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So my girlfriend lost feelings for me, but still loves me so much, she tells me shes trying to get her feelings back, but for now, it hurts her when she knows shes hurting me.

Like, she feels really bad when I be nice to her and tell her I still love her despite her losing her feelings. I do admit, I spoiled her with love. We both want to fix our relationship. So we decided to take a 2 week break, so her feelings might come back when she experiences life without me. But we dont know what to do during a break...like do we still text or call? (Its a long distance relationship, 4 months in) what do we have to do during the break?

(Do's and don'ts will we helpful) (link)
Honestly, when I was young, I said the kinds if things she said when I cared about a friend, knew I had a good catch, but the attraction just wasn't there. Don't try to contact her, but don't let her keep you on the hook, either. "A break" without any clearly-defined goal isn't usually super useful. Being apart to stop drinking, organize your hoarding problem, climb a mountain, get some peace, focus on school, something with a personal goal attached I understand, but, more likely, you're way more into it than she is, and she likes the attention and spoiling, but she wants to see if something else, maybe something local, will work out, and if it doesn't, she'll want your attention on standby.

I could be wrong, but either way, she holds all the cards in your relationship. I'm not advocating power plays or pick-up artist nonsense, I'm just saying don't beg, step back and wait for her or someone else to be as interested as you are, and to show you the respect and affection you really want in a partner.


So, I am on vacation for my brother's birthday... My mom brought her computer for us to use, and I had just installed some software and drivers for a project two days ago. Then, earlier today, she restored her computer back a few days. I was going to attempt re-installing it from the recycle bin, which wasn't successful... But, upon this process I overcame a video entitled "Private Show" and, out of curiosity, I played it. And I thought the unexpected 2 hour drive to a monument was the worst part of this vacation... at least until I saw this video. I really don't know what to do... but I probably won't be able to sleep tonight. Please, I need some advice! (link)
Don't be so shocked that your mom has an interest in sex! How do you think you got here? Hopefully you stopped the video right away and can just focus in slow steady breathing and emptying your mind of unwanted images. It'll pass. Don't mention it to anyone, it's nobody's business, just like it wasn't yours. Now you know better than to be curious!


will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up (link)
I understand that facing the possibility of jail time is frustrating, but every time I've been in traffic court (often as moral support for a friend, but not always) driving on a suspended license gets maybe 30 days. Do you really believe there's no worthy life experience that might be worth 30 days of discomfort? Even if it's 60, or more, this isn't a life sentence. You also seem to be saying your disability payments might in some way be contingent on lawful behavior. If so, then consider this an opportunity. You are in a wheelchair. So what? You can *clearly* drive. You're capable of so many other things, I'm sure of it. This could be the opportunity to find a way to use your skills to help others. There is something you have to offer that can be of use to your community. I can understand why you would feel depressed when you're not being valued for the skills you can undoubtedly develop. You might want to find a support network for other people with similar disabilities. You can get ideas for what you could do for work and ideas on how to improve your life and get around the difficulties you've faced in new ways.

Traditionally, suicide isn't believed to be forgiven because the process for forgiveness requires confession, which can't take place if the suicidal person has already died. I tend to think that's a bit too cut and dried, that God understands what's in our hearts and knows our hurts. God knows what you've been through, and these trials are preparing you for an amazing work. I don't think you're as settled in your decision as you might have thought at first. You don't know what may happen at court and you still care what God thinks. You know that the Bible teaches that you were made by God for a special purpose. You have skills and intelligence and humor that can be a great blessing to someone else. Don't deprive that person of the blessing God has planned for them to receive through you. Please speak to someone who can interact with you as soon as you feel any urge to die, the national suicide hotline number is 800-273-8255. There's so much you can offer, please don't lose hope.


My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).

Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.

I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).

My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.

She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.

My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).

Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).

So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
Don't stay with your mom any more. If you go live with your dad, it might not be as bad, but if you're going to end up supporting him you'd be better off on your own. I'd suggest you start looking on craigslist for roomshares. You need a peaceful place to live, many of them are furnished. I don't know what part of the country you live in, but in the towns I've been in, there's usually something decent for less than $350 a month if you live in a house with a lot of people. I understand that's three weeks of your earnings and it won't let you with a lot left over. The good thing is you can establish yourself with a lower income as independent of your parents when you don't live with them, and my roommates have always become my best friends, and it sounds like you could use some friends.

