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Hey guys. I'm just a girl going through the transition of a teenager to an adult and all that it entails.
I've had a colourful life with many a lesson learned and much to offer. Whether you want advice, support or just a chat then all you gotta do is reach out.
I'm honest, whether it hurts or not, but i'm fair; open minded and philosophical, a little crazy yet very logical, at times rather controversial.
If you have a question go ahead and ask!
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I recently started my period and Im a swimmer. But I cant find the right hole to put the tampon in, every time I try it doesnt work. And Ive wasted about twenty tampons!!!!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!! Where do I put it?!?! Holly, from North Carolina
You insert the tampon into your vagina which is clearly represented in this diagram: http://thegirldoctor.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/ans7_vulva.jpg
steady one foot on the edge of the bath or something like that and get a mirror. Try to locate your vagina in comparison with the diagram. Its the largest hole directly above the anus. When you have found it take the applicator and hold it at the base of the first outer tube. Slowly insert the applicator until your fingers are pretty much touching you.
With your free hand feel where your lower back is and try to angle the applicator to the direction of your lower back. When you are confident you have the right position just relax and push the inner tube of the applicator to insert the tampon upwards.
Your vagina is positioned at an angle as depicted here:http://www.revealforreal.org/images/BC/vagina.jpg.
The most important thing is to relax and try to get familiar with your body so exploring and experimentation with all parts of your body is normal and healthy as well as giving you additional aid in doing things such as inserting tampons. It takes a few well informed tries.
If you still have problems then feel free to visit your gyno who can give you the best advice and tips of doing this as well as giving you an exam if you or they feel it necessary.
So theirs this guy I'm dating for 4months .everything was going Gd till last week.he made arrangements for us to meet up on Friday and Sunday..Friday came and I didn't hear nothing from him till 11pm wich was aalready to late to hang out so I when to bed mad....Sunday came and I didn't hear from him till Monday night and all he text was.."I thought my phone was lost" I ignored him cuz he didn't even appologized so the next day I text him to stop wasting my time..he reply baack by saying "I been Bussy were koo relax" so finally we talk on the phone and He is clue less of y I'm mad.so I tell him y diidnt he ditch me on the date of Sunday and he said he had forgotten cuz he had so much things to do that I should Of Reminded him..I should just cutt him of ?or take his excuses? ..I really like him and I don't want to stop talking to him but I know I Should. But its hard.
I think in this instance he was just being a thoughtless guy. Yes he should have called earlier, he should have remembered about your date nights over the weekend and he should have been more understanding when you were mad. But guess what? This is how guys are, some more than others. And sometimes we are all guilty of being so busy that we forget important events.
Just talk to him and explain to him how you were feeling and that you understand he was busy but you would appreciate a little more effort on his part to keep in mind pre-arranged dates or atleast to give you notice if he has to cancel. Its just common courtesy.
A lot of guys just lack this common sense. So give him the benefit of the doubt and offer him a second chance. When you go out make it a special time, one that he wont forget no matter how busy he is! Its also important to keep things exciting in a relationship.
If he keeps doing these things knowing full well that it hurts you and that hes giving you no consideration then you know its time to do something about you. When it gets to the point where he doesnt seem to care that hes forgetting about you then call it a day, you can find someone better. In the mean time give him another chance. Some guys just need everything spelled out for them!
I'm dating this guy. He's very sweet, smart, funny, and he notices all the little things about me. I feel like he really cares about me. I can be myself around him and we seem to have a good connection.
However, he's a little too sexual for me. We were laying in the grass for a bit and he put is hand up my shorts. I said no and pushed him away. He kept trying and I kept pushing him and threatened to get up and leave if he did so. So he kept his hand on my leg and calmed down a bit, but later he did it again. I kept saying no. And I got up and we talked about it and he said he'd stop and go as far as I wanted. But really, I want to wait. I know he likes doing dirty things, but I want to wait and see where we go in our relationship. I get the feeling he wants me for sex. I mean, we barely talk about sex, but still. He's very perverted and can't keep his hands off of me. I don't want our relationship to revolve around sex.
