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19/F So my best friend and I both realized we're attracted to each other about 4 months ago. After some complications, we started 'seeing' each other, and then became official a month ago. We've both said "I love you", and the relationship is going REALLY great. It may or may not be fast for some, but I feel like since we were best friends before, we have more of a head start than other couples. Anyway, I love him so much, and it's obvious to me and other people through his actions that he loves me too.
Thing is, we work together, go to the same college, and most of the time I'm his ride to those places since his car is busted. Not to mention I sleep at his house all the time. So we see each other A LOT. But when we do have a day or two apart, I miss him. A lot. It's not like I feel empty or anything, I just really, really miss him. I don't like being apart from him, and he's said that to me too. We laughed about it.
Is that normal? For me to miss him that much even though we see each other all the time? It's like, I'll go home after hanging out at his place or something, and an hour later I miss him. I haven't been in many relationships, and I want to make sure I'm not making the relationship unhealthy or anything. It seems to be going great and I want to make sure the relationship's not doomed. Input would be appreciated. Thanks!! :)) (link)
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Seems like you found your soul-mate. Stop complaining ;) Most people would kill for what you both have. All this amounts to is an indication of an extremely strong bond. Enjoy it. You're fine.
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So I'm in high school and I have not been in school for a week and, right now im not at school but today is the school music concert. I'm so post to be in the concert, the insturment i play as a solo and everything, i sure they found someone else to play now. But i want to go to the concert and watch. Im not sure if i should like, I'm sick and have an infection that can get spread, i don't want to spread it to the student. And if i do go to the concert i will be in the back, i really want to go to the concert, but is it a good idea? i mean like dont say dont go because im sick, Im scared that if i go to the concert a srudent or teacher will see me (btw anyone relate to the town can go to concert) and when they see me they will ask me to play ? idk i just neet help! (link)
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If your physician states that you have something you can spread by all means stay home. If you have also been sick to spend an entire week off than don't go. You probably won't enjoy it anyways if ill.
Nobody would expect you to play if you showed up either but would wonder why you went if you were that sick. I know you want to go but common sense would dictate otherwise.
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I have a friend with a very difficult family and personal situation. His mother has cancer, his little brother has heart problems, his relatives are cruel (possibly abusive), and his father walked out among other things. I am a female in the same year of school (high-school) as him. We're friends, but not terribly close. Today he was in a hallway crying after school (never seen him show any emotion beyond mild anger before), I approached and asked if he was alright, but he told me to go away so I left, and when I came back later, he was gone. I'm not sure if he's suicidal or not, and something in my gut tells me I shouldn't have left. I do have both his phone number and his email address, but I doubt he'd respond to either. I don't really know what to do at this point, but I care about him quite a lot and am rather concerned. Suggestions? (link)
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Your heart is in the right place as many people would turn away and in fact leave him alone. The fact is although you don't know why he was upset that you know it's unlike him.
I'm definitely sure that e-mail is the last place to bring this up with him. You should find a way to get him alone and tell him that no matter what was upsetting him that you will always be around to help him and listen and that you know the situation at home is troubling.
If he pushes you away at least you did what was right. As far as him being suicidal it's something you don't know as fact. What you could do if concerned he may be that way is to talk on condition of anonymity to a teacher you both trust and tell them what you know and what you saw and have them approach him.
Either way if your gut is telling you that something is really wrong and alarms are going off and red flags up say something to an adult that can intervene.
That's being responsible and nobody said that would be easy. Sometimes situations are icky and we have to tell people what we know. As this could be a life-altering one for him get that info out to people you can trust to act.
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I did not read it but my English teacher who was gushing about it and how excited he was for the movie said it was much better than youth targeted books today like those two and also I have read that the reason the movie is not doing good is because Lions Gate films targeted their marketing towards the Twilight/Hunger Games type audiences but they were not the right audiences to market it towards (link)
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One thing people NEED to do is separate the art from the person and judge this film solely on that. Yes, what Orson Scott Card has said and done when it comes to anti-gay beliefs isn't right.
