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I think I'm depressed.. its like sometimes I can be really happy and have a positive outlook on life, and then other times I feel like my life is falling apart. I don't think I'm suicidal, but Im just afraid that someday i might be if i dont get help. I told my dad i wanted anti-depressents or therapy, but he said no cuz he doesnt believe me that im depressed. he just wont take me seriously. what should i do? what are some ways to be happy w/o anti depressents??

(this is probably what you were expecting to hear but...) talk to a councelor.
also, if your having mood swings, or constant HIGH low feelings, you might be bipolar. talk to a councelor, and they will talk to your parents, take you to a shrink, then put you on meds. (i know from experience)

depression is an imbalance of the brain, and without drugs, it will just keep you happy tempoirarily, and your mood can change at any moment. i'd get help. good luck :D

You see, there's this extremely gorgeous guy. We were friends for one weekend and we fooled around, and the next week after that. Now he's going out with a girl and I don't want her to think he's interested in a mature relationship, because he's clearly not if he messed around with me the weekend before. And I don't really like the girl, and she doesn't like me, but I hate watching someone get hurt. So I guess I'm just wondering what I should do, because I'm basically watching this girl get hurt, and if I talk to her about it, she might think I'm just trying to break them up.

i hate to be mean about this, but i dont know of any way to let this girl know that the guy is just messing with her. the only suggestion i have is to let it all take its course. its the game of life... not my greatest answer, but this one is hard. sorry :(

what do you do wen someone is real mean but all your friends adore her? Shes never been nice to me at all since the beginning of 6th grade and all my friens luv her. well, we were really good friends for 2 weeks in 6th grade but she started hanging out with all these different people and started hating me. i even know that shes been talking about me behind my back, cause my friend sara tells me everything she says when they're togeather. I just got all these new clothes from Abercrombie that i ordered on the internet and that one girl even said that they were ugly and i wasted my money, not to my face, but she told that to sara. i really dont know what to do and i think that you could help me. i dont want to talk to the person about it cause she will not like me even more. i dont want to be friends with her, but i just dont like the fact that she talks about me behind my back and criticizes what i wear.

if you dont want to be friends with her, you shouldnt worry about confronting her. see, you dont need her to like you. if she doesnt like you for who you are, not what you wear, thats her problem. tell her nicely what you've heard that shes been saying about you (just dont tell her who told you). if she starts giving you crap and talks about you more, just ignore her. shes so bored with her own life, she's sunken to criticizing others... and thats low. let your friends go on being friends with her. that doesnt mean you have to be friends with her too, in fact, try to make new friends to add on to your already friends. you dont have to be mean to the girl either. bible verses LUKE 6:27-36 talk abput the laws of love. if you get a chance, read them. the bible is always a good place to turn, if someone is mean to you. it teaches you how to react. good luck, come back if you need more :D

About a month or so ago, i saw this show degrassi. There was a girl named elli and she cut herself. Ever since i saw that one episode my life has been gettin worse and worse. My bf dumped me for another girl. My best friends dont ever want to do anything with me, and the guy that has liked me for 3 years hates me now. and well...i started to cut. It really relieve my pain and helps me get things out. But recently my friend say my arms and legs in gym and shes going to tell a counciler. i mean, i dont want her to!! i know its gotten really far..and its really hard to stop i've tried everythign! i've tried hiding my scissors and puttin a rubber band on my wrist NOTHING works!! I NEED HELP! what should i do? if my parents find out they might send me to a mental hospital!!

-hurt and scared

first of all, degrassi is the GREATEST show ever and you can learn ALOT from watching it.
second of all, cutting yourself is NOT a good thing. your friend cares about you, and thats why she wants to tell the councelor, and if thats what it will take to get you to stop, you should let her. you know its the best thing for you. if you dont think you have the willpower to stop yourself, let someone else help you to stop.
good luck!

