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she has no friends at all??
theres this girl i know and i try to be her friend and stuff but she says like she doesnt need friends and she has had no friends at all. we're both in seventh grade.. and i cant believe it. i mean i even thought i was kinda her friend.. but i guess not. she acts reeeeally weird but she also likes anime and drawing pictures. like she draws all the time even during school and has like probably hundreds of pics done. they're good and i like drawing anime too but sometimes it would make sense to be socializing but shes just sitting there by herself coloring or something. and then when you talk to her she talks... really weird like all hyper and stuff and like once i was fooling around and i combed her hair a little with a comb i found and she scribbled a pen on me and im like "you dont do that.." and she did the same to someone else.. i mean we're just trying to be friendly but its like she doesnt value our friendship because.. well i dont know why. she doesnt think friends are important.. arent they? i cant imagine living without them.. its gay and drives alot of other people away from her. i dont mind if shes a little eccentric (COUGH ALOT.) but like she should try to be my friend or does she even value being my friend? ugh.. and some girl i know hated her because everyone else did in 5th grade.. or they didnt talk to her because she was so weird. and she brought it up to her and we're like "wtf" because thats like 2 years ago! people have been immature and changed. but like... she wants people to talk to her but... she doesnt want friends? ADVICE PLEASE!!!
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she's probably thinking "why do i need friends when i've got anime, a pad a paper and a pencil by my side? its all i need!" i also used to think like taht lol. you should be a bit less forward about being her friend like combing her hair. compliment her drawings, or talk about your favorite animes, give her a few titles to watch.
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It sounds like she might have social issues. It could be anything from Asperger's to hormones to high functioning Autism.
If you say you want to be her friend, and she tells you she doesn't need friends, then she obviously doesn't want you as a friend.
She sounds like an eccentric who's ok with being a loner, and if she's ok with that, then there's no need to worry right now. She might change in the future.
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If I was her, I really wouldn't wanna be friends with anyone either. And I'm surprised I actually wanna talk to people & have friends. I've been teased all my life, so I hate most people. When you're teased a lot, you don't really trust or like anyone because you think everyone's the same, and that they're all gonna make fun of you, so you just try & stay away from them & be by yourself.
I think that's what she's doing. I don't think she wants any friends until she can trust people, and learn to like them. She probably wants them, but she's too shy or she doesn't know how to handle them. She might value your friendship, but I think this is something you should talk to her about. Let her know that you're not like everyone else & that you're not gonna be mean to her. If she knows that you're there for her & that she can trust you, she might just open up to you.
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Hey, maybe she is like this because of whatever happened in the fifth grade. You should be by her side whether she treasures your friendship or not. I mean that's what true friendship is. You dont relly know what she thinks about you, Right? So why dont you just do stuff for her that would make her happy? Like draw some anime for her as a gift or something. That way she'll be impressed and you both could really be good friends. Friendship needs time , just as a flower bud needs time to blossom. She could just be confused about you. You might be having alot of friends. So why dont you make your friends be friendly with her? How about telling her about your problems and studies? That way atleast she'll know that someone considers her important and she might just be a bit more casual with you.
Best Of Luck xxxxxx DaRk SiDe89 xxxxxx
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This is quite a tuff issue. There can be that she just doesnt want friends, in that case the best thing to do is just to leave her, she will probably find friends when she is ready and maybe at this time she is not bothered about friends and maybe just wants to get on with school, i dont know this girl but that maybe why. Otherwise if she does want friends, just try and introduce some of your friends to her, 1 by 1, she may get used to people and start to like them. Like i said its quite a hard issue, but i knew this guy who was just like the girl you are describing, he went to another school though. About you saying she is weird, just tell her parents about her or something. Im sure they will be able to help her in someway if they know the situation. Hope this helps
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