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Hello everyone, I am here to give the best of my advice... Any questions no matter the topic are always welcomed, I am serious about giving advice and helping people no matter who they are. you guys will get the purest and most truest advice from me every time. I take my time to answer every question and every single one asked, will get an honest answer. Don't hesitate to ask me a question about anything that might be bothering you or that you need to get off your chest, I am here so start asking away! I will reply as soon as possible. Best regards,
-trueadvice3
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what are healthy foods to help you loose weight?
Healthy foods... there are a lot!
you can try Yogurt, all types and kinds of delicious fruits, beef, all types of fish, chicken ( not fried chicken), all vegetables, the point is to be and get creative without eating processed food! as well as going to the gym and not giving up on excercise at all! atleast 3 times a week for an hour and 30 minutes! go run, take a walk to the park it is summer!
- COMMITMENT IS ALSO KEY if you really, really want it, then do not give up at all you can do it!
- eliminate processed food at all times and do not eat or have any junk food like hot dogs etc! or chips and candy or cookies! that will only do bad for you.
- If you want, have 1 "cheating day" where you can treat yourself with any junk food but let it be only like once a week or else you wont see any results!
- if you need extra help and or motivation, it is a great idea to get a work-out partner! go out for a jog every morning or afternoon if you cant go to the gym, do your own work-outs at home!
- nothing is impossible! especially loosing weight! you can do it and if you are committed and truly passionate, you will go very far!
- I wish you the best of luck! and keep going don't give up I know you can do it!
- trueadvice3
I tend to bottle up my feelings and keep things to myself, i tend to act like i dont care when i really do, and my peers would always tells me to "stay true to yourself" to me, what does that mean?
Hey, staying true to yourself... wow, for many this can be a hard and tricky thing to accomplish...
basically what it means is to be your own leader. Don't be a follower and do what other people are doing just because it is the "in" thing to do/because everyone else is doing it.It also means to be able to express yourself as you are... in other words, don't be afraid to express you emotions and what you are feeling to others. Show yourself to others as you really are and don't be afraid to be rejected and or made fun of... this is all part of life and part of who you are. People are going to value you for being yourself and expressing your thoughts, opinions, and deepest feelings to those you trust. Not being afraid to do these things will only make life easier for you thus, opening doors to great experiences depending on who you choose to trust as well as letting other know that you do indeed care and are willing to be a part of something great. It might be hard but opening up about how you really feel about certain things can only help you grow both emotionally and mentally. I wish you the best of luck and remember your ABC'S!... *Avoid Bad, Company
-trueadvice3
Thank you, really. But I mean like, I just can't go up to someone and start a conversation. I also can't hold conversations with people very well either. Oh and I meant the relationships with people have more potential, not me personally haha. For example, a girl, ha.
No problem I am here for you man, you can trust me.
You said you can't hold a conversation correct? well maybe all you need is a bit of practice and that is all to get you up and moving with more confidence. You are a strong person I can tell that already I told you lol :) - you can practice with me if you would like I have no problem being your coach ha ha
let me know if you would like this so we can exchange IM's and get started on practicing some cool new skills to get you the confidence and the potential to talk to girls as well ha ha :P
my e-mail/msn is up on my profile if you ever need anything or if one day you want to chat on there just leave me a message I will be glad to respond to your questions. =)
-Take care!
Over the past six years or so, I've lived as a recluse. I have virtually no human contact other than what is required. In an average day, I probably say about 100 words aloud. I had a small group of 3-6 "friends" in elementary school, but I very rarely did anything outside of school with them.
Unlike most people with this problem, mine is entirely self-inflicted. I was never bullied, and I've had no "bad relationships" of any kind. I simply do not enjoy multi-person activities (including conversation). Since I viewed friendship as useless in the past, I didn't pursue it, and I am now completely incapable of participating in any kind of social interaction due to lack of experience.
Recently, over the past 2-3 years, this state has increasingly been bothering me for the following reasons:
* Having no social network of any kind puts me at an enormous disadvantage in gathering and spreading information.
* I have not a single person I can really trust with anything.
* Not having any human contact makes me depressed/lonely from time to time. Even though I don't consciously *want* human contact, I clearly need it in order to fix this.
So I eventually want to have like five friends (preferably online) who I can trust. It's no good just to have five contacts sitting in my instant messaging program; I need actual friends with whom I have real understanding.
