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I know this sounds really weird, but is it normal to have a little crush on a character in a movie? Not the actor, but the character. Because, I have no idea why, but I kind of have a crush on the Phantom from "Andrew Lloyd Webber's Phantom..." I don't know why. Maybe it's because he's so dramatic, you really feel for him, has a great voice, and/or the unmasked side of his face is goodlooking. Is this pathetic?

lol no its not pathetic..i just means the creators of the characters did an excellent job if they can get through to you like that.

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I am really close friends with this one guy. I can tell him everything but I feel like he thinks of me as a little sister. The thing is I wish we could be more. He is like the perfect guy! He is tall dark and handsom, he has ambitions set for him self, he is active in sports and at school! he is romantic and i feel like I can talk to him about everything! It got me thinking about how I could show him the real me! I started thinking and here is what i thought

Maybe I could save up and take him out to a really nice place for dinner and then a movie! But then Im thinking ok is that to dorcish? PLUSS he doesnt even think of me that way and he is way out of my leage!

Im not sure what to do.. Should I just forget about it and stay good friends with him?

sorry it was so long

welll, i think just hanging out together would be just fine..you dont have to save up money and take him out somewhere nice.Just spend some 1 on 1 quality time with him..and maybe bring it up in convo...use the oh so famous line "do you think of us as being more than just friends?"be flirty...maybe even gather the courage to straight out say you like him. Take the gamble...life is a gamble...without ttaking chances your not living life. Rejection is hard trust me i know...so if you get rejected its ok! life is full of rejection..you gota keep going..let me know how it turns out :)

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OK...Say you really LOVE the sport Basketball...you have been offered to join the freshmen team (but ur a 7th grader)...You wanna play but you dont like the coach...Everyone Says he is a Pervert.Also 8th graders that u have played Basketball with in the Past get mad because you were offered To Be on a Freshmen team..(8th graders are post to be you Bffs??).well..what do i do??..TRy to live with it and play for him?...or Go to a different high school and play for them..Thanks

you love the game right..? dont let anything stop you. if the coach gives you problems, catch him red handed by using a tape recorder or something sneaky like that...as for the girls ..dont let that get to you. a team has to pull together to win, if they see your bringing everything you got, they shhould work with you on the court. if they dont, they will be sorry and lose. what im saying is..you might not like someone off the court, but on the court you have to respect what their bringing and work with them. give it a try, you can always quit if its just too much for you
-melissa

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Everyone tells me that glow in the dark tampons are a bad idea. Am I the only one that thinks I could make millions off of it?

no hun im sorry..i dont think its a good idea..i mean picture this... a girl on a date in the movies and shes glowing! that would be invalid..


just my opinion

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well i havent had my first kiss yet... but i really want it! uh how do i let my boyfriend no that i want to kiss him or him to kiss me without telling him?

the moment just comes..
maybe try kissing his neck or holding his hand..smiling, look in his eye, get close to him, cuddle..he should pick up on the hints

good luck :)

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I have always been a helpful person. Very easy going, but not happy. I always help my friends in any way I can. Luck? I have very little luck. That is if your a believer. About 3 months ago I went out with this guy. We broke up a month later and now were still friends. But I really like him. I sorta thought he liked me. But I think he likes my friend Amber. And everytime I think about it I cry. Everyone else has a Bf. Even the snobbs. I'm not Mrs. Preppy. I don't do happy. I just wonder whats so wrong with me.

there is nothin wrong with you sweety..i know how it is to see all these couples around you..and how it is to want someone so bad..your not alone, there is nothing wrong with you. there will be many romeos coming in and out of your life -- just be patient..its so hard trust me i know
hang in there
:)

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I am sooo ugly. I mean I am 13 I weigh 210 and I am 5'8. I am built like a man and I don't wear skirts, dresses, or anything like that. My face is 'sorta' fat. My butt is flat. I can't wear my hair down cause its to fuzzy. The guy I like likes my best friend he even said she had a 'nice' a**. :'( I have streatch marks all over my arms and legs.... Should I just get rid of myself or live in misery? Please no smart a**es.

