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This is driving me insane.
Alright, so I'm 16, straight male, and my ex-girlfriend is still my normal friend (it lasted a a little more than a week). The reason we broke up was because she could never talk straight around me, and I wasn't into the relationship in the first place. I was hoping that I could learn to be if we went out for a little while. Before we went out, she introduced me to her best friend, and we became friends. So my ex is still into me and its getting annoying, she is always telling me stuff about how she still wishes we were going out and how much she still likes me. I'm not into it. I'm not sure, but subconsciously I think I like her best friend. I'm not the guy that would go after a relationship like that, but what I need help with is getting the point across, without making her cry or hurting her feelings, that we're over and its not gonna happen again so she'll stop annoying me.
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Ok, i'm going to tell you something, and I don't think you are going to like it much. But really there is no way to tell her something like this that won't hurt her. Just that the fact that you don't want to hurt her, though should make you feel a bit better.
I think the best thing is just to tell her. Just tell her you see her as a friend and that you don't want to get back into a relationship. You have to just tell her straight out to make this better. And also you only went out for like a week and a bit more. Really tell her it won't work out cause it didn't even work out in the start. Just say it in a nicer way :)
Also i'm just throwing in an observation here, but I think you do like the best friend. Because one it seems like you would enter into a relationship with her if you could and two you said subconsciously you might and that makes me believe that you actually do but you might now want to acknowledge that you do.
Any way by all means choose to ignore this!
I hope i helped! And good luck!
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Just tell her that you like her friendship and you don't want anything more from it. Tell her it's too valuable to lose due to wanting to be with one another. It ended for a reason, but did she know the reason? If she did then just remind her and let her know, you're not interested and that you're sorry. DON'T tell her that another girl is an option for you, unless she accepts a friendship and nothing more. But even then, give her some time to really take that in and adjust to that idea before letting her know you're interested in someone, especially her friend that SHE had introduced you to. If she can't accept it, leave her alone. Do your own thing until she understands that it's friendship or nothing.
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