When talking about losing everything you own, you might want to consider selling anything of value. You're going to need to be more financially liquid no matter what you do. Selling it on craigslist or eBay will get you a better price than a pawn shop. But a pawn shop is still better than getting hooked on credit card debt. You will probably need to apply for some line of credit to pay for some of your expenses while you're getting on your feet, but be extremely cautious and don't carry expenses couldn't pay off within 3 months.

Another rooming situation that might earn you more money would be as some kind of live-in caretaker. There may be a family that would pay you to stay with their children or aging parent. It might be worth a pay cut to have your room and board taken care of. And it would cut down on travel expenses.

Opportunities are out there, and there are people who will be glad to have you around as a roommate or a caretaker. Best of luck.


Hi! Is there anything wrong with imitation sunglasses? i mean, do the fake ones hurt your eyes or anything? I want to buy a pair but they are too expensive for a teenager! Any help? Thanks! (link)
There are tons of inexpensive sunglasses that block UV, but it's important, regardless of the brand, to make sure the ones you buy really do filter the UV, because the shade offered with sunglasses that don't cause your pupils to dialate and the open pupil will let in more harmful UV than if you'd just gone without sunglasses and your pupils constricted.


15, female.
This guy and I are considered 'a thing', at the beginning of our thing, I made it clear I wanted a relationship. He wanted to wait a bit, until we were ready to be a couple. We have become really close, his family are like my second family but I have waited nearly 7 months now..I confronted him about my dislike for the situation as it has been 7 months and we aren't dating.. He said he had nothing to say about it. At the end of the school day, he didn't even bother saying goodbye to me, when we always do. He avoided me that night. Then today I sent him a message, telling him that I was upset by the way he treated me. He replied saying something along the lines of 'You are desperate, I don't want a relationship'. well maybe if he just said that at the beginning and didn't lead me on and tell me he loved me all time then that would be fine, but no. Its like we have broken up when we weren't even dating.. What should i do?! Ignore him? Talk to him on monday, sort things out? Or am i the one in the wrong? (link)
He's probably telling the truth when he says he doesn't want a relationship. It seems like you've been pushing for something he really may not be ready for. Even if if you're close to him and his family, and everything is good from your perspective, you need to respect that he is only looking for something more casual. If you want a real relationship, you may have to go elsewhere, but if he's very important to you, you might be better off going his speed.

There's no rush to be in a relationship. You can care about him and be young and enjoy important friendships with guys without an intense coupling and you may learn more about what you like and have a larger network of friends. All my friends who had intense boyfriends in high school regretted it because they spent so much time on that intense level with one person that they didn't have memories of other friends, activities, adventurers...they spent hours in hallways being jealous and fighting. Look closely at the other people in your school in longer-term relationships and whether or not they're really enjoying themselves on a day to day basis.


My boyfriend and I are in our mid-twenties and have been together for almost 2 years. One day about 4 months ago, I got a very weird feeling, like instinctively I knew something wasn't right. He left his phone in the kitchen while he was in the bedroom taking a nap. I tried not to let myself stoop so low as to go through his phone, but I couldn't take it any longer and gave in. I found messages to 2 other girls. He was being very flirty with them, saying things like "we should hang out soon" and telling them how beautiful they were. I was so furious I packed my things and left, and drove a couple hours away to stay with a friend.

Up until that day, he had given me no reason not to trust him. I think I was having a moment of insecurity. We got back together a couple weeks after that, after I let him explain himself and I felt like he really did care about me. He said that he had only texted those girls after he had been drinking, which he knew wasn't as excuse, but his lapse in judgement would subside once morning came. And his excuse made sense; the texts would start late at night and end after just a few responses. He claimed it gave him an ego boost. I don't think he has ever actually cheated on me in the physical sense, but my feelings were still incredibly hurt.

When I decided to take him back, it was because I simply WANTED to be with him. We have so much fun together and rarely even fight... We have talked about marriage and other future plans. I felt in my heart that I could trust him and actually, our relationship has been better ever since. But lately I've started getting that bad feeling again. Many times I have wanted to snoop through his phone, but I have refrained. When we got back together, I promised myself I would not throw his past mistakes back in his face. Clean slate.

