i'm pretty sure it's normal, but I'm just double checking, it's okay that my vagina feels sore a little or something, right ? nothing else hurts, I'm just making sure. thanks :)
Yep, it's totally normal. After a few times, it shouldn't be bad. :D
Hope this helps,
Darby
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I was curious to know... in dating; WHAT are the "BASES"? First, SEcond, Third... while Home Run is obvious... I just have never really had them clarified for me... so any help would be great. Exact and Specific details=HIGH ratings. =]
madison
It varies with different people, but typically:
First-holding hands, kissing
Second-hand up shirt/or groping
Third-oral sex
Fourth or Home run-all the way
Hope this helps,
Darby
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I really love my boyfriend, I really do. I care about him so much... But, I've noticed that we have different future plans. And all he talks about, is being together for the longest time. He says he wants to marry me, and I'm the only person he wants to have a family with. Honestly, that sounds pretty good to me. But, later on... I asked him what he wanted to do with his life in the future. He wants to go to a college in New York, with his music. And me, I want to stay where I am for a while and move out when I'm around 20 - 22 years old, and maybe try to study in California or abroad. When I told him that, he started crying... He said he didn't want to go to New York anymore, and he wanted to be where ever I was. He said I was worth his life if we ever broken up, "I didn't know what was the meaning of happiness, until I got it, I don't want to lose it". He had the most amazing plans ever, he wanted to be a great musician and play in New York. But he gave up on all of that, just to be with me. I don't think I'm worth all of that, he said it was okay... Because he would also like to be a band director and it's still something he loves to do. I feel like he deserves the best, and I'm the one holding him back from it all. What should I do?
This is a very sticky situation. You don't want to hold him back, but you don't want to lose him. And he wants to go, but he doesn't want to lose you. Sit down with him and have serious talk. Ask him what he plans on doing if/when you go to California or abroad. Does he really want to follow you and be a band director in California or in a different country? Tell him that doing his music is a once in a lifetime opportunity. (which I'm sure you already have) but it's it important to make sure that he is sure about the decisions he's making.
It all sounds nice; getting married and living happily ever after. But you're young, not even twenty years old yet. Things change in time and people take different paths. I'm not suggesting that you break things off, but at least keep your options open.
Once you have re-discussed all of this with your boyfriend, he will have a big decision to make. I'm not sure if he is older than you or the same age, but if he does end up staying and going to school where you are to be a band director, don't feel guilty. It's his decision, not yours. As long as you let him know that nothing is 100% guaranteed and that you care about him enough to let him go to do his music, you've done all you can do. And if he does stay, don't think that you're not worthy. Obviously you're worth it to him(:
Hope this helps,
Darby
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hey I'm 13 and like I've never had a bf. And sometimes I just feel so lonely. Most of my friends have boyfriends and they just seem so happy. And well I like this guy we talk just a bit over aim but thing is he's popular with people which makes it hard to talk to him during school but I just don't know I really want a boyfriend and sometimes I jus feel so disconected from the world like three times this week when my friends have said my name people are like who? And I just sit there like this is so depressing so I need ur help how to stand out .... Just something to make me feel like somebody cause right now I'm just like what to do with my life
You're young. A lot of people don't have relationships until they're well into their teens, sometimes even later. In order to stand out, you'll have to raise your confidence. Try talking more to more people. I've always been very quiet, and in school no one knew my name. Even people I had gone to school with since I was six were like 'who?' when my name was mentioned in class. If you're feeling disconnected and lonely, you have to make the first effort to get to know people. By being quiet, people think you don't need them. They will see you as standoffish, even stuck-up at times. Try making friends with people by bringing up a topic that leaves room for opinions, or something that everyone in your class would understand. Be friendly and open to knew people, and they will surely return the friendship.
Good luck. :D
Hope this helps,
Darby
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i was trying to mastrobate and then afer a cupple of minutes i would not cum i only did it 2 times today and thursday andwhen i tryd today nothing happened
Typically people have to masturbate much more than two minutes in order to cum.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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Okay, so i was on this website getting advice, about a girls tightness.
He/she said that it depends all on how skinyy the girl is due to her skin being streched or something.
will your tightness change, if you lose weight?