And something else: we've only been dating for a week or so, and he's already saying he loves me.
I still really like him but I don't know what else to do if he keeps being all over me like this. I want to stay with him. So how do I firmly tell him I don't want sex right now?
His telling you he loves you after only a week and the persistent pursuing of sexual activities despite you consistently and adamantly saying no should tell you a lot. What he's doing is disrespectful. And loving you in a week? Is that even humanly possible? It sounds as if he's trying to emotionally manipulate you into going further with him.
You gotta sit him down and have a proper talk. Make it plain and simple. Let him know that you really like him and want to continue seeing him but in order for that to happen he has to understand that for the time being you don't want to be doing any sexual activities, respect your decision and keep his hands off you until you tell him that you're ready.
Give him the choice and the conditions of both choices; if he stays he has to respectfully wait and not try anything or he can go and find someone else to hook up with. From his decision you will know whether or not he's serious about dating you.
Remember that when you say no it means no and its totally okay to wait until youre ready. dont be pressured into anything you dont want to be doing.
I was on yahoo games yesterday and some girl asked me if i've ever been jizzed on by a guy and I have know idea what that means if anybody knows what it means i'd appreciate it.
her question was, in literal terms, has a guy ever ejaculated on you before. "jizz" means semen.
ok i have tried everything.. i cannot get tampons to fit comfortably. ive tried angling it differently but it still is super uncomfortable, painful sometimes.
what am i doing wrong? i read the instructions and used google but nothing is helping me. please help. pads gross me out.
It does take a bit of practice for everyone. The most important thing to do is to relax. If you tense up then it is going to hurt and go in incorrectly. Insert the tampon and feel with your other hand where your lower back is and position the applicator towards that area. Keep relaxing and when youre ready gently but firmly push the tampon in entirely.
Its also important to get to know your body so feel free to experiment in any way you like so that youre comfortable with how your body works. Its a little different for everyone. practice is the key and dont rush it.
You could also go to your gynecologist and have an exam even if its just to put your mind at ease. You can explain that youre having problems inserting tampons and they can check that everything is in working order as well as giving you a lot more detailed tips and advice on the best way to do it.
So basically my 15 year old brother seems to be going through what looks like depression. And no, he hasn't been diagnosed, but I know the signs because I've been through the exact same thing and everyone else I've known to go through it. He's been depressed for a while but now it's become worse because now he's showing it.
He's isolating himself, playing a lot of violent video games, writing certain things that a 15 year old shouldn't be writing about him wanting to drink his misery away and how much he hates his life because he has nothing to live for. I get that kids his age play games like Halo and shooting games but in the state of mind he's in, it's not healthy.
My mother has severe bipolar and she's been that way for years now and for a long time, she has taken it out on everyone around her, but mostly my brother, who is now suffering for it. She's in and out of hospital alot for different reasons therefore my brother stays home by himself a lot.
He's not talking to me about it or anyone else. My sister refuses to do anything because the way she see's it, she offered him to stay with her and he said no so she can't do anything. She could at least go see him for a night or two since she only lives 2 hours away..
My boyfriend says not to push..that he'll come around eventually but until then, all we can do is let him know we're here for him when he's ready. And that's what professionals say on forums and whatnot.
I feel like history is repeating itself. I had a friend when I was in school, whom I hadn't known for long but for the time I did know him, we became friends. He was only 17 years old when he killed himself in 2009. Everyone let him be until he was ready to ask for help, they let him "come around" and so no one pushed but when he did ask for help, it was too late because so much damage had been done from waiting months to ask for that help. He saw no way out because he had waited too long and felt there was nothing anyone could do anymore...
My brother is my best friend, and I've tried to be there the best I can over the years given what's happened within our family and all the pain our mother has caused from blaming us for her bad life and verbally abusing us every day when we did nothing wrong. I miss my friend, and I think about him every day, and I can't bear to lose my brother. I've lost so many people in my life to death and other things and now for some reason, life is punishing my brother when he's such a good kid.