I want so badly to put these thoughts behind me since he has been so good to me, but I'm having trouble forgetting the past. I want to communicate with him and tell him how I'm feeling, but I don't want him to think that I'll never be able to get over the past. How do I resolve these feeling of insecurity and mistrust without discouraging him? (link)
He cares about you and he's good to you, both of those things seem to be totally true. Is that enough for you? Would you be satisfied with the relationship if he were good to you, cared for you, AND sent flirty texts to other women? Because if so, it's better not to know, don't go through his phone, tell yourself it's fine. But if any continued texting would hurt your feelings and make you feel insecure, then it is important that he not do that, and since his actions were a breach of your trust, he needs to earn it back by giving you access to his phone freely. I don't think going through each other's phones is stooping low at all when you're in the process of building trust again. I caught a boyfriend doing something similar when drunk and when I took him back, it was after a complete drinking haitus that lasted 90 days and absolute, unfettered access to his phone for as long as it took for me to feel okay. Maybe that's extreme, but he didn't do it again, and he proved that he loved me by making sacrifices and showing he was trustworthy.

I'm not going to advise you to ignore your gut if it says something is wrong still. It's not about getting over the past if you have a feeling something is still going on.


You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre. (link)
Probably the act of turning it down after accepting had a good deal to do with management's decision. I would probably question an employee's interest after a move like that.

The HR manager might have really liked you, but her management, who probably didn't meet you, just saw you flip flopping and asking for more money and didn't think it worth their time.


ok, so thats me, the one with the girl hating my guts. I couldnt log into my account, so i had to reset amd i just used a quick account, but, the girl (L) will crumple up my notes when i send them to her, and shes been pissed now for about 4 months. And is anerexsia really that serious? She needs professional help? :0 (link)
It's the mental illness with the highest mortality rate, so, yes, it can be rather serious.


I just read that garlic is "poison for the brain". Now I'm really confused because a lot of websites state, that garlic is good for you and provide good reasons, while other websites do the exact opposite.
Now is there a smart person on here, who could explain the truth? .__. (link)
This site breaks down the rumor that garlic is harmful and finds it wanting:
http://thenaturaladvocate.blogspot.com/2009/12/science-lesson-that-smells-like-garlic.html

There are no reputable scientific studies that show any harm from garlic to the brain. Garlic's increased blood flow is great for the brain, and populations that eat the most garlic (Mediterranean populations) have a lower risk of Alzheimer's and dementia:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16622828

The sites that have been telling you this aren't scientific or reputable, and I'd suggest not using them as a resource.


I've worn a sports bra all the time (most) for about 2 or 3 years. There isn't a reason, I just feel more comfortable that way. However, I came across something that said that wearing a bra all the time can cause cancer. I won't wear it all the time anymore now, but I'm scared that I could have breast cancer or that I will. Advice please! (link)
I've read explanations of this theory before; the idea has to do with metal in the underwire transmitting electromagnetic energy, so sports bras don't even fall under the type of bra that the followers think would cause cancer. It's a fringe theory, however, that isn't widely accepted by scientists or supported by good data or published in any reputable journals. Regardless, create a regular breast healt routine; look up how to do a monthly breast self-exam to check for lumps or changes in the breast tissue. If you find anything you're suspicious of, ask your doctor to evaluative your breasts.


I'm almost 20 and when I was 18 I tried an online sugar baby/daddy site that I paid $26/month for about 3 months.I wound up getting a lot of messages but I didn't get very far into anything because at the time I still lived with my Mom and was too shy to follow through or even drive around the city let alone to another city to meet some stranger.

I'm in a failing relationship now and I think I'm just done with it for a while.

I'd like to try my hand at becoming a sugar baby.

The thing is I'm not this silly whorish teen, I'm very intellectual so I'm not the bubbly idiot type it seems like men look for. I've also only ever had sex with one guy who knows nothing beyond the basics and I'm not really comfortable with having sex with a stranger on the first night and that seems to be prevalent in the stories I'm reading from sugar babies.


I'm also worried because I could never tell any of my religious family what I was doing and all of my friends live out of town now. I don't want to go out with some guy and vanish forever and have nobody notice until I'm already dead...


Other than my obvious fears I think it sounds like something I would like to try out because I'd really like the cultural experiences that come with traveling and going out to events that I otherwise would never be invited too. I'm not going to lie I'd also really love to own something that was real gold and a few pairs of designer shoes.

