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Q: i like this guy so i asked my friend to see what he thinks of me and he said im a whore! what the freak do i do now? drop it? dress more modest? i dont know! he always stares at my body so i dont get y hes complainging, im sure it was just locker room babble but still. sometimes guys liek whores.. (not that i am one!)

find out why he thinks you are that?

Q: I'm an 18 year old successful student at a top college...and I've found myself with the crazy urge to have a baby. This started in October. My boyfriend of 8 months and I ran out of condoms and had unprotected sex. It was the first time we had ever done it without one and I was terrified. A week later we broke up due to stress from living in different states. A couple weeks later I found out I was pregnant and I was scared to death, then a couple days later I had a miscarriage. Two months later we got back together and he now lives half an hour from my school. He knows I miscarried but we don't talk about it.
Since we've gotten back together we've had sex without a condom..a lot. Every so often it makes me nervous that I'll get pregnant again, even though he always pulls out, he pulled out the first time and I got pregnant on precum. But sometimes I'm completely unconcerned that I'll get pregnant and have a "if it happens, it happens" type of attitude about it.
I know he doesn't want kids now. His best friend is a new dad and he always talks about how stupid he was to get his girl knocked up but we're pretty much putting ourselves in the same situation.
I've always wanted children and I wanted my first by the time I was 24 so I've always wanted to be a younger mom but I never thought this young. Part of what makes me feel this way is seeing my boyfriend when he's around children. We're good friends with a 26 year old couple with two toddler girls and whenever my guy is around the kids he's so amazing with them.
I know his family would be supportive and knowing that isn't helping me get myself out of that. I know its hard to have kids, I've babysit triplet boys from the time they were born until they were 6.
I have the urge to have a baby, and I need to get out of it.

My opinion is your finish college or make sure you have your priorities together. I am 18 years old as well. I got pregnant young It was an accident but deffintly do not regret it. I have a son who is 3 years old. I am married and about to have my second child not to mention my husband has a 6 year old. I would love more than anything to go to college but it seems totally impossible with children. I am not big on day cars and your family would have to live close to your college or youd have to take night classes work up your relationship make it were you know more than anything you want to be with this guy for the rest of your life. when you feel you have a very strong relationship and you have it figured out for after the baby is born then talk to your boyfriend about it. maybe even talk about marriage first.

Q: Lately it seems liek I just pass out randomly! I was with my friends and I blacked out at the mall. I was just sitting in a chair and then I was flopped on the table. I don't know if I should go to the doctor or not. Does this happen to anyone else or is there something really wrong with me?

If I don't need a doctor then how do you keep from blacking out randomly?

Thanks you!

You should probably go talk to your doctor about it. It could be dagerous. A friend of mine blanked out while driving and totalled her car and broke her arm.

Q: My boobs. :( They are UNEVEN! is there any way to even them out? or make them look less lop-sided?

Are uneven boobs normal or is this something that means I am deformed in some kinda way?

Its not a big deal. I am 18 years old and my right breast is a bit larger than my left. I feel its easier to wear sports bras.

Q: Okay, so im a tenth grader in high school and i started liking this kid and i went home and asked my mom about him because his name sounded awfully familiar to me. now, she has told me that he is my second cousin, my mom's dad which is my pop pop is cousins to this boy's dad. now if your still with me i appreciate it. i believe that we are attracted to eachother and my mom said its okay for us to go out if we want to because technically we aren't blood related at all because my mom's dad isnt her biological dad which means my mom isn't blood related to her step dad, which all leads to me not being blood related to this boy. do you think it's still wrong? if so, why?

There is nothing wrong with it as long as the two of you are okay with it.

Q: I like this girl that already has a boyfriend, or so i think. i really like her and we know each other a little bit. We were hosts for a play for our school and we were partners. the problem is i don't know if she is interested and i don't know how to make a great impression. what do you recommend. i would like a girl's opinion, but i am glad to listen to anyone. if you need anymore details just ask. thanks for you help. and yes i'm a guy, sorry for the confusion. i thought that if i had a girl's profile name, i could get girl's to ask me for advice,so that they would take my advice and not just ignore it.

