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Im sorry that this is kind of long but i need help!
So last year, I was popular.. if you wanna say that.
Anyways , so me and this guy lets call Bob were reallyy close for about a year, talked 24/7. Wern't dating, but people thought we were, never kissed though.
Anyways, he was always there for me. This year I guess I got annoying to some people, like I guess
I say stuff, and me and this boy, we will call Jim were close, not as close , but anyways so I guess I started annoying Jim alot and he said I annoyed him because I always say im fat, but I really do think I am. Anyways Bob , always there for me. Said don't worry about it .. blahblah.
Anyways, about a month ago.. Bob didn't talk to me as much.. I asked him what was wrong? He said nothing, so I gave him space.. He started talking to my best friend.. And they talk everynight, and he only talks to me.. about once every two days.
I asked his close friend why he stopped talking to me... and he said because I was annoying.
I dont know what happend! Im really sad, cuz we had a really good thing going, and I like him..
I dont know what to do, but now latly Im ALWAYS like sad, and I'm almost always mad at my best friend, but not mean to her.
Someone Please please please help..
I really want him back
and im really sorry if this didn't make sense and was to long..
xoxo jessica
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First off, being mad at your best friend is really not nice because she honestly hasn't done anything. And i know you say you aren't mean to her. But you probably have started cutting her out with out noticing and she probably notices... and let me tell you something like that hurts!
Then you honestly need to become more certain of yourself because boys don't want to constantly have to reassure you. Half the time all they want is to have fun with a girl who is confident! and if you weight is such an issue with you you may want to talk to some one about it before it causes some serious problems.
Then, you need to talk to Bob it is the only way you are going to sort this out. Tell him you want to know whats wrong and tell him that your friendship means a lot to him. It is the only way to sort it out and becomes friends again.
Then in relation to the not being happy. I think you need to find other things that make you happy. Make new friends. Go out with other friends. Really just have fun and having fun should really help!It really should!
But you really need to talk to him so as to try and restore your friendship. And people who are your true things, will accept you for who you are or tell you when something is bothering them so that you can work on it together!
Good luck! If you need more help please ask! I hope i helped!
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there is this guy i like SO much. I was convinced he liked me too but then this other girl started hanging out with us and i think the guy likes her now. She makes him laugh so hard all the time and i just can't do that.
Even one of my best friends thinks that they would be good together.
Should i just get over it or what? (link)
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This is something that you can only really answer. If you like him as much as you say you do maybe you should tell him. You never know what could happen and boys well boys are sometimes slow to pick up on the hints.
Otherwise your other alternative is to start getting over him... It will take time but you can get over him if you really want too.And try not to worry about what other people say.
Hope I helped!
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Alright, so I'm 16, straight male, and my ex-girlfriend is still my normal friend (it lasted a a little more than a week). The reason we broke up was because she could never talk straight around me, and I wasn't into the relationship in the first place. I was hoping that I could learn to be if we went out for a little while. Before we went out, she introduced me to her best friend, and we became friends. So my ex is still into me and its getting annoying, she is always telling me stuff about how she still wishes we were going out and how much she still likes me. I'm not into it. I'm not sure, but subconsciously I think I like her best friend. I'm not the guy that would go after a relationship like that, but what I need help with is getting the point across, without making her cry or hurting her feelings, that we're over and its not gonna happen again so she'll stop annoying me. (link)
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Ok, i'm going to tell you something, and I don't think you are going to like it much. But really there is no way to tell her something like this that won't hurt her. Just that the fact that you don't want to hurt her, though should make you feel a bit better.
I think the best thing is just to tell her. Just tell her you see her as a friend and that you don't want to get back into a relationship. You have to just tell her straight out to make this better. And also you only went out for like a week and a bit more. Really tell her it won't work out cause it didn't even work out in the start. Just say it in a nicer way :)
Also i'm just throwing in an observation here, but I think you do like the best friend. Because one it seems like you would enter into a relationship with her if you could and two you said subconsciously you might and that makes me believe that you actually do but you might now want to acknowledge that you do.