I work really hard right now (full time) and cover all of my own bills and have an apartment, car, ect so I have a great work ethic but I'm still not making the amount of money I'd like to have and I'll honestly never be able to afford real education as I don't qualify for much financial aid being a middle class white woman and all my money goes to my bills. I also don't fancy an 80k education loan that will shadow me my whole life.

I've been working since I was 16 and I'd really like a break and I'd like to chance to live it up while I'm young. I don't want to wait until I'm 80 to have a little fun I want it now and I'm tired of working endlessly for little pay off and the stories I'm reading those girls get 8k a month which something I couldn't even fathom just for going out for a few nights with some guy and being pretty arm candy. I could do that. I know it sounds superficial but come on it's easy work right? I would never tell anybody either so nobody would know me as a whore or any such thing.

I'd really like to at least give it another go but what are some things I really need to think about before trying it?





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Wealthy men are often educated and would prefer intellectual companions, so don't change yourself. And don't ever pay for a sugar daddy site--they're the ones with money, so if anyone should be paying, it's them! If all you want is a wealthy older boyfriend, go where wealthy older men hang out: boat shows, political fundraisers, strip clubs, high-end restaurants, whatever the most expensive places are in your area. You could also get a job at one of those places so you have a lot of opportunities to interact, and you'll be making money in the meantime, because the hard part about being a sugar baby is tactfully handing over your bills. That takes a long time to do properly (unless you're engaging in a simple sex transaction), and after lots of time invested in a potential sugar daddy, he could be offended and not want that kind of relationship--kind of like how you don't want a sexual relationship.

Look at it from the guy's perspective. You don't have to have sex right away with a wealthy boyfriend (or any boyfriend, most guys respect a woman who clearly sets boundaries, older guys more so), but let's be realistic, very few guys are looking for arm candy, there's a whole other appendage they're thinking about when interested in a woman. The women who are making $8k a month for a few dates (very rare, most are probably exaggerating or giving you their best month) are having sex with their sugar daddies. If you just look to date an older wealthy man whom you actually like to be around and are attracted to, that might be more your speed with your sexual inexperience and comfort. You don't necessarily have to be exclusive, but if you want to be treated with respect as a human with feelings and not a sex toy, don't treat the other feeling human as a walking was of cash.

Though FYI: You could get half a guy's net worth and not have sex with him if you became his ex wife instead! (LOL)



I'm thinking of starting schooling in Dental Assisting at a local community college, they offer a 2 year degree and also a diploma.
Does anyone know what the advantages to getting the degree over the diploma would be? Because the diploma is so much cheaper....
Thanks in advance! (link)
Check out the job you want first! If you know you want to be a dental assistant, ask who is hiring and then ask if they'll hire someone with just the diploma. It might be good to make sure recent grads are being hired with just the diploma. Ask around and see who knows people who finished the program. See if they wished they'd gotten the degree (or vice versa). If you can get the same job for less money, go for the cheaper option.

Most likely the diploma is just the coursework specific to the DA field only, whereas the degree probably has general ed requirements that can be used to complete a bachelors or associates that can be used as a stepping stone for further education (a bachelors degree is required for admission into a masters, professional, or doctoral program, for instance). If you could later apply the diploma coursework to a degree if you change your mind on what you want to do, you wouldn't be losing anything by going for the diploma first.


Im going to be a freshman in college an i wannted a small portable transportation such as a penny board. My safe net is a scooter but I wanted to learn something new. I have no experuence whatsoever with skateboards although i know how to ride a scooter. My wuestion is should i get the penny board? (link)
Check reviews from people who have bought these for a sense as to whether most people like riding them or are glad they bought them. There's no reason you can't learn, and you clearly want to (you've asked this question multiple times!). Look online for tips and just try it!


It so hard for me to talk about these questions to people in person, mainly because I'm worried everyone will think I'm crazy. I totally feel like I'm going completely nuts, but there's something I can't get my mind off of.

Does anyone here believe testimonies of people who claim to have been to Heaven or Hell? I didn't really in the past, but there are these two girls who claim to have been taken on by Jedus on tours of hell and came back to tell about it. They both say some of the same things, like that they saw Michael Jackson there and children who watched cartoons.

