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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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I met a guy back in October.. told him that I wasn't ready for a relationship. Then somehow by staying friends and hanging out.. we are now a couple. He tells me that his life would be bleak and crushed if I weren't in it. I don't feel the same. HE is 29 and I'm 32 years old.
The BIGGEST issue(among others)is I have no physical attraction to him, just void for me. Now when I do see him.. I am constantly getting sick to my stomach because I just can't handle being around him anymore.
To make matters worse.. he's a truck driver at the place I work.. so I'll see him at least twice a week no matter what.
What do I say to break it off without actually haven't to say that "I'm not attacted to you" or that the physical attraction is missing?? I know he's going to ask why.. plus how do I break up with him and still remain decent considering I will have to see him in my work week?
Thank you for your help from the bottom of my heart. -Christie
You should just tell him that you feel you guys are best as friends. That your relationship is precious for you to ruin your friendship over. You view him as just a friend, and thats what you need to say. Your not breaking his heart, you are just being honest. This way its not him at all, its just the way it is and there is nothing wrong with him. Or if you absolutely have to, you can say that you have feelings for one of your ex's and it is really making it difficult to fully open up. You can't succeed in a new relationship until the ties are broken from the old ones. Whether it is true or not, it is something you can consider saying to spare his feelings.
do you know if neldasvintageclothing.com has real vintage or is it just fake?
It is considered one of the top vintage online stores, so yes it is legit.
my boyfriend and I are in a relationship for 1yr.& 5 mos..were ok..i know that he loves me but sometimes i felt so unsecured coz he has no plans for us, He always said that we dont know what the future will bring us,i dont even know his parents or his friends or his home..im 27 & his 26..sometimes i want to breakup with him but i just cant coz i love him so much & i know that he loves me too..what can i do?
It either sounds like is afraid of the future and doesn't want anything to change or he doesn't know what the next step is. Have you brought up the idea of taking the next step like maybe marriage or at least just a proposal? Maybe showing little hints and sending him in the right direction might make him act. Or at least consider it. It sounds like he has had a rough past and he is afraid that if he makes plans, something will happen to break them up. Sounds like he is living in the moment instead of looking to the future. Relationships are all about honesty so you should just talk to him about. Tell him you don't know if you can keep pursuing not knowing what their future entails. Send me an inbox if you have anymore questions.
How to begin an essay about myself? With A Qoute?
I would always start an essay with my personality if it dealt with me. For example, "People always thought of me as a talented musician, but I found myself love teaching more than anything in this world" You want a the first sentence to pop out from the rest of the essay. You can write down everything you are feeling or things about yourself in general. Sometimes it helps to recall a distinctive memory and write it out like a narrative story. It really depends on the type of essay it is because it changes everything, or is it just a journal entry. If you have any more questions just send me an inbox.
I have thought about University, but I'm staying an extra year or two in high school for some apprenticeship programs I want to take.
My parents won't let me stay on campus on any university or college -- they only want me to go to one where I can go, and come back home after classes -- so basically, one that is in close distance.
So when you schedule your classes why not make them gap a little so you can socialize in between, but not so much you have too go home and go back. Maybe like 30 minutes or so. Or even in high school, why not join some clubs to make your resume more appealing and impressive? This will give you a chance to socialize and still stay on right track. I hate to say it, but you definitely need social skills with both sexes and your parents are only making it harder.
I'm M/16. I think I'm becoming very unhealthy. This summer I have been eating like a pig, lots of bacon, hot dogs, lots of burgers. I've also been eating a lot of McDonalds. Not every day though, every couple of days. I don't like going out to stay in shape because its way too hot. I usually go for long bike rides. Once a month I go for long jogs, last month I did 12 laps without stopping & this month I did 20. But I've definitely gained weight this summer and I want to go back to school in shape. Are there any quick ways to lose about 5 lbs.? Any type of work outs that don't require a machine? I don't know much about working out and calorie stuff.
