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ya i know i should stop thinking about him but i dont know how to because i always see him at school and also he is my friends best friend. i really need help please help me this guy is always on my mind and i just cant stop thinking about him. i just dont know why i cant stop thinking about him maybe because no other guy has kissed me until he came into my life and gave me his first kissed. please tell me what to do .

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he's probably constantly running through your mind because you miss his lips the feeling you had when you kissed them.you have two options 1.you can try to ask him out or
2.you can flirt with other boys to get a boyfriend so your boyfriends lips will go through your mind.


right know im single...i want a boyfriend...but i dont know what to do,how to act,or what to say to them. i was hoping i would be a perfect girlfriend for my last 3 boyfriends, but i guess i was wrong because they didnt last very long. i think its because i freeze up and just backfire when im with them. im always so shy with them and i dont know how to act...i want a boyfriend bad but i dont know whats wrong with me please help me out!!! I want guys to see me as a beautiful confident girlfriend.

how do i keep a good relationship while not being so shady with the boys? (link)
if you want them to see you as a beautiful confident girlfriend they first have to see you as a confident girl.be yourself thats why their dating you because they like who you are physically and pesonality wise.try not to think so much im not sayin to act dumb and ditzy but relax let your mind flow and you wouldn't have to act anyway because you would be being something.but don't act like a dude in front of them until their really comfortable with them and vice versa cause most guys would think thats gross comin from their girlfriend.don't rush to a guy cause one is rushing to find you now


(14/f)[warning: some people may find this question absolutely absurd.]

I've been good friends with a guy I'll call "A" for a couple of years. We ended up switching to the same school, so at the begining of the year we became even closer friends because we knew no one else at our new school. The thing is, now that people have come to know him, there's a lot of girls that litteraly follow him around the school. For example: My friends and I (including A)eat lunch in one of the hallways at school. For the first few weeks we were the only ones there. Now though it's almost impossible to talk to "A" because of due to the absurd amount of giggling girls(20 or so at the last count) that now go there on a regular basis(all of them sitting as close to A as humanly possible, makes it hard to move in the hallway.. sigh).

Oh, I should probably mention that no, I'm not paranoid :P. As soon as he leaves the hallway, some of the girls remark stuff like "Oh my god!!!Did you guys see that! He LOOKED at me, he sooo likes me!!"then proceed to follow him to wherever he went.

So I'm still deciding whether I should be feeling sorry for him or try and knock some sense into him for not noticing. And how would it be possible to at least diminish the amount of fangirls at lunchtimes(besides screaming"BOMB!") Any ideas? (link)
you can try to pursuade him to start saying he got a girlfriend already and that he really likes her and that type of stuff.and if he didn't noticing you should knock some sense into him for being so stupid either that or know he's blind for not seeing all the fiends following him.but you should feel a bit sorry for him though that's like every guys dream to have bunches of girls follow them everywhere but he sounds different he sound like he has a dream for jus one girl not 20


15/F

I broke up with this boy about 2 months ago. And we stayed friends and we talk. 1 of our friends says he talks about me all the time. She says he tells her good things about me all the time. He says he doesn't like me anymore, but she tells me different! Who should I believe? Does he tell me no because he doesn't want me to know or does he really not like me. I can I find out??? (link)
if you dumped him he probably don't want you to know.if he dumped you he probably don't like you anymore 4 real and your other friend is jus saying that to make you feel better or cause she thought you guys were like the perfect couple and she wants to see you guys 2gether for a while