The thing is that these girls messages may actually come from satan, or they may be making their stories up for whatever reason. Regardless, they are causing people to have intense fear about their eternity. They're making salvation seem impossible.

Some of what they say seems extremely random. Like, "Oh, God doesn't like blondes, God doesn't like people who own Chihuahuas, God doesn't like people who drive Ford's." They don't actually say those things, but that's how bad it can seem. Like we're all unknowingly doing things that can get a person sent to Hell. Like no one can know that they're doing anything that will condemn them later. Like we're all doomed and God tries to make salvation as hard as possible.

When one girl was giving her testimony, I thought to myself that if some of what she was saying was true, it didn't seem as if God could be the loving, gracious, and just God that some believe that he is. I know better than to believe that though. I know better than to think that he is a cruel God who likes to see people go to Hell and who makes salvation practically impossible.

I feel like God states everything you are and aren't supposed to do in the Bible, but some of these people say that you can get sent to Hell for things that the Bible doesn't mention and things that you'd never think of.

They claim that dying your hair, painting your nails, wearing makeup, and using perfume will keep you from having any hope of getting to Heaven, but my grandmother did all of these things and, at the risk of sounding crazier than I already do, I know she's in Heaven because she gives us this sign that she is and that she's watching us. I reject that these things will sent you to Hell.

The last reason I don't believe them is because their stories seem to contradict the Bible. For example, they say that they were taken to Hell and brought back to warn people, but doesn't the Bible say that if someone doesn't already believe, they still won't even if somebody comes back from the dead to tell them? Also, one girl sounds very high and mighty and says that God made her responsible for saving people, but isn't Jesus the only one who can save you?

There are plenty of other inconsistencies, but the majority of people seem to believe them. It seems like most people don't believe Colton Burpo, Alex Malarkey, or people like that, but they wholeheartedly believe these people. They say, "I don't see why any real Christian would feel the need to question this." Even though the Bible TELLS us to test these things. It's like people don't want to hear nice stories that give you hope,they only want to hear terrifying ones that make you feel hopeless.

I guess my question is am I right not to believe any of this? And also how do you KNOW you're going to Heaven?

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You're not crazy at all. The Bible instructs believers to test messages that people claim are from God. You have a responsibility to question tnem. What these girls say is completely inconsistent with the Bible and with logic. Why would God allow a breed of dog or a shade of hair to be created only to be destroyed in hell? These girls are either saying these things because they are desperate for attention or because they have some kind of imbalance. Be compassionate toward them for being foolish or confused and you will receive compassion.

People who are 100% honest with themselves will admit that there isn't any absolute way to know exactly what happens when we die, that's the role of faith. It's not easy, even Jesus on the cross felt God had forsaken Him. If it were for us to know, there would be concrete proof, but we have to use teachings, inspiration, and reason to do right regardless of whether or not we can be assured of a reward. What you believe in your heart about a loving, just God will guide you to correctly reject their foolishness.


I am in a four year relationship. My boyfriend is 23 and I'm 21. So I've found that I don't really enjoy the sex, I suppose I don't really like the feeling. He tries to satisfy me everytime, I only seem to orgasm through stimulation. I don't want to tell my boyfriend this, that would hurt his feelings, sometimes I do wish we didn't have to do it so often, because we do, almost everytime we see each other and this is worrying as I do see a future with him. What could be causing this feeling? (link)
It's not at all unusual to have orgasms through clitoral stimulation only. If that's what you need every single time, that's not too much to ask, he gets penile stimulation every time because that's what works for him, and you have as much right to sexual satisfaction in an encounter as he does. And his feelings shouldn't be hurt; just because your body expresses pleasure at one kind of stimulation and not another is not in any way an indictment of his ability as a lover. You can also have him stimulate your clit during penetration, or you can do it yourself, those are all great. The important thing is to know what it is that you like. Experiment alone and get to know your body, feel all the pleasure your physical self can offer, and get to know the eroticism of your mind. What fantasies work for you--do you want him to dominate you? Do you feel attractive when you pretend you're strangers hooking up in a bar? Maybe a romance novel scenario with sexy historical costumes? Once you know what feels best, then you need to communicate what feels satisfying to you. He wants you to be satisfied, so tell him what works for you in a matter of fact way, and don't worry about it hurting his feelings. If he gets self conscious that he was "doing it wrong" reassure him that you're discovering new things about your sexuality and you want him to try them with you. Open communication is so necessary for a future in any relationship! Say what you want, it's the only way to get it.