Any way by all means choose to ignore this!
I hope i helped! And good luck!
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Is season five the last season for LOST the show? where can i get more info... i don't care about spoilers... bring'em on! i reallllly want to know what happening after last night's episode! (link)
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No. Season 5 should not be the last season. I think, but i'm not certain of this, that season 6 is the last season. Check out www.lost-forum.com I researched a bit and it seems to be the best lost website for fans there is out there. It also has nearly everything, spoilers etc.
I hope i helped.
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Im a thirteen year old girl, and I got my period a little over a year ago. My boobs are pretty damn small. My mom and aunts all have very large boobs so I was just wondering if I'm stuck with these the rest of my life. Or do I still have time to grow? I honestly don't want to have this size the rest of my life.. (link)
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You still have lots of time. Breast development goes through five stages. I'm not going to go into detail about that.Right now all you need to know is that breasts are only fully developed by the age of 17 or 18 which means they are going to grow and undergo changes. Chances are your boobs will get bigger.
Check out this link for more details.
http://www.teengrowth.com/index.cfm?action=info_article&ID_article=1320
Let me know if you have any more questions. And right now don't worry you are perfectly normal and with time you will become more comfortable with your body.
I hope I helped. :)
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okay im a 17/f and i hooked up with this guy that i like. well it turns out that he only hooked up with me to see my boobs and i got really mad. and this was over spring break about a month and half ag o. well when we came back to school i told alot of people and he got mad and told everyone that i lied. but i didn't! and i said sorry to him but when i said sorry he denied that we hooked up and said that i lied to everyone and he's really arrogant and i told him that he needs to get over himself and accept the fact that we hooked up. and he said that its best if we just don't talk. so yeah now he won't talk to me and im really upset about this and sometimes i'll just start crying in class. he's in 2 of my classes. & alot of people from some of my other classes know what happeend. because he'll never forgive me and he's holding a grudge against me. what should i do? should i try to apologize to him again? (link)
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This guy is not a nice guy... I know i'm being harsh but really why are you wasting your time with him? He is not worth it! The fact that he only got with you to see your boobs is evidence enough that you should not hang around with a guy like that...
He lies as well! And for some reason he is acting as though you have done something wrong to him... Really he is over reacting and you really need cut emotional ties with him. He is not someone you want around and there are a lot of nicer decent guys out there!
You are better than this! Let it go and try and move on! As hard as it may be it might just be the best thing.
If not talking to him really bothers you then I suggest, talking to him and apologizing and explaining why you did what you did.
Good luck!
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Hi there! I'm 15/f. So since about January, I've been working out, trying to loose weight. I've been eating healthy and everything. I've actually lost some weight. My clothes fit looser. Expecially my jeans. Well, here latley, for the past couple weeks, I've been slakin on working out. I usually work out everyday, except Saturday's and Tuesday's. Well, I'm getting really mad at myself because I haven't been working out. I don't know if it's because I'm sick, like, I have a cough, stuffy nose, so maybe thats why, or if I'm just getting tired of it. So can anyone give me some advice on how to get back on track?? I still want to loose like, 20 pounds. So I know it will take me a while, but I was planning on working out pretty much everyday this summer, but I'm scared I'm getting too off track. Like, when I come back to school for next year, I want to look so much thinner than I am. So please help me!!! Oh, by the way, please don't say that I need to look different or anything. I'm doing this for myself, not for anyone else. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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I just want to say that well done for starting to exercise and eating healthier and sticking to it! It takes a lot from a person to do what you are doing...
Don't worry yourself so much with not working out this week. Yes, being sick can be the reason why you aren't exercising this week, I suggest getting better first before you try and exercise again. Don't worry about slacking you seem motivated enough to do this.So chances are you will do it!
Then: Write down a routine for yourself and stick it some where were you can see it everyday... It will help you to stick to exercising.Also if you can get some one to exercise with, I suggest you do that, having an exercise partner always helps...
