I play volleyball. I'm not just a normal teenage girl. But I am going through the same crapola of highschool like everyone else.
Gender: Female
Age: 15
Member Since: June 4, 2007
Answers: 68
Last Update: June 9, 2008
Visitors: 5100
Main Categories:
Friendship
Families
Love Life
View All
Favorite Columnists
Volleyball2150
|
| |
alright im going to sum up my night and my gf's night, tell me if i did the right thing.
my night:
got stoned with 3 guy friends of mine, had a complete and utter blast, made cupcakes, brownies, played games, watched movies. harmless fun.
my gf's night:
got completely shitfaced with some 3 of her girlfriends, 1 of my other guy friends, and another guy who i dont like. they went skinny dipping, she claims to have covered up and stayed at the opposite end of the pool as the other girls.
how it went down, she called me today told me about her night after i told her about mine, she threw in skinny dipping as if it were no big deal, i then proceeded to tell her that if she did that, then she wouldnt mind if i went skinny dipping with a bunch of girls while she wasn't there. she then said oh but it was only two guys, i then told her that i still dont like the one guy (he grabs her and touches her and is a complete ass to me, so we're in a conflict right now) and that she went skinny dipping with him while they were completely shitfaced, she then tried to blame the alcohol, i asked her who consumed it, and she said that she did (duh), and i asked her whose fault it was.
i hung up and told her i'd talk to her later, due to the fact i dont know what to say.
help me out with what to say when i call her back.
thanks. (link)
| |
Both of you need to stop drinking and getting stoned first of all. Second, she can't blame everything on alcohol, but at least she didn't do it when she was sober. Third, let her know it's not okay that she's skinny dipping with other guys, regardless, if she was drunk. She needs to respect your decision and don't retaliate with doing the same thing, trying to test her limits.
|
|
well i try to talk to him and wont open up to me. i cant get a real anser (link)
| |
which problem is this regarding again? i just answered like 3 questions like this. haha. sorry.
|
What is good flirting ways with a boy your not really close with but like alot.
Touching ones ( not sexual) just like on the arm and stuff
and ones that you dont like have body contact
Also what are some good flirting ways with a boy your kind of close to and like a little. (link)
|
If you're not close to them at all, find out their favorite type of music, then casually bring it up next time you talk. Talk to him more on Myspace or AIM, if you have one. Don't be touchy, be friendly, and cool. You want be classy, not over the top. And of course there are the little things that turn the heat up, like twirling your hair, and biting your lip, and laughing. Be confident in yourself and secure about what you're doing.
If you're kind of close, basically do the same thing, but find more to talk about so you know if you two have more in common. Plus, if you're already friends with them, you're open to invite them to the movies, or call them up because you'll be more comfortable around each other.
|
|
alright, so my boyfriend & me have been going out for like a month or so. and today i realized i dont really like him that much. today was also the first time we kissed. but after we did,i just..didnt feel anything for him anymore. what should i do? if i break up with him everyone will be mad at me, if i dont i'll be stuck with him. i dont know what to do! i mean hes really shy and i think its the first time he kissed a girl and i dont want him too feel like i broke up with him because of that, its just i havent liked him that much for like these past 4 days & i dont know what to do,i feel really horrible. help?! (link)
| |
Well you could simply tell him that the spark has just gone out and that you feel you guys don't have chemistry anymore. Maybe the reason he is acting shy is because he feels the same way and doesn't know how to say it, just like you. Considering this is a new relationship, he probably knows that this isn't working out. If people are going to get mad at you for breaking up with someone, tell them to shove it. No one knows the relationship better than you and him. The first month is the toughest hump to get over because you're still getting adapted to each other and are getting over all of the awkwardness of holding hands and kissing for the first time, so you may just be feeling those things, but if you feel that these feelings are going to come back later in the relationship, then you just have to end it now, instead of leaving him hanging.
|
|
hi my name is nikki and i am 18 i have a boyfriend who i cant get through to. i mean we were good for a while then all of asudden he starts talking to these girls and he told me he is tempted and his old self is trying to come out again. we have a 8 month old daughter and we are always arguing. well my question is what should i do? i have been with him for a little over a year and i dont know what to do anymore. i need help (link)
| |
The problem with long term relationships with young people is that one person in the relationship feels the need to explore. You're the only thing he's ever known and maybe he just wants to test the waters. But now that you have a child, IT'S NOT OKAY. He made a committment that he can't back out of. If he feels the need to be with other women, put him in a serious reality check. If his "oldself" is coming back then remind him that you're the reason he changed from his "oldself" in the first place. If he is getting tempted, then tell him that he better do nothing more than flirt and then come back home and pay attention to you and the baby. But if he is just some horny man you can't contain and have around your baby girl, then realize that it's for the better and you can start a better life with your kid without the worries of your inconsiderate boyfriend.
|
Although this is long, I dont know where to turn and would appreciate any responses. Thanks.
Hi everyone. I'm 13/f and my best friend is 14/m.
Well, he moved here last year and his old school was kind of bad, but we clicked right away, I helped him fit in, so to speak (even though I'm not the most popular), and now he's the most popular guy in our school, by most people's "standards."
I didn't think he'd done anything bad at his old school, and I still don't.
But, as I've been becoming "closer" to him I've been finding out things like, he seems to have a girlfriend just to "do things" (not bad, that I know of - just like kissing) with her. When I first found out he kissed his girlfriend I cried- I know it sounds pathetic, but he seems to go out with girls who have NO redeeming qualities, and now he's going out with a "sl**" (I hate to say that, but most people think so.)
But she's not the worst. One other girl in our school is really bad, does drugs (well, it's a rumor) and is the sl***iest. She's probably done really bad things with guys.