How do I do this? Keep in mind that I have less social understanding than the average 3-year-old, and I am completely useless in a conversation. I also don't particularly enjoy conversation.
Don't tell me to "go out and talk to people". That's what all the websites say, and it does me exactly no good because I don't know the first thing about having a conversation. In all cases that I've tried to randomly participate in a conversation (_many_ times, online and off), I say virtually nothing because everything moves too fast for me and I can't think of anything to say.
I've posted this stuff to one other site, and despite talking to several of the people there, nothing good came of it. I will therefore be reluctant to contact anyone offering to "be my friend" in their response.
(18/m)
Hey, I can just imagine what you are going through right now. To be completely honest, I understand your confusion and maybe frustration that you might be feeling due to my personal experience.
Something must have happened to you that made you think of friendship as useless. It is ok if you did not want to pursue any social interactions with people due to your lack of trust in others but as you now are beginning to realize, this has effected you in a negative way.
What I advice you to do is to keep strong, you might be lacking social skills but I know you have the WANT to try and make things better. I know you have the power, the will and the courage to say enough is enough! I want to make things better and I will do whatever it takes to be more sociable with others around me.
Listen, I know it is EXTREMELY hard for you I know this very well, but I believe in you and I know you have the will to want to ease your life *(you have proved this by posting your issue on here I think this is an amazing step and shows you have great courage and have the want to make things better) and balance out your life in a positive way.
- Life has difficult obstacles and it is up to us to get rid of them in order to be happy. Sometimes we are the cause of our greatest griefs and that is totally fine! but sometimes well mostly all of the time, it is in our hands to change things for the positive.
-Life can also bring people in to help you through your troubles and encourage someone to be strong and offer them their advice. I believe I am here for that I know you can do this and I know you want to change and I know most importantly that I want to help you be the best you can be.
- I offer you my unconditional friendship despite you saying that you will be reluctant in contacting anyone that offers you their friendship.
- I truly without a doubt believe in you... yes, this might be unrealistic to you but I honestly do and I will wait with open arms for a new friend who I will love to talk to and offer the best of my advice and most of all, TRUST TIME AND CARE.
message me/ contact me when you are ready there is no rush I will not go anywhere I am here.
- atrueadvice3
I'm a 17 year old male. I can never find enough guts to be outgoing and charismatic and all. I think I actually need help because I think it's interfering with things in my life that have a lot of potential.
hey, no worries this can be a simple thing to work on. I suggest you join clubs and go to school events that host things in which you are interested in a lot. If you like drawing, join the drawing club, if you like photography, do the same! people will end up approaching you and if they don't find someone that looks friendly and approach them and start a conversation! this can be about anything... something as simple as a "hey" or a "hi nice to meet you I am____" will work just fine. You have to find it in you that you can be outgoing and charismatic I know you can do it I believe everyone can turn from a shy person into a more outgoing individual. Like you mentioned before, you know you have a lot of potential! take advantage of that be strong and you can achieve amazing things don't let something like this prevent you from being the best you can be. If you want to talk more about this message me whenever you want I will reply as soon as I get your message. Take care and keep strong I know you can do it.
Best always,
-trueadvice3
Okay so i like my best friend alot but she has this best friend with benefits/ boyfriend only because them two were force to break up. Well i liked her since i have know her but she still have feeling for him. Being her best friend i feel like im always there for her more than he is, im always with her and i do just about anything for her. We are constantly texting and talking and it kills me that we are not going out cause i would like to. Its even to the point where people thing that we are dating but we are not. So ive told her all of my fellings that i have for her and she was like well i like you but i still have feelings for the other guy and then she starting saying that she felt so bad cause i was feeling down and stuff and that it was her fault that i am depressed. Well idk what to do or think and im constantly thing about her and it kills me so i need people advice on what i should do.