Don't stress and just remind yourself why you want to do it and you will do it!
Best of luck and feel better soon! :)
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I met this guy about a year ago. At the time he was going out with my best friend. They had an awful breakup about 3 months ago. Me and him became very close but just as friends. He has hooked up with most of my friends but he was drunk. Now we've got even closer and like spend nearly ever day together. I have always sworn no matter how much i like him i wouldnt do anything with him because of his ex i would feel too bad. Recently he decided he likes my bestfriend and i just got so jealous and right now i can't figure out whether i love him as a brother or love him as something more. (link)
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I'm going to venture a guess here from what I've read. But I think you may like him as something more. The fact that you got jealous when he his with another girl just makes me think that you have some deeper feelings for him and just the way you phrased this "I have always sworn no matter how much i like him i wouldnt do anything with him because of his ex i would feel too bad" the way you phrased this kind of implies you do like him.
Really the only person who can answer this is you... you need to just think about it. Are you attracted to him? Do you constantly want to see him? Answering questions like these will let you know if you like him or not. Just a extra note if you answer yes to those questions, i'd say you like him as something more.
I hope you figure out if you do or don't and I hope this helped!
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does anyone know if psychics really work? because there are a lot of things i would really love to know about myself. and i cant think of anyone else to go to besides someone who could possibly know the true answer to my questions i wonder about.
usually id rather like to be suprised about something happening, but im almost nineteen years old; never had a serious boyfriend. the longest relationship ive had was about 2 weeks. (it in middle school, so it didnt even count). and i just want to know if there is someone even out there for me..people say 'everyone has that someone special for them'. but each single day, im finding that harder and harder to believe.
it could be that i just havent met him yet, but what if i already know him and i just dont see that spark between us? i dont want to pass up an expierence when it has to do with true love. i want it so bad.
i could sleep soooo much better every night knowing that im going to be waking up the next day for a reason.
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I'm going to answer this as best as I can...
I don't think anyone can really know whether psychics really work. Maybe some do maybe some don't. It really would be up to you to go and try one out and decide for yourself if they work or not.
I just want to add that, sometimes love finds you when you aren't looking for it. And you shouldn't give up! Really you are young and more than likely will find a boyfriend any day.
And having your family and friends should be a good enough reason to the waking up thing. As well as the reason that any day you could meet that special person.
Honestly things like love and boyfriends take time. Don't rush it will happen when its meant to.
I hope this helped!
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Ok so last night mine and my sister's best friend spent the night and we decided we would write down all of our deepest darkest secrets that we havent even told each other or anyone about then we would read each others and when my friend read my list i felt so incredibly releived like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulder and now i feel like i can tell her anything and talk to her about anything but that scares me alot for some reason just knowing that if something happened she'd know and i guess just the fact that she knows pretty much everything about me now it kind of scares me ok well it scares me to death but i thought doing the whole read each others deepest darkest secerts would bring us closer i thought it'd be good for us knowing that we dotn have to hide things and keep things to ourselves why am i so scared? i mean shouldnt i be relieved and happy that we can share anything with each other? (link)
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The only reason you are feeling like this is because you worried. It takes a great amount of courage to open up completely like you did and the thing is that opening up like you did, must leave you with a sense of vulnerability.
Just try and remember that you weren't the only one who opened up completely. And that you both did. It should make you closer. You just need to trust her enough to know that your sister's best friend won't do anything to hurt you.Give it some time it will become easier for you and you should start to feel relieved.
I hope this helped.
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so i have this guy friend. and we liked each other not too long ago he probably still likes me i probably still like him.. whatever. anyways he always tells me that im mean and im a bitch and stuff and like i dont really know if he just wants attention so he picks fake fights with me or im really being mean to him. what can i do? (if i confront him about it he will get really mad) (link)
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Its impossible to say which is!
All you can really do is watch how you act around, see if it is you or if he just likes finding excuses to start fights.
