Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I want to get my teeth whitened/bleached by my dentist but I had have a filling done right on my fronth teeth. Is this a problem?
I don't want to do it with Crest Whitestrips or anything, I want him to do it, I just wanted to know if I should bother asking. (link)
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Your filling shouldn't be a problem :)
But did you know teeth whitening can cost hundreds to thousands of dollars in some cases?
Good luck!
-Abby
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Im 13/f depressed gothic girl. One of my bffs is having her 13 bday soon. Shes always been the sporty girl that has all (guy) friends and 4 (girl) friends. Shes as gross as all the guys and acts like one as in acting out sex and porn and everything like that. and tries to get people who like eachother to makeout and ya. And her guy friends spend the night a lot as friends. Her bday is paintball then a sleepover guys and girls. My mom wont let me spend the night but I can go shoot people and they shoot me? Whats so bad about spending the night with a lot of guys and girls as friends? Ive never had a bf and me and my bff (a guy) like eachother and she started it! So what do you think all will happen if I could get my mom to let me? My bff is going to. we love eachother. What would happen between us and at the party? I really wana go. never know what shed do ~Please help soon~ (link)
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Your mother does have a right to be concerned. She probably thinks you and your boyfriend will do something innapropiate there.
But you can try to convince her.
Will the parents be there? Make that a big point if they will. Even tell her to call the mom and talk about it if it makes her more comfortable. And let her know that you aren't ready for a sexual relationship with your boyfriend (atleast I hope your not, and if you are, I sure wouldnt tell my mom)and that even if you were, you wouldnt have sex in a house full of people. Try being really nice and doing extra chores too.
As for what could happen, Im sure your bf would want to get a little closer to you. I dont think anything more than kissing/cuddling, though.
Good luck
-Abby
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okay so i know this is a odd question but what dose it meen to douche? like i think it has some thing to do with do their but like what dose it do or what is it for??? (link)
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The user below me has the wrong answer.
Douching is using a "douche" obviously and it circulates water into and out of your vagina or medical/hygenic reasons. Not to "smell pretty". Never ever put perfume into your vagina Thats probably an infection waiting to happen.
-Abby
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is there anyway not to blush when a boy you like is sweet? i hate blushing and i can feel it :[ is it very noticable? (link)
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Blushing is only noticable when someone is really paying attention, thats why your friends will notice because they know you like the guy, or thats why the guy will notice, because he's paying special attention to you and that might mean he likes you.
Or some people just blush really brightly. It all depends on you. And some people think blushing is cute :)You cant help it really, its a natural thing your body does.
-Abby
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is there anyting i can do to gain wieght really fast?? im really skinny for my age but i dont have a eating disorder or anything like that. (link)
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Luckly, gaining weight is a lot easier (in my opinion) than loosing it.
You want to gain it the healthy way, though. So that doesnt mean stock up on junk food.
Build up your tolerance and eat a little more food every day. They make bars and shakes especially for gaining weight.
Try gaining muscle. Muscle is heavier than fat, and if your skinny trying to get a curvy look (i hope your a girl, lol) muscle tone is a lot more attractive than flab. And if your a guy, a six pack is pretty attractiv, lol.
See if you can talk to your doctor.
Good luck!
-Abby
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Theres this guy that i kind of like.. nothing big but i do.. and i'd really like to "grab his attention" like when i walk by in the halls.. i want him to notice me.. and when i talk to him online i want to be able to stand out in his mind out of all the other girls... how do i do this?
HELP! (link)
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It's not that hard to catch a guy's attention (there easily amused :p)
Instead of walking by, strut by. Move your hips a bit and hold your head up high. It also helps to have a great scent on so he'll smell you after he sees you. He'll deffinitely notice.
When you talk to him, smile, crack a joke, and leave him with something to think about. Just let your personality shine!
Good luck,
-ABBY
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Are wigs realyl good and won't fall out if someone like pulls your hair, if you get into a cat fight, and swim with it?
I hate my hair, and I hate spending so much money on buying products so I'm going to find a wig that really suits me, and shave my head to start over and just hid it with a wig. (link)
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Depends on the wig. You can buy a very good one that is vacuum sealed to your head (not painful or anything) and you can shower with it, swim, run around do whatever. Or there are tapes and such, but Im not sure how well that sticks.
