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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.
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I love this friend to death, but lately I can't really tell if we are actually "friends" anymore. She completely ignores me on long intervals, and then decides to talk to me again when it's convenient. Next year she's going off to college so I probably won't see her very much, even though we are neighbors. Is this "friendship" worth it?
It's worth it to talk to her about the way you've been feeling. It's important in any friendship or relationship to hear each other out. This way, you can tell where the friendship stands, and if it happens to go back, you can gather closure on it.
If telling her how you feel is a lost cause, and doesn't change things for the better, then it wouldn't be fair to pretend anymore.
Friendship is a tricky concept to some people. You shouldn't have to deal with a part-time friend who's there at their own convenience.
Good luck.
i have gotten into that pattern again. its terrible. i go to sleep at four or five in the morning and then i wake up at three pm. its disgusting. i just want to sleep but i can't. all i do is lay in bed and wish i could fall asleep. i've been a bit depressed. i also sleep a lot better when i say goodnight to my boyfriend. is there anything i can do to help me fall asleep?
Hi there!
It's a matter of breaking the habit at all costs. You can take tylonel PM-- or if you're more comfortable with natural products, try Valerian or Calmeral[both available in GNC and other Vitamin shops]
As for your depression, there's exercises you can do at night time when you're trying to fall asleep. For example, don't get your mind excited by watching movies or video games. Your mind still stays attached to these things for a while after you're done seeing them. If there's issues between people in your life and you, save the confrontations for the morning. Sleep is almost impossible when you're worried about relationships and friendships.
Try building a scene in your head that relaxes you. A beach, forest, dessert, lake, field.. anything. Imagine a dumpster that you can place your problems into one by one. As you picture each problem, explain to yourself why it needs to be in there. If it comes back into your head anytime during this process, keep putting it back until it stops. When you're done, shut the dumpster, lock it, and push it out of your head.
You should be fairly relaxed at this point. When you are, start with your feet, tense the muscle for 5 seconds, and stop for 3. Do that 5 times. Then work your way up to your lower legs, tense for 5 seconds, release for 3, then do it again 4 more times. Keep it going through your thighs, tummy, chest, shoulders, arms, and all the way to your fingers. Half the time I fall asleep before I even get to my stomach.
Take care, and if this persists, see someone about it. Maybe you should look into an anti-depressant.
okay so my parents don't think this is anything serious but im worried about it
on my lower back on my spine theres like 3 what looks like bruises, they don't hurt or anything i have had them for a while i think it might be from sitting in my computer chair to much? but i have no idea there just really ugly and i don't know what they are, how i got them and how i should get rid of them.. does anyone no or have heard of anything like this?
Anytime there is a discoloration of your skin, it's more than just mandatory to see a doctor. Although it's probable that this could be nothing serious, the chance could still exist.
There's many illness and diseases that are related to bruising that stays for more then 2 weeks. Some are more serious than others, but it's best to have your condition looked at by a professional to avoid complication, and worry.
It'll ease your mind to know what exactly is going on. Explain this to your parents. Tell them you're genuinely concerned because these bruises have been there for some time now, and having them looked at it just the most knowledgeable thing to do.
Good luck.
I am absolutely in love with this kid john. He is literally the love of my life and I thought he felt the same about me but I was wrong. I offically asked him out about two months ago and he turned me down but told me there was still a chance. For the past few months he hasnt said 2 words to me. Does he hate me now?
No. He's scared of you. He probably feels pretty bad about turning you down and doesn't want to lead you on any further.
This happened to me once. I liked a guy so much, but what I had to offer wasn't enough. I did the same thing, got rejected, and he didn't speak to me for months. Actually, almost a full year. Then one day I bumped into him, and it turned out that he realized what a mistake he made, but was too afraid to confront me because he felt so bad about turning me down in the first place. We ended up together, and stayed together.
Your best bet is to try and talk to him. Not about what happened or about being your boyfriend, either. Just talk. You must have been friends before, so just ask why you can't try and rekindle a friendship again. See where that goes.
I know how hard it is to just walk up to a guy and ask him what's been going on. So it might be in your favor to ask him outside of school. Via text, email, phone call. Any way to get him on his most personal level, is the way you want to get him.
