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I just- dont know how to make friends.i feel pathetic saying that,but really,its the truth. i have no idea how to start convos,act normal and just have fun and join in. no idea. and everyone seems to be so uncomfortable(sp) around me. i dont think im ugly..and i doubt that even matters. but i was kinda in this group and now im just there,i dont mean anything to them,only 2 i really talk to. its like if i left it wouldnt matter. i dont know how to open up,and i really need help, what can i do so nothing is akward?i really want friends who care. it seems so easy to everyone but me. i just feel like dont belong anywhere. i dont even know how to take the first step,if you've been through this,can you please help? i really appreciat it. i also need advice on being friendly and not makeing things to akward/makeing people feel uncomfortable,i love it when i make people smile,but it barely happens.please help & thanks. (link)
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Yeah i know exactly what you mean. I really don't know how to tell you what to do. Everyone has there one thing. All you have to do is find it. I can already tell your selfesteem isnt that high so you are quiet and think about what your gonna say way too much. Say the first thing that come to mind when around them I know its hard but if they act like your stupid laugh with them as if you don't care if they laugh at what you said, laugh it off and follow that with another covo subject. Relax and be yourself.
--Syd
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okay. theres this girl hali who lives next door to me. so yeah we get off at the same bus stop. well she doesnt like me very much & i dont like her very much either. well anyway we always have to walk with each other for about 30 seconds. its always totally awkward because i can never think of anything to say. it gets even more awkward when i try & think of something to say & then when i say it she looks at me like im a retard. what can i talk to her about so it wont be so awkward? & dont say anything retarted. (link)
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I dunno if you could pull this off or not but be sarcastic, and say something about "what a long walk this is." Yeha she may look at you like your retarded. Then back that up with another funny something... Bein outgoing and fun is always an icebreaker
--Syd
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ok i no this might sound stupid to some people but its really serious to me!!! and i have no idea what to do. ok so my best frined is a guy and forever we have been close. so just the other day he told people that hes liked me for three years. those people told me so i am obviously shocked! because ive always only thought of him as a friend. He doesnt know that i know. i love him as friend and absolutely nothing more. Hes been trying to get me to guess who he likes, and he also keeps trying to tell me... i can only change the subject for so long! PLEASE help i dont want to lose his friendship and i dont want things to change betweeen us not even a little.
please please dont tell me just to tell him that i like him as a friend and nothing more... cause i could have thought of myself
thanks for answering
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Actually your answer would help out but i would tell him that your afraid your relationship (as close friends) may change if yall go together. after telling him that he wil probly say It wont I promise.. Well thats when you tell him, your not gonnas risk it and sorry... mayeb that will work it worked for me.
--Syd
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I am a teen victim of domestic violence. I am 15 years old and I live in the state of Florida, Volusia County. I really dont have the authority to do much. I dont have a job and my mother is taking her boyfriend (the abuser)s side over me. In my situation I was completely respectful until the abuser got up into my face and physically placed his hands on me. I then yelled and left the house. I tried to go back and talk to my mom about getting an injunction on him but she wont because she wants to be with him and says 'he' is in control because 'he' has "the money", supposedly my mom cannot live on her own without him. I am placed in the middle of this because I am her responsibility and I need help. I want to get him out of the house so I can move back in. I dont have family I can goto and I dont have many friends at all. If anyone has any information on this it would be greatly appriciated. ASAP (link)
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I am so sorry, and I know how that is. If you go to school, and there is a guidance counselor you would talk to go to him/her. finding out about abuse is something that has to reported and DCF would be called to investigate. They should help out.
--Syd
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i need serious help i got two i guys that i like and i like bothof them i know its wrong to like two people at the same time but anyways here is how it went down, i knew a guy for about 1 year and we both were just getting to know each other and we really liked each other well we lost contact cause he changed his school so i gave up on us and moved on to another boy and i end up liking him but i still had feelings for the other guy, then like two day ago he contacted me on myspace and i gave him my number and he called me well i have stronger feelings for him then ever and i dont want to let him go but the other guy is so nice and i feel bad that i just leave him hanging like that and the worest part hes my best friends brother she say she dont care but i dont want to play him out cause he really likes me and wants to talk to my mother so he can be my boyfriend, someone help please!!!!!!! (link)
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Take a moment to think. There's this guy you really like the one that moved, ok, well, he moved, yeha i know you have feelings for him and that seems harsh. But depending on how far he moved or just that he moved schools. You wont see him.
