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Just call me Calli.

I like Jamie Bell and Cillian Murphy. I like Friday Night Lights and Desperate Housewives and Dead Like Me. I like writing, roleplaying in writing communities. I like reading: Harry Potter, Tom Robbins, Kurt Vonnegut, House of Leaves. I love House of Leaves. I like Adam Pascal in Rent. I like messing around in photoshop. I'm not too fantastic, but I like it. I like chemistry. I love Audrey Hepburn.

I dislike poetry. I dislike physics.

I am indifferent about Twilight.

I know nothing about romantic relationships. But I have friends. I have family. And I like them.

If that helps at all, there it is. If not, there it is.

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ok so i think i might have a problem but i'm not sure.
me and some friends when we want to have a good time..take a few of my prescription pills
at first it was once in a while when i did it,
but now i see myself doing it more and more
and i can't get rid of the pills because i do need them...but i am tempted to take more than what is prescribed when there around.
i take them in school too, today i slept through 3 classes because when the meds wear off you get low.
i don't consider myself a pill popper but i'm on my way to being one.

I know you probably don't want to do this, but I think you should tell your parents or (god I'm going to sound like a cliche) at least some adult you really trust. You need someone to be around and regulate your pill intake. This is a very dangerous problem you may be on your way to, as I'm positive you know. You could die if you take too many too much.

Just please, tell some adult who can help immediately and kill the problem before it becomes too much. You may want to get a counselor or therepist as, sometimes they can help drug issues.

And when you do stop, don't ever take pills for a simple "good time" again. Thats very dangerous.

Okay, I'm going to stop there before I start sounding like an overprotective parent. But I really hope I helped you here. Hope you get better.
-Calli
15-f

15/f

i got my first period this past november on thanksgiving. i got it december onm the 21st again then january on the 22nd. in february i got it the day after i got back from a cruise which was like the 24th but it only lasted for about 2 or 3 days and was very light. i haven't gotten it since. is that normal, considering i haven't had it for that long, or should i be worried?

Don't be worried. I've had my period for three years and right now I'm on my fourth month without it. No one really... cares, so its perfectly fine. Even ten years from now, or twenty or whatever it may not be normal (my mother is a good example of abnormal periods).

However, if you get it, and it lasts for a month nonstop THAT is when you should be worried. Don't jump to conclusions that it will happen though, there is a very very very slim chance of that. But I'm just warning you juuuust in case.

But don't be worried at the moment. Hope that helps!
-Calli
15-f

16-f
dating a 17-m

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year and i want to get him something amazing for our one year since he's bought me nice things i dont have much money and i dont want it to be something of his interests i want it to remind him of us together not just something he likes.
some things we've went through in the past year to maybe help/or bore you are:
-lost the car at the mall and walked all the way around the mall to find it & felt retarted because it was right where we started
-took 3 months to kiss we waited an hour in his car after everytime we hung out to work up the courage to kiss and i finally got the guts after awhile
-Our song is Collide by Howie day (i sent it on his facebook saying i liked it and we listened to it for awhile and it reminded us of eachother so ya)
-we havent taken many pictures only 2 and they arent very good looking at all! im gonna try and get good ones and maybe get a picture frame to go along with the gift.
-he likes to hold me down and lick my face and make it so i cant wipe it on him lol its fun
-and the other day i chased him around with a worm cuz he hates them & he kept picking me up and putting me in puddles

theres alot more but ya im sure you are bored.

-he's very cuddling and emotional
-i love him and have loved him since the day i met him seems cheezy but i couldnt see myself with anyone else
-give me your best ideas im begging i want it too be amazing for him he's spent so much on me to get me a white gold ring for v-day and a necklace a cute frog for my b-day/christmas.

PLEASE HELP
sorry for the size of this message just wanted to get it all out
thanks in advance

I'm a huge writer/scrapbooker, so this is typical for me to say but you should really make a scrapbook of the times you had together. And on every few pages write down some of the memories you shared, how he makes you feel, how much you care. And you should be a little... I want to say poetic but I'm not sure if that's the correct word.

Put pictures up with little captions. And if you want, at the very beginning put some baby/kiddie pictures of both of you (you can ask his parents for some of those).

Scrapbooks are easy to find too, just go to any sort of drug or craft store. If you have a Michael's anywhere nearby then you can get everything you need for it. Even some creative ideas from some of the employees!

And if you're low on help, I'm going to put a few "How To..."'s here for you to check out:
http://scrapbook.lifetips.com/
http://www.american.edu/IRVINE/schoch/howto.html
http://www.everything-about-scrapbooking.com/

And maybe you can include a little CD with your song and a few other cute ones that remind you of him at the end as an extra surprise!

