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Friend's boyfriend lies
My best friend has been dating a guy for almost two months now. Most of her friends, including myself, get a "creep" vibe from him. He comes off as a guy who just wants to get in her pants. Plus, he's really controlling over her. Sometimes I do think he genuinely cares for her but I'm not sold on it.
So, he told her that he'd quit smoking pot when they first started going out, but one day he came to pick her up (she was too drunk to really function).. AND THE DUDE WAS HIGH!!! after he told her he quit smoking! my friend told her about it, and now he hates the girl! For telling on him..
Anyways, I saw him yesterday and he was stoned off his ass again.
My question is: SHOULD I TELL HER OR NOT???
I'm concerned because if he's lying about this and can't keep a promise, who knows what else he could be keeping from her? I don't want to be a tattle-tale because she will tell him that I saw. then he'll hate me. ugh. Plus, it's not my business, but I care about her. The last guy she was with screwed her over too. She's a really naive girl.
My concern is that we'll be roommates next year and I don't want her bf and I to have problems. That could compromise our friendship.
So.. should I tell her or not?
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Really depends on the friend. Think about it, how much do you know her? If you honestly believe by knowing her behaviour that she wouldn't get mad at you, than tell her eye to eye. I would always want my friend to tell me if my boyfriend was lying to me. If you think that she would start hating you or something than send her an anonymous e-mail or letter written by somebody else with the fewest sentences possible. That may not make her believe it but it would at least open her eyes a little and make her doubtful so she could pay more attention to what's going on around her.
Here's what I would do, but that's me. If she was going to be my roommate and I knew that she could get mad at me for telling her about her cheating boyfriend than I wouldn't care and dump the bitc* (no offense, that's only me). My philosophy is this - no matter what happens, friends just come and go, you can't stop it. Life can rarely keep a friendship intact. But right now this is YOUR life and you should be spending your young years happily. I wouldn't want my life to go downhill and for me to be stressed just because someone else has a problem with his/her relationship and he/she doesn't want to accept the truth. I just don't deal with naive people. I also wouldn't want to live with someone if that would make me unhappy (the boyfriend coming over). But that's only me, and sometimes I'm considered to be a really bitc*y and mean person. I just don't float into clouds.
Anyways, I hope I helped a little.
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I had this same problem. The girl and me really aren't friends anymore, and she's still with her creepy cheating boyfriend. She'll probably get extremely angry if you try to convince her to stop going out with him. Like... pissed off angry.
As for the roommate problem, just tell her that you feel uncomfortable around her and her boyfriend and if she could please not invite him around when you are around.
If she rejects this idea, it might be better to find a new roommate so you could get some room away from that guy and keep animosity at a low level.
Hope that does something for you.
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well if she drinks till she cant function as you said why cant he smoke pot??
i say its nobody's busyness if she has such a problem with it she will talk to him about it.
i think you should tell her if you want to.. its not really a big deal though .... in my opinion
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