Good luck, and I'm here if you need anything further.
There's this kid I like but I don't know if he likes me or not. He's hot, funny, and popular. The problem is that I've never talked to him at school, only thru texts. He's a little out of my league if we're in front of people, but otherwise he's pefect for me. I've even heard 100's of rumors that he likes me. What's going on between us?
The best way to figure out what exactly is going on, is to ask him. You don't want to see desperate or way to into him when you do this though-- just in case you like him more than he likes you.
My advice is to jokingly bring up what everyone around you is saying. Text him ands be like.. "Damn, all these people keep saying there's something between us".. from there, you'll have to judge his reaction. If he jokes back, assume that he's aware of the rumors, and that maybe he's okay with what people are saying.
From his reaction to that, you can learn a lot-- and you'll be able to tell what is going through his head.
If you can't evaluate his response enough-- send it to me, and I can help debunk it for you.
Take care.
[[ i\'m a 13 year old girl in middle school ]]
okay. so, i like this guy named jack. and a while ago i wrote something in his truth box on myspace that said \'you need to grow your hair out again. it looked much hotter not buzz cut. youre really hott but a jerk. and pretty funny but still mean.\'
because hes really hott, but a jerk to everyone. well the next day at school in first block, he said something to me about a truth box but i couldnt hear him so i was just like \'whatt?\' and he just said ask me in second block. but i forgot about that so i couldnt. then when i was looking at this other guy\'s profile, i saw that jack had commented him and said \'hey i think hailey wrote in my truth box that im hot but mean. whats up?\' and so then i commented jack and was like \'i did nott write anything in your truth box. i dont know what youre talking about!\' but then i looked at the comment that he wrote in respond to my message in the truth box which was \'ya i no i neeed to be nicer and sorry 4 wat ever i did to you yer right i am a jerk and im tryin to work on that if you dont mind tell me who this is\'. and i thought that was really sweet, so i commented it back \'i know that i said this wasnt me, but this is hailey.\' and he commented it back \'who is this\' and i said \'what do you mean? this is hailey\'. but then he commented it back \'okay i know this is one of your friends\'. then i commented it back \'jack i swear this is hailey. you can ask me anything that happens in first block or at lunch and i promise i\'ll know it.\' but he didnt comment back. then at this party on the last day of school i got one of my friends to ask him if he likes me and she said that he said no. so i was kinda upset and all, but then just thought whatever and acted like i didnt care even though i totally did. so i was grinding with all of these other hott guys and my other friend came and told me that jack looked sad so she asked him whats wrong and he said i dont know if hailey wants to grind with me. and i was really happy and all. so then jack came up to me and we started grinding for like two songs. then we didnt really talk anymore but i didnt exactly care because i was just happy that i grinded with him. then i went on vacation the next day for a week and when i got back i read something that he put in my truth box. it said \'sorry but i jus don\'t like you i meen you r pretty hot but i jus dont like your personality maybe next year though\'. i got really upset about this because i thought that he liked me. i commented it back \'its okay, i understand.
but just out of curiosity what about my personality do yu not like ?
thanks i guess. see yu next year.
\'. but he never responded and this was like a week ago. i dont even know if i like this guy, or if he likes me. i need to know whether or not whoever responds to this thinks that he really does like me or if i even like him.
thanks in advance !
It sounds like he was interested in liking you, when you were interested in other guys. He was probably excited over the idea of you thinking he was hott, and assumed you wouldn't go for other guys. Especially since he knows that he treats people wrong, and you were willing to see passed that. Maybe you liked the idea of cracking the mystery-- finding answers to why he is the way he is. Any girl can get fascinated by a good looking guy, so maybe that's all it was for you-- fascination. For him? Like I said, he probably liked the idea that you still saw something in him, even if he acts like a jerk.
Let him be. I'm not sure if he likes you or not-- but I am pretty sure that he likes the idea of you wanting him. Don't give him that luxury. Don't let him judge your personality, because he's not your boyfriend, or even your friend-- so it's not his business to. Also, who is he to judge your character, when he's been classified as a mean guy, and ADMITS to it? It's not worth it to be upset, you're better off. And for the record, I doubt he'll be worth it next year, too.
