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hey guys..i am soo scared to use a tampon cause i'm scared it's gonna hurt or imma put it in the wrong hole or something..lol.. but i reallly wanna know how to use one/ put one in..cause i'm tired of using pads..please help! thx soo much xoxo (link)
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Here is a guide: http://tinypic.com/ad15hw.gif
It might hurt a little the first time, but it isn't bad. Just use lights in the beginning.
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Can anyone give me any tips on flirting but nothing too bold because I am quite shy.
will rate high for good answers. (link)
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I know where you are coming from. I am still looking for the magic way for guys to want me without me having to do a damn thing. But sadly we live in a world where you have to give signals.
Smile. Talk about mutual interests. Just make yourself open. If he is interested he will be too. Things will progress from there.
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wut r the things that girls like about guys? and wut things should we give them as gifts? Im in despate need of help! I just dont understand girls! (link)
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First off, don't generalize. No two girls are the same. There is no answer that would make you irresistable to every female on the planet.
Be courteous. Open doors for them. Carry things for them if they look like they need help. These are basic things that a lot of guys overlook.
Compliment her (sincerely). Sincerity is IMPORTANT. Mean it. Don't tell her she looks hot. Use some adjective that makes it sound like you want more than just getting in her pants.
If you listen to her and pay attention, you should know what she would like. Listening is important as well.
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i rate high!!!!!!!
i'm 13 and my mom won't let me get pierced ears. the problem is....earrings are my favorite jewelry & i'm obsessed with looking at them & buying them (except i can't because i can't wear them!!). so i have to wear clip-ons and they don't have a big variety and they come off easily or break easily, etc... i really want pierced ears, i think i'm probably the only 13 year old girl i've ever met who has no pierced ears (except ones that didn't want them, and i've only met one girl like that). i know i shouldn't give in to peer pressure but ever since i was really little, i saw this woman wearing earrings & i wanted to wear those SO badly! my mom says i'm not responsible or w/e. we have a housekeeper & i did chores FOR her and proved i was responsible and i have contacts and hamster and i clean my room a lot and EVERYTHING but she still won't let me have one! sometimes i tend to be somewhat irresponsible like every normal girl but then she points it out AND IGNORES ALL THE RESPONSIBLE THINGS I DO! idk what to do, anyway i could convince my mom about pierced ears or somehow do it at home??? thanks i rate (link)
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Here is a story that may help you: I went through the exact same thing when I was your age. Eventually I stopped mentioning it because I wasn't getting anywhere. When I was 15, I was going through a really hard time, and I informed my mom that we'd be going to the mall so I could get my ears pierced. She said okay.
I cleaned them all the time but I couldn't really get the stuff on the hole. My friend took a look at it and it turned out they put the earring on so tightly that it had bruised my ear and it was stuck. I had to pull really hard and they then were normal.
I still cleaned them all the time but they got infected. It was gross. Then I left them out and life is better. Pierced ears suck.
Also you could always do it yourself. I have many friends who pierced their own nipples, tongues, etc. Just be careful.
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i need help. how can i make my face look nicer, clearer by saturday ? ... its wednesday today. oh HOME REMEDIES ONLY PLEASE!!! i dont have time to go to the store (link)
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Wash it with warm water and use some sort of astringent. I have heard toothpaste works on zits, but I have never tried it.
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Hey. I'm 14/f and just got into surfing. I don't have a board though cuz i usually just use my friends. well now i wanna buy one but i don't know how long it should be. im a beginner and 5'9. also is there any places you know where i can buy em kinda cheap? thanx! i rate!! (link)
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Check the classifieds. There are always people who are trying to sell surfboards for cheap there.
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what is emo? thanks (link)
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This should answer everything: http://www.somethingdirectory.com/main_emo.htm
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Ok well I'm 13 and I'm very intrested in umm..playing wiht myself...I cant buy anything...and what i'm really intrested in is vibrators.I rate real high! (link)
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Meet the electric toothbrush, your new best friend.
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Hey there ♥ well im not really into stereotypes but basically, my boyfriend is punk, along with his friends. and i am not really preppy or punk or anything, i am just me. but i am friends with his friends and his friends are in a punk band and my boyfriend said he really wants me to go, and so do his friends. the problem is i dont want to wear something stupid, or "slutty" looking and i dont want people to think " why is she here?" so what could i wear.. i have long platinum blonde hair with lots of pink and auburn in it. and i am 5'4 and average with slightly curvey body but the problem is i cant hide my boobs and i dont want people to automatically think im slutty=/... what could i wear or put on for makeup and how should i do the hair? thanksss (link)
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T-shirt or tank top, jeans, and sensible shoes.
I have been to many a punk show. Looking good does not matter. You will be jumping around and sweaty. Make-up will be sweat off. Shoes will be stepped on.
I understand that since it is your boyfriend will be there you want to impress him, but in my experience, punk guys are a lot more impressed with a girl who will run into the mosh pit and hold her own. And there is no way in hell a girl should be in a mosh pit and have to worry about how she looks.
Good luck. Inbox me with any further questions.
Take Care,
AAG
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me and this guy almost went out about 7 months ago and i basically got myheart broken. then about 2 weeks ago he e-mailed me saying he was sorry for leading me on and stuff and he wants to prove to me that hes nicer then that. so i emailed him back bascially saying don't worry about it and he'll have to prove it to me. so he said he was going to camp for a week but then when he gets back we'll hang out for sure. well hes been back for 2 days now and he hasn't IMed me or anything and i sent him an email about this drink he told me about saying it was good and he was like haha yeah thats why i love it. so yeah, should i bring up that we should hang out? i'm nervous to IM him or bring it up, especially since he isn't too shy of a guy and i think he woulda brought it up if he wanted to. i leave on thursday and won't be back for 2 weeks so time is pretty limited. what should i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Send a friendly email saying when you will be leaving. If that is too direct send it to him and several other people so he will know what is happening but won't think you are necessarily reminding him (although it will).
