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Alright, so it seems that my boyfriend is not all sweet and stuff to me anymore when we talk, almost like he is distracted. I know that the 'honeymoon' phase is over but I still wanna feel like he misses me or appreciates me and he doesn't. Like I don't care if he calls me all the time but just since I don't see him much during the week I try to keep communication between us and he is just so short with me sometimse. What should I do? (link)
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You know sweetie, guys can act weird and dumb sometimes... The problem with you people is not about him liking you or not. It's how much you know about each other. And I dont think you know each other that well. Get to know him...Stuff which he is intrested in...his dreams and ambitions in life...how he spent his day...Dont forget to mention about your own personality... Tell him how much he means to you...Do stuff for him which will melt his heart to the core...Tell him hoe much you're girlfriends are jealous when they see how much you love each other... Make him feel glad that your his girlfriend and I'm sure all will work out great !!
Best Of Luck Sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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okay so last week my boyfriend and I were fooling around and we actually had sexual contact.he didn't go inside, he was like at my opening. he says that he didn't ejacualate inside, but i want to know if there was any possible chance I COULD be pregnant.
thanks (link)
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He didint ejaculate but he must have had pre-come which is the slimy thing that comes before ejaculate. Pre-come is harmless most of the time, but some times it picks up live sperm from the previous use of the penis. The chances of you getting pregnant are 40%. My advice is wait for your periods. If they arrive at all then you are not pregnant. But if they don't then you are pregnant. See for other symptoms like headache, weakness, sore breasts, puking and dizziness. If you are not sure of going to a doctor take a pregnancy test kit from a medical store.
Best Of Luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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14/f
I have never been fingered in my life, only rubbed.
My boyfriend tried to finger me, and when he BEARLY pushed I asked him to stop because it stung...
Is this normal..i've yet to be fingered because I am afraid..
My question is this:
How bad does it hurt to get fingered..
Or anything along those lines for someone who has never done anything sexual..
:[ help, please. (link)
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IT DOESN'T HURT TO GET FINGERED... It's like plesure pain, Like it may just sting for some time but it will go away in a few hours... You dont feel the pain...All you get is the pleasure...So dont be afraid...
Best Of Luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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ok me and my bf have been goin out for like 3 weeks now and he wants to hav sex but i dont know if i should do it or not esp. this early. I need help on if i should have sex with him or not? Do you really think he likes me because he asked me pretty early in teh relationship? Please help me out
thanks~! (link)
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Yes sweetie, three weeks is way too early... You should just tell him that you're not ready for sex right now and you need more time to know him properly. If he really likes you he will understand. This way you dont have sex early and you get to know if he really likes you.
Best of luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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what if you had sex andthe guy nutted on you and then the next day you get your period and your period lasted for 3 days only can you get pregnant like that? (link)
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Ok, the first symptom of pregnancy is skipping your period. Your periods completely pause during pregnancy. So if you're having periods after making out it means you're not pregnant. Your periods could be short because of stress, or a low fat diet or emotional changes.
Best of Luck sweetie,xxxxx DaRkSiDE89 xxxxx
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Hey i have to write a 8 page essay on someone in history how somehow affected world history. (It can't be an american) I was thinking maybe an Australian or African person, preferable Australian. Any ideas???? Thanks a bunch (link)
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You could write about Nelson Mandela or Mahatma Gandhi...Both of them affected the world at large...
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my bf and i have been going out for 2 months 2mrw, and i love him to death. he sends me these messages telling me how much he loves me and how he was never truely in love until he met me. well him and his ex gf went out for about 8 months and then they went through a big break up. some how they remained friends and "best" friends at that.even though im not particulary found of her,(i have never met her, but talked to her on the fone), i don't care that they are friends, i don't want to be one of these gf's whose says that he can't be friends with her because shes his ex. but she calls him all of the time talking to him about how she madeout with this 19 year old guy when shes 15 and all this stuff that she can go tell her girlfriends, and she asks him all sorts of personal questions about us, like how many times have we made out (like we count) but anyways its driving me nuts and i don't want him to think that im jealous, i just don't kno wat to do about her????what should i do?????thanks for any help that you can give me (link)
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Ok... This happens all the time... But trust me, if you let him know how you feel, he will not think that your jealous or anything. Why dont you start like this...After getting into your usual conversation (When you're hangin' out with him),"...Baby, you're the best thing that's ever happened to me......Hun, do you, like, tell 'people' about us? Like, about whatever we do? Ok... because I dont want people to know intimate details about us...what we do is really special to me and I dont want other people to know about this and spoil it? Can you please not tell people about us...For me??" And try and not talk about his Ex.... Conversations between you and your bf are supposed to be about you both & people who really matter to y'all...And I dont think that his ex matters to you or him...