Mixed martial arts is always fun and burns a ton of calories at the same time. If you don't have the funds to do it, they have some excellent techniques, all you have to do is do a google search of it. Plus you learn how to defend yourself in sticky situations.
18 years old. Female. In a Muslim family (origin Pakistan). Living in Canada. I have no social life. No friends. The closest thing is an acquaintance that lives 2 floors down my Mom's apartment. I live with my Dad, visit my Mom on weekends/holidays. I'm not allowed to talk to boys -- including my cousins, and relatives (I always get yelled at, then humiliated if I do).
I was browsing online and I found a meet up site where you can meet up with people and make friends. My mom said it's alright but I can't go and make any friends with guys. Whatever, I know that. But I get angry. I don't talk to boys ever, even if I've been in classes with all boys, and then to have her even lecture me makes me angry. I understand my parents are trying to look out for me -- but they are extreme. I can't even talk to my OWN god damn guy cousins for FUCK's SAKE. I'm old enough to make my decisions. I know my morals, and I'm not going to jump the bones on any guy that comes close to me. Advice?
Technically you are 18, which is the legal age for making your own decisions. But I understand the predicament of pleasing ones parents out of respect. Have you thought about college any? If so, you could go to a college where you could stay on campus, work for the college to raise some money for stability. As for your parents shunning you, truth be told if they truly loved you, they wouldn't say those things. They just want to keep you in control and not turn out to be like all the other statistics. When you go out, why not document your times so your father couldn't get suspicious, pictures, notes, etc. It seems a bit extreme, but my dad is the same way. No matter what you choose, someone is going to be unhappy, might as well make yourself happy. if you have anymore questions you can email me at lleggett@bethanywv.edu
16/f
alright this guy asked me on a date and originally i said yes. because i really liked this guy, but then i reconsidered it because i had just broken up with someone. i told the guy i couldnt go. He's basically me just the guy version and i have liked him on and off. The only problem is i think he has social issues, for example he cant look you straight in the eyes and talk and he has a stutter.. maybe hes just nervous but sometimes it can be really awkward around him. Im not totally sure if i like him again, but hes always on my mind! but everytime i think of something good about him, i think about something that could go wrong. what happens if we go out and got nothing to talk about! or if i change my mind and i dont like him!i dont want people thinking im a slut. Hes invited me to his party next week.. what do i do????
Being indecisive is definitely a hard thing to shake. It seems like you really like him as a friend or even a best friend which explains why you think about him a lot. I would just tell to meet you there. This way your considering his feelings and saying you will hang out with him, but you also have a back up plan of playing the field if things don't work out. Maybe being around a group of people will make him more comfortable. If you don't try, you constantly say "what if" and trust me, you will go bananas thinking about it. Make an effort and see what happens. As for things to talk about, talk about a particular song you guys are listening too or even talk about people you have in common with. If you have any more questions you can email me at lleggett@bethanywv.edu
I am a female and i just resently cut my hair, really short. And i wanna dye it like a colour and have a natural colour on top or something. I kinda want to try using Kool-Aid to dye it, but how long does the Kool-aid stay in? Right now as im typing this im putting purple on under the first layer of hair, and only on the sides and the bottom half of my bangs. do u think thats cool? or stupid? and i kinda want to try coontails/stipes on my hair but its way to short to do anything with really.
How should i style my hair, since its so short.
Lets put it this way, a lot of guys have longer hair then i do... =$
HELP ME!! PLEASE!!!
I think the idea you have works well, but don't forget to bleach out your hair first. If you don't, the kool-aid won't even show and if you do go with using kool-aid, you hair will have a sticky feeling in the heat because of the sugar. It usually lasts about a month or so. The best style is to curl the layers outward. This will reveal the colors very nicely. If you have any other questions just email me at lleggett@bethanywv.edu.
I am thinking about committing suicide. I've made some really bad decisions and feel that it would be best for everyone if I were gone. My family would get insurance money and would be taken care of financially.