Maybe at that point, you should tell him that he's a judgmental person, and that YOU don't like that.
Keep your head high, if you can grind with any guy you want, then you should concentrate on other guys.
im dating a jerk, but ive known another guy in my school for about forever now, and i think i am starting to like him. i told him last night that i think i rlly do like him. because we always joke around about liking each other. things arent weird today in school.. but im still clueless on if i should follow through. lets call him jay he is a senior at my school, he is friendly, cute, jokester, amazingly funny, and the sweetest guy you could ever meet. But the catch is.. him and my best friend Bree were together a while ago they werent dating but they kissed and stuff. i dont think she would be mad at me yet im not so sure.. any advice would be lovellyyy
First things first: Get rid of the "jerk" boyfriend. He's just going to hold you down, and if you know it's not going anywhere, then you might as well end it and save some happiness for a new boyfriend who treats you better.
Second..one the break up is over, ask you friend. Don't make it seem like you're asking for permission, you don't need it. Just say that you like Jay, and you don't want to make her upset by dating him.
Once your debt is settled, go for this guy who sounds wonderful. Be happy. =)
kay so whats a mototrboat?
not like a boat with a motor
but i think its like a sex position or techinique
but i heard it over the weekend and..
i want to know what it is
help mee out?
please.
Motorboat is a sick term that people use that basically means having someone stick their face between a women's breast and shaking their head really fast.
Pretty sick, huh?
Ok, so at the end of June I'll be going to a metal festival, for three days :)
(I'm an insane metal fan :D )
The thing is that my period might fall on that weekend.
And I'm kinda worried.
I'm not camping so I can wash properly every night when I go home.
But the whole day there is worrying me.
I can't ask my mom to get the pill that stops it or whatever.
And I use tampons..
So any tips to stay clean from about 11am to 3am(as in 3am in the morning)
At grocery stores, in the tampon and pad aisle, they actually sell wipes made specifically for this kind of stuff.
I've been using them for a while, and it's just a moist clothes that will keep you clean. Use it every time you change your tampon and you should be good.
Have fun! =)
okay so when me and my boyfriend just make out and its gets....boring. lol. so is there anything that i could do to spice things up a bit?
Be more aggressive. Throw up on the couch, pin him against a wall. You can be sexy without having sex. Try new things when you're ready, but until then, experiment different ways to get excited.
Sit on him differently, grab his hair, and rub his back. It'll help spice it up, but give it passion, too.
Good luck.
My hair is pretty damaged and I'm trying to find a way to "heal" it if possible. My hair is fairly long, stick-straight, thin, and has lots of dead-ends.
When I shampoo my hair I always condition it too. I shampoo first (twice) then condition it right away. I leave the conditioner on until I finish showering so it is the last thing I wash off of me. I don't really use any specific kind of conditioner so it'd be nice if someone could recommend something really good for damaged hair.
I saw this stuff in Wal-Mart that says it helps to heal damaged hair but it's made out of placenta and that is entirely too creepy for me to be able to use.
Are there any products I can look into using for such a thing?
The only way to remove split ends, are to cut them.
Once you do that, by Biolage, which is salon used, but sold in normal retail stores like Wal-mart and grocery stores. They have a specific shampoo and conditioner for damaged hair, but still continue leaving in the conditioner for a few minutes.
Once you're washed, used Paul Mitchell's SKINNY SERUM. That should also be sold in normal retail stores, and salons.
what are some nice songs to play in a fashion show?
example is "cant get you outta my head" by kylie.
what else?
Radio copy edits for the following suggestions:
Apple Bottom Jeans- T-Pain
I can't wait[to see you again]- Miley Cyrus
Lovestoned- Justin Timberlake
Walking on Sunshine - Aly & AJ
Watch me Shine - Joanna Pacitti
Basically anything with a "Thump thump"..should work fine.
Good luck!
what can i do if i get really bad discharge? some days its like, a puddle in my pants. but thats an exageration.