Best of luck sweetie xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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Okay so a few days ago my boyfriend and I were lsaying on a couch watching a movie and while we were facing eachother i whispered i love you. (this was the first time either of us has said it in person) and he just kinna smiled and kissed me. now i'm not 100% sure he heard me but it seems like he did.
should i see this as a bad thing? i expected him to say i love you too. please tell me what you think. thanks. (link)
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Ok... why dont you say it again... clearly... and then see his reaction...? I know it sometimes gets confusing for us girls to decipher our bf's actions.. but if you're not sure of what exactly happened, do it again... I think he loves you too because he kissed you when you said "I Love You"...
Best of Luck sweetie...xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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this is the conversation i just had with my boyfriend.. i dont know if he was just really stressed or like if i should take it seriously? help!
me(10:55:21 PM): what
him (10:55:28 PM): I dont know whats wrong... I cant stand this
me (10:55:34 PM): stand what
him(10:56:14 PM): School, life
me (10:56:21 PM): yeaa i know how you feel
me(10:56:34 PM): i have like soo much work to make up still from wen i was sick like a week ago
him (10:56:55 PM): There has to be an easier way
me (10:57:06 PM): what is that supposed to mean
him(10:57:23 PM): And no you dont know how i feel
me (10:57:33 PM): okay then whats wrong?
him (9:58:07 PM): i i cant stand it
him (9:58:15 PM): i think im going crazy
me(10): i know what you mean though
him (9:58:34 PM): this has to get easier
him(9:58:53 PM): for the past half hour ive been thinking of ways to kill myself
him(9:59:00 PM): maybe itd be easier
me (10:58:57 PM): **** shut up
him (9:59:15 PM): i cant stand this
me (10:59:11 PM): stoppp
me (10:59:14 PM): thats not funny
him (9:59:26 PM): its not
him(9:59:32 PM): im crying right now
me (10:59:42 PM): it it just because you have a lot of work to make up?
him (9:59:52 PM): no
me): then what
him (10:00:00 PM): i dont know
me(10:59:55 PM): just like school in general
me (10:59:58 PM): or like something else
him (10:00:15 PM): i hate how so much is always expected of me
him (10:00:20 PM): and i can never do it
him (10:00:36 PM): i hate how everytime i finish something
him (10:00:39 PM): huge
him (10:00:52 PM): that i obsess over forever
him(10:00:56 PM): theres another
me (11:00:52 PM): yea
him (10:01:06 PM): thing just like it
him (10:01:08 PM): and
him (10:01:17 PM): i cant deal with it anymore
him (10:01:34 PM): i feel like i cant make it through life like everyone else
him (10:01:55 PM): and i dont know what to do
me (11:01:56 PM): thats really weird
me (11:01:59 PM): because like
him (10:02:08 PM): i just
him (10:02:19 PM): i jus want it to be easier
him (10:02:24 PM): i wana be an actor
him(10:02:27 PM): they dont do shit
me (11:02:22 PM): i was saying something 2 my mom about that today
me (11:02:23 PM): hahah
him (10:02:34 PM): but i cant do that
him (10:02:39 PM): im not good enough
him(10:02:41 PM): i hate it
him (10:02:55 PM): i dont want to have to worry about everything all the time
him (10:03:10 PM): i just want to relax
him (10:03:20 PM): i hate life
him(10:03:51 PM): i mean
him (10:03:54 PM): all of this
him (10:03:56 PM): work
him (10:04:02 PM): i ts for nothing
him (10:04:12 PM): i want it to stop
him (10:04:20 PM): but then i think
him (10:04:21 PM): wait
him (10:04:29 PM): i have another 8 years to go
him (10:04:38 PM): and the i cry some more
him (10:04:52 PM): and wonder if itd hurt to hang yourself
him (10:05:11 PM): please
him (10:05:18 PM): dont tell anyone about this
him (10:05:39 PM): hang yourself
him (10:05:45 PM): i meant myself
me (11:05:55 PM): **** stop
me(11:05:58 PM): seriously
me (11:06:43 PM): sry it took me so long to answer
him (10:06:56 PM): its fine
me (11:06:52 PM): i was doing something
him (10:07:03 PM): please dont tell anyone
me(11:07:02 PM): about what
me (11:07:05 PM): ?