They would most likely spend majority of it taking care of the funeral expenses. They would be more likely put in more debt than it would help. Committing suicide is not the way to go. My dad has a bad heart and my mother has been diagnosed with cancer. Even though these are horrible things and I will miss them very much, they advised me I should be grateful to be healthy and living. I should never take my life for granted because they would do whatever it took to have more time. One of my dear friends committed suicide and she was only 22 years old. She mixed her sleeping pills with alcohol and never woke up. I swore that no matter how bad life got, it was not worth ending my life over.
I also had a coworker who lost her three year old son. My coworkers husband didn't want the bank to repossess his house so he burned it to the ground. He also felt the need to shoot his three year old in the arm to wake him up, then in the head. He then shot himself. The pain of losing a child is unbearable and you never fully recover from it. Your family would never recover if you died.
As for the bad choices, it is the bad that helps us grow and blossom into the good. You have to go through a series of bad patches in order to find relief. Think about your situation and come up with some alternatives. When there is a will, there is a way.
You responded to a question I posted about suicide. You said that it is a sin to commit suicide. How do you know that? And also, you mentioned I may not know what happens after, but how does anyone, really?
If you ever find yourself on the verge of death by accident, you see it all. I cannot be certain as to whether it was real or not, but I have a strong testimony that what I saw was the real deal. As for death being a sin, if you look in the back of the bible under death, you will find a numerous amount of references to it. You may have to read them two or three times to understand the deeper meaning, but it is there. The point I was trying to make is people would kill to live, so why not live for them? And how I know the things I do is really hard to explain and tends to freak people out.
Is there a method of suicide that is least painful? I'm at the point in my life where this question is on my mind a lot, and this isn't some crazy rant. I've felt this way for so long, but I think I may be ready to "move on." I feel calm and at peace about it. I just don't want it to be extremely painful, physically if it can be helped. (And I know someone is going to say that it will be painful for people who love me -- I do understand.).
I had a friend who committed suicide. She was raped and took sleeping pills because she had nightmares every night. One night she went to a party, got drunk, and took to many pills. She never woke up after that. I also had another friend who walked into her house to find that her dad shot her mother then killed himself. My final story is about a coworker of mine who lost her ex husband and year old baby. Her ex husband didn't want to give up the house when they bank came to collect. He decided if he couldn't have his house, no one could. He went into the baby's room, shot the him in the leg first to wake him up, then shot him in the head. The ex husband started the fire and killed himself. I am sure you are at peace and calm about ending your life, doesn't make it right. My friend didn't want to die and neither did my co-workers kid. Are you willing to waste your life killing yourself knowing people would die to have theirs back? My mother has breast cancer and my father has a bad heart. The thought of them dying scares me very much and it makes me very angry when people just want to throw theirs away. I don't know if you are a religious person or not, but it is a sin to commit suicide. God felt that people who did that didn't like who he created and were shoving it in his face. Are you willing to risk your life and not know where you may end up afterwards?
I am a 13 year old girl and I'm about 5'2 or 5'3 and I weigh about 119 pounds. it may not seem bad but I think my thighs are fat or on the larger size. Does anyone know how to get thinner thighs or ones with more muscle? and is my body weight proportional to my height and age and everything? all help is good! :) thanks.
The easiest way to lose fat in the thighs is to either ride a bike or just walk. And yes your weight is perfect for your height.
i cant say i have fully "lost my first love" but im experiencing my first love right now.
me and him have broken up 4 times.... except we always seemed to come back to each other cause we cant fall out of love. im currently in a relationship with him. and i will do anything for him. i understand though because i am COMPLETELY and utterly scared of loosing him. i feel like if i do i will feel alone and die. thats how much i care and love him. i feel like there is no one else out there for me.