I've had it before where this guy told me he had gone to hospital-to get attention from me- because he liked it when i worried about him! Guys are impossible to decipher.
Just watch yourself around him and if you can maybe try and talk to him about the fights and just tell him you don't like it that you guys fight!
I hope this helped
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my bf and i have been fighting and having problems because im moving in 2 months. i became nagging and realized it and kept bringing up arguments and stuff and he didnt want a break or to break up he told me he really, really didn't. soo yesterday i was like ok lets completely forget everything and start over entirely. then today at church in between services (we usually serve at the 1st one then hang in between then go to service at the 2nd one) he didnt talk to me even tho we havent hung out in forever. hes always saying he wants to see me more and everything and just last night we were saying we were gonna makeout in between (we kinda do that...hehehe) but then he was blowing me off and like im staying here and he was playing pool and stuff. then i was like i think its over cause he wasnt taking to me and being a hypocrite! and last weekend we broke up for like 5 hours then got back together so w/e. then i was like so why werent you talking to me in between service? he was like ummmm well i kinda have lost interest in you. and he and i have been bff's for 2 yrs and just the night before he said he loved me and we talked for over an hour.
then i started crying and trembling and was like i hate you. i hate you more than i have ever hated anyone before in my life. don't you ever talk to me again. and i was probably kinda scaring him but i couldnt control myself that was the meanest thing he has ever said to me. like i was some game or object even tho i did everything i could to be a good gf and keep him happy. anyway then i calmed down and talked to him and he was like its over. i dont love you anymore. we cant get back to where we were before. i cant satisfy you and give you what you want. (because i kept complaining he wasnt making time for me) at first i was like okk but we can make it through this and do this cause before he was the one saying we could make it. but then i was like you know what-ok. ok fine then ya we can just be friends. and i left.
then my friend told me this evening(shes dating his older brother) he was sleeping upstairs then came down cause his parents called him for dinner and like he wouldnt eat and was really anxious to go to youth group. she was like why do you want to go it's gonna suck and no ones gonna talk to you they are gonna be mad at you. and stuff like that. then at youth group he saw me and like walked pass me twice just like would look over at me and leave the room. it was weird. i didnt talk to him or anything. then after the message this cool jr was like talking to me and helping me with my bf and i's breakup and i was sitting with him and talking to him. at first we were gonna sit right near my ex bf but then i was like lets sit farther down lol and my ex bf knew. and he saw me talking to this guy. and first off my ex bf knows i dont talk to guys that much but that i am flirty. and he [used] to get jealous but i d k since we arent tecnically together as of like 14 hours ago. soo i was talking to this cool boy and hugged him and everything and my ex bf kept like staring at us and like watching us!!! it was weird i was like o m g hes looking at me! probably cause i was already talking to another guy. and my friend was like looking at him and staring at him while his back was turned once. and my friend was making me laugh and i touched his sides once because he was trying to pickup my friend and put him in the trash (as a joke) and so i was like pulling him my hands on his sides and my bf i kno saw me laughing and talking with him and idk about the hugging and touching him but i think he might have been watching me all night sooo who knows??
so what i want to know is 1st) what do you think of our breakup?? my ex bf was like god wants me to serve him and he wants us to breakup thats why we keep fighting (he and i are both strong christians) and god is calling me to do something else even tho 3 months ago god was calling us to date according to my ex bf. maybe hes right cause i am leaving but i had wanted to make the most of my last 2 months here.
2nd)what was with my ex bf's behavior????? does he still like me? i still love him but he said he doesnt love me but i dont believe him cause he said what he said last night was true and last night he said he loved me so how can that change in 8 hours??
3 rd) was he jealous?? even tho we werent dating but i was already talking to new guys? and i gave the guy my # and hes a couple grades older(im a freshman so is my bf, my friend is a jr) and my ex bf's older bro and older bro's gf know i gave that older guy my # so there is a good chance he may find out. cause im almost certain they will tell him. and also his older bro and older bro's gf found me crying today and helped me so they saw how much he hurt me. and im guessing told him.