I know that whatever happens to mum, he will blame himself. And I keep expecting to hear that she's died, either from suicide or from a physical illness and I don't want her to die, i really dont but what she has done to my brother is so unforgivable. I feel so helpless to help him and I feel like If I do wait for him to come around, that it will be too late and I can't lose another person, especially him. I don't know what to do anymore...I'm so tired from crying every night worrying about getting a phone call from someone saying that something bad has happened to him. How can I help him? How can I make him see that he needs it because he does have reasons to live and people who love him? He won't listen anymore. I don't even know who he is anymore..
To an extent your boyfriend is right. I think you should talk to your brother. Dont expect him to reply and even if he doesnt seem to pay attention to you just sit by him and tell him all of this. Just open up to him about how you feel, the situation and let him know that hes loved and that you need him. He NEEDS to know he is cared for. When you have depression your judgement is clouded. It is so easy to believe that despite people telling you, youre unloved and uncared for and a burden. Dont talk down to him or lecture him. Help experience your emotions as if they were his own. He needs to FEEL loved and cared for.
Keep an eye on him and look after him. Encourage him to spend time with you like going for a walk or another activity. Creative activities are great for him to express himself in a positive way. Get him engaged with you. Gentle encouragements. Dont pressure him too much. If he says no and stands by it then thats okay. Just ask him to do something the day after. Or if he's cooped up in his room playing video games then just sit down and watch him play, try to get him talking a little or join in.
If he gets any worse then it's time to seek professional advice once and for all. Have him evaulated by a psychiatrist. You can go from there. And if he does worsen then the doctors can section him if need be, if his life is in danger. Its important to have this help and security. It is best handled by people to specialise in this.
In the mean time perhaps look into social services. Theyre not just these to take kids away from bad parents. They can work with you all as a family in trying to manage the home life to improve things for everyone involved as well as helping you kids with your mums manic depression.
There is help out there. You just have to ask for it.
Hello! I am wondering exactly what editors do, how much do they get paid, what sort of educations do they need, all the information I can get because I'm thinking this might be the career that I will enjoy... I'd try doing it alone, but I don't quite know how to start looking into this...
An editor basically proof reads and tries to improve upon a piece of written work. This is the basic summary of the job and there will be different responsibilities depending on the editorial position. There are a large variety of editorial jobs that can be pursued.
Ofcourse in publishing the position of editor is the job that most people want and is therefore very competitive. I only know the qualifications required of someone in the UK (as i live there and am myself hoping to become an editor) so if you live in the US or other then you can simply google the required educative requirements.
Generally an excellent grasp of english is essential; you will need to score top grades at top levels in your english exams as well as going the extra mile in taking any optional advanced examinations in english.
You would do well to search your city/state etc. for the universities that offer the best course in publishing and I expect that a masters in english or a similar degree would be required.
Salary-wise in the UK for, say, an editorial assistant works out at around $20,000 - $35,000. I cant imagine a significant difference in the profession if you were in the US, Australia etc. But again this is an estimate. Job title, employer, country etc all determine your annual income. It's not a job that provides wealth. It's pretty average. Though in the beginning be prepared to work long and exhaustive hours for little pay.
You'd also do best to learn everything you can about publishing. Buy books, speak to people in the business: get a great deal of information on it. Work experience is always great so approach different kinds of publishing companies such as magazines, newspapers, literature publications etc. Most are willing to take on people for work experience. The more prepared you are and the more initiative you take the better your chances are. So work hard at school and best of luck!
Ive liked this boy for a long time , we have been talkin for almost 4mnts , we never had sex or anything , he says he likes me & he wants to have sex & i do too! He.always say hit him up wem i have time , but he neva anwsers his txt or calls , i even offered to just suck him off & he even procrasanatef wit that too . But he always say i play too many games ,
Well he's clearly expressed the want to sleep with yo so obviously something in hindering him from taking the plunge with you and it seems he doesn't feel comfortable enough with you.
Take a good look at how you behave with him and genuinely ask ourself if you are really playing games with him.