Also he was my first. first boyfriend. first kiss. first anything sexual. and we both lost our virginity to each other. (during the time i have kissed other people during the month period that we broke up one time) but it was just NOT THE SAME..... never felt right. actually made me feel gross. and just made me want HIM more. same happend with him... and then we ended up back together. BUT he is moving :( i can drive in 2months or so..... but im scared until then we will grow apart or something will happen and im just really scared of loosing him. he is my first love and i am experiencing it. and it takes over your life completely. HE controls my emotions. if me and him are good. im in a good mood. if me and him are fighting i feel dead and become anti social. i havent realized it was a mistake. i dont think it is since it is both our first love and first alot of things with each other. and i can just say i cant picture myself with anyone else.
the odds are we either stay on and off or together and end up marrying each other.
or something happens and we will loose each other ... but i am so afraid of that cause i cant picture my life without him or anyone else.
sometimes i wonder though by his words and actions if he loves me as much as i love him............... thats the only wondering i regret. (putting my hear out if he isnt loving me as much as i am)
actual i know for a fact that i show my love in a different way than he does and i am more emotional and like to talk and am very open with my feelings. yet when he hurts me i close up and makeit hard to let people in.
think im crazy or not but im feeling all this at age 16. im a 16 year old girl and please dont say im to young or dont know what love is cause i do..... i know this is love. but im just not sure wether or not i will be okay throughout this whole thing.
i reallly needed to vent and finally say this out loud.
i would really appreciate peoples opinion on what i just wrote.
I will say honestly that love has no age limit. Men are very different than women, especially in terms of showing emotion or feelings. I was fifteen when I fell in love for the first time. I find myself still thinking about that person even after all these years. I can understand you feelings, and drifting apart is a very painful process. But it sounds like he feels the same way as you. No matter where you guys are, those feelings will still be the same. If you believe, he will believe, and you will have nothing to worry about. It is true love is a battlefield, but it conquers over everything.
Hey there. I'm a 20 year old female. I'm about 5'7 and 175 pounds. Apparently i hide it well because a lot of people say i only look like i'm 145-150. I've noticed the past couple months i've gained about 30 pounds. I do have a problem with over eating. I cant help it i feel like its out of control. I've stopped eating fast food completely this past month and the scale cant tell. I even cut out soda and have been drinking water. My problem is that if i dont have the "engorged" feeling i want to keep eating. Even if i'm not starving hungry any sudden signs of i can fit food in my stomach ill eat. I do have a YMCA gym membership but i find it hard to get motivation to go. My husband is deployed and i want to get in better shape for when he comes home in November but once again no motivation. Any advice on how i can tackle this issue? I'm desperate! Thanks! and i do rate
First off, starving yourself actually helps you gain weight so this is not a good idea. I know that exercising is not a big motivated for anyone. You should do something you like and that requires some sort of exercise. As a twenty year old I am sure you face a lot of stress, ever think about getting a bag and doing kick boxing or even mixed martial arts. Or if you are not trained to defend yourself against a surprise attack, maybe some self-defense classes? The point is to keep your mind busy and forget about food. Do you tend to eat the most when you are bored? Maybe you should pick up a new hobby such as writing, music, scrap booking, etc. If you keep your mind occupied, you will find yourself only eating when you are actually hungry.
i'm 17/f
i'll be a senior in high school this year, and it's time for me to decide what i wanna do with my life.
i'm going to be going to school next year to get my cosmetology licence. ( my school has a program where i transfer half a day to beauty school )
but when i think of going to a university or something, i always think that i might wanna go to be a dental hygienest. i'm gonna be honest to those of you who dont know, it takes alot of science and math. i KNOW that with alot of hard work that i can get the grades i need in college to get into hygiene school. but it's going to be very hard for me. it takes me a long time to understand those types of things. my mom has worked in dental offices forever, as long as i can remember, so i pretty much grew up in them, i already know alot about the dental business and everything, and i think that i could make a really good hygienist.
i really think i might wanna do it, but would it even be worth it, since it would be such a struggle for me to get the good grades in the math and science? i wanna know an honest opinion. thank youuu!
