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my name is vanessa and i like getting advice and giving advice so post your questions. please ask me any question on my inbox and i will gladly help. i love advice seriously so remember me.advice
Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 months now. Anyway, at the beginning ont the relationship we'd be so eager to talk to eachother, and talk on the phone every night, and ditch friends for eachother, etc.
Now, we don't talk on the phone for periods of time. (Right now it's been 11 days since I've talked to him on the phone) And we hang out amazingly less, and I don't feel the urge anymore to check the computer every 5 minutes to see if he's online. When I do get to talk to him, I feel so uninterested. I could honestly go days without talking to him, and it wouldn't bug my anymore. Sometimes I cry because I don't understand what's happening, and it really upsets me. Could it be that I'm just losing interest/we both are in eachother? :(
Tuesday night on AIM I told him that I felt I was losing interest in him, and he repsonded, "Geez, I like you a lot, I can't just stop." Then he put up an away message that said, "I fucking screwed up somehow." And signed off. We eventually resolved the problem, but I feel I lied. I told him I still did like him, and I was stupid to say that. But really, I feel EXACTLY like that. I'm not as interested. What's happening? Do I WANT to get over him or something..?
Thank you.
ii have a great idea. ok maybe you guys haven't done something fun for so long. since summer is coming up you 2 could go to a fun amusemnt park and if that doesn't work spend a day together talking at the park. maybe you're just tired of our relationship and need some excitement.
leave me a message on my inbox anytime and i will be happy to help.
are men (guys) supposed to masterbate?
they're not supposed to but they can if they're aroused.
im wicked bored. any ideas of fun websites to ammuse myself? like magazine sites besides, j-14, seventeen, cosmogirl, teen people...
Thanks!!! (13.f)
there is a website called www.bored.com and has a whole bunch of links t funny sites. like all these amusing sites.
I like two guys who are really awesome. I haven't been too close to either one of them yet, but I still don't want to like two guys in case on of them asks me out. I'll call the two guys Ben and Caleb. Ben has always been really nice to me and teases me playfully. Caleb sometimes has been mean to me but never teases me at all. Ben has actually talked to me and he's really cute, while Caleb has ignored me when his friends were around but has smiled at me when no one was looking. I want to give Caleb a chance because he might be nicer if he knows I like him, and Ben already knows I like him and has always been sweet. Any suggestions?
caleb doesn't seem like a guy you should like or whatever. if you were his girlfriend he might only be able to talk to you when no one was looking. he would act suspicous when you were with him and that's not right. also if his friends saw you with him and said something then he might break up with you. go for ben he's nicer hope i helped and hope things go well.
ok. heres the deal. im 14 yrs. old and have this 18 yr. old boyfriend. i will be 15 in july . well we started going out 2 weeks ago. i know its not a long time but ive been crushin on this guy for like 2 monthes and he finally asked me out. i was soo happy. so i wanted my parents to meet him so we could go out to places and stuff. so he came over and stayed for an hour or so then we went out. well i lied to my parents saying he was only 17. bc if they found out he was 18 theyd flip out and not let me see him. well my parents found out he was 18 . i dont know how though. they wont tell me. so im not allowed to be with him. he gave me his necklace to wear and my dad took it and has it right now. he's not allowed to call me and i cant call him and i cant chill with him or anything. im not allowed to even chill with him at school either. isnt that crazy!? so anyways my parents hate his guts. they say he's an ass and he's way too old for me but i dont think he is. i really like him. he bought me a white gold diamond heart necklace. i love it! so i dont know what to do. my dad wants him to stay away from me and if he dont then they'll get him arrested for being with a minor. ive tried convincing my parents this past week begging, crying to just let me be with him. they just yelled at me more. my parents think im not a virgin anymore either and that im doing drugs. so they took me to get drug tested. they got the results back yesterday and im clean. :) . so i dont know what to do. help
ok, first of all i'm sorry but he is to old. the law states tat any 18 year old that is with a minor can get arrested. if he touches you like kisses you or something they can count that as rape or assault. so you can get this guy in some serious trouble. secondly, i don't know how but if you truly want to see him then you will have to do your best sneaking. like sneaking out late at night or leave for school early and maybe you could see hm, you have to be extra careful though.
i really like this girl and i dont kno if she likes me...and i dont kno if i should like anyone right now cus i want to be single for the summer time..but i really liek this gilr and if we went out into the summer time then we would hang out alot and we'd she eachother everyday..but idk..help me out
maybe since you want to be single during summer you and her should hang out a lot over the summer. maybe you guys could flirt a little and when summers over ask her out.