him (10:07:18 PM): what ive been saying
me (11:07:26 PM): youre not seriously thinking about that right...
me (11:07:27 PM): ?
him (10:07:40 PM): i dont know
me (11:07:38 PM): **** come on stop
him (10:07:54 PM): it would be so easy
him (10:08:01 PM): and id be in a better place
me (11:08:00 PM): thats so weird.. because today i felt like the exact same way.. but i didnt think about killing myself....
me (11:08:04 PM): its just stress
me (11:08:15 PM): okay just think about how in a week its gonna be spring break okay
me (11:08:20 PM): and you wont have anything to worry about
him (10:08:43 PM): ok
him (10:08:44 PM): ok
him (10:08:50 PM): im gunna see you right?
me (11:08:48 PM): yeah
him (10:08:57 PM): ok
him (10:09:02 PM):alright
me(11:08:55 PM): of course
him (10:09:06 PM): i feel better
me(11:09:03 PM): okay good
him (10:09:15 PM): ok
him(10:09:28 PM): now i have to stay up all fucking nighht
me (11:09:26 PM): why
him (10:09:38 PM): because ive been putting this shit off all night
him (10:09:40 PM): all week
him (10:09:44 PM): and
me (11:09:37 PM): yea i know how you feel
him (10:09:47 PM): omfg
me (11:09:43 PM): what
me (11:09:52 PM): ?
him(10:10:03 PM): I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO
him (10:10:04 PM): dsfsgalhk
him(10:10:04 PM): ad gsj l
him (10:10:05 PM): s;nroaV UAK
him (10:10:06 PM): LDF'DFL' K
him (10:10:08 PM): FOJA
him (10:10:12 PM): i hate life
me (11:10:19 PM): **** relaxx everythings gonna be fine
the **** is his name that i starred out. =]
he said a lot of other stuff too but thats just an example and i was trying to calm him down and tell him all the good things about life but i dont know if he was serious or not.. because i doubt he would ever do that to himself. i think hes just frustrated.. what should i do?
if it helps im a frosh in highschool
thanks. =]
oh p.s. later he said...
me (12:52:42 AM): are you sure ur okay?
me(12:52:46 AM): you really wouldnt do that right?
him (12:53:30 AM): Lol right im sorry for scaring you
me(12:54:10 AM): are you sure you wouldnt?
him (12:54:34 AM): Yess go to sleep (link)
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Okkk.... So this guy is just freaking out because he has too much work...Rite? So why dont you help him by sharing his work...if you can that is... I mean if its something related to his studies then why dont you do it together? And if its something you cant share then just ask him to take a break atleast for an hour (which is not too long) and go out for pizza or something or just hang out... And yea he is just stressed out...Tell him that just because of some stupid work he cant kill himself... there are so many people who care for him like his mom, dad, sibblings and YOU!! He has to stay alive and face all problems atleast for the people who care for him... I mean tell him stuff like he makes you complete and w/o him You are nothing...
Best of luck sweetie xxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxx
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ok i have this so called guy friend who likes my good friend, my friend knew that he has a crush on her and he knows it too
and him and i always talk about her and i always listen and trying to help him out and he said this to me after my friend told me to tell him:
"friend": she said she likes someone ?
me : yeah
"friend": : ic...
me : yeah
me: ey no meeting in the library for a while
me : cause people are being UGh
me: so annoying
"friend": : well theres no need to talk to you anymore
me: as in?
"friend": : i only talk to you cause of her...
me: icic
me: umm ok then
"friend": : nice knowin you
and he signed out so was he using me? (link)
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So... Ur friend asked you to tell him that she likes someone else... Possibilities:
1) He's hurt that ur friend rejected him and doesnt wanna talk to anyone related to her.
2) He could only be talking to you because you were the only link between him and youre friend.
3) He naver really took you as a friend. Just a mediator.
I think he wasn't using you but he only talked to you in the first place because he wanted to know your friend and not you. You had no value in his life even for a second. If he doesn't wanna be your friend then it's okay because you have other friends, right? Just take care that you dont become a mediator for anyone again because at times you may end up hurting yourself.
Best of Luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxxx
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okay well im set that my dad is cheating on my mom. these are the things that lead me to beleive that.