Approach her. Ask her if she is dating anyone. If she says yes, tell her you are oh sorry I thought you were beautiful and wanted to ask you to a movie or something. If she says no the tell her you think shes beautiful and ask her if she would like to go to a movie some time. ask her if she minds if you call her sometime.

Q: i saw a guy at a club he stared at me and asked me to dance with him and i left without even saying goodbye know i cant stop thinking of him should i stop searching for him ??let me know i need to know plese

What do you feel like you should do? Maybe go back to the club chances are if he is still thinking about you hell be there.

Q: hi guys
first off, i have been friends w/ a guy for around 6 months now. we have flirted and kissed and stuff but it has never really got serious. he saw me talking to another guy once and since then he thinks i like anyone but him. anyway we had a fall out in november, and at the beginning of january he apoligised to me and said he missed me etc.
now hes like wanting to see me a lot, he never made this effort before. is it me being paranoid or do you think hes actually just changed his mind?

From what you wrote it sounds as if he relized he has feelings for you and missed you and does not want to lose you.

Q: This is not a ban but a warning concerning your answer on this question. http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=576828.

Do not ever give potentially harmful advice or advice on illegal acts. It can & will get your account banned or even deleted.

Thank you!

I understand although I adviced more than once its not a good idea the consquences, etc. but thanks.

Q: I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. 7 months so far. Honestly, it took him 3 years to get over his last gf who broke up with him. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore, he's much too needy, but I'm literally scared he'll show up at my door if I break up with him. We live in 2 different countries. I'm scared of hurting him, but I'm tired of this relationship. It's not what I want, and he tells me he loves me 24/7, but I really don't feel the same. I'm lying to him by telling him that I do.

I don't want to keep this going on any longer. He talks about marriage, and kids with me, and buying an apartment. I've only known him for 10 months!! Ahh, & to make matters worse he's interfering with my school work. He gets so pissed when I say I need to go study/do my work. To avoid fighting, I literally just stopped doing my work. But I'm an A student, and I'm so tired of messing up my grades for him.

I need someone to please help me figure out the best way to tell him I want to end this, and what to say. I don't want to be cruel, but I want to make it clear it's over. Thanks!

Ending any type of relationship can be devistating. you need to just tell him. You are a A student and he is interfering with your work and you think you should see other people. First off he may go balistic and start calling your 24.7 and emailing all the time. i doubt hell show up at your house. Hun online dating is dangerous i just want you to be careful. and good luck but your being smart ending it ecspecially for the school work.

Q: Im 18/f. Me nad my boyfriend have been together for like a year and a half. We are going away to college next fall, but to different colleges. we plan to stay together. i just started on the birth control pills and im really stressed out because of grades and colleges and about me and my boyfriend being apart, and ive been having bad mood swings. my boyfirend gets really mad at me about them and snaps at me and we get into fights over them but i cant help it. when im stressed im always a little on edge and the hormones are too much, and i cant control them. what should i do? please help

I dont know much about that type of birth control so i looked it up online and read about it. I found a article where I female said she started off with terrible headaches that eventually went away but she was very bloasted and her breats were very tender and still are and her parents and boyfriend noticed she was extremely moody. Her doctor told her it takes 3 months for the product to adjust to your body. If you are still really moody I sugest you speak with your doctor and get switched. I heard the depo shot works wonders and you dont have to worry about taking the pill every day. Also I have a friend that got that implant in your arm she said the only part that even slightly hurt was numbing her arm to place the implant.

Q: so i recently let my bf finger me... idk ive done this before and i really liked it but i dont feel right about it... was it a bad choice or not?? idk please help any advice will be great. thanks.

Well what are your reasons for feeling bad about it. Do you feel you don't really have feelings with this guy? Its up to you if it was a bad choice or not.