The biggest difficulty for people is committing to their profession. It would seem that you are committed one hundred percent. As for the classes and grades, there are options to help you. For example, every college has labs and tutoring sessions to help if you find yourself struggling. And these are completely free. This should take some of the load off grade wise. It definitely helps that your mom knows the business well and can help you in some areas. If you are passion and completely sure this is what you want to do, I don't see why you can't. As long as you believe that you can, then you will.
Is there such thing as too much oral sex, medically speaking? A friend of mine said her man wants to do it every night.
Having to many orgasms can be dangerous, but other than that it is harmless.
I met a guy (friend of a friend), about a couple months ago...I've seen him twice. We talked briefly the first time we met, and the second time I saw him, I realized I am attracted to him, and unfortunately, was pretty drunk and dancing up a storm with my friend (a guy); so not nearly at my best.
It was pretty apparent to me that the attraction ran both ways, but he seems shy- he did kinda hint at wanting to meet up again, but no numbers were exchanged- plus I was pretty drunk and dancing the night away with a guy friend the second time around. Don't know if that sent him (the guy i like) the wrong signal...
So now, a month after...I decided to just go ahead and friend him on facebook, a few days ago. He did confirm me as a friend shortly after, but hasn't contacted me in any way. I didn't send him a message, but thought if he were still interested, he might initiate something. So I commented on his post, and no response.
Maybe I'm overanalyzing this, but I'm thinking that he's either a) lost interest, b) my somewhat drunken/dancing turned him away, or c) he's shy, or even yes, d) there's nothing to read into, and I just need to chill.
SO...what could any of this mean? And should I do anything, or just let it go...
If he is shy like you say, try sending him an inbox message. It has been a month so you may want to introduce yourself again and remind him how you guys met. He will most likely respond in privacy, and through inbox he will be more likely to give you his number. Think of it as starting over, a clean slate, and get to know each other all over again. Maybe he got the wrong idea about you and your friend; thought maybe you liked him or something. If this is the case, you may need to clarify what really happened and that you are sorry for the misunderstanding.
I am dating my besfriend, the love of my life and the man I will marry! Unfortunately he lives across the country and we only see each other a few times a year. I won't get to see him till next spring, and I am so upset. I feel so lonely here, I mean I Love my family and friends but it doesn't help. Even in a crowd I feel alone. I miss him, and I don't know what to do. HOW DO I COPE WITH THIS BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE A TRAIN WRECK!
I know it isn't quite the same, but have you ever thought about skyping each other? You wouldn't be able to physically hold each other, but you would be able to see each other on the screen and see them when they are talking. Long distance is very hard, but if he is someone you want to marry, have you ever considered moving to him or him moving to you? I know what it is like to feel so alone even with a room full of people. It's like no one else understands what you are going through or even feel the same pain as you. To keep the romance and love going, why not write a letter everyday kind of like "dear john" thing? Sometimes it helps to find a hobby you can release your frustrations into, such as writing poetry, playing an instrument, scrap-booking your memories, etc.
I want to kill myself. My ex spouse has been out to get me ever sinced we divorced and she got everything. She was court ordered to get our house refinanced in her name and didnt. No the mortgage company is looking for me to pay. I dont have money, I am one step from being homeless. I havent seen my daughter in years. I dont have money for a lawyer so what is the point of continuing in life. I am at my wits end. I dont know what else to do. I dont have anything left.
Killing yourself can cause more problems than solutions. Have you ever considered filing for bankruptcy? If you have already, you can look online for self-help agencies to help condense your loans down. They will also work to help make a payment plan suitable for you. Also there are agencies to help find you a higher paying job or a job at all if that's the case. As in terms of your daughter, why not write her a letter, or just call her. Take it from someone who knows, being out of touch with family makes life harder for both the parent and child. She is probably thinking the same as you. I know I did about my dad. And if you cannot afford a lawyer, one will be provided for you. It's in the constitution and they have to abide by it.