All you can do is talk to him and be completely straight. See where he's coming from and try to resolve it. It doesn't seem likely that he'll perform any sexual act with you if he feels uncomfortable with you so just talk to him, face to face, and get it all out there.
Recently I asked a question about a girl, titled "getting some vibes from a girl has a boyfriend, but is sending me pics and stuff".. I took all of the feedback into consideration, however this past weekend we got to see each other.
We had a great time together, we made out and fooled around a little, but nothing too far. She after the fact told me she waa quite fond of me and enjoyed our time together. She wants us to get together again, but I'm hesitant because of her boyfriend. I'm a decent guy, I wouldn't cheat on a girl, I think that's really greedy and ignorant and I take good care of those I appreciate.
Basically now what I'm looking for is how do I get her from her boyfriend? I want to win her over. I really enjoyed our time spent together this weekend and I want it to happen again.
Also, how do I approach this with her parents? I want to consult them before we hang out, as I feel it's the right thing to do. I'm on good terms with her father, we're real good friends. Infact, I met her through him. He thinks well of me. I sent him an email asking him if he'd be okay with his daughter and I getting together to take some photos sometime. No response yet. Any advice is really appreciated.
Chase
You don't seem like the type to tolerate cheating and i'm sure you can imagine how hurt her current boyfriend would be. The responsibility here lies not only with you but her too.
I think you should approach her first, above all else, and see where she stands. Does she want to see you as well as continuing to see her current boyfriend (and in that case, are you okay with that?); is she unsure and torn between two men; or is she intending on ending her current relationship?
It is important that you both talk about this as she's made it blatantly clear that her interest in you is more than just friendship and by doing this you have been put into this situation. Go to her father when you have figured out where it is you stand in this triangle. If you then decide on pursuing her then thats a good time to talk to the parents.
Keep it simple and casual. Drop round the house or her fathers work and ask to talk to him. Just make your intentions clear: you like his daughter and would lie to get to know her more, i.e take her out, and you'd like his permission. Im sure he'd appreciate you thinking of him in all of this and it shows great respect. Very admirable. If you get the green light thus far then i suggest you ask her out!
If she's unsure then this is your chance to win her. Get to know her and use this to do something special. If she loves poetry you could take her out to a reading of a favourite poet or perhaps recite her favourite poem during a scenic picnic. Use her interests to plan something memorable and special. And also use those chances to show her who you are as a person too.
Iam going to be 22 on monday any ideas on what to do for my birthday iam a female
There are many things you can do. It just depends on the kind of person you are and the activities that you enjoy.
Maybe you and some close girlfriends can arrange a quiet night in with movies, popcorn, pj's - the whole shebang!
Or you may be more adventurous and would like to go paintballing together.
You could all go to a gig, go for a dinner party, have an organised or themed party.
Or if you want to splash the cash you all could have a spa day of facials, massages and top to toe pampering during the day and then head out for a night of clubbing and drinks, a great night on the town.
Whatever you'd like to do there's nothing like spending a special day doing something with the people closest to you.
Im in a group of friends who constantly talk shit on each other, myself included. how can I change or influence a new group dynamic?
Are you sure you guys are friends?
You can make much more of an effort to speak of your friends in a respectful nature and if you do have anything to bitch about when it comes to them then confront them in private if you have a problem with them, about anything, instead of this juvenile passive-aggressive behaviour that you have all indulged in in the past.
If you find your friends doing it in your company then perhaps make a comment that you're not comfortable talking of your friends like that - its not how youre supposed to treat a friend - and you find it a little unfair or unnecessary. Having people treating you like that really isn't nice and if they're not going to treat you with respect then perhaps it's time to reevaluate your friendships. But make it known that you don't want to be doing this and maybe talk a little about it. Fin out why you all started doing it in the first place.
Instead of focusing negatively on eachother maybe you can all pull together as a team on something positive like a makeover project or planning a friends upcoming birthday bash? Put that energy you use to bitch about eachother and collectively use it to do something positive for you all.