My friend is sleeping over tonight. What are some fun things to do? P.S. We cant go out OR outside - :)
makeover, music, talk on the phone to guys or something, watch movies, scary movies tend to be mre fun when you're with your best friend. hope you have fun
I am completely obsessed with my friend. I moved to where I am now when I was 12, just before 7th grade (I'm now 15 and in 9th grade). There's this one pretty, athletic 'popular girl' that I saw and befreinded. We became friends, and I had her spend the night at my house and all- I also became friends with her best friend, and had both of them spend the night quite a few times. I thought everything was going good, but in January- it was then I noticed that neither of them had ever invited me to spend the night at their houses at all. They had never invited me to do anything, or ever called me. I thought in time they would. At camp that year, it was terrible. They had friends there they ignored me for. All of them would sit on Her bed, leaving me alone on my own. I tried to get them to notice me, sitting their alone, with no luck. When we were all setting up chairs of where to sit, they all got seats and didn't save me one, and I sat alone behind them, trying to blink back tears. The next year at camp was the worst so far. She and her friends ditched me worse than ever the intire time. It was a nightmare. Well, in late July, I confronted her on aim. It was terrible. I was all like YOU ALWAYS IGNORE ME AND I JUST GOT TIRED OF IT and she's all 'you should have told me'.anyhow, few months later i watched her and her best friend with some others walk off to go do something, while i watched trying HARD not to cry. its now like 6 months later, and i have new friends but all lyrics of every song i write is about her. every song i hear is about her. every day at school i think about her. every night at home i think about her. in everything i do, i think about her. i can't help it. i dream about her. i don't know what to do- i thought i was over her before, but i guess i'm not. i just want it all to be over.
I guess I'm so obsessed with all the pain she caused me because I've never had a boyfriend and so I've never had my heart broken. But she, she taught me how to bleed. I think about her more than any other person. I even dream about her, I dream that we're friends, best friends, and she laughs with me and throws her arms around me...
I just can't take it anymore... How can I get over this? How can I make it STOP?
maybe you should try and get out of state. if you can't do that then go somewhere where she won't be. i know this will pass over. if nothing works then i have a question, is there anything you left unsaid? if there was something that was unsaid then maybe your mind is trying to tell you to say it. you left this infinished which means you have unfinished business to attend to. so get talking
Theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.
But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM. Which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.
The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.
So what I would like to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)
I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)
i think he likes you but if he takes to long to share his feelings then screw it. you don't need him to play with your mind like that.
ok... i just got a new camera phone. it is motorola and i was wondering....does it cost me for every picture i take?????
no it doesn't cost you for every picture, i think it costs you to send the pictures to other people though
i shave with like normal razors like not like with the expensive ones. its weird that like.. when i shave, like say under my arms, they always leave like little black spots where the hair use to be and the next day it grows like 1 mm. is this suppose to happen? or can i make it all disappear so i don't have those black hair dot things at all? please help me
yes that is supposed to happen and yeah it does suck
is masterbation a sin? if so then how do i stop?
it isn't a sin it is a complete natural way of life and your curiousity will eventually need to experiment with your sexuality.
its about spring...and summer is about to come....i want 2 start wearing halter tops and tube tops...the thing is my back and my chest!!....i have real back acne scars mostly on my back....n its starting 2 get worse on my chest!...does anyone know anything that i can help cure this??....is there anything that can clear up scars...or is there just stuff to help frum preventing them...
try putting lotionon your scars
why is it that when i'm at school, i sweat alot alot under the arms, and when i'm at home, i don't sweat at all under the arms? i cud try any deoderant and reapply and reapply over and over again at school but it never ever works when i'm at school, yet when i'm at home, i barely ever sweat or it doesn't show on my shirts err ya.. well please tell me why that is so i can try to fix my problem of sweating so much that there are sweat circles under my armpits so i don't hafta wear layers and layers of clothing anymore, thanks
i have an idea. do you drink a lot of water? if you drink as much water as you're supposed to a day you stink and sweat less in the arm pit. if you drink a lot of pop and all that then be expected to stink and all that. also when you're at school there is a lot of other kids so you're surrounded by a bunch of kids and those kids kind of carry in heat to so it's kind of like a lot of kids put together equal body heat and all that will kind of build up to create a very hot area. think all those kids in one room will make you hot because less air. if you get what i am saying cool if not reply and i can break it down for you
omg i flipping out cuz i have these zits i want to get rid of. can someone plase put the toothpaste steps easly understandable ! nd i also popped one ... how can i make it heel faster?