1. when we first got our sprint cell phones, he only got me 500 text msgs a month because he said, "if you need to tell/ask someone something, just call them" and stuff like "texting is stupid" "its so pointless" yatta yatta. but i was cool with it. well i went over twice and he said "if oyu go over again, you get your phone taken away" then like yte next day, he texts me and says he got me unlimited and he unblocked texting from his phone, so now HE could text. i was like... okay?? but COOL. then one he was texting like CRAZY and i was just like "who ya text'n" and he was like "NONE OF YOU FREAKIN BUSINESS" and he like, hisd his phone. and he talks on it every night when my moms not home and when i ask, "who ya talkn to?" (real casually) he freaks out and says "WHY DOES IT MATTER?!?!"
2 he says he need to go to the grocerie store and i was like "okay" w/e. and i asked him to get me some peach tea. he was gone for like a hour and a half but i though "oh he's probably buying a bunch of stuff" you know? but he came back and the ONLY thing he had bought was my peach tea... i was like "wow. that took forever. and all you bought was peach tea?" (cause we are like low on food, and i had nothing to eat) and he got all defensive and was like "JUST CHILL OUT, OKAY?"
3 he always talks crap about my mom behind her back. little things that dont even matter. they are pointless. like we are talking about something that has nothing to do with her and he'll bring up somthing bad about her and go on raving about it.
4 he's been late coming home from work lately
5 i know this seems gross, but they never like, kiss or flirt with each other anymore. and im pretty sure they dont have sex. (ew, but a necessity in a relationship)
so idk. what do you guys think? its freaking me out. omggg. and if you think he IS, what do i do????? i am so helpless. do i tell someone. who? do i talk to him about it??? gaww im so lost. ):
thank in advance.
xoxo (:
ps. my parents have been separeted MANY times before and devorced twice but got back together both times. (link)
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Ok... This has happened to me...But it wasn't what I thought... I used reverse psychology on my dad... One day as my dad was sitting on the couch I came back home from school and said really nastily, " I know what your upto dad, and you better stop it !!". Then I ran upto my room. My dad came upto my room. I thought he would be really worried and would be like , "Okay so you know...But dont tell mom about this..." But instead he asked me if I was facing some problem or had some trouble with him...Then i calmed down because my dad wasn't upto anything wrong... So why dont you try something like this...It really will work and if your dad is wrong he will be worried... But whatever the case maybe just know that you have many people around you who are there to help you... But always support your mom...
Best of luck, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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So okay. I'm 15/f and the guy is 18...and he talks to me every day...and when I come home and go on MSN...he starts flirting with me.
Some examples of things he says (exact) : baby, boo, baby-blue, love, darling, i love you, do you love me?, I'm gonna wait for you, call me when you're 18 ;)...and like a whole bunch of MSN emoticons...(love emoticons)
he's also very personal with me. Lately, i've been finding all of this flirting around strange. And I confronted him. Whether he likes me or not....he told me he was being JUST friendly...and that I mistook everything for love.
"I love you...more in a friendly kind of way. You mistook friendly for love".
But i know that's BS because when he said it...that he was just being friendly...he was in front of other people.
Is he denying that he has anything to do with me just because of what his friends will think? Cos it sure seems like it...and he was leading me on....and he keeps on doing it! It all seems to lovey to be JUST "friendly" Is this a common thing to happen?
=/ Thanks in advance. (link)
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Ok... first of all let me clear one thing out for you--- " PEOPLE WHO CHAT WITH YOU ONLINE CAN SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT IN FRONT OF YOU." I'm sure it would have been a different case if they would have been in front of you. He is full on flirting with you because even if he would have been in front of his friends when he was doing this and he really meant what he was saying he wouldn't have felt embarrased telling you anything... So that's it...He's just using you emotionaly and I don't think you should trust him... Just let him be a friend only in the cyber world ...Dont let him enter your real world...
Best of luck xxxxxDaRkSiDe89xxxxx
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Lets say some astronaut dies on the moon? What would happen to his body?
I mean there are no bacteria, no warms and maggots...so... does that mean he could stay like this forever? (link)
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Lol... Yes, he could just stay like that forever...maybe...or maybe just decompose inside the space suit, or Nasa may just send someone to bring his body back home...