Okay well i was friends with this girl and we were really close. and then we got into this argument and we were mad at each other for a couple days. and then i told my other friends about the fight i had. and when i was talking to my friend about it i was saying how the girl i was fighting with annoying and stuff and how she always treats me like a third wheel. then me and the girl i was fighting with were talking and becoming friends again and i told her i was mad and starting now to like her but i guess were okay now. *so should i mention that i called her annoying too? and that was like 3-4 weeks ago. and then i hungout with her this past weekend and started getting really close again. then the friend that i was telling that stuff too got mad at me and i dont know why. *what do i do?
You both said things about eachother both in person and behind eachothers back. It happens. Im sure she said you were annoying or vented to someone about you behind your back. But you're both moving on in your friendship and rebuilding buggered bridges. you're moving past this and there's no reason to feel guilty. Youre doing nothing wrong.
As for the friend thats mad at you, why dont you just ask her whats wrong? How else will you know why shes angry at you? As far as youre concerned - and so it semms - you have done nothing wrong to her. So be a friend and ask her if you've done anything to offend her and try to resolve the situation from there. None of this is worth losing friends over.
how to get rid of a dog period fast
The only way to do this is to take the dog to the vet to be spayed. Unless you intend on showing or breeding her, spaying has many health advantages (especially when older) as well as any unwanted pregnancies and the dog going through heat and not being able to mate. Food and mating are the most potent instincts to a dog. It sounds as if you're none too happy about dealing with a dog in heat either! Spaying benefits all parties.
okay, i like this boy and my friends tell me he like me two. and everytime we get around each other we be smiling and flirting, and i be shy to tell him how i really feel about him because i meant not like what i say to him,so how do i tell him how i feel without laughing or something?
Well there's always taking a deep breath, gatherng your confidence, look him in the eye and ask him if he'd like to go out sometime.
Or if you really dont think you can stop laughing then why not just drop it into the situation? Strike up a conversation and see how it goes. If you're laughing like you think you'll be then that's a great time to say it in a lighthearted way. Just say look at him, let yourself laugh and say 'go out with me sometime'. If he's interested in you the way that you are him then he'll like you all the more for your confidence and taking the first step. Plus it's very Notebook-esque.
If he doesn't reciprocate how you feel towards him then at least you can have some relief that you didn't make a big serious thing about it.
Just do it when the moment feels right be it a serious or lighthearted one.
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I have very low self-esteem. People tell me I'm smart and nice, but I don't believe it at all. It started with my sister putting me down for years and I never quite recovered from it. I even applied to a university that is much below my capability just because I don't think I'm smart. I let guys use me and the only guys who I had relationships with, had just of a low self-confidence as me. I also have incredible social anxiety problems. I get depressed frequently. Do I need professional help? What can I do to better my situation?
I think you would do well to enter regular therapy.
One to one sessions will deal with all sorts of problems and way to tackle them. A professional can help you become a more confident and happier person so that you can learn to see the great things that theres see in you.
Approach your GP and explain the situation. Ask for a reference. Your situation and state of mind can be evaluated and the appropriate course of action taken from there.
As well as one to one sessions there are other forms of therapies such as group therapy, distress tolerance workshops, art therapy, practicing social skills in real life with someone there by your side to help. There is much that can be done for you and many services offering what you need. Don't be afraid to say that you're struggling. Nip this in the bud before it escalates.
I've always had a hard time making choices on my own and when i've made my own choices i've always made the wrong ones let me give you and idea on how i've been living my life eveer since I can remember. i think it has to with the fact that my dad molested me when I was 3 and I don't remember it but I still have flashbacks about it like the police coming and putting him in a cop car and then putting me in another cop cap and then as having to have supervision while I was around my dad couldn't be alone with him. my mom's side of the family telling me about him molesting me and then my dad's side of the family calling my mom a liar. Then we I got older I started acting out when I was 12 my dad died. I kept running away from home from since I was 12 up untill I was 17. I started drinking when I was 18 and a man had sex with me while I was drunk which how I see it was rape. and ever since I turned 18 Ihad sex with 5 guys and one girl in 5 years time and now I just don't understand why iam living my life this way and I want to change how can I change the way I live my life?
