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Hi, I am JenniferI am Korean- Japanese and proud.
I am a clingy person, so I need people who don't mind cling people.
I try very hard not to be judgemental.
I suck at waking up.
I have a two second attention span.
I laugh at the most corniest jokes and make them myself.
I have a lot of Jennifer moments. You have been warned.
I love being tan, so please get that suntan lotion away from me. :)
I can make a party animal look like a party pooper. :p
So, yeah, I'm just your average kind of girl... with a more than needed bit of craving for chocolate maybe? Yup... ♥
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helloo :]]
bear with me, i know everyone's
question on here is like this but eh.
well, me and my boyfriend have been
going out for about 10 months but our
relationship slowly started going
downhill about 2 months ago. we rarely
see eachother or talk to eachother. i
always have to txt him or call him. he
never calls me or txts me anymore and it
just doesnt seem like he's putting effort
into this relationship. i wanna start over
with him but he's put me through so confusion and hurt. im just wondering what your
opinion is on all of thiss. thanks :]
You never know what's going on with the part of his life that you don't know about. Maybe he's having troubles... or, even worse, maybe he's just not wanting to be in a relationship with you anymore.
Ask him about it. Maybe he won't answer you directly, like he'll say "I don't know." Then that usually means, "I don't want to hurt you but I just don't want you anymore in that way." Or maybe he won't pick up the phone or text you. Either way, you have to do the same thing to deal with it: slowly drift away. What's the point? He's not going to try to bring passion back. It's just not there anymore.
Don't call him anymore. Just lose connection with him . Maybe then he'll realize what it's like without you and come back to you with an apology. Maybe... he's taking you for granted. Then you have to show him what a loss you'd be for him. If he doesn't bother getting you to come back, I'm sorry but that's just the end of it. If this happens: There are more single guys out there! Go for them!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
well you guys might know me. im acctaully one of the people who gives advice on this site. but i dont know what to do. so please answer.
so theres this boy, it will be a month of dating next wendsday. but we were friends with like love before. and since we have been going out, things have been going really fast. i know its going toooooo fast. but today we were spose to hang out for valentines day, cause tommorow i cant hang out. and i couldent hang out last minute, and now hes like kinda mad at me, and is being weird. and is like i dont care. and im like about what, and hes like whatever or whatever he says. and then on i just kinda was like if your going act like this im going go so bye. and hes like whatever. i feel like a wreck and i dont want this to end.
i dont know what to do. and i dont know what to say to him. and i dont know what im asking you guys to answer about or whatever. and i dont know what im doing. i have never felt like this before.
please just talk to me.
im sorry this is so long.
What an inconsiderate guy! There might be good qualities in your boyfriend, but he's not showing them right now. Who does he think he is? It's not like you chose to be unable to hang out at the last minute.
Obviously, he is mad that you dropped out, but why is he mad that you dropped out? Because he really wanted to hang out with you, but couldn't. Well, if he keeps acting like this, he'll NEVER get to be with you, because of how he's acting. Tell him that.
Tell him there will be many other Valentine's Days to come for you two if the relationship doesn't end. It's just that you couldn't. What's wrong with that? It wasn't your choice. It was the way it was. Tell him stop acting as if it was your choice.
Apologize (even though it wasn't your fault) for being unable to hang out, but point out that you don't understand why he is being like this. You have to talk to him calmly and don't be harsh. Tell him exactly how you feel about this situation.
xoxo
hopefully you'll have a happy valentine's dayy
and i don't know if he likes me or not( i doubt he does..) and the thing is that i dont know if he would like me. He's really close with these other 2 girls..and i get really jealous of them...because idk...he might like them. So how can i get him to like me? I mean i know you can't make someone like you, but can anyone give me tips on how to get a guy to notice you, or like you more?
There's the number one thing that every girl would know by instinct to get a guy to notice her: flirt! Hello?? Not a foreign thing!
If you want to flirt with him, but not be too obvious about it, just smile at him. That's a good thing to start with. Then, as he's passing by, maybe give him a sneaky head-to-toe look that'll tell him you think he's adorable! But you have to make sure he sees.
Is he in your school? If so, giggle at every joke he says in your classes. Don't overdo this or you'll look like an idiot.
If he plays a sport in school, cheer for him at games. Cheer for him specifically. If he glances at you, wave at him! If he returns it, you're going in a good direction! If you're gutsy, you can buy a cold drink for him at the end of his games and give it to him, and just chat with him. That'll be sweet!
Start by being friendly with him and getting close enough with him to be a friend. Go from there! Valentine's Day is just a few days away! Go for it!
xoxo
Jenny C ♥
recently i've been falling for this guy i've known a while. we began talking over myspace ALOT and sometimes i thought he seemed to be really into me. he gave me his phone # and I did too..