Q: Heres whats up----
First before i write anything tell me not to do it i wont listen so dont bother.
Me and my two friends are planning on sneakign out of the hous up the street to a guy friends house and sleeping over..How do we get away with it?thats all im askin

First off I am going to say it any ways. Its not a good idea if your parents wont let you go. I am sure they are going to ground you when they catch you. there really is no way to do it with out getting caught besides keeping your bedroom door locked. and being home before you usally get up in the morning that way your parents do not think you have been sleeping all night. But honestly if your parents catch you they arent going to trust you anymore. they will start checking on you through out the night. etc.

Q: Sorry if this is explicit, but this is what happened!

We had intercourse Saturday night. During, it started to burn on the outside of my vagina when he would try to put it in. When we were actually doing it, it didn't hurt at all. (I for sure was naturally lubricated!) After a few times I noticed I was bleeding! I went to the bathroom, to urinate, and oh my gosh did it hurt! It burned really really bad! I was also bleeding heavily fresh blood (nasty sounding I know!) it's not my period. It's different blood and I'm on birth control that prevents me from having it. It also hurt when I walked the next day! I went to the doctor and she said it was a urinary tract infection. BUT I really don't think it is! She gave me a pamphlet and I'm reading that it does not sound like me. It's my vagina hole NOT my pee hole! it burns at the touch and when I urinate, too. They took my results to the lab and I haven't got them back. I'm scared to take the medication she gave! The doctor didn't even examine down there. I'm asking a lot: Would it be bad if I didn't take it? If you have any knowledge of a UTI does it sound like it's one? What else could it be? I'm still bleeding heavily and it is scaring me. (as you can tell the doctor wasn't very helpful!)

i dont know about the burning but im pregnant and in the beginning of my pregnancy i had two UTI's and i just had to go to the bathroom ALOT more than i do now and im 8 months pregnant lol and thats pretty freguantly. lol. any whom. it wouldnt hurt taking the medications. to test for a UTI. they should of had you pee in a cup and send it to the lab. that is how my OB doctor found out I had a UTI.

Q: i dont usually ask questions like this but i cant seem to get an accurate answer...is it possible to trade in games for games at gamestop?

yes,

Q: I'm 16 and 5'3 and 3/4. I've been in the 5'3" range since I was 11. I guess I started puberty early, because I got my period a week after my 10th birthday. I dont remember how tall I was then, but in 2nd grade I was 4'8". In second grade I was also size 8 shoe. Now I am a size 10 shoe.. which is weird seeing as I'm pretty short, and people with those size shoes as girls are almost 6 feet tall.

I really want to grow taller.. is it going to happen since feet grow before the rest of your body? I play volleyball and even though I have good hops, I won't be able to go far with it competing for a spot on a team with taller girls who will reach the top of the net faster since they are closer to the top of it. My older sister is 6'1" and has size 13 shoe. But she started puberty when she was 12-13 years old. My parents are both in the 5'8-5'10" range, too.

My height is the only part of me I feel self conscious about. I like to be taller than other people. Like preferably get in the 5'8"-5'10" range. I don't care if there's less guys.. I want to date a tall guy anyways, but I don't want there to be a huge height difference between us.

What are other signs your growing taller apart from your feet? I've actually been size 10 shoes since I was 14 or 15. I used to be like 9 3/4, so I'd wear size 10 and it would be a bit roomy, but I could also wear size 9 1/2. but now I just wear 10.

What are things I can do to hasten the growing process, too?

i quit growing at 13. once i got my first period i stopped growing. ask your doctor see what he or she says you may hit another growth spurt but i doubt it.

Q: I'm a thirteen year old girl.Ever since grade three, the boys keep making fun of me. Whether its my skin color or how I am. I never told on them and I don't want to. If my parents hear this, they will be really sad. Before, When I was seven, my parents and I stayed in a house with an old lady who was really grumpy. She hated me. Pushed me in the hallways, frowns at me, and put a smoking matchstick on my leg :(. Okay, that was old, but now, In school....people make fun of me. Everyone except few who have kind hearts. Whenever some guys see me, they keep saying "HOLY _____!" my name :(
I really want this to stop. It has been three years, and they can't leave me alone and live my frigging life. I feel like running away. Telling my parents to go to our home country. But they wont go there...because my dad needs to work in a country like this where people in my school teases me. I really don't want to tell on them. But I wish my life would be better. Is there anyways I could get my parents to make me move to my home country? I really want to go! :( And, don't just tell me to ignore them. Because this is what I have been doing for the last 2 and a half years. I can't talk to them either, because they start to make more fun of me and diss me. :( PLEASE HELP! I WILL BE REALLY THANKFUL TO YOUR HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS.