I'm looking for some really great teen fictional books. Can anyone recommend some to me, or even if you can't, a great website that has a list of them? I'm looking for a book along the storyline of like love and romance.... but even if you have a book name that's not about that but it's a great book, thats good too! THANKS!!

speak, by laurie halse anderson
traveling pants books
gossip girl series
the cliques series
keeping the moon, by sarah dessen
divine secrets of the YAYA sisterhood, by rebecca wells

those are some of my all time favorites. i cant get enough of the traveling pants books. lol. i'd look at teenreads.com too!

I have had my own problems in the past that wernt so bad so i kept them to myself. Now that I have gotten more and more I dont know what I should do with all of them. I get over them eventually but now at school my friends are fighting and they dont like each other but I love them all. It is making me depressed because of everything else in my life. I dont know who to talk to. I wish you were here in Wisconsin cuz i would talk to you anyday but since your not i dont know what to do. I

MEE! TALK TO ME!!! i love you ashley, like a good sister!!!!! just tell them how you feel. say "youre really bugging me. and you can always call me on my cell phone to, ya know. 214.392.3615 i love you ashley dearest.

my friends are always asking me to do stuff but not together like they all want me to do something with them sepratley. i never no witch one to choose i just want to hang out with all of them but they kinda don't get along wat do i do?

maybe you need to take the initiative to ask them to do something. maybe if you have both of them over at the same time, they'll be able to work out their differences and then it wont be so hard to get all of you together. also, dont favor one over the other. the other person will get depressed, but they might not tell you about it right away, and you might not notice, but thats usually what happens. i know from first hand expirience...

i think its great for kids like us to be giving other kids our age advice. but anywho you inspired me to make a column of my own. i mean my friends always tell me all of their problems at school and stuff. so i decided it would be great to have a place where they could type the stuff to me like an email. i have had it for 2 days and only one person asked something. i was just wondering how did you get people to start asking you? did you tell them to look at it or just put it on your profile. also did you just pick stuff from the website to give advice to people or did everyone that you gave advice too actually ask you for it? also how long did it take people to start asking you for advice?
thanks-
-cant get started

ps: you most likely know who i am

first off, i feel special!! i inspired someone! people just started asking questions after i put it in my profile. i guess that means my friends have lots of problems (jk guys, i love you tons). all of these questions were asked directly to me. i do answer random questions all over the advicenator site, but i dont put them on here. and, i got my first 2 questions the first night it was in my profile. who are you???? thats what i want to know!

I tried your advise by having seperate relationships with them but that didnt work..Katie and Holly just kept getting mad at me and Morgan when i was with them...it really sucks that we cant all be friends..well anywho my question was if it came down to me choosing who i should be friends with what should i do?
by the way i miss you!!:(

i miss you too ashley dearest!! i really dont know what to say about your friends. if it were up to me, i'd tell you to pack your bags and move to texas with me, but it isnt. who does it seem cares about you the most (besides me) and who do you think can be the better friend/s. remember, im ALWAYS here for you ashley. i love you more than life itself and you are like one of my BEST FRIENDS!! and thats saying alot, since we've only been around eachother for like 5 days. you are a great friend and i love you like a sister (a good one, not like ours, lol)
follow your heart!!!

i wanted to thank you for your advise and i had one more question when you said that it was his mistake and not mine do you think there is a possibiltyl that we could ever go out again?

i guess theres always a possibility. it just kinda depends on who he is and who you are. but dont feel bad about any of this, hes the loser that made the mistake of breaking up with you. he'll be the one missing out.

if you have aim we could talk there in private

yess i have aim. it says in my profile on the side. d0iLikethis (the 0 is a zero)

Ok i have a friend, morgan, and i also have a friend katie and holly..but katie and holly dont like morgan and they dont want to be my friend if i like her...i love them all what should i do?

just have separate friendships with them. dont talk about morgan with katie or holly, and vice versa. do things separately with them, and when its impossible to keep them separate, treat them all the same. drama within friends is my expertise.

hey...im 14 and im in 8th grade..i had this boyfriend that of course i liked alot..then one night at a b-ball game he was going to give me a kiss and something just got all messed up and her missed...then like a week later he dumped me:( could this be why?

maybe he just got nervous or uncomfortable. guys are unpredictable like that. its possible that thats why, but if he dumped you, he isnt worth it. he made the mistake, not you.