I can just imagine the torture you are going through... all I can say is to look at the positive side of things, you are spending a lot of time with her, you constantly see her/talking so this is not bad at all, you should be very glad for this. I know she is into another guy at the moment and that whole situation is basically driving you crazy but just hang in there for now, enjoy the time you spend with her, cherish all those laughs, talk, and trust you two have... remember, she is your best friend, and she will more than likely go to you if she ever has an issue with the other guy... If a thing like this happens, be there for her just like you always have, she will slowly notice by herself what an amazing person you are and who knows... she might start to develop deeper feelings for you hey, you mentioned that she DOES like you. It is just a matter of time if you do things right and be there for her no matter what happens a woman likes to be cared for and you do just that. Take it slow and don't get too frustrated you already have her trust, and friendship which is awesome! but love takes time to develop if it is really meant to be so hang in there and don't lose hope but at the same time, don't get your hopes up too high either, if it isn't meant to be it just simply isn't, you are sure to find another amazing person to share all that love you have to offer.
Best of luck to you my friend.
-trueadvice3
ok so me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 8 months. things were great for the first 6 months or so and then we started fighting almost everyday. weve gotten over that but now things arent the same. she doesnt have as strong of feelings as she did before but we both want to get the spark back. how can we get things back how they used to be?
This detachment can happen for a variety of reasons and this reason seems to be the fact that you guys have had a lot of arguments almost everyday!
- To try and get things rolling back up again like they used to, she has to see the nice,tender side of you as when she first met her and the same goes for her my friend... she has to have that shine in her eyes... that nice smile and sort of shy stare as when you guys had strong emotions for each other.
- I suggest you show you care and remember certain things that she thinks you have forgotten things like your anniversary, her B-day and tell her that you love her and care about her. Right now she needs to be cared for and be felt that she is loved by you again. All that fighting has taken a toll on both you guys... take time to be surrounded by positive energy, take her to a nice dinner one night and don't tell her! make it a surprise! woman love surprises if done at an appropriate time! buy her something that symbolizes your love for her earrings, a necklace and so on. Buy her/order for her a bouquet of roses and leave a special note on them and leave them on her front door, or give them to her in person.
- the idea is to be and get creative to bring that amazing Spark of love back.
- One important thing to take careful note on is to try and stay away from negative vibes... what I am trying to say is to not take your fights and hurt each other... if you see her getting fired up during one of these don't ignite the fire even more by saying more hurtful things back to her, take a deep breath, relax and walk away, later on when both of you guys are more relaxed, you can work things out in peace and comfort.
- I wish you guys the best of luck if anything, feel free to message me for further answers.
-trueadvice3
So tomorrow is my last day of senior classes (high school) and all of the sudden, I'm having problems with my best friend, Holly. Holly is by no means a perfect person by I have some of the best times in the world with her. She's like a sister to me we share all of our secrets and as a friend, I just love having her. There is a sense of friendship we have. She has some faults though and sometimes she doesn't treat her friends with the respect they deserve. That's why her bf broke up with her. So here's the short version of the saga. In march, I got mad at Holly and somehow we stopped talking for about a month and a half. It was one of the most miserable times in my life. Whether or not it was for a good reason , I still felt awkward around our circle of friends and awkward around her and it killed me. We started being friends again a little while later and I was happier than I'd been in months. Everything has been fine until up until a few days ago. She's been acting like she's above me and saying rude, snide things, and just taking advantage of me. We got into a few big arguments. Is Holly wrong? probably. Is it not a healthy relationship? maybe. I just feel so horrible that everything was perfect until the last day of senior year. I'm angry at her in so many different ways that I'm not even going to get into because the point is, I feel like our friendship might be ending THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF SR. YEAR. The LAST thing I want is to be miserable at prom, grad, yr. book, etc. because I KNOW I will be if we're in a fight. Should be mad at her for her crankiness and snide remarks? Should I apologize for "causing a fight?" I am honestly so upset because this is the worst time for something like this to be happening. I want to stick it out until the very end of the year, or else I'll be truly miserable. Help please
Hey there,
You have quite a hardship here... I think it is amazing of just how close you and Holly where in the past. I think if your friendship is truly pure and strong, one little fight or argument cannot whatsoever stop you guys from sticking together.
- One thing to keep in mind here... every single person in every single type of relationship wether it be a friendship, family or romantic relationship are ALWAYS going to have their little or big arguments and misunderstandings.
- you need to have a serious talk with Holly and if she really wants to keep your friendship up and running, she will show interest in wanting to have this serious but peaceful/respectful talk. If you find her getting annoyed and irritated during your talk, ask her to calm down... take a deep breath and stress to her that this is why you are talking in the first place... to get things clear and negative things off your chest without loosing control to the point that you guys start cursing or swearing at each other. make this conversation as mature and serious as possible for a healthy continuation of your long valuable friendship.