You can start to change your life at any point. But no real change can happen if you genuinely don't want to change. This is a big factor. It's all about self discipline and making the right decisions.
You could cut down on drinking; start mending relationships with family members that matter to you; go into therapy to confront your issues instead of running from then like with the drinking and promiscuity; enroll into college or university or perhaps get a steady job and become a productive member of society.
There are many small and large steps that can and need to be taken by you but you've got to wholeheartedly put a stop to this. Chances are you will make mistakes along the way but what is important is whether or not you learn from them. It all starts with you. Have faith in yourself and acknowledge that you deserve better. You can give yourself that.
ok so here it goes I like this guy that goes to the mental health center that I go to and iam 22 years old and he's 40 years old and the manager there says we can't date each other becouse of the age difference what should I do?
As long as you keep your relationship outwith the center and dont let your relationship influence any aspect of the work you are doing there then i dont see this as a problem. I could see why the manager wouldn't want fellow patients/staff members dating but when it comes to forbidding any sort of relationship for purely personal reasons that does not impact upon the center in any way, i.e difference in age, he doesn't have a say. It really is none of his business.
hey 17 f
so i got a puppy about 3 months ago and hes a yorkie/shiht-zu and he is currently 4 months old. he bites me all the time. i hit him (lightly offcourse) on his back not on the head but he just growls at me and gets angry and trys to bite me even harder. i also say "NO" when he bites me and again he growls at me and doesnt listen at all. i really dont know what to do becuase he bites my little brother also. (not hard since he is a puppy) but still. how can i show him whose boss? and make him stop biting me? i mean eventually he is gonna grow and its actually gonna hurt. thankyou so much in advance.
I could give you a massively loong and detailed reply but as a dog owner it is your responsibility to learn how to be a pack leader. Before getting a dog, all people should learn dog behaviour as well s being completely aware of what they're taking on. You gotta do that hard work yourself. Its your job. I'd start with Cesar Milan. He's freaking awesome.
I have been with my boyfriend for about three months now. Of course, my mom doesn't know. Only because my past two relationships have ended badly and she doesn't want me dating because she doesn't want to deal with the breakup depresson I go through. That, and I'm very emotional with guys. I've gotten in some bad situations in the past with my exes.
Today she told me she found out by making a comment that was quirky. I was talking to my friend on the phone outside, and my mom asked what I was talking about. I told her I would tell her if I wanted her to know. And my mom said, "You didn't tell me you and Semaj were dating." I told her we aren't and we're just close friends. Now, I know what you are saying. I shouldn't keep secrets from my mom. I understand that.
My mom didn't seem angry or upset when she supposedly found out, but I am a little anxious. I don't know what she'd do if she was upset about it. Any advice or assurance?
The fact that your mother didnt seem upset or angry should show you that she's approachable to talk to. The fact is that you're going to have a few heartbreaks in your life, it's inevitable. You know it and so does she. She knows you're seeing someone now and i think it's just best you get it out there with her. Be honest about it. Confirm that you're seeing this guy, reassure her that you know what you're doing and you've learned from past relationships, and that even if things do go wrong you'll need her support.
Your mum is concerned and for good reason. Parents will do anything in the world just to make their child smile. Despite seeing you in such a state after bad break ups, she knows that you gotta go through it. Its part of growing up. She's giving you the benefit of the doubt by giving you the freedom you have to date. So do her the same courtesy.Just because she's concerned by no means renders her untrustworthy. I think she's shown you that.
so i hooked up with this guy just once and we're both back for spring break and i wanna hook up again. he said i was really good after the first time. we both don't want a relationship so don't say "don't cause you'll fall in love" or any of that. i just want to hookup haha. do guys like being umm a bootycall i guess? lol so should i text him?
well you have both made it clear that you dont want a relationship. when arranging to see him again just make it very clear from the beginning that all you want is sex. if you both are consenting to this then i dont see any problem at all.