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theres this girl i know and i try to be her friend and stuff but she says like she doesnt need friends and she has had no friends at all. we're both in seventh grade.. and i cant believe it. i mean i even thought i was kinda her friend.. but i guess not. she acts reeeeally weird but she also likes anime and drawing pictures. like she draws all the time even during school and has like probably hundreds of pics done. they're good and i like drawing anime too but sometimes it would make sense to be socializing but shes just sitting there by herself coloring or something. and then when you talk to her she talks... really weird like all hyper and stuff and like once i was fooling around and i combed her hair a little with a comb i found and she scribbled a pen on me and im like "you dont do that.." and she did the same to someone else.. i mean we're just trying to be friendly but its like she doesnt value our friendship because.. well i dont know why. she doesnt think friends are important.. arent they? i cant imagine living without them.. its gay and drives alot of other people away from her. i dont mind if shes a little eccentric (COUGH ALOT.) but like she should try to be my friend or does she even value being my friend? ugh.. and some girl i know hated her because everyone else did in 5th grade.. or they didnt talk to her because she was so weird. and she brought it up to her and we're like "wtf" because thats like 2 years ago! people have been immature and changed. but like... she wants people to talk to her but... she doesnt want friends? ADVICE PLEASE!!! (link)
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Hey, maybe she is like this because of whatever happened in the fifth grade. You should be by her side whether she treasures your friendship or not. I mean that's what true friendship is. You dont relly know what she thinks about you, Right? So why dont you just do stuff for her that would make her happy? Like draw some anime for her as a gift or something. That way she'll be impressed and you both could really be good friends. Friendship needs time , just as a flower bud needs time to blossom. She could just be confused about you. You might be having alot of friends. So why dont you make your friends be friendly with her? How about telling her about your problems and studies? That way atleast she'll know that someone considers her important and she might just be a bit more casual with you.
Best Of Luck xxxxxx DaRk SiDe89 xxxxxx
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I'm a 19 year old girl.
I'm going to see The Phantom of the Opera on Saturday, and I'm really excited!
Thing is, I have no idea what to wear. I've been to the theatre before, but never to a more formal show like this... to give you an idea, I've seen Mamma Mia, Da Kink In My Hair, and Beauty and the Beast.
I have two different outfits that I could use;
1: Dress pants, nice tank top, 3/4 length heavy cotton jacket (kind of dressy)
OR
2: Black halter chiffon dress, knee length, with black shoulder scarf
If it helps at all, my boyfriend's wearing a black suit with a white shirt.
Thanks for your help! (link)
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I think you should wear the Black halter chiffon dress...
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there are two boys.
the first one, ill call "BOB", his mom is my moms best friend. hes a few months younger then me, and hes so nice to me. he says i should be a model and all of this hes so nice. and i really like hanging out and talking with him. he hangs out in my group and im going to have to deal with seeing him for the ret of my life. our familys go on vacation together and everything. also, our names are next to eachother in the alphabet! our initials i mean. we have the whole "i love you" thing back and forth and he says he wouldent want to go out with anyone but i cannot go out with him because my mom will not let, she says hes to close of family. now i cant even seem to form a normal sentence when hes around. i think about him a lot during class.
Then, theres another boy. I saw him a one day and had a friend introdue us because they were friends. i couldent get him off my mind. then i saw him again and invited him to a party with me and we were dancing all night and he tried to kiss m good-bye but i woodent let him i just gave him a kiss on the cheek. hes a year younger but hes in my grade because he skipped and 2 weeks ago he was all i thought about. he never said anything sweet to me like that i was pretty or anything but he was so innocent and sweet and shy and i loved him and we texted for so long and whenever i closed my eyes all i saw was his eyes.
and so, me being the flirt i was we had a bet on sumthing stupid and i said if i won he had 2 ask me out and this was before BOB and his GF broke up and this was also when BOB and me didnt talk at all and so now, ROB and BOB both keep texting me and im stuck in the middle because ROB goes to a different school and he is teling people at his school that were kind of going out and i used to feel like this magic with ROB that i dont get around BOB but i cant be mean ad stop the I LOvE YOU stuff with BOB becayse i really do like him and hes so nice. but i dont get that "omg this is the most amazing person in the world" feeling like i did around ROB. now me and ROB havent talked in so long but im afraid if me an him do run into eachother ill get all into him again you know? i know this is so long but i have a delema lol thank you so so so much!! (link)
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hey you know...i think you should be seein rob rather than bob coz:
1) your mom wont have any p\'blem
2) you do like rob alot
3) you click with him more than bob
4) he likes you too coz he tried to kiss you on your third meeting
5) girl if he\'s tellin people at skool about you, he really has something for you coz he is somewhat proud of the fact that you could be his gf.
6) you know that the magic thing is with rob more than bob.
7) i somehow get the feelin that bob might be using sheer flattery to get u...maybe coz he doesn\'t have a gf rite now.
8) i think bob would do better as a friend
so hurry up and talk to rob before its too late. bob can be in front of you your whole life but rob might just get so hurt that he might move away from you and never look back...
best of luck sweetie xxxxxxxx darkside89 xxxxxxx
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