Discharge can mean a number of things-- some more serious than others. If it's discharge, and nothing more.. then start eating more dairy products.
If others symptoms like itchy, painful urination, or bad odor start to develop, then you should see a doctor.
Up until recently, I have never had anything like this happen to me, I have started hearing some voices in my head. Its always of somebody I know, I know I didn't imagine it, always of a female i know from my school, usually just an acquaintance or long time friend, nothing to do with attraction. It happens about 5 times a week and they always say something, similar to "Hey " or just my name. When it first happened I was really freaked out, but i'm still kinda freaked when it happens just not as bad. What causes this? Stress? Can it be fixed? I know I'm not imagining this.
When I was a lot younger, something very similar to this used to happen to me all the time. It was always a voice I was very familiar with, and it happened a lot. But, what was strange is thats half the time the people who's voices they belonged to, would e miles, even states away.
Because I was just a kid, I can't say that what it was for me was stress. But I can say, that it did calm down a lot. It's creepy, but I'm not so sure you should be scared of it unless it continues or gets more frequent. Then see a doctor.
Questions before I get the season 4
-Who all is going to have a baby?
-Is there anything going on with Nathan And Rachel, if so, what?
-Does Payton and Jake get together?
-Oh and who finds out that Dan killed Kieth?
Thanks!! =D
1. Nathan and Haley[Sorry!!=)] have a baby boy named Jamie. Lucas's mom, Karen also has Keith's child after Keith is shot by Dan.
2. Nothing.. EVER goes on with Nathan and Rachel. She shows interest in him, and he immediately denies her because he's married to Haley.
3. Peyton and Jake are on and off for a little while, until Peyton talks in her sleep one night. She expresses her love for Lucas in her sleep, Jake hears it, and then tells her that she's basically with the wrong guy.
4. In the episode where Keith is shot, there were rumors that there were other killers inside the school. Therefore, when the young girl who is allowed to leave because of her diabetes, she doesn't actually leave the building. She hides, worried that she may get shot by another person [who doesn't exist].. and sees Dan come in and shoot Keith.
I am a One Tree Hill fanatic.. I'll help you with any other questions.
I hate it when I'm talking and say something not super smart and someone says "Your blonde, what do you expect", or "Well, your blonde". Or anything like that, its really annoying so what should I say to them as a comeback?
Any good ones?
Thanks =]
Think of naturally intelligent things to say that they wouldn't know. Don't be rude back, just be smart, and let them see you for who you are.
Blonde jokes are ridiculous, and I'm brunette. I've met plenty of intelligent blonde girls.
one of my really good friends and i are in a fight and idk if we're gonna be friends again.he and i have been really good friends since december.a few weeks ago i thought i liked him..so i told him..cause were really good friends so i knew hed be cool with it..and he was..but then i found out that he was talking to this girl about it and he said it was weird now because he thought i was always all over him and always flirting with him..but i dont. and he was just talking crap about me.like we hug each other and tease each other but i do that with all my guy friends.i dont like him like that anymore.when i see him all i feel is friendship. but when i found out he was talking crap about me i got mad.
so the next time i saw him he went in to hug me and i said "are you sure you wanna do that?are you sure i wont be all over you?" and he just pretended to have no idea what i was talking about.now he wont talk to me at all and he just ignores me in the halls.idk what to do.weve been thru alot of ups and downs and i cant tell if this friendship is worth fighting for. how do i approach him?what do i say? will we be friends again?
Men are very stubborn. He's probably angry because you heard that he was talking about him and confronted him about it sarcastically. I did the same thing when I found out that an ex-boyfriend was calling me "desperate" behind my back. Then, when he saw me, I completely ignored him, and when he asked why I said, "Gee, I don't know, it must be because I'm just sooo desperate."
What it does is immediately attacks their ego. He probably felt like he was hot shit when he was saying that you've been all over him. It's their nature to feel like they have that authority and express things way differently then we do.
Try talking to him again-- alone. Instead of in the hallways, call him. Tell him why you were angry with him, and ask whether or not it's true. because what also sucks, is you don't know if this other girl is telling you the entire story.