On the other hand, there's your best friend's brother. If you went with him... Don't you think your friend may feel left out if you go to her house spend time with him. Or vise versa.
I know not much help but you have to weigh your options. This is a decision you have ot make yourself, and I know there wil be plenty of guys you like.
--Sydnie
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Theres this guy I recently started to have a crush on in my middle school, and I dont think he really likes me yet, though my friend thinks otherwise. When I first saw him in my class around the first day of school, I noticed that sometimes he kept glancing at me when he probably thought I didnt know. Then later we were paired for something and he laughed at some of the jokes I made, and in gym, we're both like pretty sporty, competitive people. we played this game where we had to capture a person's flag as they went to the opposite side to steal a ring. then sometimes i got his flag (we were against each other) and he was smiling at me when i gave him back his flag. then in homeroom one of my friends commented on how i never hold my hair up.. this was like yesterday.. and he was talking to someone else then like turned around to look at me. i didnt see his expression though. then in literacy we played some game and he was sitting right next to me! I have no idea why.. maybe he wanted to sit next to someone else.. but that was kinda awkward so I didnt really say much.. so anyway, do you think he likes me? or is my friend just making things up.. I dont mind if he doesnt now, though. theres always the future! haha
oh, and he's like a jock (hes funny, nice.. and maybe not the brightest crayon in the box.. haha) and I'm like a jock too.. meaning I'm like a tomboy but a girly girl at the same time.. also I'm pretty smart. (link)
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With what you are sayig yes it seems like he likes you. But you can never be sure. Get to know him a little better. And things may happen.
--Sydnie
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well i dont know how to afford to get my family presents for christmas. well, i only have a little money a month for chores, and well, i will feel really bad if i cant get them anything. and i dont have a job. 15/f by the way. (link)
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I know how you feel I am in the same situation. I have had to deal with that for a long time now, but try making them something. Yeha i know it's really cheesey. But it helps out, like home made cards. That is a way to show them you care. And you dont have to make up everything to say in them you could look sayings up on the internet.
--Syd
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im 14/f. adn i was wondering if its bad that i dont have my period yet. Im pretty developed. Like i have breasts, and hair on my pussy. all of my friends have their periods. and i felt like there was something wrong with me. is it normal?? (link)
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It is completely normal. Not everyone body is exactly the same, I know yoiu mst feel like the odd one out, but trust me it nothing you want to rush, enjoy it while you dont have your period! Some people dont get their period until 16. It all depends on your body. Don't worry too much.
--Sydnie
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OK, so this guy who I've known for a few months has always been really flirty with all girls. He's not popular, I'm pretty sure its just kind of his personality. So lately he's been acting kinda different towards me... like, after school one day, we were listening to music on his headphones and singing along to the song, and he was like staring at me and i was like looking away cuz he was staring and then he kept on poking me to look at him for like no reason.. i havent really seen him act like this towards anyone else... do you think he likes me? I don't really like him, Isee him more as a friend. Any opinions welcomed, as long as you back your answer up I'll rate well. (link)
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I would say that if he only acts like this towards you he might, but you never know unless you ask him yourself. If I were you and wanted to know the next time he want syou to look at him look at him... But the truth lies within his own mind all you can do is ask.
--Sydnie
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ok so i think collage and school is soo important to me
but there's this one girl who wants to fight me because i liked her rebound boy and she went crazzy so weve been fighting for days now and today she came up to my face and i called her a slut but see i dont want to fight her because it will show on collage records and im like a good student but not a nerd you know what should i do
helppppp?? (link)
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I was in a situation close, to that, I talked it out though. I really don't know what type of person she is. But school is important. One day, when you see her and it's just you two, ask her if you could talk to her. And see if she will listen, tell her you don't want to fight her. And even if you didn't do anything or you don't think you should, tell her your sorry, for liking him or whatever.
--Syd
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15/f
I have had a bad past with relationships. All these people have lied, used, and hurt me.. so I'm unsure if I want to start a new relationship. It's been about a year or longer since I was in a relationship.