There are other possible factors--hormonal (some birth control and other drugs lower libido), emotional (depression, history of abuse, physical (not getting enough exercise or eating well can lower the sex drive and maybe how sexy and energetic you feel), and if those might be at play, they should be addressed, because they can get in the way of your overall happiness.

The last possibility could be simply a mismatch of sex drives. No couple is going to be in synch 100% of the time, so it could be a temporary shift, but if your stable preference when feeling at your physical, emotional, and hormonal best is to have considerably less sex than he wants, that may be something to consider when evaluating the future. I've been in relationships with people who need more or less sex, and having similar speeds really makes things easier. Being similar in backgrounds and lifestyle preferences in general makes relationships easier, but sex is a special case if you're looking for a monogamous long term relationship, because the expectation is that you are only getting this need met from each other. You don't want a lifetime of begging, going through the motions, and resentment on both sides, so similar sex drives in monogamous relationships are important.

Good luck!


do straght men like there ass lcked,or can he be gay (link)
Enjoying anal stimulation does not mean anything about sexual orientation one way or another.


My boyfriend and I are 17, and we’ve been dating a little over 5 months. Before then, we were strangers. After about the first three months, we've argued almost everyday, sometimes more than once. He is very insecure, jealous, overdramatic, inconsiderate, and he is my exact opposite. Even his brother has told us that before. Our ways of thinking clash... a lot. Sometimes I feel like I'm being used. yada yada yada. We break up often, and a lot of times I don't mean it, but he'll pressure me into doing it by telling me to, or constantly asking if we're done until I break and tell him yes. I used to not mean it, but lately I've wanted it to do it for good. I've seen a completely different side of him, and it isn't good. I just can't imagine marrying him while our relationship is like it is. We are too different, and we think different. How will that work if we have kids? Well, every time I break up with him, he'll start crying and apologizing, saying he wants to kill himself (one time he actually cut his wrist in front of me) So, I give him, because he seems like he will really change, until the next day we're fighting again. I do love him, and I can't imagine not having him in my life, but I can hardly take it anymore. What can I do? The future scares me. (link)
This sounds like my first boyfriend. I know it's hard to imagine not having him in your life, but he's not going to let you just be friends, and perish the thought you just get guilted into staying with him in perpetuity when you know it isn't the future you want for yourself! You know this drama is not how you want to live out the rest of your life, when you could instead have a partner who is your friend and lets you be yourself.
Mandolin is right, you know it has to end sooner or later. You can do it the hard, slow way, or just get it over with before it gets worse. If he's willing to slit his wrists, it seems foreseeable he'd be willing to slash his condoms to keep you, for example. Make a clean break and be done with it. It's hard, absolutely, but dragging it out doesn't make it easier


hey so the song I'm trying to find starts at the last 1:30 of the video. I've been searching all morning!! please help! https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KYMZlvfB9Pg (link)
I did a google search of the lyrics and didn't find the same song either, try asking the creator of the video!


i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance. (link)
There is no category "known as virgin slut/whore." There are women who choose to go as far as they want to go, and if it's not penetration, it's virginity. Four blow jobs isn't slutty, if by slutty you mean indiscriminate, when you consider she had 40 opportunities to go further, and it's not whoring when money wasn't exchanged--you said her motivation was that she was horny and she wanted to exchange sexual favors. She's a virgin who happens to have had more experience than you feel is appropriate, that does not make her a slut or a whore, and it doesn't make it okay for you to label her.

It's okay that you want to be with someone who holds values more similar to your own; you're definitely not meant to be with a woman whom you feel it's ok to call a slut. If you don't respect how she chooses to live (especially since you believe she still lives that way, even if a year abroad will supposedly impose boundaries on her, she clearly seems to find those restrictive), there's no good basis for a respectful relationship, and you shouldn't stake a claim on her or her choices. There are women who share your values, and there are men who will respect her choices, let each other go.

PS: never fear what someone might tell you about her past! Since this is obviously very important to you, find out early on! If you can't deal with what she's done, then you both know where you stand and you can let her go. Maybe as you get older, this will matter less to you or this woman or one like her will become more conservative, but as you are now won't work.




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