natalieANDjane's advice column

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Okay there is thisg person at school that i have liked for ever..i think "" is the first person i have really liked...wut should i do!?!?

P.s. we usta b really good friends
Help :)

Well, what's really bad about that? It's good you've found someone you truely like! Since you've been friends with him/her before, you should have an easy time talking to them! So try some flirtin' and then let me know if you have any problems!
.*Jane

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my best friend is the most amazing person in the world.. i sometimes put her first in my life.. and people think i am obsessed with her.. how can i prove 2 them that i really am NOT obsessed with her..

Well the first problem is that you are putting her first in your life. There are other people out there too! She can be your best friend and be important but balance it all out a little! If you need more advice you can IM me or ask more questions.
.*Jane

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I feel used. What am i supposed to do?

Awww sweety idk who you are but you don't deserve to be used! Tell me some more... who is using you and for what? Whoever it is is NOT worth your time. Send me an IM and we can talk more okay? janejane1006 or omgimjane
.*Jane

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ok i have this friend and she is a really good friend but lately she has been really mean to me. she always ditches me and acts like she doesnt want to be around me she even tells me that. i do nothing to her but she is so mean to me, i just dont know what to do. :'(

Well I guess I'm not the best person to be answering this because I've been like this to some people in the recent past (which I regret a LOT) So Natalie can add advice to this one. I'd say she's probably just meeting new people and experimenting around, which can be hurtful, I understand. It's not a very nice thing for her to do, but there isn't a lot you can do. Just try (I know its tough) to deal with the way she is, because it's hard to change the way someone thinks and acts. Good luck! Sorry I couldn't help very much.
.*Jane

I can relate to how you feel, and it is hard to deal with. The only thing i can ever do is just let it go. Say hi to the person more often and talk to them more. You can even talk to the person about how you used to always have fun together. Try to remind them how much you like being their friend and how they mean alot to you. If they ditch you then try to let it go. Like Janey said, you can't really change the person.. i'm sorry.
.*Natalie

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K.. I'm a girl and I have this guy friend that OBVIOUSLY thinks he's cool or something. Seriously, his ego is enormous. When we're alone of course he's cool, and I love him to death, but sometimes I want to kill him because he really does think he's cool. And I'm not just saying that he thinks he's cool, because everyone else agrees. How do I tell him to lay off of himself?

Most guys are like that. They try to show off, and it does get on girls nerves. If his ego is big then next time he does something like that, you just need to tell him to stop or lay off. After you tell him that a couple of times he'll start understand that you really mean it.
.*Natalie

OH I KNOW JUST HOW YOU FEEL! I have some guy friends like that and like Natalie said, guys are just like that! Don't take it personally, it probably just makes him feel better about himself. The best thing would probably be to not compliment him too much and boost his ego... that would only make him more self-centered!
.*Jane

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Ok, There's this one person that goes to my school, and i really like this person, but i dont know what to do. I really like this person, but i dont know if the have the same feelings for me.

Well first you should get to know him/her better. Don't rush it and as I told someone in a previous question, don't let your feelings for him/her get in the way of your friendship.
If you already are friends with him/her, chances are it would be easy to talk to him/her about it (I'm getting worn out from saying him/her! haha).. I guess for now you should just play it safe and take it slow until you find things out for sure.
.*Jane

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There is this guy, he likes me a lot. [ or so i hear from his best friends ] I have known him for a while and think it would be awkward to go out with him [ boyfriend/girlfriend ] i dont wanna be mean though, because he has never had a real girlfriend and i dont want to be the one to break his heart.
HELP

Well you sound unsure of him.. saying that you "don't wanna be the one to break his heart". Do you plan on doing that? If you don't care about him enough to make it last as long as possible, don't do it. Only tell him "maybe later" if you mean it, otherwise he'll probably keep waiting, which could gett annoying if you don't really care about him.
Good luck!
.*Jane

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wut to do if u like sumbody!?!

You should get to know him/her better! Don''t let your emotions for him/her get in the way of your friendship.
You could find out who they like, through mutual friends, but dont get too creepy about it! Only talk to them about it, though, if you think the feeling is a feeling you both share.
Good luck!
.*Natalie and Jane*.

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Every one at school always says I am fat and ugly and they all think I am gay, what do I do, because I am not gay?

Do you know what this sounds like? It sounds like these people suffer from their own insecurities and the only unfortunate way they can boost their own confidence is to attempt to put YOU down, but hey, DON'T LET THEM! You need to be oozing confidence out of your pores!
People won't wanna mess with someone who thinks, no, KNOWS, they're way better! Because you are. Don't put up with these people.
I really feel like I haven't said enough, so if you need more help feel free to send me an i.m. at omgimjane.
GOOD LUCK AND ILU!
.*Jane

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i am a guy, i have a twin sister, she tells her friends to hate me and don't talk to me, and then if i become friends with someone and she becomes friends with them, they start to not like me because she tells them not to and stuff like that, what can i do to stop all this?

You should spend more time with those friends without your sister. You can talk to them more or invite them somewhere outside of school. Do what you can to become better friends with them. You can do things with them despite what your sister says. Just try to ignore her if she gets mad at you for making new friends. Do what you can to become better friends with them.
Natalie*.

I think I know who this is... lol... well all I can say is you need to be friends with these people anyways! I mean, what's the worst thing your sister can do to you?
Look, I know your sister really well and she is a really sweet person. I know you don't think that because you're her brother, but she is really a cool person. Of course you will fight with her and there will be tension, thats how siblings work! So just try to forget the tension and go on being yourself with your friends.
GOOD LUCK!
.*Jane

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What do you do if you are a 13 year old guy who was really good friends with this one girl then one day she gets all moody and starts hating you and won't tell you what you did or forgive you no matter what you do, what am i supposed to do?

Well this girl probably just feels like she needs some space. If she was good friends with you at first, she probably thinks you're really cool but something is holding her back. Maybe you should keep it to a low until it all picks itself back up!
Girls will be moody, and that's obviously hard for guys to understand, but you need to try your best to handle it right.

Best of luck!
.*Jane

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OK look, there is this girl, who I really like, and we are becoming better and better friends all the time, when should I maybe pull the trigger or something?

If you think this girl likes you back, go for it! If you're not sure, you could talk to her about it but just make sure she is okay with talking about things like that! Most girls are, but some keep quiet.
So if you think she's too shy to talk about it, just keep trying for a while until you're sure.
Also, girls dont really like to have to ask guys out, it's really sweet when guys do it, and ask her out in person, not online or in a note.

I hope it works out just how you want it!
.*Natalie and Jane*.

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i have this friend that i used to b really close to but not ne more...wut shud i do?

Well first you need to think about why you aren't friends anymore. If you think it's your fault, you could apologize, and if it's just one of those things that brings itself, then you can try to fix it but remember this: Change will happen, and it can hurt, but sometimes you can still be friends with someone even if you're not as close. Distance can keep you from fights and tension. Maybe the distance wouldn't be such a bad thing for a while!
You could talk to them about it or just let it work its own way!

We wish you the best of luck!

Love, .*Natalie & Jane*.

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