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I'm stuck.
alright, so my boyfriend & me have been going out for like a month or so. and today i realized i dont really like him that much. today was also the first time we kissed. but after we did,i just..didnt feel anything for him anymore. what should i do? if i break up with him everyone will be mad at me, if i dont i'll be stuck with him. i dont know what to do! i mean hes really shy and i think its the first time he kissed a girl and i dont want him too feel like i broke up with him because of that, its just i havent liked him that much for like these past 4 days & i dont know what to do,i feel really horrible. help?!
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Well you could simply tell him that the spark has just gone out and that you feel you guys don't have chemistry anymore. Maybe the reason he is acting shy is because he feels the same way and doesn't know how to say it, just like you. Considering this is a new relationship, he probably knows that this isn't working out. If people are going to get mad at you for breaking up with someone, tell them to shove it. No one knows the relationship better than you and him. The first month is the toughest hump to get over because you're still getting adapted to each other and are getting over all of the awkwardness of holding hands and kissing for the first time, so you may just be feeling those things, but if you feel that these feelings are going to come back later in the relationship, then you just have to end it now, instead of leaving him hanging.
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i think you should tell him about but be nice about it and tell him its not about the kissing
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It's never about whether people will be angry at you or not for a decision that was right for you. They aren't dating him but you are. Nobody else has the right to give you any grief for either dating, not dating or breaking up with someone else. It's you love life and not their's.
Instead of hurting this guy you need to end it now if you have no physical or emotional attachment and or attraction to him at all. Tell him that you really do like him but feel that you would be better off as close friends rather than lovers.
He might beupset at first but should understand. Let him know you are telling him this now so as not to cause him pain later. If it really matters point out that it has nothing to do with his shyness or experience with girls. Let him know you want to stay friends but just don't feel a relationship is working.
You have to tell the truth to him as hard as it may be for you do as it's the only right and correct way to do things. You don't want to hurt him nor do you both want to be miserable in a relationship that's not going anywhere fast.
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