I hope this doesn't sound like too much. Its just something I would probably do for my own boyfriend if I had one. But I really hope I helped, and no matter what you choose I'm sure your boyfriend will love it!

Hi Advicenators!! Okay so my prom is next friday..im really excited :) I still need some stuff though. A picture of my dress is at the bottom so please look at it to help you, Its light blue by the way. I need jewelry. I also would like to know what are some good kinds of make-up to wear? other then the kind i wear now. Because like i want to go to Sephora and get some nice make-up. What mascara is good? What bronzer is good? Eye Shadow-what color should i wear? Any other make-up i need--please say! And then what jewelry should i get? Like what type of necklace? and Earrings. I have no clue! All i need is like make-up that will last LONG! And stay the way it looks at first. Im not getting it done Im doing it myself! Thankyou :)

Okay, so I know nothing about make-up but colors, but jewlery is something I'm set at.

Don't wear too much of anything. For jewlery, you'd do good with all silver thin chains. In necklace that goes to about your color bone with some small charm, maybe a blue stone or something like that. As for bracelets, a thin silver chain is good enough for that.

Earrings are a hard one, it would be better to see you really to see what would go nice with your face and hair but I can go with what I said before. Silver. Maybe... crystal studs or a thin chain with a stone at the bottom that sort of matches the necklace. No chandeliers.

I know no make-up brands whatsoever, since I rarely ever wear it. But I would say for colors a light light blue eyeshadow over nuder pinkish tones would go nicely.
You might want to go to Ulta or somewhere to ask advice on long lasting makeup and good bronzer and such for your skin tone.

But I hope I helped. Have fun at prom!

i have an ipod touch, i was downloading ziphone.
and it froze.
so now on the screen there is the "loading of ziphone" codes stuff on there.
and its not going awway.
i cant trun it off, it wont turn off.
or do anything.
ive unplugged and plugged it in serveral times.
and i cant go to the apple store beause i was downloading
illegal things
so how can i get it to restore or wahteveR?

Okay, well, try this first. Take it off the plug and let it just die, that will take a few hours so you won't have your music but I'm pretty sure this will work. Once it dies (the screen is completely blank), plug it in again and see if it works.

My iPod is an iPod mini (not sold anymore), so they aren't exactly the same. But it has done that a couple times while uploading or while I was listening and letting it die and then charging it again works wonders for me. So I'd try it first.

Hope it works!

Okay, my next door neighbors have two kids. They are 5 and 9 years old. No offence to them, but I really don't like them. They are really annoying. Whenever we have a day off from school on like snow days or random hollidays where we don't have school on friday or thursday, they ALWAYS ask me to babysit. I have babysat for them like 10 times and I hate it. It keeps getting worse and worse. And it's not even that I don't like them, it's that I don't even want to be there and the day seems to get longer and longer since I have to babysit all day. We are not having school this Friday and I think that they are going to come over and ask me to babysit soon. Can anyone think of a good excuse to say if you dont want to babysit because i don't want to say, "I don't like your kids and I don't want to babysit. Sorry." Please help.

First off, tell your parents that you have a problem babysitting these kids. Say you might have plans, or that you really just are uncomfortable babysitting there. Then you can have your parents to back you up when you tell your neighbors.

As for them, I simple, "I'm extremely sorry, but I'm busy that day," will do. And if they persist, well thats why you have the parent option to back you up.

Hope that does something for you! Kids can be a real pain sometimes...

-Calli

if my boyfriend doesn't have herpes or an STD does that mean i can not get it?

Well, if he's gotten tested and it comes out saying that he has nothing dangerous, and you two have some sort of sexual intercourse, then no. But make sure you're sure first. And pregnancy is still a problem no matter what you do.

Ages ago I used this thing to draw something in photoshop.
I honestly don't remember what it was called, but I want to go buy one.
So if I give a description, maybe someone can tell me what this is? :D

It's like a mouse mat that's connected to the computer, and then you use a pen thing, to draw on it...and what you're drawing comes up on the computer...so like a mouse..that's a pen on a special board.

thank you!

A tablet. Wacom tablet. I have one and its my life. xD

Mine is called Bamboo fun and its small compared to the others I've seen. http://z.about.com/d/graphicssoft/1/0/b/L/1/I3-wide-hand6x11.jpg
Thats a picture of a larger one.

And here is the manufactuer's link:
http://www.wacom.com/index.html

I've been looking for good pixel art beginner's tutorials, but so far I haven't found any good ones.
Could someone please give me links to some good ones(for beginners)?