sweety..im short, very heavy, just not pretty...i will admit i do get down about it, but not as often as i used to..i gues. i kind of accepted it, some people are so0 gorgeous, and others dont have the same beauty. Beauty is so artificial! its like the wrapping paper to you..it doesnt matter! there are all kinds of wrapping paper but whats important is you :)
i bet your a nice person ...trrrrrrust me i totally know how its like to have your crush like your best friend...its so hard i kno i kno! one day, a guy will come along forr you..just be patient..i know its hard. guys always always look at my best friends and want them....one day it will be different..a special guy out there will want me. you have to stay positive ...be strong with me

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Hey, ok well ok im 14, and i recently lost my virginity a few days ago. I didnt use a condom, and im scared. Do you think i could be pregnant? But we probably only had sex for a minute. Please help im wooooried!!

hey ...any unprotected sex means there is a chance of you being pregnant. if he didnt cum, the chances are less..but there is still a chance because there is precum..precum is premature ejaculation that the guy cannot control and doesnt know when premature ejaculation comes out. how recent was this? if it was very recent meaning the last 3 days, then you can go to planned parenthood and take a 72 hour pill, which kills a fertilized egg. i would take a pregnancy test..one of the first response ones also. i think you will be ok, just keep it in mind for next time..to be careful
-melissa

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I have this friend. And we spent the whole summer together being best friends. We are both really nice and fun when we are not mean to each other. Sometimes we get in these huge fights but the next day she wants to be my friend! What do i do?!

Ill rate 5's for good answers!

everyone gets into fights with friends..as long as these fights arent happening all the time, then your fine. i mean i know friends that were broken up over one big fight..its pretty cool that you and your fiend can move on so quickly from a fight...and if your kind of feeling like "wait a minute, im still mad.." then just talk it out...another thing is sometimes things arent worth it and you just drop it you know? well thats what i have learned in my experiences.
-meliss

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what happens...when yu want a boyfrend but no one seems to like yu? i need help
what can i do?

hey lots of people are in the same spot as you, including me! i get pretty down sometimes about it..but you gota just hang in there..meet new people, keep your options open, mingle, and you will find someone. most imoportantly, BE YOURSELF! :)
-melissa-

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This might sound a little whack, but I've been having these mad dreams. Let me explain...One night, I was working on myspace, and I saw this really cute guy that just "popped up". I was like, OMG! HE'S GORGEOUS! And that night, I had this dream where I was in the woods and this guy came up behind me, and it just just really romantic, and he surprised me by taking me to a water fall and eating lunch. Then we kissed behind it, and just...hung out. Then we starred into the sky and crap. Well, when I woke up, I saw this friend request from him, so I looked at his profile...and in his WHO I WANT TO MEET section, THAT'S WHAT WAS THERE. MY LITTLE FANTASY/DREAM. Almost exactly like it...and I got a little freaked out. I keep having dreams about ppl I don't know, and then I end up meeting them or tlaking to them...I don't know how anyone could help me, but it would ROCK if someone could.

wow , awesome story..you dont need any help..its very exciting. try looking stuff on dreams up on google..google.com is my best friend lol

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If you aren't experianced I don't know if you want to read this.

My bf and I have been together for 1 year and 6 months and have been sexual active together for about 4 months.

Well he came over last night and we were fooling around and started having sex. Everything was going fine but then he started getting rough. It was getting to be wayyy too much for me so I told him to not be so hard. He didn't listen and just kept at it.

It got bad enough for me to where I broke out in tears and he still didn't slow down.

When he was about to finish off he took it out and cummed all over me adn my sheets. I usually don't have a problem with that but when we were done (or when he was done anyways) he wouldn't let me clean up. I wanted to take a shower so bad but he wouldn't let me. We just layed there and slept which was very uncomfortable for me because it was gross and sticky.