i really dont know what to do...i really really really like this guy and he's always in my mind forreal i think i've fallen head over heels for him. he went out with one of my friends and i kinda had feels for him last year i thought i got over but this year im just totally into him. its strange because i dont know why i like him its just that something is getting me. me and him have been talking and hes always askin me to go to things to cheer him on but i never get the time to go. so theres this big ball and im going because my friends invited me and i think that hes going and i've asked him already and he said he might be going. theres this other girl that really into him and hes sorta into her too. well hes sorta a big flirt. i dont know i want to kinda tell him that i like him but i dont want to mess things up. its just i dont want to keep waiting for him to do something. if i dont straight up tell him i was just gonna ask him what he thinks about girls tell him they like him? please just help me because i really cant do this anymore... sorry its soo long... (link)
ask him if he wanna go wit you and if he looks a bit shocked say as friends.jus so you can have a reason to spend the night with the prince cinderella.and if the night isn't goin where you want it to try to make it at least get on the same road for where you wanna go if it's not no matter how hard you try give up or if you try to hard you'll lose him as a friend and don't care wat he thinks he's just in our life temporarily he's not apart of it


oky i love this guy wtih all my hear t and i would never let nything happen to him but he is been gettin into some bad stuff like gangs and espeacially drugs how do i help him get back to bein good....i mean we don't talk that much but i'm really worried about him....what do i do (link)
you have to start talkin with him or you won't know what to do.so i suggest you start talking to him find out a bit like why he's doin this stuff now when he wasn't doin it b4 then ask again with more information


okay, so monday night i called this guy. i liked this guy since like..november, and i really wanted to tell him that i had feelings for him. it took guts to call him, but when i did, he didn't pick up the phone and had to leave him a voicemail w/ my house number (cuz my cell got shut off). for some reason, whenever i finially get the guts to do something (even if its almost) i feel 10x better about it and i feel like i actually did something. but i didn't. then i was waiting for him to call me back, and he did last night but for some reason i wasn't around to answer it. i want to tell him how i feel. i just want to get it all out so i don't have to worry about it so much anymore. but how do i do it? i mean, i don't want to be so upfront about it and be like "you know what? i like you!". or is that just, good to be like that?
advice would be greatly appreciated /
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it's never good if you just spit it out like that it'll put them in like a 10 second shock to process what they heard so don't it like that just try to do it a bit more smooth like start talking about something and then ease in to telling him that you like him cause only some not all can give you like a right away answer or comment after you told them that


I am 15f and there is this guy at school i like we hang out and everything but i feel he is not feeling me like i am He always has a girl name stacy written in his thing. Ya me and this guy have kissed and he acts like nothing happen. ut somethimes i feel he only wants SEX and i am not going to give him sex not know or never. i dont know what to do i really like him but i have this feeling he doesnt. Even though he is always hugging me i just feel he does it to play around with me. Ya one time he told me that he liked me and wanted to go around with me but he was all missed up with drugs that day so i didnt believe him. What should i do should i stop calling him or what i really need HELP i just cant stop thinking about this guy Oh and the bad thing is that this guy give me my fist kiss please help me? (link)
well im sorry but the person that gave you your first kiss you will never forget(trust me)but you will always be able to replace his lips with someone thats better.if all he wants is sex he don't like you he like the thought of going into you(literally)so you were super smart not to give him what he wanted like sum girls would do.and if he mess around with drugs you shouldn't be messing around with him cause who knows what he'll do to you or someone else when he's high.


I have a friend and it is more of a relationship. We have had sex and all kinds of stuff like that. But when we are in bed he says that i am great and all kinds of stuff like that and that i am the best kisser out of everyone he has kissed. And we make bets and a couple of times i had to give him head. And he says that i am amazing and stuff like that. And then he asked me out and i am just wondering if he actually likes me or if he just wants to get some.. please help. (link)
well to me it sounds like he's really out to get some.yall did all that stuff and he's jus askin you out there's a problem with that picture isn't suppose to be the other way around.i suggest you stop havin sex with him and crap because it sound like he had a girlfriend you didn't know about and he was using you as a slide so if they break up he can go to you


Well, I got my report card a few weeks ago, and I had all A's.. BUT ONE B. I worked so hard! And guess what.. It was in Gym. So, because of that, I didn't get high honor roll. My mom already had a conference with them, but I still got a B, because apparently "I don't try hard enough." & I argued by saying that mostly everyone playing were guys (the girls don't do anything) & how I can't play against guys because that's not fair & that a lot of times I didn't feel good (to which the teacher said he could run a mile on two hands if HE didn't feel good - whatever), and blah blah blah. I guess the teacher just doesn't like me that much. Anyway, there's nothing to do about it anymore I guess. I will try harder next time, but I'm a perfectionist..