Thanks!

deviantart.com has a lot of different art tutorials, if you search "pixel art tutorial" I'm sure you'll find at least one of millions that you like. But to save you some searching, I did it myself and came up with a few you may like:

http://naughty-kittykitty.deviantart.com/art/Pixel-Art-walk-through-62443950
http://aquamizuko.deviantart.com/art/Pixel-Art-Tutorial-32339589
http://sasuya.deviantart.com/art/Pixel-Avatar-Tutorial-60341049

Theres lots more though!

i need help i dont have a very good grade in math and my dad used to be a math teacher and we fight about it every time i go to his house (my parents are divorced) and i just dont get it! could you help me on how to stay focused during class?! i dont sit by n e of my friends in that class so thats not the problem but im starting to make friends with the people around me i dont get in trouble for talking very much tho! just if you have any advice PLEASE any at all! help me!!

Thanks! =D

Well first off, you said your father is a Math teacher. You might want to ask him for help. Despite the fact that you get into fights about it, I'm sure he'd be glad to help you understand it better.

If you really don't want to do that, I'm sure you could ask your school for a tutor. Or find one online by googling tutor and your area. Or maybe your friends around you get it and you could ask them to explain it in simpler terms!

If you go to the library, also, there should be books about paying attention in class.

Or check here:
http://www.geekinterview.com/talk/1044-how-to-pay-attention-in-class.html
http://www.wikihow.com/Pay-Attention-in-a-Dull-Class
http://graphic.pepperdine.edu/living/2005/2005-02-24-how.htm
http://www.nexttutor.com/?p=88

i have had limewire before but i deleted it for a while...i've done that before too...but now i'm trying to redownload it and it downloads fine but a firewall is blocking it so nothing will download...how can i make it not blocked?

I know this is really not the answer you're looking for, but I really think it's best to get a different music player all together. I don't know where, I don't know how, but limewire is really dangerous.

My files got completely corrupted from downloading limewire, and it made a bunch of junk come up on my computer. It also opens your computer to a huge amount of viruses (I got a trojan horse that shut me out of my user). We had to wipe the entire computer clean and I lost everything (including my music, I was ready to kill someone).

A few people I know have similar "limewire/virus" stories to share as well. One girl's computer randomly shut down on her for instance.

But if that doesn't set you off the limewire tap, and you can decide for yourself, you can go into your anti-virus/firewall program (it should be seperate from the actual computar hardware) and disable the system while you download limewire. But be sure to turn it back on.

And once again, its really best to not get limewire anyway.

playfully argue with each other. my parents will joke and tease one another. i watch what they do and i some times realize that its just like my friend and I play around with each other. that just odd and we are both girls. i get annoyed by it but i like the attention. whats your out take on this?

Its perfectly fine to do. Friends do that all the time, and even boyfriend/girlfriends and spouses are friends with each other. Its nothing to get hyper over, don't pay much attention to it. Its just a thing people who are close do, it shows their bond.

I love reading. But, the problem is that I don't know what to read next. hah.

So, has anyone read a really good book lately?

I'm 16/f. I like romance, action, and thrillers. But, i read alot of random books too. So if you have a book that you like, please refer.

Provide the title, author and maybe a brief summary (so I have a little idea on what it's about).

So, thanks! :]

Oh this is right up my alley!

The "Twilight" series by Stephenie Meyer is an amazing read. Its one of those Vampie/Human romances, and throws in a lot of other things. Near death, werewolves, revenge, and the like. Its one of the best.

A favorite author of mine is Marcus Zusak. The two books of his are:

The Book Thief- set in Nazi Germany and told by Death its about a young girl who lost her family and lives in a foster home. Its basically her life as all of Germany goes to hell.

and I Am the Messenger- which has a sort of action/romance twist. It has Ed Kennedey, a taxi driver who is all average, stop a bank robbery. Well then he starts getting Aces in the mail telling him to do all these things, help all these people. Its really amazing.

Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins is sort of a gard one to get into, and has some really whacked out concepts, but I found it good once I got into it. Its basically about a small group of people trying to get the secret ingredient out of a perfume bottle, and in the middle it tells the story of the man who made the perfume.

If you haven't already, do the Kite Runner and A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini. Kite Runner is about a boy who moves to America after he does something horrid, and then goes back to his country to try and make it right. Splendid Suns is about two woman and their husband and how they get used to living as Afghan women.

White Oleander by Janet Finch is an incredible read. The girl goes from foster home to foster home after her mom kills a man.

Anything by Jodie Picoult is good. Her endings really throw you for a twist.

There's also The Memory Keeper's Daughter by Kim Edwards is something that made me cry. A man gives away his daughter because she has a disease and may die, and it goes through his life afterward and how he copes with this secret.

The last one I'll give you isn't fantastic, but it is pretty spiffy. Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher, in which a boy gets tapes from a girl he knew who killed herself. The tape go through (you guessed it) the thirteen reasons why she killed herself.