*****soo ya does he still like me or something and why do you think he didnt want to date me anymore? because he didnt want to keep fighting? cause thats what i think cause his parents fight and so he hates fighting and never yells or anything.
also 4th)do you think if he got jealous of that older guy and i that he would want me more or just get mad at me?
thanks so, so much!! and im sorry its so frickin loooong!! i will rate :) (link)
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Ok, I really hope this helps you.
First off, your breakup is messy. Its especially messy because they are so many emotions between the two of you. The disappointment of you leaving, loosing the person you love, having to leave the person you love.... just some emotions that are involved in this which make it so incredibly complicated. Sometimes a time does come along when things have to change and this may be one of those times. You have to decide that. And just so you know you are more than able to make the most of your last two months there. You do not need you ex to do that.
Second, I think that yes you may have hurt your ex by being so friendly with the other guy, I think maybe to him its as though he doesn't matter and you are more than able to move on from him, like you supposedly showed him and I think that bothered him. After all the guy can't just forget the feelings he had for you over night.So in relation to him liking you, no one but him can really answer that, but again it is possible because feelings can't just get turned on and off.
Third, I would have to say that yes, he possibly was jealous with you with the other guy. To him it must seem like you just forgot about him and I think you paying attention to some one else may cause him to feel jealous.
Then finally. I think he wanted to end it, because well you are leaving and that has caused strain on your relationship, and like you said he doesn't like fighting, so maybe he ended it so you could leave with things between you on a reasonably ok note.
And I think making him jealous is not the way to go about getting him to want you. You need to respect him enough to make up his own mind of what he wants and does not- with out added influences on your half.
Its hard to let go. I know. But sometimes its for the best and with you leaving a whole new chapter is opening for you and you never know what can happen then... Just stay positive and try and spend your last 2 months having fun, and remember see your friends they are after all one of the most important things a person can have.
I hope this helped!
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my teeth arent the straightest. i mean everything is perfect except for this one tooth that goes outwards and i hate it.
and they arent so white either, whiters just dont seem to work for me that well. :[
so i have two questions:
1. whenever im with a guy, im always so self concious about talking, because i know its not just me that does this, but when someones talking to me, i always seem to be focused on thier teeth the most. and sonce i dont have great teeth, im afraid they are going to be like... ew. or something.
i heard that if you push on your tooth kind of hard every day then sooner or later it will kind of move into place a little better. is that true? i was thinking about trying it!
2. how can i get my teeth white, that i can do at home with no money, im broke haha.
id really appreciate it also if guys could tell me if they concentrate hard of girls teeth, and if they arent straight and not really white, is that a turn off?
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Ok, i'm not a guy... but I hope you don't mind me putting in my two cents here.
First off, do not try pushing your tooth everyday kinda hard. It is not wise, won't help and you may end up doing some real damage. If you want that tooth straight I advise seeing a dentist or an orthodontists about it.
Then you shouldn't be afraid to show who you are, you want a guy who is going to like you for you! So, avoiding talking won't show the guy who you really are. You somehow need to become comfortable in your on skin, i'm not saying it will be easy but become more accepting of yourself and your confidence will grow... and let me tell you confidence is a major turn on for guys, they like girls who are confident. Well most do.
To get your teeth more white, there are some toothpastes that are designed to specifically make teeth whiter. I can't think of anything you can do at home... just keep brushing! And again seeing a dentist maybe they can suggest something...
And lastly, as I said i'm not a guy, but I don't think guys stare constantly at the teeth. I think you do it because you are self-conscious about your own teeth, so you worry more that other people do it.
Relax, and try and sort this out one step at a time. I still suggest seeing a dentist if this keeps bothering you.