Tightness has nothing to do with weight, as far as I know. If someone is overweight, they're not going to automatically be loose. And by losing weight, they aren't going to get tighter. Virgins are typically tight no matter how big or small they are. As they have sex, they loosen up some, whether they gain or lose weight.
Hope this helps
-Darby
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15-f
alright, well ive had sex with 2 girls before and the rest have been guys. i thought after i went through that little stage i was done, but now i really think that i might be bi. i always find myself turned on by girls, and girls always like me. plus, i get along with guys alot as buds and kind of have a sense of humor and dress not-so-girly... ughh i dont know. i have aboyfriend now so i really cant experiment without it bein cheatin cause i like it. so i dont really know what i can do. how should i go about this, to find out if im really bi without doin anythin with a girl? or does it sound like its pretty much already decided?
If you've had sex with girls before, it sounds like you are bi. If you often get turned on by girls, have sex with them, and want to experiment more with them, I would say you are bi.
Hope this helps
-Darby
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what are some things to talk about with your crush?
Talk about what kind of music and movies you both like. What you want to be when you grow up, where you want to live, your pet peeves, your opinions about pretty much anything, and anything else you're interested in. There are millions of things to talk about so don't spend too much time worrying about it. Just go with the flow of the conversation. Once one topic gets brought up, it will surely keep leading into other topics. Any good relationship has good communication. If you're crush is really someone you would like to have a relationship with, make sure the conversation is good.
Hope this helps
-Darby
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(17/f) Okay so since I was 12 I have been diagnosed with depression. Throughout the years I have been put on medications but I always get the strangest side affects, so I really don't like taking them. I used to be suicidal like 2 years ago but not anymore. Though I still do suffer from depression on a daily basis. I'm getting sick of always feeling like this though and I really don't want to resort to taking medication again. Any tips on what I can do so I don't have to feel like this day to day? Anything is greatly appreciated :)
Find something you're good at that you can do when you're feeling down. I write nonstop, and it has helped my depression a lot. Whether it's drawing, writing, photography, dance, or whatever else you may be into, it will give you something to do and will serve as a therapeutic type thing for your depression. I never wanted to take pills either, so I just try to keep my spirits high with happy music. If I get upset, I'll watch a movie, write, or talk to a friend. At seventeen years old, I'm sure your friends can relate to you with you how you feel to some extent. Find a friend that wants to have a buddy system. When you're down, talk to him/her. When he/she is down, have them talk to you. By doing this, you'll never feel as though you're alone. Also, exercising and eating healthy is important to make yourself feel better all-around. If you're unhealthy physically, it greatly increases your chances of being mentally unhealthy.
Hope this helps:D
-Darby
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Is this wierd:
About a month ago when I was menstruating, I was about to go into the shower one morning, and i just stood in my bathroom naked in front of the mirror, took some blood from "down there" with my finger, and painted myself with it. I made four dots on each of my breasts, a small heart on my upper chest, a circle around my bellybutton, and a line going down the back of my spine (bottom part.) I dont know why I did it, I just did. What is your opinion?
Don't read into it too much. Sure, it's a little weird and silly. But it's not a big deal. Just one of those random compulsions. We all get those from time to time.
-Darby
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16/f
im not sure if theres something wrong with me. i cant really figure it out but maybe you can help. i could use some help right now haha
well, my parents act like they hate me sometimes. and i guess they have a reason to. i hate talking to them. like i have a ton of friends and at school im known as the class clown. i have a great boyfriend who i love and i am very social. i love being around people but i just HATE talking to my parents and even being around them. like when they leave the house i am soooooo happy. i just feel like they are ALWAYS talking. they act like annoyong 4 year olds half the time and i tell them that i want my space and they say im rude.
they always say stuff like DID YOU ASK HOW MY DAY WAS? YOU ARE SO SELF CENTERED AND SELFISH. but really im not. i care about my friends so much more than myself and im the one always trying to help everyone. just not my parents. i mean theyre my parents and i love them i guess but really i couldnt care less sometimes. like i really honestly dont care. and i know this might sound bad but its the truth. i pretty much force myself to talk to them sometimes. its really getting to me too because they get so mad at me but i just cant help it. it takes so much to even talk to them because i just hate it. i short answer them and try to stay out of my house as much as possible. i just find them really annoying and i cant take much more of their nagging.
does anyone know whats wrong with me?