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ok..well i know a lot of you will be wondering why im asking this. Its because my bf and I were messing around and after i gave him a handjob he fingered me and i dont know if he got cum on his hands ..i know i know..slim to none chance im pregnent but anyways..just got me thinking of aboruion soo...
is abotion legal in new york?
if im under 18 do i have to have a parent with me?or just someone who is 18?
how much does it cost?
how bad does it hurt if you have had experience
i dont want to hear lectures..just some facts..5's for helpful people (link)
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Yes it is legal in New York.
I doubt you have to have a parent with you but I could easily be wrong.
From what I have heard, afterwards it feels like you have really bad cramps.
I know you already said that there is only a slim to none chance you are pregnant, but I really doubt that you are. Thank you for being responsible enough to seek out information although the chance you are pregnant is less than slight.
Take care,
AAG
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I talk to this other boy now hes 14 and we talk mostly on the computer. like the beginning of this month he iMed me and was like come over an said he likes me and he was gonna ask me out but he thought i was still in love with the boy i mentioned last time, so he waited. im not sure if he is for real tho bc hes got that reputation of being a player. so ive been to his house a couple times but whenever i go over there he wants me to give him head, or have sex. he says he loves me, and im his girl. i dont know wether to belive him or not. should i? (link)
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I doubt he loves you. Guys will say anything to get you to have sex with them. If he really loved you he would be cooler about you not having sex with him.
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How do guys feel about dating girls younger than them ? i know this guy who seems to like me , but i want to know if i should flirt more . I'm 13 , and he's 15 (: thanks ! (link)
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Go for it! I know plenty of guys who date younger girls. I am seeing someone 4.25 years older than me. Good luck!
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i don't know that its exactly healthy but i was wondering if there is anything else (like a household item) that i can use that would work kinda like a dildo or a vibrator? i mean it doesnt have to move or anything...just feel good. cuz my parents would freak if they found a dildo or vibrator. is it unhealthy to use anything else? can i sterilize other stuff? if so, how? (link)
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Meet your new best friend, the electric toothbrush.
I'd give more suggestions, but you really don't need more than that.
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Are romantic fantasies a bad thing? In the 6th grade, (I'm going to 7th I just turned 13 in late may.) kids were "going out." I thought it was silly and immature, (and absolutely hilarious to watch) especially because they took their relationships so seriously and thought they were "in love". But the worst part of it is that I (in my most private of thoughts) sometimes get romantic fantasies that are equally if not more ridiculous! And I acually enjoy them. I try to avoid them because they're so ludicrous, but I can't. omg I'm soooooooooooo embarassed. Am I equally as silly as them? Am I judging them unfairly? Is this normal for 13-year-old? It would be really nice if someone could give me some info!!!
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♥ Anneliese ♥ (link)
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You are a realist. That is good. You are way ahead of most people your age.
As for the romantic fantasies, you are completely normal. Everyone (at least everyone without a penis) does it. It is in our genetic make-up.
You have a good head on your shoulders. Don't stress over silly fantasies. You are bright enough to separate fantasy and reality and if you slip up, you are no worse than the rest of us.
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Ok..well the other day my best friend came over. We were in my room listening to music. I dontreally remember what happened much but we basically ended up kissing and doing other sexual things. Were both girls. I really like guys..but what I did felt good. I've never liked girls..but after what I did with my best friend, I just dont know. Were both 14. HELP!! am i lesbian? I like guys..but hooking up with girls doesnt sound bad either.. (link)
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I doubt you are a lesbian. You would have been actively attracted to girls as opposed to just hey that was fun. I am guessing you are heteroflexible.
I believe The L Word said it best, "Sexuality is fluid. Just go with the flow."
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ok I have this problem and I'm finally admiting it I cut myself whenever I'm hurting inside I know it's bad but I only started doing it once I met this guy John. He's my boyfriend. I know I need to dump him or get over him but forget it I gone thought so much shit to stay with him I not gonna dump him unless he actually hits me. But I want to know how I can try to stop without professional help my mom doesn't know I do it and I refuse to get proffesional help?
Nikki (link)
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Good for you for stopping. It is hard and you will probably end up slipping up a few times. Just know that that is part of the process of stopping and don't beat yourself up over it.
Next keep yourself as distracted as possible. Get a hobby like knitting to throw yourself into when you are upset. Or go online or watch tv or call someone. Just do something that isn't cutting.
One good support site is recoveryourlife.com
Hang in there. It gets earier. I will have been cut-free for a year in 5 days.
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okay i wrote a book and at the moment i'm typing it and making corrrections to it, but how do i get it published? (link)
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Get an agent. They will send it to publishing firms. If not you can do it yourself.
Here is the story of how one guy got his book published:
http://www.nicktwisp.com/history.html
You may want to email him too.
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I have a new boyfriend & he's my first. He tried to kiss me the other day & I was ready but I was worried I wouldn't know what I was doing. I made an excuse that I had a sore throat. Obviously, I do not want to have to do this forever so does anyone with experience have any kissing tips to give me (a first timer).
Thanks,
Elle (link)
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Seriously, you do not have to have any idea what you are doing. People with experience can be awful kissers. The fact it is your first time really doesn't matter as much as you think.
Just pay attention to what the other person is doing and mimic it.
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Alright, I had butt sex with my girlfriend last night and im afraid it could make a baby.
Is it possible?
-Levi- (link)
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No. Anal sex does not cause preganancy.
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