But I really like this girl. But my parents are homophobes.. "I will hurt you, if you're gay" something like that when I was younger .. recently, it's okay with them.. They just don't want to see it. (kissing, etc)
I'm just afraid of what they will think.. growing up always hearing these gay jokes and insults about lesbians.
And I also don't want to rush into a relationship just because I like someone. When do you think you should go out with someone?
I've known this girl for 2 years.. We weren't really close.. until this year.. We have gotten closer and hung out like 3 times in a week and a half. It's just weird.
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If your parents are "OK" with it now, you should talk to them. And tell them how you feel about the situation. They are your parents and they will love you no matter what, it's better to tell them instead of hiding it form them.
And this girl. If she feel she same way about you, and may want to get into a relationship. Tell her you don't want to rush into a relationship, and that you want to take things slow she may feel the same.
--Syd
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16/female.
Let me just start out by saying that I am a STRONG believer of gay marriage, and I have absolutely NO problem with homosexuals in the slightest.
One of my friends is a lesbian, and I love her because she's amazing, she really is. But, lately she's been really touchy feely. She writes me notes saying, "I know you're in denial, I know you're conservative & straight, but you should atleast experiment & give it a try." I AM straight, I was born it, so I can't just change and be a lesbian, that's what I think & feel. I'm not attracted to her at all.
She'll like come up to me in the halls at school, and hug me and kiss my neck and shove me up against a locker, and it seriously is beginning to look like I'm a lesbian.
When she does this, I just say, "Nooo! STOP IT" Like, I don't know if she takes it seriously or not, but when I say stop she does. So, today on AIM, we were talking, and this was our conversation:
Her: I'm going to look hot tomorrow in school.
Me: Ahah, Whyy??
Her: I got new clothes.
Her: Kiss me?
Her: :)
Me: Ahh, that's nice! :)
Me: lol, No thanks.
Her: No thanks, what the fuck?
Her: Why did you say that?
Me: To the whole "kiss me" thing.
Her: Whatever.
Me: HEY! don't!!
Her: Don't what?
Me: Be mean. :(
Her: You did this yourself.
Her: It's your fault.
* BLOCKS ME *
Ahhh, so. I just would like to know if this is any of my fault at all. I'm not LEADING her on, I wouldn't even know how to do that. I'm dating a guy & I'm really attracted to him & she knows that. But she'll always say that I need to experiment with her & stuff, and it's just really weird for me.
Thanks in advance. :]
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No it's not your fault. If she didn't understand hat you weren't that way then it was her fault. I had the same problem. An dlike you I have no problem with homosexuals.
--Syd
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O.k. sooo, my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a week now. We've kissed, but havn't made out. I've never made out before. Everyone thinks I've made out before, even my boyfriend. His friends keep telling me for my birthday he's going to finally make out with me as one of my presents. He's had A LOT of expeirience with girls and makeing out, and as I said I have NEVER made out. My questions are:
1) Will it be TOTALLY obvious I've never made out before?!
2) Will I be a horrible kisser??
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3) How do you make out?!
I'm so worried right now. I'm NOT going to tell him I've never made out before so don't tell me to do that. I'm just scared he's going to notice and think I'm the grossest kisser ever. He always tells me girls tell him he's a really good kisser, and I'm scared cause I havn't made out before! I have no idea what to do while making out. Where do your hands go? What does your tongue do? How are people able to make out for long periods of time without getting bored? HELP! Please please please. I need answers quick! (link)
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1) You can never know how obvious it may be. I think that if you and your boyfriend are close enough, you should tell him, in private. I told my first bf and he taught me.
2)Practice makes perfect.
3) Your hands: Depending on where you are, if your standing up, put one hand on the side of his neck, and move it around the back of his head (just do it i know it sounds stupid).
Your tongue: Thats what you will have to figure out for yourself.:)
Boredom issue: Depending on how well you get along and how far you are willing to go is the answer. Don't do anything you aren't ready for.
--Syd
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This is going to sound so weird but i dont know how to kiss. I'm nervous. Really nervous. Please Help! (link)
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There is no problem with being nervous, or not knowing how. All I can say is, you learn as you go. I had the same problem. But it's not as bad as you think.
-Syd
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