- I think your arguments are pretty much healthy that is, if they don't happen very often and if a rational and healthy peace is made in the end.
- You need to keep in mind that you guys are not perfect. No human being is perfect! this is why the little things that might bother you that she does, need to be talked about in a serious way... advice her, tell her that she needs to make a positive change so that she does not push away people that she loves. The same goes to you, tell her what it is she does not like about you and make an effort (a true effort) in making a positive change to bring back amazing experiences that BOTH of you will remember for years to come.
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
I'm so afraid of my ex girlfriend seven years after she dumped me and then destroyed my confidence by accusing me of stalking her just for trying to make peace that every time I see her I want to run and hide.
My current girlfriend switches between being so nice to me and being incredibly angry and hurtful everytime I do anything wrong.
I can't get a job, and my writing isn't selling.
And I just want to smash my head against a wall but don't because I don't have it in me to do so.
I have this sneaking suspicion that when I die, all I'll have to show for my life is nothing.
Male, 27. Someone, I'm not asking for miracles, just an actual solution to my life that doesn't involve disconnecting from reality and curling in a ball for the rest of my days.
your current relationship is not a healthy one buddy! you need to end this one as soon as possible.
If you tried talking to your gf about the things she says and does to you that hurts you and she still hasn't changed, then you need to end it soon.
-It is not healthy for you... it is only adding more stress and pain to your daily life.
- The situation with your ex... just know that all you tried to do is make peace and nothing else! you should have a clean conscious about that. If you see her challenge yourself and don't get or be afraid! what else can she possibly do? just live life being more relaxed and sure of yourself as a person. dont let your situation with her be the cause of your demise I know you can do it man! it just takes relaxation and taking it easy.
- why is it that you can't get a different job? their are tons out there especially now! go look and you will find! it could be anything for the time being until you are a bit more stable.
- I think it is awesome that you write! though you are just under too much stress right now to even come up with some decent writing and I know you can do better.
- start of a fresh new life... start surrounding yourself with positive people and remove all the negative ones! obliterate these annoying things that are stopping you from being the best you know you can be! enough is enough! now is the time to start anew... take a deep breath, end all the negative and start embracing the positive.
- listen to music that relaxes you before going out or while being out laying on the grass or sitting on a bench in a park.. you need to clear your mind and start getting inspiration once again.
I know you can do this it is up to you to make it work.
*if you want to talk more about this issue I would be more than glad to talk I have so much to say it is just much better to go step by step first.
-Best Always,
trueadvice3
My wife of 24 years has just left me and moved back to her parents citing my unreasonable behaviour but I am suffering depression and on medication ,I have changed the way I react to people and sent all my phone contacts a text stating I was going to become a changed person ,given up smoking ,been going to a counsellor with my wife and now she says that she has not loved me for a couple of years.I have 2 boys 1 is 21 and in the army the other is 15 and she has left him here with me.she wants her freedom not a mothers commitment but I have no choice in the matter and i am left to pick up the shattered remains of our lives while she goes out all the time now with friends.should I give up on her and walk away or still try to save our marriage ,my boys want me to try and save the marriage and thats what I want to do but how long is trying to save a reasonable length of time.I am 56 and my wife is 44.
It looks like your grief has brought upon some future positive changes in you which is great for you. I think your wife is just wanting to live life at the moment I think she feels that she couldn't have fun before and be "free" due to commitment. the thing is... one can still go out and have fun even though one is in a committed relationship.
- You mentioned that she has stopped loving you... if this is so, then one needs to move on. You have done your part to make things work/better your conscious should be clean and at peace.
- I am sad to know that she has basically left you in charge of your son. You are a great father I am sure of that... don't worry if she is not taking responsibility... the important thing right now is that you have the love of your sons and you guys are together and in good health I hope.
- An important thing to notice here is that Marriage is a commitment and if it falls... needs the cooperation of both parties NOT one, but both you and your wife need to work together if you guys want to be together. At the moment it seems like she just doesn't want to work things out... thus, you need to tell your boys that if it was up to you, everything would be like it used to but sometimes things don't work out the way everyone wants them to workout.