It sounds like a crazy idea to most, but I knew a friend who did pretty much the same thing (after a hair disaster) and actually liked it. Very low matinence.
Good luck!
-Abby
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ok i write alot of poems about my good/bad life experiences and i read them to my friends. all of the friends that i have read them to say that i should get them published. im not trying to be cocky but i do think that my poems are good too. my question is who could i send my poems into so that they can get published, or even looked at by a professional? also i am 14f if that helps. lol thanks in advance
XOXO (link)
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Look into things at your school. My teacher entered me in a state poetry contest and I even got an honorable mention and was published in a book. That helped my writing a lot actually, I've been published many times after that as well.
If you are considering writing a poetry book, you'd have to find an agent or send your work to a publishing house.
Good luck!
-Abby
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why my down part is getting black day by day,,
please tell me,, its turning black, i m a guy, and i want my penis white,, [plz tell me somthing (link)
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DOCTOR!
ASAP!
This could be an infection, std, disease, anything, even something life threatinging, so you need to get off this site and see a doctor.
Good luck
-Abby
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Usually its easy for me to chose out gifts. but right now im panicking. i need to buy a birthday gift for my mother-in-law, and i have no clue! and my fiance is USELESS!!! shes 44, middle eastern, and doesn't like to be considered old. i honestly don't know that much about her..please dont give general answers like get her jewelry or perfume. please give me something specific to work with. thaaanks a bunch! :) (link)
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With people your not sure about, go for the classics.
Chanel perfume, tiffany bracelets, seiko watches, and coach bags are all timeless that any person would appreciate. There beautiful (and expensive) and I guarentee she'll love them. Dont go for anything trendy- they wont be in style in a couple months.
Good luck!
-Abby
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Ok I want to prevent myself from getting a tan..so would I have to go for higher numbers like spf 45? Wouldn't my skin be really oily then? would it be more expensive than other ones? What about ones for my face? (link)
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No matter what sunblock you use, if your skin naturally tans it will tan to some extent. The number of the spf doesnt make it more or less oily or more expensive. You can use special block made for your face that has no oil or grease in it, so it wont clog your pores.
-Abby
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i am 19 male
i seriously, am troubled by a thing. i have this friend (Girl). she has a bf and she has got serious problems at home(as she says but i really dont think so).i have been helping her in whatever way she wanted, specially when she needed me eg. when she was having problems with bf, when her mother was ill, etc. But now when she has everything going in the right direction in her life, i really feel she doesnt care about me, she used to call me to know where i am when i didnt reach in time this i find missing. there are many simmilar cases i can possibly think of one at this time, i dont know why i always try worry about our relation. i dont why this is getting on me? i tried to just not think these kind of things, but i am unable to. now i seriously feel she is only using me when she requires me and she will do the same next year when her bf is out of college. i have tried asking her if she is intentionally ignoring, she said she doesnt do it deliberatly its her natural self. i have tried behaving as she behaves with me but she is too busy with bf to think about this. this is getting on me? i dont know what to do?
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I have experienced a simillair thing.
One of my, well former good friends (now we just tolerate each other) always had problems, always had an issue. And she would take it out on whoever was there to listen. So she'd have a new good friend every so often. She'd let her problems out on them, they'd listen. And they got nothing out of it, and were just dropped as friends soon after. Now they all bascially, hate her.
Dont let this happen to you. Really talk to your friend, and tell her that you want a friend all the time, not a friend when she has a problem and needs help. Friendship is about being there 24/7 for the other person, wehter is when they need to talk or are in trouble, or when they just need a laugh. Im sure she'll understand. And if not, is the pain on you really worth it? You must decide.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Guys think i'm hott but they nvr ask me out. Is ther somthin wrong with me? I'm also really popular and nice. (link)
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There could be a number of things stopping guys from asking you out.
-Their intimidated. If your popular and always around your friends you might seem unreachable or out of it. Guys are DEFFINITELY intimidated to even talk to you if your with a ton of other girls. I've heard that from a guy myself.
-You might not seem to be "girlfriend material." You may have put yourself in the friend zone, where guys dont see you that way, or you might have a reputation just for not being the type of girl who can be a girlfriend.