Happy Reading!

does any one know any good blonde hair dye? for highlights?? a good brand!
I have an aweful orange tinge to my blonde hair at the moment, so i need good highlights so the ginger wont come though in the sun or after its faded etc! Also will my hair go really really light as it is alright quite light or will it go more gingery copper after iv had highlights put on it? thanks

You just get bleach. Or dye in any drug store if your hair is light enough.

But you know, its not safe to do that stuff at home. You could end up terribly wrecking your hair. It may be a little more expensive, but its really best if you just go to a hairstylist. And any cutting place will color hair.

whats fatigue?

Basically its being tired, but here is a definition from dictionary.com:

fa·tigue
noun 1. weariness from bodily or mental exertion.
2. a cause of weariness; slow ordeal; exertion: the fatigue of driving for many hours.
3. Physiology. temporary diminution of the irritability or functioning of organs, tissues, or cells after excessive exertion or stimulation.
4. Civil Engineering. the weakening or breakdown of material subjected to stress, esp. a repeated series of stresses.
5. Also called fatigue duty. Military. a. labor of a generally nonmilitary kind done by soldiers, such as cleaning up an area, digging drainage ditches, or raking leaves.
b. the state of being engaged in such labor: on fatigue.

I only know parts of the songs.

" if your fucked up, puts your cups up"

then a different song is..

" BR City we the shit "

If you ever need to know songs by just their lyrics, go to this site:

http://www.letssingit.com/
or just Google the lyrics.

I know the first one is Ice Cube's Go To Church.
The other one I can't find.

i got my period last month on the third then the 20th. both in the same month.

and this month i got it the 22.

last time i had sex was a week ago.

If you have your period you aren't pregnant. Thats true no matter what, so don't worry. Be safe though anyway, just in case you do get pregnant or an STD. You should still take steps to prevent both.

what are some good workouts to get the lower abs stronger? THANKS!!

There is the obvious answer, crunches and such. There's also leg lifts though (http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/training-fitness/abs-exercise-leg-raises.htm) and also you could try a site like this:

http://www.busywomensfitness.com/ab-exercises.html

Which has various techniques for different lower ab workouts (you have to scroll down just a little bit though).
Hope that helps!

My best friend has been dating a guy for almost two months now. Most of her friends, including myself, get a "creep" vibe from him. He comes off as a guy who just wants to get in her pants. Plus, he's really controlling over her. Sometimes I do think he genuinely cares for her but I'm not sold on it.

So, he told her that he'd quit smoking pot when they first started going out, but one day he came to pick her up (she was too drunk to really function).. AND THE DUDE WAS HIGH!!! after he told her he quit smoking! my friend told her about it, and now he hates the girl! For telling on him..

Anyways, I saw him yesterday and he was stoned off his ass again.

My question is: SHOULD I TELL HER OR NOT???

I'm concerned because if he's lying about this and can't keep a promise, who knows what else he could be keeping from her? I don't want to be a tattle-tale because she will tell him that I saw. then he'll hate me. ugh. Plus, it's not my business, but I care about her. The last guy she was with screwed her over too. She's a really naive girl.

My concern is that we'll be roommates next year and I don't want her bf and I to have problems. That could compromise our friendship.

So.. should I tell her or not?

I had this same problem. The girl and me really aren't friends anymore, and she's still with her creepy cheating boyfriend. She'll probably get extremely angry if you try to convince her to stop going out with him. Like... pissed off angry.

As for the roommate problem, just tell her that you feel uncomfortable around her and her boyfriend and if she could please not invite him around when you are around.
If she rejects this idea, it might be better to find a new roommate so you could get some room away from that guy and keep animosity at a low level.

Hope that does something for you.

do emo kids get made fun of a lot?

Seeing as there is really no such thing as a human being emo unless they spontaniously combust into soundwaves and that all the children who seem to think they are soundwaves do is complain about how horrible their lives are and then turn around and shop at the expensive Hot Topic...

I personally believe that people who call themselves anything, emo, prep, goth, punk, whatever needs to seriously get a bit more of a life.

I'm sorry, I'm coming off as rude, but this is a touchy subject for me. People who are "emo" do not understand the concept of "emo" because if it really was "emotional" music they listened to and "emotional" people they were, than evry one and every piece of music could be classified as "emo".

Also, the "emo" bands (Dashboard Confessional, Hawthorne Heights) are really just a form of alternative pop. "Emo" was hardcorce screaming bands (that I personally dislike) from the 90s such as Indian Summer and Rites of Spring.

But that still doesn't answer your question. But that is the reason why the answer to your question IS "yes". Because these "emo" kids don't know what in hell they are talking about when they call themselves as such.

That was the answer to your question, and I hope that helped.

(PS, to find proof of Emo-make-fun-of, there is Patent Pending's Cheer Up Emo Kid song, the Smosh's Emo Kid song and other videos on YouTube if you search emo)

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