Well, I feel horrible about this - and I'm still guilty - but, I found out someone's email password from my grade, and happened to see an email that said "____(the girl) got down on her knees for ______ (my bff), just like i did with _____ (some other kid) and started sucking away. But no one's mad at her and they're mad at me."
I bawled for a half-hour, because I couldn't believe that he would do this with someone/let her do it! I just still can't believe it, and I don't know if it was someone else but it is a pretty uncommon name (my bff's) - and I can't ask/tell anyone, because then theyll ask how I knew and I can't tell them I was on someone else's email! (I feel horrible - never again.)
My best friend seemed so nice when I met him. He seemed like such a good boy, he does well in school and has an amazing family but I don't think they know he's like this! I didn't even know! although it's becoming more apparent recently.
I just don't know where to turn. I can't believe he would do that. It's so shallow and DISGUSTING for an 8th grader! (I know lots of people do now - but I really thought he was waaaaay above that. that's gross, and he doesn't even hang out with her.)
I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. I can't even look at him anymore. I don't want to even associate with him! But he's still my best friend, so I can't just leave him like that - esp. when I don't know details.
I just can't believe it. I'm in such a state of shock. You might not know how I feel, but thanks for any advice you give.
I'm really grateful because I don't know who else to ask about this - thank you sooo much for your responses.
-Disappointed (link)
|
Disappointed,
You have to know the details before you jump to conclusions. Yes, you saw this email, but once you hear it straight from him, it's not going to get any better. Keep it between you two, and no one else. Tell him what you know and saw and ask if it's true. If it's not then don't worry. It's not your place. If it is, tell him that it makes you uncomfortable, and that you expected more from him as a friend and a person. Considering he has a "not so clean" reputation before he met you, it may be something about him that cannot be changed. The reason you like him is because you guys have a real connection and are friends to the boy who lives next door, not the boy who does dirty stuff like that. But I'm getting the feeling that you have "more than a friend" feelings for this boy, which make the situation worse. But that's another story. The point is that although you could tell him how much it upsets you, it's out of your reach.
|
hi, im 15/f. I REALLLLLLLY like this guy named "dean." i really want him to ask me out, but i don't know how to get him to do that. He seems to like me because according to my friend, he was flirting MAJOR the other day, but i didn't see it. He likes to stand near me, talk to me, and sometimes, i guess you could say, stare at me (face, not chest). AKA, now i know he likes me, so what do i do to let him know its okay to ask me out. (o, if this helps, he's going away to greece for the whole summer :(. )
Could you let me know what i need to do to have him ask me out?? Quick advice would be good please, becuase i'm seeing him for the last time tomoro....... :(
sry, but please don't say to ask him out, because i've been down that road with a different guy, and it was pretty ugly if u know what i mean
last thing is...i want him to be my first bf, so this is really important to me!
THANKS!! (link)
| |
It depends on how well you know this guy. Does he REALLY like you, or is this just according to a friend. If he flirts with you, then good, but does he act the same way around other girls? You don't want to get your hopes up. DON'T relay your friends back and forth asking if he does, because they may say something completely different than what he says (or a nicer version) and then it will just get more complicated. If tomorrow is the last day you see him, turn it up a notch, tell him to have a good trip, and maybe give him a quick peck on the lips. So he REALLY gets the message, and doesn't think you're just an ordinary flirtatious girl. Maybe, he'll fess up before he leaves so he can just get it off his chest before his trip, or maybe he'll want to wait until after so he can see you after he asks you out, or maybe he just thinks of you as a friend. I don't know, I haven't sen how you two react, but you have a good chance if you go in confident and smiley and friendly. He'll respect you more as a person if you say "Hey, I like you, and I hope you like me too." haha. I know, it's easier said than done. Be blunt, but be classy. Good luck!
|
|
hi. i have like an iffy situation on my hands. i love my boyfriend alot. i get REALLY jealous though. and he became really close with one of my good friends, erica. i really dont like when there together, he gives her piggy back rides, and she hugs him, and she always texts him. and i dont think he is cheating but i dont know. but i told my best friend breanna that i loved her, like we always say to each other. and my boyfriend is like "ohh! so you can tell breanna that you love her. if you can do that i can tell erica that i love her." and now im pretty pissed. and hes going be gone ALL summer, he goes to see his daddy in PR for a month, and goes to NJ for a month and a half. and hes staying with this girl sam, who is upsessed with him. and he also might go visit his ex girl friend... who i hate. then the last thing is... me and my friends play "summer games" its a stupid game about who can break the most laws, kiss the most, get the most action la la la... and my boyfriend HATES it. im just confussed about the situation. do you think a break up over summer is needed? tell me your EVERY feeling about this please. (link)
| |
It sounds like you two aren't exactly drifting, but testing the waters, pushing each other's limits. Depending on how long you two have gone out, trust will always be an issue. It doesn't come as easy as 1, 2, 3. You have to work for it. He needs to understand that you love him but he's giving you reasons to worry. It's a tad hypocritical to say he flirts too much and is spending all this time with these girls, and then you say you're playing some stupid game where you kiss other guys and see who can get the most "action." Sounds to me like your not being too fair either. Jealousy is a useless emotion. All it does is create trouble, confusion, and paranoia. If you really believe he loves you, then you have nothing to worry about, and I know it's easier said than done. It's not an easy feeling to shake off, but the more confidence you show in the relationship instead of questioning him, will let him know that you're secure and it will be a turn on. However, if you question his feelings for you, regardless if there's other girls involved, you could say, "Maybe we should try taking a break over summer, since you're going to be gone, and then when we come back for the school year, we'll see how it was." You may find that you're miserable without each other or you may find that the whole summer committment thing just isn't for you. I just went through this exact thing, and I'm still coping with the whole thing. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helps.
|
|