A true good friend would never talk crap about you. And if you honestly believed that he was, then I don't think you'd be so concerned about the status of your friendship. It's only worth fighting for if you know for a fact that he wasn't talking negatively about you. In that case, I'd be done with it and let go of his friendship completely.
Also, if he happened to find out that your not interested in him in that way anymore, it probably got him upset and insecure.. maybe even humiliated.
When people know they've messed up or hurt someone intentionally or not, they'll avoid them at all costs sometimes. It looks like if you want to salvage this friendship, you're going to have to be the bigger person and confront him in a private and not attacking way.
Good luck.
the first week of summer i'm going to obx,north carolina. i'm staying in a big party house in duck with my family and 2 other families that are neighbors. i've heard that there is nothing to do at night there and i'm wondering is that true? and i'm just wondering anyone who's ever been there, i never have i usually go to sc, so where are fun places to go at night and fun things to do? is there a boardwalk or a pier? any shopping centers? just fun places to go there is what i'm looking for. thanks!
I part that I visited had boardwalks, museums, plenty of shopping.. and a lot of places to eat. But this also depends on the area that you're staying in.
If you google.com the town which you're in, and a close town that borders it, some things will definitely pop up. And if there's two other families staying, you'll find things to do through them as well.
Okay So there is this kings island trip next week, for all the people in academics. My bff trent is in it & so am I . SO we were both going to go. Our academic coach said we could bring 1 friend, so I picked my other bff brooke. My mom said I could go. Filled out my permision sheet and that was that. about an hour later Brooke called & said she couldn't go, (family thing) but that was okay. Trent was still going, and I was still excited! BUT when I broke that news to my mom she said i couldn't go, because brooke wasn't going. AND she didn't want me to be with a guy, aka trent the entire time. IT"S SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO UNFAIR> OMG ugh. it makes me soooooooo MAD!!! HELP what do i do to change her mind?
Explain to your mom that there's no difference. I could understand if it was just a trip away with a bunch of kids hanging out with billions of opportunities to have sex and get wasted, but this is a school function. This is a trip for an academic group!
It's not your fault that your friend can't make it, so you shouldn't be punished for it.
Tell her these things, make sure she knows that you're not going there to hook up with Trent. If those were your intentions, you wouldn't have invited Brooke in the first place.
If all else fails, ask your coach to offer your mom a conference. Maybe your coach can help reassure her that nothing is going to happen just because Trent is there.
Good luck!.. and if you go, have fun!
Hey. my name is Amber.
and i have a problem with a guy...
ok.here we go..
so ive dated this guy we will call *bob*.ive dated him quite a few times.and every time he was a jerk-off,lied,and cheated on me.
And,honestly i think i fell in love with him.wierd i know.But for 3 months now ive tried my Hardest to get over him.yeh,ive talked to other guys but they just never came close to what i felt for *bob*.
Well.he is trying to get back with me.hes promising me and my best friend he wont f*** up this time and he is going to be better and he misses me blah blah.
i dont know if i should give him One last chance or just tell him to F*ck off.
/=
what should i do ?
Thank you!
-amber
5-28-08
It's hard to get over someone that you really believe you were in love with. But what's harder, is trying to get over somebody who is trying to win you back over. It's merely impossible to forget a relationship and talk to other guys openly, when there's a someone always making you feel at battle with yourself. Do I forgive him? Do I move on? Do I love him? Will he cheat again?
Unfortunately, I've been in this position. And I know that no matter how many times people feed you advice, you're going to do whatever it is that your heart tells you to. Even if that means you're forgiving a jerk-off, lying, cheater.
See, I'd love to tell you to say F*** off. But, I can't. I forgave a boy who cheated on me once-- and he changed. But I had to be stern with him, and up front. Own that shit, and make it known that you're not there to mess around.. you're there because you want to BE in a relationship. So he would have to stop will all his old ways, and start over.
Things didn't work out with him and I anyway. But, we're great friends. I can tell him anything, and I love the kid to death.
There's a happy ending POSSIBILITY no matter what road you take. I will say not to give in too easily. Make him work for it. Make him really sorry he ever messed up in the first place.