SO my question is: How can I get over it? It just pisses me off so much! (link)
well im not tryin to offend you but you have a crappy excuse jus cause your a guy that don't mean anythin.imma girl and i can beat the crap out of all the boys in my school and imma small person.so maybe you should try to go against the boys for all you know you could be better than them.so to get over it try goin up against the boys in gym if you want that A.then go get a note from your doctor and quit complainig like a whiney brat


13 going on 14 =D female !
so then, theres this guy.. hes my bestfriend, and hes the only guy i can trust.. i talk to him everynight on the phone.. && guess what ? i fell for him.. i liked him for a long time.. and the thing is that he likes my bestfriend.. me & her are also close.. we call ourselves "twinnies" because we have so much in common.. and that really hurts because i waited for so long for him .. hoping that i'll get a chance & i like prayed everynight hoping that too.. and im still hoping.. the thing is that my bestfriend my "twinnie" likes him too.. and she thought it was wrong because she js started liking him because i started liking him in the first place, and she knew that too.. but then i put her happiness before mine, so then i let her have him.. and she thinks that i've been happy for a long time and thats a good thing, but i HID my sadness because i knew it would make her feel bad.. and then it hurts even more cause when i talk to him on the phone hes talking about her. im js really upset about the whole entire thing.. help me out please.. please give me some advice and help me get over him.. because this hurts too much for too long.

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all i can really find is jus 2 find a new guy to take your mind off this one then when he talks about her(twinnie)you can talk about him(new guy)if they break up or get in a argument all you should say is NEUTRAL or NOT IN THIS because if you take sides you lose a friend


i think i`m worried that my parents are going to die. i dont know why, it might be because i read this book and this girls dad died and her mom was a wreck.
and i dont want that to happen to my family.
i get really upset when i think about it though.
i dont know what to do to not think of it..
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i know this is the last thing you wanna hear but you haveto learn how to accept the fact that everyone is going to die.no one lives forever it's not possible.and if everyone lived forever this planet wuld be over populated.i kow your probably thinkin how dare this bitch tell me this as advice bit it's the truthand we all gotta learn how to accept it.so don't think about the future think about the present while it's still here.the universe will always unfold the way it should.


13/f last night i think i interuppted my parents having sex. my mom yelled at me through the door because it was locked and i knocked on it. it was like 10:45 pm. my parents never go to bed that early and they never shut the door and lock it. is this a sighn of ur parents having sex?? im just curious and i didnt think my parents still did that stuff. should i ask my mom or should i just let it go?? its really bugging me!!! (link)
just let it go until your mom comes to you tellin your gonna have a little brother/sister then you can get pissed for interupptin his construction.


Do guys hate kissing girls who have on lip gloss?
cause thats what my one friend said, but i was just wondering..thanks! (link)
no sum guys actually like it cause the lip gloss taste good but if you wouldn't want to taste it don't xpect him to