-Some people might think because your popular that your snobby or something.
-Guys are shy.
No matter what the reason is, you have to make an effort to be asked out. Pick a guy you like and flirt with him! Show him your personality, impress him. Make him want to ask you out. Let your good qualities shine. Let them see you as a girl they can talk to, a girl who is something more than popularity, a girl who is smart and funny, a girl who is just great to be around.
Good luck!
-Abby
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okay, well i really can't find any bathing suits that will fit me right because i have huge boobs. like no joke. and all of the juniors bathing suits never fit on the top. so my mom tried to get me to get a tankini but i really don't want one. i got a bathing suit that like comes across so it doesnt go down, and that works but then im like insecure about my stomach. do you know any ideas to get a flatter stomach in 12 days!?!?!?!?!!? i don't care what it takes. i NEEd to. i use the tredmille veryday and the eliptical and try to do about 100 crunches on the ab loyunge tihng. (link)
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Im sorry, but even if you starved yourself and did absoulutely nothing but exercising for 12 days, there wouldnt be a huge difference on your stomach, but there'd deffinitely be a difference in your health.
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okay i have these friends that i love todeath when they are not teasing me. but alot of people i know say i should find new friends cause they treat me bad. like they are always picking on me and it makes me mad. well not mad but it hurts my feelings and i dont know how to show my feelings and they think i am mad at them. i have asked them to stop but they wont. i just dont understand. do you constantly make fun of your bestfriend and make them feel like crap/an idiot? i mean i know friends tease each other but enough is enough right? am i acting rediculous? (link)
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Your friends think it's all fun and that you take it too seriously, not that it really hurt you. Tell your friends individually that it does hurt you and you just wish they'd stop. If their really your friends, they will stop.
-Abby
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okayy umm how do i change my appearence on the computer...? i mean like is there a software or website that lets me upload a picture and change stuff about it becusse i dont like my hair color and i would like to see how it looks like with a different color. HELP WOULD BE GREATLYYY APRECIATED, THANK YOU IN ADVANCE =) (link)
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Photoshop, or i-village.com has a game but it's not very realistic.
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Hello...
I have a teen daugter she is 13 and she goes to the mall all the time which I don't mind.But she always brings home clothes and says their her friends or something like that and I found 1 price tag in her room...she has a history of shoplifting but do you think shes at it again ?
Signed,
Questioned (link)
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As a teen, I know parents can jump to conclusions easily and it can be very agravating, so consider everythign before making a desicion or saying something.
She always brings home clothes and says they are her friends?
Next time she comes home, ask to see what she bought. If she bought it all, there will be receipts. And also as a teenage girl, it's hard to tear a girl away from her clothes, so her friends wouldnt lend her all their clothes. You can ask if she has any clothes of her friends that she borrowed that needed to be washed and returned to see if they really are her friends clothing.
Do not search her room or go through her things without permission. Destroying the trust between you two will lead to plenty of problems.
If all else fails, just talk to your daughter (calmly) Ask her straight forward, but do not over react or loose your cool. Explain all the consequences of shoplifting and how it could ruin her life, basically. It sounds corny or something you'd hear from Dr. Phil, but communication is key.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Ok..so..i went on a date with this guy tonight and he was soo sweet. But..the problem is..im a little wild..i drink sometimes..and i cuss sometimes..i mean im your average teenager. This guy never drinks..and he just seems sooo good. Its not attractive to me..i like the bad boy image. Should i ditch this guy..or keep him around? (link)
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Don't pass him up because he isnt your type. See how far it goes. Maybe you'll bring out the wild side in him, and maybe he'll bring out some good in you! So go out again, learn more about him, and than see if there is a general attraction and if he's really worth it. Have fun!
Good luck!
-Abby
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does mastrobation stunt growth of the penis (link)
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Absoulutely not!
lol i never heard that one before
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I used to have quite a few freckles on my face but now I have like none. If you never go outside do they go away? If I go outside in the sun more will they come back? I like freckles. :) (link)
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As you get older, freckles fade, and prolonged time inside will make them fade a bit, as time outside will attract more.
If you want freckles, I can give you some, I have plenty! lol freckles is even my nickname :)
-Abby
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