- I further stress that if your wife truly feels that way she does towards you, then it is time to move on. Live the NEW life you want to live... achieve and try new things you never imagined yourself ever trying.
-Enjoy life the positive way... stay surrounded by positive people and places this will help your depression greatly as well as bring a smile to your life everyday.
Best Always,
-trueadvice3
i dont like who i am, i joined the military about a year ago, and have done a few months at my first duty station, i hate every day, i hate oklahoma, and for some reason i thought i would make friends here, but to no avail. i sit in my room all weekend by myself, my roomate doesnt even seem to want to talk to me, although i have tried. I HATE my life, and whi i am. i wish i wasnt me anymore and it kills me...
You are obviously a bit irritated by your situation, if I may ask... why did you decide to join the Military in the first place? did you want to get away from something? or did you just join because it felt like it was the right thing to do?
- My advice since you are under a contract at the moment is to hang in there. Things might be very hectic and out of place for you right now but coming up with ways to improve your experience might do you justice at the moment. What I mean is to take the time to just sit down and think to yourself of the different ways/things you can do to make this experience a better one.
- to help you out a bit here are some ideas... try talking/ approach people that look like they are friendly... tell them how they are liking their experience or just start of a simple conversation as simple as talking about the weather and or video games etc. anything that you might think might be a topic of common interest to the person you are trying to be-friend would be a great start to a new friendship.
- If you want to talk more about this I would not mind if you message me a question or your thoughts on anything else that is bothering you concerning your question.
Best Always,
trueadvice3
Hello,
I am a male (18) and I've been having sex with my girlfriend for five months now. As the title says my girlfriend has trouble cumming. I am not sure why this is, the past five months she has never had an orgasm. I can however give her a clitorial orgasm, but not a vaginal one. I haven't yet tried fingering her to that point and she refuses to finger herself.
I wonder if there's anything I can do to make her get her orgasm. She is really getting frustrated during sex, she actually gets to the point when the orgasm should come, "but then everything disappears" she says. These frustrations occur multiple times during sex, followed by an emotional breakdown(on her side).
I real feel bad about not being able to give her an orgasm, so please, are there any tricks/tips/suggestions?
Thanks in advance!
women's and men's bodies just aren't the same...
many women don't acheive orgasm from regular penetration, it is direct and concentrated stimulation to her clitoris. If regular penetration and stimulation doesn't do it, try oral, straight to the clitoris. I think you'll have her pleased in no time if it is done correctly... if this does not work, try seeking a specialist to give you guys the desired sex life you both deserve. Best of luck,
-trueadvice3
hey can masturbaution cause acne? also can it cause any other like problems with your body. and if not masturbaution doenst cause acne does anything like that do it (i mean other then not washing) like stress and stuff like that. thanks!
NOT at all my friend... masturbation is not in any way linked in causing acne. It is a healthy practice with great benefits.
- acne develops when pores in our skin become clogged and so it is that simple.
- people have different types of acne as well including blackheads, whiteheads, pimples, and cysts
- there is no sure answer as to weather stress causes acne but personally, I think it might... this is why one needs to surround themselves by positive energy rather than negative energy that will ultimately end up harming you if not treated correctly.
what is the average age that a man's penis stops getting bigger?
the average age a mans penis stops getting bigger I would say is around his early or mid 20's It is truly hard to say since every guy is different. For example, some of your guy friends might have started puberty at a very young age while others who are 15 or older, are just beginning.
i started taking new medication and one of the normal side effects is nausea so i started feeling nauseous and because of that i got a headache and lost my appetite last night so i didnt eat, instead i went to bed, now its morning and i have an empty stomach and i feel nauseous because of it but i feel like if i eat i'll vomit. what should i do?
obviously what you are going through is completely normal due to the medication you are taking. I would suggest you fight this nauseous feeling and try eating something. Sometimes the mind plays tricks on us... if you pay attention to the nauseous feeling, it will ultimately overtake you thus making you not want to eat anything. Be strong, try relaxing and telling yourself that you can do it, don't let an annoying ill feeling get in the way of being healthy. Challenge yourself in a positive way, if you can't eat your meal, try eating at least a fruit ,yogurt,slice of bread or have a light snack but you have to eat something. Best of luck towards you health remember, to keep strong and not let your illness or health problem get in the way of having a smile on your face before your day ends. Best Always,
-Trueadvice3