i heard the whole toothpaste thing might not be such a good idea. don't wash your face with soap, you know like the bar of soap. get clearasil because i had a crapload of zits on my nose at the beginning of the summer. i used clearasil pads and they haven't come back. use clearasil and wash once or twice a day, hope this helps
How can I get this guy I like in jr.high that is 12-13 to notice me even though he says he does not like me?
don't jump torwards him fastly. just take it slowly and start talking to him as a frined and try to hang out with him but don't say anything about a realtionship, once you guys know eachother a bit more then make your move. ask him if he likes you now that e knows you if not continue to be his friend. if nothing works and you're really into this guy try to ask him what his type is, you can change your style but don't change your personality because then he'll notice something.
There's a guy-let's call him Rick. Rick and my brother, Tim, are friends and after Rick found out that i was Tim's little sister (he's a senior and i'm a soph.- "rick" is a junior) he started like yelling hi to me and all that jazz. Today, my brother's other friend asked if i knew Rick and I said yeah, and he said that we should hang out sometime. So here's my question. I'm not sure if this is like a joke or something- like saying hi to your friend's little sister. So my question is, does he like me or is he just messing around?
ps..Soo on saturday i went to the icecream store that I guess he works at and he gave my friend and I free icecream.
i think he does like you or is looking for a friend. most likely does like you, does he give you a certain look or does he stare at you while you guys are talking a lot. if so he does. if not he either doesn't or he's not looking at you because he's nervous
Ok sorry that this is long but please don't pass over it I really need help.
My parents aren't divorced but they both cheat on each other they basically both get with anything that moves of the opposite sex. My dad is always drunk and is very abusive. My mom isn't physically abusive but she just tells me that I'm a waste of life and that she wishes she never had me and that I'm such a huge mistake and bla, bla, bla but her boyfriend Tom hits me all the time and even rapes me sometimes. I've gone to the police before and they took my parents side because to everyone else they look like such nice people. But at night they're druggies and alcoholics. I even went to social sevices they put me in a home for a week where I started cutting and then they put me right back with them! Lately I met a guy who uses drugs and I've been going out with him. And we were using and did some things and now I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. He was arrested for possesion so I can't go to him. I can't go to my parents. I really don't have any friends who aren't stoners and all they care about is how they're going to get their next fix. I don't know what to do. I've already tried killing myself and it didn't work. I'm soo scared I don't know what to do. I was going to run away but I know that I'll just end up somewhere where there's drugs and I'm really trying to stop. What can I do about all of this? Please help me
all i can really say is you're in something very serious and you need to seriouslyreport everything that happens to the police. this might sound sad and you migght not want to do this but either foster home or another family member is your only choice. you should probably get abortion because with what your parents do i wouldn't want to put my baby in danger. try and move with a friend or family member, get a job, do something to get away from your parents.
SO ONE FRIDay i was playing around with my bff's and on propse i opned that the bathroom door on one of them 9 don't ask me why i did it) & it was kinda funny, so i laughed. then i went to the bathroom and they diched me. it didn't make me mad cause thy do it all te time. i figued they were mad & figured that they would be over it by monay.they didn't. today is friday that was a week ago. i tried to write an apoige letter before i sent it she sent me a letter. it was really mean the called me a "no longerer" & cused me out.so someone went an talked to them & told them that wrote a letter but didn't send it( do u blame me) so they she worte me another letter saying they didn't want to be mad and sayed should apoliged at the beginning not know. so i still haven't sent the letter yet & i don't do. i'm really hurt & want to be their frirnd agian. they are some of their best friends i have ever had so what should i do any body have an idea please help, ask your friends,I'm desprite!!!!!
all i can say is try your hardest. write them another letter with a poem that says how much you miss them and you never meant to offend anyone whatever you do don't quit, otherwise they might think you think that they're just playing some kind of joke. take it as seriously as you can.
no its just a sore spot on my gums..i think its because of my braces. but i just want it to stop hurting!
-Cierra
yeah i got that but it only lasted a little bit. i ate those chicken noodle in a cup soup thingys and that helped a little try that. do not eat anything hard and maybe you should just stick with soup for a while it will go away. just remember to put the wax on any metal that might be poking the gum if you got wax that is,