Hope this helped! :)
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im 13 and a girl.
so i met this guy on myspace. he is my friend's best friend ex-boyfriend and he still likes her. i like him and i dont know why. my friends tell me i should stop talking to him because her still likes that girl amanda and told her he wants to finger her while making out with her.But i like talking to him and i dont how to stop talking to him and he says ily to like evry girl???should i stop talking to him and forget him?? (link)
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This guy sounds like bad news! I would suggest just staying friends with him, entering in a relationship with this guy is not wise. (I know this is probably not what you want to hear)But the fact that he is saying ILY you to everyone just shows that he is out to get what he wants and will do anything to get it. I know you can't help who you like but you can help moving on... any way I know this is said a lot... but you are only 13, you are young and there will be lots of other guys you will end up liking and probably better than this one. So for now cut your losses!
Go have fun with friends! Worry about boys later!
Hope this helped!
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Hi,
I really need some advice!
I met Claire two years ago, we became really good friends! We both had problems with our partners at the time (hers much, much worse than mine) so we confided each other and helped each other through it.
My boyfriend at the time really idolized her Husband (he's famous in the motor industry)I actually contacted them when I found out that he lived down the street. My boyfriend told me weeks before he'd seen this guy round town and was really star struck by him. I wrote a letter inviting them to a surprise birthday party for my boyfriend and left a present for their child. As I posted the letter they turned up and friendships were made from there..............................
As we were all English and in a new country we bonded really well. My boyfriend changed he started becoming a complete idiot and kissed her Husbands arse! Nobody could belive how much my boyfriend had changed, me especially. Whom was this person? It got to the point where I didn't recognize him anymore he had changed he was imitating her Husband. I thought we had problems before he came on the scene it was nothing compared to what was to follow. Their friendship was a big problem in our relationship. I got to the lowest point after being bullied and treated like crap for months, my health was bad and I lost allot of weight. Claire would tell me to leave him, I thought it was a faze and he would return to normal and realize he had been a complete idiot after all we had a great relationship for 18 month until this point.
He gave me HPV and I forgave him, and forgive him putting off my much needed surgery (as I said-my lowest point)for his needs. When I went to the doctors he diagnosed with Strep due to stress I ended the relationship that day, he was the only stress I had, I finally come to my senses! Claire could not belive the change in me, I was back to my old self not the dithering mess I'd become.
Not too long after my split Claire became that dithering mess, he bullied her in every sense of the way she was a wreck when I last saw her and so was their child. I had never seen her so low, wow! She had become the same person I was. We talked for hours and I told her she has to do what's best for her and her daughter. She wasn't eating, sleeping, she was a mess! She suspected him cheating. They went back to England and went to Counseling and things seemed to get a little better. They had good days and bad days though mostly bad which was a huge improvement to all bad. That's the way Claire seen it anyway.
My boyfriend at the time told me a secret about two months into our friendship with Claire he told me that Steve had been sleeping with lots of woman before he married (Claire had been with him for seven years before they married). I was in shock though not really, he had passed some choice comments in front of me and was a very, very arrogant man. The more Kathryn and I got close and accused him of having affairs the more I thought about the secret. Should I tell her? Should I forget it? I have told a friend before about her boyfriend cheating and lost her. So I felt like a liar, a cheat and now selfish. I chose to put it to the back of my mind. The sad thing about it is that if Claire knew it was happening to me she would tell me, I guarantee! I have trusted her with thing I haven't told any other soul as she has me. She told me things that if I repeated would destroy her Marriage. That's how strong of a friendship we have and how much trust we have in each other.
Claire is back in England with her husband, she just found out she is pregnant with her second child.(one of there biggest problems when I met them, she wanted another, he didn't)
I got a Voicemail from Claire this morning, she was really upset and said that she caught her husband in a very compromising situation last week. He left her and told everybody that he's left her as she is annoying him!?!?!? I know if he wants to get back with her he will manipulate the situation and she will belive him and makeup excuses for him, she justify's his usual behavior with depression, stress, and the latest Bi Polar disorder. I just think he's a narcissistic nasty excuse for a man whom treats his wife and daughter like crap.