However, nobody making the film had anything to do with that and are using a book and a script that doesn't contain any of his views. People should see it first and then if they don't like him or it get the word out.
It's an excellent film and far better than the poorly written and constantly rushed into production Twilight films. As far as Hunger Games goes you can't compare them in my opinion to each other. If you meant will I enjoy this because I like Hunger Games? than the answer is you'll have to see both for yourself as they are quite different.
As far as Lions Gate goes they don't know how to promote a damn thing unless its a horror movie like SAW or the films you mentioned above. There wasn't heavy marketing done for Enders Game beyond the trailers it seems. Unfortunate as it's one of the best sci-fi films I have seen in quite some time.
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Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl and I have been struggling with anxiety for over a year now and I'm really getting sick of it. I've had nearly 11 or 12 panc attacks within the last two months. I find myself worrying about my breathing, I have pressure in my head and I always focus on my heartbeat. I have no history of any medical problems so I'm clueless as to why I'm so concerned, other than the fact that about two months ago, I drank a glass of Mountain Dew (and see I began working at a McDonald's and started drink coffee and tea and side ALL the time.) and I guess my body reacted to the caffeine and my heart sped up and I panicked. Since then I've started doing breathing exersises, but sometimes I just have this "unreal" feeling. Like, I feel spaced out? Is this a normal thing with bad anxiety? I'm really looking for an answer. (Also I have totally stopped the caffeine and excess sugar intake) any advice is helpful, thank you. (link)
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It's not a caffeine thing. You could drink an ocean's worth of those drinks a day and it would not make you have intense anxiety. There is ZERO correlation.
It's a mental-health issue which doesn't mean you are crazy. It hits randomly and like a hurricane becoming progressively worse the longer it isn't treated.
What you need is to see your GP immediately and get referred to a psychiatrist who can give you the right treatment and medication to keep it in check.
In the event you can't even function normally in a day due to it skip the above and visit a hospital ER and explain that you can't function due to paralyzing anxiety. They will have a psychiatrist on call you can assess it and start treatment if needed.
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I'm failing math for the year with about a 50 average. Its about a third into the marking period. Our grading system is 64=fail. Only me and a couple of other kids are doing this bad. The other kids don't care if they fail. I'm in 7th grade and CAN NOT go to summer school. I feel really stupid asking for help with something so simple. I don't think its fair that they put me in a smart class when I cant keep up. If I switch classes then do you think I could pass? I always do the homework I just fail the tests. (link)
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It seems as though you answered your own question but need confirmation. If you are in an accelerated class that you weren't in before and cannot keep up it's not your fault. You tried! If you failed wear it as a bag of honor.
Summer school isn't the end of the world even if it did occur. What you need to do is talk to your parents now and the school admin about being over your head in math and stressed. See if they can't help figure out options such as giving you an incomplete rather than fail and continue in other courses.
Have you always been bad at math or in need of a lot of help? If so and this seems lie a long-term issue with math look into whether or not it's a learning related issue. There's lots they can do if it is.
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Hi, I'm a freshman girl and I am inlove with boxing. Anyways, I've been practicing on my heavy bag and this would be my second day on the heavy bag but yesterday after I got done hitting my heavy bag I noticed two knuckle blisters and they were sore all day long. Today, I went out there and I started hitting my heavy bag again and it wasn't too long until I found blood on my heavy bag so I took my gloves(they are leather btw) off and my knuckles were bleeding. I washed my hands with soap and put band aides on them, my mom helped me wrap my right hand but I started hitting my heavy bag again and I took my right glove off and it was bleeding again!! Could I be doing something wrong? If so, what is it? (link)
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You need to wrap your hands from the sounds of it with MMA/Boxing hand wraps to avoid wrist, knuckle and other hand injuries. Then put your bag gloves on.
I don't know if you have an instructor or not. If you do make sure you discuss this with them and get shown the proper way to wrap your hands. There are tutorials on the Internet but improper wrapping is as bad as no wrapping and can cause injury.