Now I don't know if I can be comfortable around him. He's never done anythign like this before. he always used to listen while we were in bed adn never went too fast or hard. I don't know what got over him. What should I do? 18/f

your have to understand that your bf raped you..how do you want to deal with thAT? Are you really going to stay with a guy who RAPED you?
i would break up with him
-melissa-

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I'm trying to get over this one guy that I used to really like, but whenever I try to move on to someone different he keeps on becoming more appealing to me. As if he wont let me forget about him. Should I confront him about how I feel or continue to look for someone new?

yeah i think you should give it a shot and let him know how you feel. if he turns you down its ok..it will bring closure and at least you tried. you dont know if you dont try
-melissa-

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i am just wondering because i read this somewhere but what is a g-spot?

the g-spot is located in the vagina..and when its stimulated you get a huge orgasm (so i hear)
-meliss

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Hi. I like this girl alot and she wont realize how much we are meant to be. Yes i am only in highschool but i know she is right. I told her several times but she just keeps saying not now or i cant see you as more. I need to know how i can tell her that we are meant to be. Please help.
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if its meant to be..someeeehow you will end up together. Fate always works out ..i know how you feel though, you feel so strongly about someone and you just want to make them see...but you cant do that : make someone like you. im sorry and i know it sux..trust me though,if your meant to be together you wil get together.

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Say a girl and a guy that are dating have sex alot. If one night the girl didn't want to but the guy forced her to, is that still rape? Becuase she's had sex with him before, she just didn't feel like it right then.

yeah its definately rape. ANY unwanted sex is rape..doesnt matter the circumstances. Even if the girl lets the guy go ahead and says stop in the middle and he doesnt listen..its rape.

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I gave my boyfriend a handjob, and i'm afraid I wasn't that good. He did ejaculate until after. Why is that? Does anyone have any good advice/ tricks on what feels good and will make then ejaculate while you are doing it? Thanks alot

i would like to help, but last time i gave details out my account got suspended for 5 days...so IM me on AIM -- my sn is yourinvalid

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My gramma just died a week ago, and my parents just told me yesterday that they are getting a divorce. All of this just seems like too much for me to handle. I have incredible faith in God .. so I pray to him ... but sometimes that doesnt seem like enough? How can I deal with this? I dont really wanna talk to my friends about it ... cus all their parents are still 2gether, what should i do?

even if your friends parents arent split up, they are still your friends and will comfort you. I think it would be a good idea to talk to people with divorced parents. talk to people online, or even start up a group in school. i remember we had something like that in elementary school called "bannana split". it was a group where the kids would talk to each other about how their parents were split up. a lot of people go through what you do, your not alone..maybe talk to an aquaintance at school..a more distant friend, surely soommeeone you know has divorced parents. well im always here for you, leave me an inbox if you would like
-melissa-

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Is it possible to find the "one" when you're only 14? I have been thinking about this alot. I have this boyfriend, he is the best guy in the world. He doens't pressure me to do anything. We have been dating for 3 weeks and he hasn't pressured me to do anything. Just yesterday it took him the whole football game to put his arm around me, and it wasn't even fully. He hasn't even kissed me yet. Personally, I love this. I don't like feeling pressured. He texts me and or calls me everyday. I like him so much. I don't know if I love him though. But that isn't really my question. My question is, should I be looking for "the one" right now? I know it is a really small chance that I will find the one so early. I am only a freshman and I can see this relationship is going to last a long time, but the next 3 years of high school? Is it possible that we can stay together for the next 3 years?

When i was 14 i felt the same way..we were inseperable and wonderful together..we lasted for 6 months. you see, im not going to stomp down your hopes that this will last a very long time..it very well could last all of high school. i have a friend or 2 whose parents were high school sweathearts. you shouldnt close doors at this young of an age..your going to meet so0o many more people...people change, things change..but im not saying you two wont last..im not saying anything..you just dont know..its possible, but you shouldnt be making wedding plans lol. What im saying is enjoy this relationship..it may last 6 months, high school, 6 years,a lifetme..you just wont know. dont worry about the end because this is just the beginning :)

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OK for anyone that can help me.
Every time me & my husben have sex & I have an orgasam its like a water fall. I have had sex with outher guys & I never had this problem and its not like it just happens onces it will happen 2 or 3 times. One night I had to make him stop becouse I could not handle it any more I felt realy bad about it. thanks pooh bear

you cant control it...but why is it so bad? i say let the waterfall flow baby! it probably makes your husband feel verry good that hes making you soo wet!
^my opinion anyways

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