Me again, so I hyst say to her, "I really really like you."? Because that just doesn't seem right. I think that just telling them is not the right thing, maybe just getting to know them even better and become closer to them and then maybe tell them to see how they feel but I don't think i should do it right now. SHould I?

dont bat around the bush. you need to be honest. im not saying you have to express your feelings in one scentence, but at least make it clear that you like them. if you try to become closer with her not knowing what your up to, might scare her away... soo... i think you should tell her. if you dont want to right now, thats fine i guess, but waiting too long might be a mistake.

Hey, I am the same person who wrote the last one, but I don't get if I am supposed to like one because the other one doesn't like me or if I keep trying, like they do not like me but then I really (and i mean REALLY like them), but then if they don't like me but i love them, do I give up and move on? (sorry, i had like 2 questions in there)

first part. never ever lower your standards because the one you like more seems too unaatainable. also, it takes time getting to know a person before they can decide whether they like you too. you never know. you might just grow on them and they might fall for you as hard as you fell for them. the most important thing to do, is let them know EXACTLY how you feel. if they shoot you down right away, dont bother. they arent worth it.

Hi, what do you do if, let's say, you like this person and then you talk to someone else that is a really good friend with them about it, and then you start to like them but don't know if you really like them or like the person you liked originally. What do you do?

woah! wait! what? i need to read this through a little slower. ok. my answer is: to follow your heart. its that simple.

I have 2 friends that are guys and I like them both same, but 1 of the(my old boyfriend) thinks that I like the other guy better then him when I don't. He doesn't treat me the same as he used to .. but i dont know what to do. It makes me feel really uncomfortable that I'm tearing myself apart over my ex-boyfriend, because I dont still love him, and i want my other friend to know that too. I still want to be really good friends with him though. :(

can you really honestly say that you dont like one of them even a tiny bit more than the other? its expected for your ex to think you like the other one more. and it would be completely acceptable if you did. i hate to say it, but things will never be the same once you've dated. its just the way life works. i suugest you sit down and talk to them. i dont know what kind of people they are, so i dont know if you'll want to talk to them together or separately, but the most important thing is to tell them how you fell. it would be good for yourself, and them.

hey
mm...lately i've been getting asked out a
ummlot...and all the guys that ask i like... but some of them lie, and some are too clingy....some are nice but protective and some are daring and...wierd...

wat should i do??
stay single??

this isnt exactly something i can relate to, but it seems like you need to make up your mind about who you really like. think it thru. look at the pro's and con's of going out with any of them. liars are never good. clingy, can be good or bad. at least you know they wont cheat on you :/ . and the nice but protective ones... well those kind of guys can be hard to figure out. daring and weird guys... well, do you even like them? if you think they are weird then you must not like them all that much. and staying single is always an option. if you dont think you can handle making a desision on one, then just block it all out and say no. later, when your mind is clear, you may realize that you made a mistake. you can always go back and say, 'hey. i lied. i would love to go out with you.". it realy isnt my desision to make, but i hope i helped you get an idea on what you can do.

I'm a smart kid but I don't think I act as smart as I should be. It's not like I pretend to be stupid but I just wish other people would recognize my intelligence.. =)

You're smart and people know it! How do you do that? haha

first of all, me being smart and people knowing it can get terribly annoying. people are always like "pick alicia! shes smart!" or "i bet alicia was the one who got the 100!" and when im not, or i dont do as well as they expect, i feel like im letting people down. if other people think your stupid, tell them off and make a bigger effort to say "look! i got a good grade on this!". let people know that you are capable of being intellectual, and dont let them forget it. seriously, being the 'smart kid' is relatively new to me. this is like the first year that i get pretty good grades, and i actually kinda like it. dont let people treat you like you arent as good as others if you beleive that you are just as good, maybe even better!

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