16/f.
alright well ive liked this guy brad since my homecoming after party. well i wouldnt ever see him except at partys and he was always really nice to me. at the last hotel party in november he was all nice to me and we cuddled and made out. well me & him are friends kinda now. but he isnt as nice as i thought he was. he hooks up with all kinds of chicks in front of me but when i hook up with a guy he sits there and makes fun of me. he will repeat the name over and over and he always calls me names like a bitch and a whore and stuff. i know hes playing around it just bugs me because i like him. he will always say stuff like "i know your jealous you cant have my body" and he always winks at me and stuff from across the room. he will come up and poke me and turn the other way.. second grade stuff. when he hooks up with other chicks and makes out with them he is like all about sex and shit. before with me.. he was the nicest guy. i know he liked me before. there were all the signs like him staring at me all the time and flirting with me and he would call me for stupid stuff like asking if i wore contacts because he lost his. but now that i got to know him better i dont know if he still does. it was just that he acted different with me then i see him act with different girls. me and him constenantly fight. my friend keeps saying that she thinks he likes me but i just dont know. at a party the other night me and him were arguing and she was like "will you guys admit that you like each other" and i just stopped talking and brad was like "what'd you say? what are you talking about?" so do you think that he likes me back? (link)
you can't really xpect him to be mature since girls mature faster than buys so he probably thinks that you know that he don't want other people to know about you and him so yea he likes you but he thinks he in second grade so he's doin all this stupid shit he gets with other girls to try to throw people off point of him liking you.i don't know why but maybe he know sumthin you don't.i always say revenge is sweet but it's also wrong.but were young were suppose to do things wrong at times so i say you give him a taste of his own medicine get wat im sayin


13/f

ok theres this guy that i like hes in my grade and i wanna tell him that i like him but .... hes not like the most attractive guy ya know and no body knows i like him.. and a lot of people think that he likes me and if they fine out i like him then i think ill get made fun of or something... idk and he always guessing who i like .... and i dont know what to do! please help! thanks!!

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4get any1 that makes fun of you their not dating him so why should it be any of their concern.so jus go up to him and tell him you like him


So here's the thing, the guy i've been in love with for 4 years lives 2 hours away from me but we have such a strong relationship and everything, he's my ex but we decided to see other people because of the distance thing. we fight constantly and sometime don't talk for weeks but i guess in my opinion that makes us stronger. he's kind of with a girl and i am so sick of him being with her than calling me and telling me he loves me when hes saying the same lines to someone else when it should just be one person. he complaing and complains about her and she treats him like shit, i'm not saying this out of jealousy or anything like. anyway, he keeps going back to her and then back to me. non stop back and forth, back and forth. i feel like complete shit, im not sure what to do. i think he might be doing this because he's not "with" me (the distance thing) and hes using her until he can get to me, i get my license in july and he graduates this year, i just need some advice. please help. (link)
mayb you should try not letting him be able to go back to you so easily.to see what he would do to get you if he really love you or is jus tellin you complete bullshit.


ok i have this best friend of 9 years.. shes like my other half.ok whenever i get grounded or w/e and i cant hang out shell go out and do something with someone else. thats fine i dont have a problem with it. its just we do everything together and when i hear shes hanging out with other people its like i feel jealous and i get mad at her but its not like im reaklly mad at her. is that wrong? and i know she feels the same way when i go out because she always says you could have told me you were going out but w/e but is it wrong to feel this way when shes with other people? (link)
yes cause if your on punishment that don't mean that she should be on punishment to and not go anywhere


ok. so i have ALWAYS (since pre-skool) have been known as a tomb-boy.....(im a girl), but a year ago i started to like this boy. but i would NEVER tell ANYONE....this year hes in my class. AND on top of that, his locker is RIGHT next to mine!!! omg. now, he talks to me. and i like wrestling and so does he. and lately, when he sits near me in a class, he talks to me more. so now im starting to think he likes me. but i really dont know. SHOULD I ASK HIM OUT? OR TELL MY FRIENDS I LIKE HIM?! I RELLY NEED AN ANSWER!!!

ps. i DO NOT want my friends to ask him out for me AND HES BEST FRIENDS WITH MY BEST FRIEND! (whose a boy) (link)
ok i understand im just like u (imma tomboy but imma girl) you can start hangin out with him more often and start doin stuff outside of school and if you notice that he start doin stuff wit you or telling you stuff that he don't tell any1 else then mayb you can ask him out but don't rush into it or else you'll scare him away


Hey

So the pores on my nose are guess you would say are clogged? their fairly visible with dirt in them i try to wash and i use clinique larifying lotion but i can't get them "clean" what are some suggestions that i should use. Or that I could purchase at wallgreens? (link)
you could use the st.ives face scrub or you can jus pop them




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