You need to tell someone first off because kids teasing other children lead to depression. I was a little heavier when I was younger and kids made fun of me and they made fun of my last name. I started playing in sports and hanging out with some of the kids in school and things got a lot better. i hope it does for you to. good luck hun.

Q: Should a girl use lubrican the first time she has sex?

it makes it more comfortable.

Q: so I finally met this guy yesetrday that I've been talking to for a while.
we talk just as friends. we flirt and send pictures to each other and stuff.
we hungout for like an hour becasue I had to be someone where.
it was me, him, his friend, and his friends gf.
they were reallly nice to me and suprisingly me and the girl got along which was great.
he taught me how to play pool and he gave me hugs and stuff.
he walked me to my car when I had to leave and he hugged me goodbye and it was seriously the best hug I've gotten in awhile. and he ssaid it was really nice to finally meet you and everyhting
i got realllly lost coming there to see him so they helped me out and when I went home he texted me asking me if I found my way and stuff and he asked me if I'm home yet and I said yeah and he's like good. then we were texting the whole night and he's like what did you think of me and stuff and then he's telling me how horny he is haha.

he told me that he's gonna be honest with me and he's not ready for a relationship. but he asked me what I'm down to do. and I said anything haha.

i guess I understand he's not ready for a reltionship (only with me I'm guessing) becuase I'm 17 he's 21 and just had a kid.
what should I do? I'm wondering if I should talk to him today or wait for him to taalk to me first. I kinda wanted to go see him after work today but I don't know if that's pushing it?

can I have some advice and waht to do?

I think you should wait get to know him better from what it sounds like he just want's sex from you. yes he sounds like a sweet heart and that is how most guys are if he asked what are you into that is what he wants. I am sorry if that isnt what you wanted to hear but if you want something no strings attached then go for it.

Q: So my husband and i have had so many problems last year....infidelities, anger, insecurities, unsolved problems, stress etc...and i can see it taking its toll on his part of the marriage.
I still struggle as well, we both are. But despite all our problems we are still trying very hard for the marriage because our feelings for each other are still going strong. So everyday we are fine with each other, we do talk about our problems sometimes but when we get in a fight, he cant seem to control his anger....

There were several times last year where hed leave me with a ugly bruise or two on my arm or marks on my wrists from being grabbed....i never thought id be in this sort of situation but at the same time i didnt find it too serious. I got more accustomed to it.

Lately its been getting worse & i believe the entire time i knew how worse it would most likely get was just being in denial. Hes choked me once before, and again just last night which was the worse of the two...everything has been leaving me so confused about my feelings towards him & he says hes not proud of himself for it. Hes told me that i should leave the house for a little while because he doesnt want to hurt me in any physical way anymore than he has, but i have problems with staying with other people, my friends & family are nowhere near where we live.
At the same time i dont even think this is too serious right now, i actually think that its probably my fault because of how angery he is & all the things he was made to put up with. He says he cant control it, am i just being blind?
How can i deal with this while not leaving for a while? Or deal with it at all....?? Please help i dont know what to make of this...

If he has done this more than once he is not going to change hun. Maybe counsling. Anger managment classes. Help him that way. But in my opinion I think its time to seperate. Maybe some time down the road things will change but I do not for see it. You need to help you self. What if you had children or do you? Seeing him put your hands on you teaches them its okay thats how it is supose to be. I was in a situation my ex choked me cheated on me all the time smoked marijuana in the house while my son was there drank. shot animals in front of my son. I finally got brave enough to leave with the help of my friends and family do what is best.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.