completely understand about the confidence thing.
I went to a concert this weekend, one of the first concerts I've been to where there was both thousands of people and had music that most people dance... well, raunchily, to- rap, not rock or soft music. There were hot guys EVERYWHERE, AND hot girls, at least I felt that they were hotter than me, so at first I was so insecure and self-conscious. If I didn't dance out, I felt like a loser, but if I did, I felt rediculous. However, surveying the crowd, I noticed it wasn't exactly the hottest girls getting attention from the guys, it was the ones who were having a good time and letting loose. I built up my confidence and just decided to throw my hands up and have a good time. By dancing out, I felt sexy, and even if I didn't think I looked it at first, I soon began to believe that I was. I hooked a guy at the end of the night :) That may have been the biggest confidence boost I have ever gotten.
Anyway my point is that that experience was great for me. Was I proud, exactly, of how I was dancing? Haha nope! But I had a good time, and its not like I act like that 24/7. I think the stripping is fine, as long as you don't bring your clients home with you.
Hope I helped, hon, good luck with the money situation <3
...btw I thought of this when I read your question haha, it was kinda scary how much your story and the story of the music video compared, I don't know if you've ever seen it before though. Let Me Go - 3 Doors Down. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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Well think about it using comparisons. Alcohol makes people happy sometimes, it can make people more loose and exciting and fun. But alcohol also is dangerous in many different ways. Driving fast can be fun and exciting, but it's one of the leading causes of bad car accidents. I understand that money is tight for you, and you have little options especially in such a bad economy, but there has to be something you could do. Try to find a job, maybe call your parents or any other family members you have and ask them if either they could help you or if they can give you advice on what you should do to start bringing in some money. You weren't put on this earth to strip, because it really is degrading, to all women and to yourself. I'm sure you have some sort of career aim as you go through college, so keep going at it, and if you don't, start thinking of what you want to do. Things will be ok, don't let stripping be a last resort or an easy way out. Life's a challenge, so take advantage of it.
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If you are a college girl trying to get her life together, then you should not be ashamed. You're happy, so don't worry what others think. I hope you are being safe and responsible though. Bottom line is, keep going to school and keep working, you'll be fine!
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