There isn't anything wrong with you. You're a hormonal teenager that likes being with her friends. You don't want your parents in your business and you don't like when they're always talking or asking questions. But your parents aren't going to be there forever. In two years you'll be an adult and be able to go wherever. You're going to find out that you are more dependent on your parents than you think. Try being appreciative and suck it up and talk to them every once in a while. Even if it makes you cringe. Trust me, you want to stay on good terms with your parents.
Hope this helps(:
-Darby
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all my friends have awesome skills
they can two step and skate board and are really good with their feet
theyre loud and proud and they act like theyre badass and they usually have badass stuff to talk about
they like all the music i like and i like all theirs
but if i mention i like a video theyre like what the 'f' that video sucked.. even though they like the song..
my skills go unnoticed.. i used to live in a country where my skills were..
i could draw and sing
and dance better than all of them
i dance like a jamaican i lived in jamaica for a while
but since i moved to america (im originally from america)
i realized that so many of my friends can do everything better than me.
i cant skate. i rollerblade.
but its not that cool to just strap on your blades n go..
but u can just straight up hop on your skateboard.
also i am really good at editing photos and making graphics n such which none of my friends are too good at. and because my myspace is not high tech html edited theyre like oh bla i could fix your myspace.. im like oh no im good at that just, i dont have time, and i edit other stuff instead.. which is true.
what are some cool skills i can obtain that will make me feel happy about myself, and proud and feel badass.
i dont want to skateboard by the way. im about 5 foot and 115 pounds. big boobs. and by the way i described my friends you can tell what kinda things im into.
My advice to you would be to own your talents. If you're good at drawing and singing, draw and sing. People will be impressed that you're doing something different. You're good at editing photos, drawing, and singing. Not everyone is good at those things.
If your 'friends' are making you feel like you're not adequate, get new friends. Just because your MySpace isn't 'high tech html edited', doesn't mean they should knock you down for it.
Even if your friends dance better than you and skateboard better than you, so what?
You even said that you don't want to skateboard.
Try to leave your options open for new friends that share similar interests with you.
Hope this helps.
-Darby
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Iam 20 years old and iam a female my boyfriend is 21 years old and we have only been dating for a week and he's alredy asking me when we are going to makeout and have sex and he says he's the kind of guy who is very sexually active and I told him that I just don't think iam ready for that kind of serious relationship that he wants especially since the last time I had done something sexual with a guy when I was 18 which it was only oral sex so iam still a virgin but the guy hasn't talked to me once since we had oral sex and iam afraid if I do this it will happen to me again what should I do?
It's important that you only do what you are comfortable with. If your boyfriend cares about you, he will wait. It has only been a week after all. You don't want to be put in a situation where you're pressured into doing something (especially losing your virginity) you're not ready for. If something goes wrong and you break up, you'll greatly regret losing your virginity when you weren't ready, and to someone who wasn't that special.
In my personal experience, I would definitely have my guard up if I were you. Dating a guy for one week and already being pressured into sex? It's a good sign that he wants one thing. I'm not telling you to break up with him, but I would definitely be watching my back if I were you.
Hope this helps :D
-Darby
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I started talking to this guy (jake) that I go to school with a few weeks ago. We really hit it off and now we've been going out for a week. I really like him a lot and I can tell he really likes me too. My friends and people that know him at school tell me to be careful around him and telling me that he's a pervert and he wants sex and stuff like that. He does not seem like the kind f guy that these people are telling me he is. He is really sweet and hasn't even tried to pressure me into anything. I trust him be with all these things that I've heard about him it makes me nervous. Do you think he's just putting on an act to get in my pants? I plan to confront him about what I've heard but I'm not sure how to bring it up. What do you guys think?
Just because people are saying that's all he wants, doesn't necessarily make it true. There are a lot of rumors that go around that aren't true. If I were you, I wouldn't worry about what people are saying. If Jake is sweet to you and doesn't try to pressure you into anything, that's all that matters.
If there does come a time when Jake is pressuring you into doing something sexually, you'll know that the rumors were true and you might want to break it off. You should wait until you cross that bridge though.
If you do bring it up, don't do it in a accusatory manner. If he feels like you're accusing him of just wanting to get in your pants, you'll create a strain on your relationship. You have only been going out one week, after all. There's no need to rush into things or get too serious.
-Darby
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