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Hi. I am 26 and I have a 26 year old Muslim boyfriend. When I first met my boyfriend, he wasn't a muslim yet. Last year he decided to become a Muslim, and he became really devoted to his religion. I'm a Christian. At first he told me he wouldn't push me to convert as a muslim. But these past few months, we are always arguing about our faith. He doesn't respect my faith and being so discriminating towards other religion. I told him I respect his faith but I don't want to talk about it anymore cause I don't want to argue. But he wouldn't stop. And tonight he told me that he will give me time to think about converting. I told him not to expect cause I'm really not going to change my religion. He said it will not work abd broke up with me.
I tried to understand this guy so much but I feel disrespected. Please help. I don't want our daughter to grow up without a father. Am I still going to accept him when he comes back to me? I'm sick of tired of arguing about our faith. I accepted him the day he told me he wants to be a Muslim but why can't he respect my faith? I was born as a Christian and I want to stay as a Christian forever. He told me too that he's not going to marry me if it's not in an Islamic way. Don't know what to do. :'(
Thank you for all your answers (link)
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Cut him loose and fast! Nobody has a right to demand this of you or force their way regardless of the religion. If you don't want to convert than don't. You're better off without this person or you'll forever be miserable. You don't need this.
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hello. i am to go to high school by november end. my parents are poor and deficit of financing my school supplies as my grandmother was sick and had to undergo an intensive treatment. i do work part time but i can't buy anything for all the cash is used up as tuition fees. i love going to school and don't want to drop out. i registered for many back to school giveaways but in vain.i also do not have any computer and walk miles to a cyber cafe for my school work. i was hoping if any kind person here can help me financially. i just need my school supplies . please help. if you are ready then comment your email where i can contact you. thanks in advance. i am really grateful. (link)
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Tell your teachers and guidance people at school the truth and let them help you. There's no way they will let you fall through the cracks over not having the finances for supplies you need. They will have a solution.
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hi there, 13/m. I am having auditions soon and i would like someone to help me find a short 1minute monologue, it can talk about anything as long as its appropriate for school. thank-you! (link)
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Look at what Jay Leno, Conan et all do. Take an item from pop-culture or the news that people your age will care about and write one joke and a punchline. That will fill your requirement. Make people think though with what you choose as well as laugh. I know you can do this.
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My favorite grandmother passed away last week on my birthday and wheni found out I was upset and cried a lot. but it still doesn't feel to me like she is really gone. Why don't I feel sad or why aren't I crying? could it possibly be that she is at peace now so I feel so too? I don't know but I feel bad because I should be super upset (link)
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Actually people experience grief in different ways and there is NO set way to be feeling. This is natural for you and fine. As time goes on you will become better able to handle the fact she is gone but your reaction is typical. No hard and fast rules on how to process grief.
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My boyfriend bought us tickets for general admission to see Paramore.
What should I be prepared for, what do I wear, and how early do I get there? (link)
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It sounds as though you have floors which are considered General Admission because you will be standing. Floors are ice level in an arena for a show that has west end stage set up. Essentially, they cover the ice and that's what makes the floor.
In this case you need to know two things. Number 1 it's going to be very hot and people packed in like sardines. You need to buy lots of water, wear lose clothing and comfortable shoes as you will be there for hours.
Secondly, you want to get there early even during the opening act because the minute your headliner is on there will be a surge to the front and you don't want to be behind people you can't see over.
Call the arena's fan services hotline and ask them for the set times which is when each act is scheduled to go on and figure out when to be there. Typically if it's a 7:30 show expect a 6:00 or 6:30 entry. The biggest pain in the rear is security checks so I recommend standing in line earlier than that to go in first. They always take the longest time checking women FYI.
Next go and visit setlist.fm and type in Paramore. Select the last date before your concert and copy the list of songs down in that order as that's the same list you'll get. That's because all the songs are lined up to lighting cues.
This is a good thing to have so you know when to bail and miss thousands of people pouring out when it's over. Always head for the exit when it's 2-3 songs from the end and watch/listen from the entry way of your section if desired. Bring money and secure it and your phone.
