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More advice on the same girl, just more info.
Recently I asked a question about a girl, titled "getting some vibes from a girl has a boyfriend, but is sending me pics and stuff".. I took all of the feedback into consideration, however this past weekend we got to see each other.
We had a great time together, we made out and fooled around a little, but nothing too far. She after the fact told me she waa quite fond of me and enjoyed our time together. She wants us to get together again, but I'm hesitant because of her boyfriend. I'm a decent guy, I wouldn't cheat on a girl, I think that's really greedy and ignorant and I take good care of those I appreciate.
Basically now what I'm looking for is how do I get her from her boyfriend? I want to win her over. I really enjoyed our time spent together this weekend and I want it to happen again.
Also, how do I approach this with her parents? I want to consult them before we hang out, as I feel it's the right thing to do. I'm on good terms with her father, we're real good friends. Infact, I met her through him. He thinks well of me. I sent him an email asking him if he'd be okay with his daughter and I getting together to take some photos sometime. No response yet. Any advice is really appreciated.
Chase
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Nice to meet you Chase.
First things first, it wasn't right for you guys to fool around since she has a boyfriend.
You should just straight up talk to her and tell her you two can't be together until she breaks up with her boyfriend. If she tells you she did, make certain that she has.
Don't try to "win her over" because that isn't fair to yourself or her boyfriend. Plus, she already said she wanted you two to be together so you already have practically won her over.
It looks to me like you already approached her father with this. Wait about a week and see if he responds. If he doesnt, go to his work or go hangout and tell him there. For her mom, take her out to dinner or take a walk with her and tell her in that time.
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You don't seem like the type to tolerate cheating and i'm sure you can imagine how hurt her current boyfriend would be. The responsibility here lies not only with you but her too.
I think you should approach her first, above all else, and see where she stands. Does she want to see you as well as continuing to see her current boyfriend (and in that case, are you okay with that?); is she unsure and torn between two men; or is she intending on ending her current relationship?
It is important that you both talk about this as she's made it blatantly clear that her interest in you is more than just friendship and by doing this you have been put into this situation. Go to her father when you have figured out where it is you stand in this triangle. If you then decide on pursuing her then thats a good time to talk to the parents.
Keep it simple and casual. Drop round the house or her fathers work and ask to talk to him. Just make your intentions clear: you like his daughter and would lie to get to know her more, i.e take her out, and you'd like his permission. Im sure he'd appreciate you thinking of him in all of this and it shows great respect. Very admirable. If you get the green light thus far then i suggest you ask her out!
If she's unsure then this is your chance to win her. Get to know her and use this to do something special. If she loves poetry you could take her out to a reading of a favourite poet or perhaps recite her favourite poem during a scenic picnic. Use her interests to plan something memorable and special. And also use those chances to show her who you are as a person too.
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