My problem is I really don't know what to do I have been racked with guilt for the last year now and with the present situation I'm leaning toward telling her so she can finally rid him from her and her child's life. They both deserve much, much more. I really don't know what to do? I don't know if I'm being selfish by telling or I'm trying to rid myself of the guilt. I know it will hurt her allot, does she need to know?
Because of who he is I can't talk to anyone about this? Please, please help
Should I tell her or bury it again and live with the guilt?
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I think you should tell her,it will be good for you and her! Her confidence right now is probably low as her husband is blaming her for leaving,she probably does feel at fault for the marriage failing she needs to know that it is not her fault that he is the one in the wrong and she should leave him and give her and her daughter a better life, she already found him in a compromising position...That in itself is a queue to leave him and start a better life for her children.
Then she might be upset that you didn't tell her earlier, but just explain why you didn't want to, tell her you were scared you would loose her. Make it abundantly clear that you are there for her and that she is better off with out him.
Good luck!
I sincerely hope this works out!
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hey! this may be a long story. and knowing that I dont particularly like reading short novels as questions as a columnist myself, ill try to keep it short.
ok, so there's this guy who I go to school with. He's funny, in a lame sort of way, but kind of cute. I mean he's no teen heartthrob overflowing with charm but he's kinda sweet =) so everyone in the grade claim they can see how much he's in love with me. I mean I guess you could call it "flirting" but I'm not exactly sure the term for what he does. He picks me out in the crowd and stuff like that, but its not in like a mature-teenagerish way, it's more in a kiddish i'll poke you because I like you kind of way. I'm his friend, and he says he doesn't like me when I ask him. He says I'm just his really good friend. But it doesn't exactly seem like I'm his really good friend to other people and sometimes to me. I'm not sure if that exactly makes sense but that's the best I can explain it. All of my friends and so he tells me, his friends, say that we like eachother, but i don't like him. Last year when I really thought that he liked me I kind of started to like him too.What do I do?
Can you tell me how to
A. get him to really tell me he likes me if he does which it seems like.
or B. figure out the situation so I can get over this big wall surrounding our friendship
From one advice-giver to another, help please! thanks in advance
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Ok! I really don't see a way you can get him to tell you if he likes you, you have already asked him and the thing is if he wanted you to know he'd tell you. Then please stop listening to what everyone else is saying or thinks. My friend was in the same situation where everyone told her her good guy friend liked her, but he actually just saw her as a friend and she ended up getting hurt. Just listen to yourself, you seem to know him well, so sooner or later you will pick up on if he does or doesn't like you.
Right now he wants to be your friend so I suggest that you don't dwell on if he likes you or not, and just be his friends. If the times come and he says he likes you and you don't feel the same about him then just explain to him that you see him as a good friend.
Right now just be happy and be his friend he said he doesn't like you, so don't stress there isn't really a wall surrounding your friendship.
I hope everything works out!
good luck! :)
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Hi, im dating my ex again. We dated for about 7 months last time. And well, towards the end of our last relationship it was almost like we werent compatiable, fighting about stuff that was just dumb. And this time, its basically the same stuff. I wanted to be with him so much, but i think the dream of it is better than reality. He gets mad if i hang out with other guys, and most of my friends are guys. And i just dont know what to do, i tried to get it through his head that this is going to ruin us, but he just doesnt know what to do, and im the same way.
Help?
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First you should talk to him about it, tell him that if the fighting carries on its going to ruin the relationship and talk to him about getting cross at when you hang out with guys, see if you can work passed it but talking to each other and coming up with some sort of solution.
If that doesn't work, and you both still picks fights for smalls things, it could simply mean that you have outgrown each other and its time to end the relationship. As you said it could be the fact that the dream of being with him is much better than the reality.
Best of luck!
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I am very confused. It is so much harder to get over a guy that I went out with for 14 days (only saw 3 or 4 days) than it did to get over a guy I dated for 8 months. I don't understand it?!?!?