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I've already reported your site to Google and other search engines. I hope they kick your sad sorry butts off the net, or that Obama does something about sites like this, where any idiot can answer a question like "What's the fastest way to commit suicide?" I'm a reporter doing an expose, and believe me I will expose your site and others who are allowing this type of thing to occur! God help you if a parent finds the site up on their child's computer after such a suggestion is made and the teen carries out their suicide attempt in the exact manner as a teenager told them to do.
Isn't the world cruel enough? Where do you people get your values from? Or do you have any at all?
Pull out a bible and try reading it sometime!
A concerned mom (link)
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To add to what Dangernerd said when people on here see those kind of questions they NEVER give anyone advice on doing what they are seeking. Instead we try to address the real problem behind their feelings, present other options and show them that they can regain the life they seek if they get professional help.
Ignoring the question outright does nothing at all to help that person. I can certainly see as can anyone who reads this where your concern stems from as I've often questioned whether teen-to-teen advice on the subject is a good idea. But I think what the seeker is really looking for is someone level-headed to show them another way and steer them away from suicide that they aren't getting in the real-world.
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Tomorrow I'm going to the movies with my boyfriend and a couple of his friends. Well, they're both male.. I don't have a problem with it, but I just don't want to feel left out or something. I don't have anyone to invite, either... What should I do? (link)
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Go with an open-mind and don't worry about it. Your boyfriend likely wants to show you off and his focus will be mostly on you. I don't think he would put you in any situation he knew would be uncomfortable. In other words these guys aren't jerks and he figures you will fit in. Just converse or behave normally with them and go with the flow of things. You're bound to do well if you do that.
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Okay so I have got an Ipad 2 with 32 GB
I updated the ios 7 on it and after that I turned it on and there was just the apple sign. But it didnt turn on at all. I thought this was part of the update so I waited 2 days but Its still in the same situation. Every now and then the apple sign goes away and theres just the black scren. Then there was this iTunes sign that I should plug it in with iTunes. So i did that, and i updated the latest verion of iTunes, then plugged the cable in to my ipad but iTunes couldnt find my device. What could I do? Thanks! (link)
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Do you have Apple Care? Always get that warranty with one of their products. If you have it go onto their Web site and get the U.S. number for technical support and they will trouble shoot the issue. It's only available to people who paid for the service.
However, if there is an Apple Store near you walk in and explain that your Ipad stopped working the second you downloaded their latest software. They have technicians there that can diagnose the issue. There's a chance someone here may have a similar issue and solution.
I had to call Apple to get the icons for all my apps back after it wouldn't display on my Iphone 4S. They fixed it. A word of caution to anyone who hasn't downloaded IOS 7 in one word DON'T. Stick with 6.0.
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Hii... 14\F I really like this guy , I dream of him and think of him 24\7. I tried but I just can't get over him. he is turning 19. He allways tell me he likes me and loves me, but i dont really know if its true! he lives far away, but me and his sister are really good friends. He held my hand before but just for like 3 min. He is really cute with dark brown eyes and brown hair and his smile is awesome! He have the cutest little dimples. Should I tell him? Im afraid he is not gonna like me back?? (link)
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He cannot reciprocate because you are a minor and he's an adult. As much as you like him you have to see that you are a minor, date your own age, and leave this be.
It can't happen. I also question someone that age being interested in someone who is still a child. It's okay to feel this way about someone but knowing in real-life you can never act is what you need to see here. I would say nothing and drop it as you have to given the law.
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20/f
For the past year probably, I've been feeling so bad. Crabby, tired, upset, don't care... just overall in a bad mood. I think a few things could have led to this, such as a break up with someone I really cared about or not doing as well as I wanted in school. I just really don't know what to do about it anymore. Its gotten to the point where I just don't care about anything anymore. I've been playing soccer for about 10 years and recently I just quit my college team because I'm not happy. My parents said it is really unusual that I'd quit this sport because when I was younger I was in love with it.
I'm currently in a relationship now, been dating for a month. It's going well but I guess I've just given up on hope that I will find the right man for me. Sometimes I can just feel myself getting crabby or irritated for no reason with him. Then some times he will do something like lie to me and usually I would get upset but now I just don't even care.