I'm 13 almost 14 and a girl. (link)
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I think its because with the guy you went out for for 14 days maybe you liked him more than you knew, and with the other guy you were with him for a long time so i think when you split you knew it was better because you were with him for so long, but with the 14 day guy you only knew him for a short period and you like him and all of a sudden its over.
Give it time you will get over him.
Best of luck.
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There's this guy at my school...and we both know OF eachother but we've never directly spoken to eachother. I've had a crush on him for about a year...and then summer came and I went TWO MONTHS without seeing him, trying to get him out of my head! ...before, I was obsessed..like I would go out of my way to see him and I would stutter and do embaressing stuff; it was horrible. I would visit his facebook page (but not the full page, bc I wasn't his friend) every hour...I was OBSESSED. Over the summer, I didn't see him..and you would think that I would get over this stuff school girl crush..but it didn't! I thought about him EVERYDAY. Is that STRANGE that I'm thinking about a guy I barely know everyday and crushing on him intensely? What is wrong with me?! Now, school's started again, and I find myself DRAWN to him again...he's had NUMEROUS girlfriends and meanwhile, I've had none..Infact, I think he has one right now! We don't speak..but I think I like him for what he SEEMS to be..which is pretty darn hot. Can someone help me and tell me why my obsession won't DIE? Everytime I feel sad, I NEED to see him..he's like my drug..he makes me laugh without even knowing it. I'm insane, aren't I? (link)
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Ok, let me start off by saying you cant help who you are attracted to. You can try and suppress it all you want but it will just keep coming back up until you are truly over him.
I think you are first and foremost attracted to the way he looks, which is fine, but you also seem to like the way he is. There are two things you can do.
First, try start talking to him if you have any classes with him maybe start off by asking a work related question and then take it from there. Start talking to him and you never know where things can lead to. You just might end up being friends or more. And if you find that when you talk to him you don't actually like his personality well then it should be really is to forget about him.
Or you can simply tell yourself to stop what you are doing, stop yourself from going to his face book page, and start finding other stuff that makes you happy when you are sad. Go out with your friends. You'll find that slowly your life will be filled with other things to occupy your mind and he wont feature that often. It will take a bit of time to stop yourself being drawn to him but it can be stopped.
Oh and you are not insane! Far from it! I've been exactly where you are!And it does not matter that you haven't had any boy friends, when the time is right you will have one and you'll be surprised by just how easy (and nerve wrecking in a good way) it is to have a boyfriend.
Good luck!
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we have been together for over a year, me and my boy. my boyfriend is basically the most popular boy in school, good looking, active and sweet. me, im active but i'm not a geek nor popular. i'm just you know, average. i'm not really skinny or really fat, and i'm not gorgeous or ugly either. anyways we were talking today about our ex boy/girl friends and parties we have attended && such. so then he was telling me, "at parties i would always be flirting with a hot girl and in like five minutes making out with them" then that kinda ticked me off, but it's true. before he was with me, i went to same partys with him and he could/did. i'm not gonna lie i've made out at parties too but not like in five minutes and stuff. so i went home and i guess i'm kinda jealous of him. the thing is though, he loves me, and i mean alot, why else would he go out with a flat chested girl for more then a year. dont get me wrong, i love him too. but since he told me that i guess i'm just jealous, jealous of all the girls that have ever kissed him, and when i kissed him goodbye, in my mind all i could think about was all those girls who have touched his lips. basically, how can i get over this, jealousy i have? opinons or comments are appreciated =/ (link)
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Those girls he kissed were all in his past and they obviously meant nothing to him, and you obviously do mean a lot to him seeing as you have been together for a year. You just have to come to peace with the idea that that was his past and it doesn't make any difference to who he is now.
Its never easy finding out about your boyfriends past and it is normal to feel jealous about it... but the bottom line is you don't have anything to be jealous about seeing as you are with him.
All you really can do now is accept it and move past it.
Best of luck, hope this helps.
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