I always feel tired. I've been getting about 8-9 hours of sleep every night but all throughout the day I just feel soo exhausted and lazy. It just makes me sad because 2 years ago I would be so happy about this awesome fall weather and going to football games etc. I had mono when I was 14 and this kind of feels similar, but I don't think I have it again.
I just really want some advice on how to start feeling better again. I've tried getting more sleep on the weekends but I still feel so crappy and lazy. I went on a bike ride yesterday and that sort of helped only for a little bit. Can anybody help me? (link)
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I'm not a doctor but from what you have read this seems to be depression. Any time you can't function and have lost interest in usual life and activities it's a sign.
You might also be experiencing a medical issue with chronic fatigue. What you should do is see your doctor and mention everything in your above letter and get guidance on correcting what's wrong.
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I'm a second year college student studying the media, I've been given an essay topic, but don't really understand what it requires, could somebody help me? This is the topic:
Using knowledge gained in this course regarding the political determinants of news production, investigate the news production processes at either a mainstream or community news outlet of your choice. Your essay should evaluate how the political determinants align with or deviate from the theory discussed in this course.
Thank you so much guys! (link)
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I need to know what the theory discussed in the course is to help further. Apart from that all they want is for you to go to a newspaper or other media outlet and see how they produce it and show how the process is different or the same as discussed in class.
I would talk to your prof. and tell them that you don't understand your assignment and what the essay has to prove. This way you can't go wrong.
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My fiance was recently terminated from his job, The distric manager came in and let him go.
I had bought a prepaid phone and he used his discount card which took off $21.00 a week later I returned the phone due to wanting to go under my fathers plan. I got back 178.00
Walmart stated he was not allowed to use his discount on me unless we were legally married. He was told he could use his discount as long as he was there and purchasing it as a gift. Basically walmart considered this to be loss of income and him using his discount to be stealing from the company.
He also was questioned for stealing, he accidently put a small toy ball in his pocket with intentions of returning it. He found this ball at work while he was on scedule. He had forgotten about the ball and ended up taking it home. He admitted to stealing as they had it on camera although it was really an honest mistake. He offered to even pay for the ball
We feel he was wrongfully terminated, I am the one who returned the phone and I paid for it and we wanted to know if this was a good enough to sue walmart. We are also thinking of suing for emotional stress (link)
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Essentially screwed! Once you sign a paper admitting theft he has no case. NEVER sign a damn thing that means you admitted it. Unless a lawyer tells you to sign a document don't.
It doesn't matter at all legally or otherwise what your boyfriend intended. He should have never put said ball in his pockets for a second with recorders around. To Wal-Mart and the law this signifies intent to steal. He took it from the store so it's viewed as theft. You cannot sue as he was terminated properly.
As for the phone if it's returned and paid for that's it. Just be happy they haven't involved the police and theft charges. You have no grounds and he got off lightly here. Most prosecute no matter what was stolen.
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okay. so recently i have become "popular". and now all of a sudden people have been starting to hate me. i'm finally where i want to be, but i dont want to deal with stuff that other people put me through because of this recent "change". personally, i'm a very pretty girl. i have a lot going for me. and i dont want this effecting my school work. i havent dropped any of friends in this recent "change". but i am so sick of being told i shouldnt have made it as far as i have. i should stop going to school. i'm only popular because im "hot" and have a "nice body". how do i stop this? or atleast learn to ignore it..? (link)
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You cannot control what others think. You don't have to "deal" with their jealousy, remarks or negativity towards you. By showing people it doesn't bother you and that you're the same person as before this will fade away.
Don't give the reaction they want out of you. As long as you treat people the same as before and don't change you'll have the respect of the right people. Your friends from before are insecure and envious.
Perhaps if you tell them that it's okay to be popular but not if it's all about people's perception of your body driving it. Let them know you didn't choose this and that nothing has changed in your approach to people.
It may help to get counseling on how to handle this pressure and friends. Aside from that if jealousy and B.S. continues just ignore it and live your life. It's all you can do as you cannot control what others think but you can influence it.
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