Well now last night it seems like him and his ex got realy close and something "happened" between them by the joyful looks and
Well, it's really best to not dwell on your feelings for this guy, because if you hang on to emotions for so long, you can't get over it easily. He and his ex seems like they're going to get closer. I'm not going to sugarcoat things for you. But I'm sorry. Hang out with friends. Watch movies. Listen to music. Find other guys. Do a lot of activities to get your mind off of him. It's not that hard if you don't hang on to him that hard. Let it go.
If this guy does really like you, he'll ask you out and just have the ex around as a friend. And that's great! Hope you have a happy love life then!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
So I have a boyfriend been together for 7 months. I have a cousin and shes been my best friend my whole life. My boyfriend is 3 years older than me and my cousin is 2 years older than me.
Lately I feel like my boyfriend doesnt want to talk to me. Like me and him are always talking about sex and we attempted it and it didn't work. So now he wont do it. He has said from the begining it was my choice and now i have decided i want to. And he was telling my cousin how sometimes he feel like im pressuring him into it. Because now he refuses to even try a second time. He said how i think anything not sexual is boring. But thats not true. Me and him never go anywhere. Everytime we see eachother which is like almost everyday he comes to my house or i go 2 his. We have never tried to go anywhere but our houses. I would LOVE to go somewhere. But am afraid to ask. And so now he just ASSUMES i dont want to go anywhere and that if we arent doing anything sexual im bored or pissed off. Now keep in mind he said this to my cousin not me. He told her over myspace messages and i went onto hers and now im always reading their messages to see what hes feeling and same with her. I feel like they turned their backs on me and decided to keep everything a secret from me and now tell eachother everything. Im getting really angry and jealous and im planning on not talking to him for a few days.
Now my questions are:
Am I over reacting?
Should I confront him about this?
If you were me would you be acting like this?
Am I being immature and over dramatic?
Anthing Helps
Sorry it was so long but i need some advice pleasee
It's a normal reaction. I mean, seriously, how could your boyfriend say that about you? More importantly, how could he say that behind your back? And even worse, he told your cousin, and she's not telling you. Why?
Well, why do you think? Maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings about it. Start with acting more affectionate with him and hanging out with him in other places. Don't be afraid to ask. If he thinks that all you want is sex, but then you want to go for pizza or something, you can show him that's not what you're all about.
Don't give him the silent treatment, or his opinion of you might go lower. Think in his point of view. You might have realized it, but what if he was actually right? What if you do, in fact, act like that? So don't get bitter over it. It's okay to get mad at, however, your cousin. Because keeping stuff like that away from your own flesh and blood is just... wrong!
Treat your boyfriend friendly and sweet. Go on your cousin's myspace constantly to see if he wrote anything more about you. Positive comments about you? Then, yay! Negative comments? You have to talk to him about it. Ask him: what am I doing wrong? What do you want me to do? And youi can go from there. I don't think I need to write you a script.
Hope all goes well!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
Stan: Holy crap. Wendy wants to meet me at Stark's pond after school today.
Klye: Wow. Maybe you can kiss her.
Cartman: Or slip her the tongue.
Kenny: [Mumbling]
Stan: What? How do you know she has a cat?
[Kenny laughs.]
from the show south park.
It's episode number 1 from season number 1 from Cartman Gets An Anal Probe.
why did justin and britney break up?
I quote Justin Timberlake, "We broke up because she was wanting to get married and I didn't."
That's all I know about it, but that's his exact words.
xoxo
-Jenny C
I need some outfit ideas, I always dress cute, but I'm looking for a sexyier style. (sexy NOT skanky). So yea any advice on how to look sexy without looking skanky?
You can wear a short skirt with tight shorts under them (preferably boy shorts). I'm not sure if this is called skanky, but I don't see how it would be skanky. You can wear a midriff top (with something under it of course!). Tight jeans could work too. A low V-neck type top will be sexy. =)
Try clothes that'll show off a little of your body that won't be too revealing. Hope I've helped!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
okay so my best friend [ashley] and this other girl from her school [that i know] got in a "fight" & now they telling me to talk to the other person with their words. i always have to be this kind of person with ashley. im always stuck in the middle of these kind of situations with her. and sometimes i agree with the opposite person. but i dont want to make her feel that *I* dont want to be her friend.
omg
HELP
should i tell whats the truth even though it might mess up our four years of being best friends and should i try to stay out of the situation even though it might give the impression that i dont want to help?
You know the right thing to do. It's to stay out of it. Don't give her your opinion on who you think is right or wrong. It's not your business. Tell your friend that you don't want to be in this mess anymore. You're tired of being dragged into messes she gets into. Tell her to deal with her own problems and that you have plenty of your own, including this problem.
If she makes a big deal out of it and go, "you're supposed to be my friend! you should help me!" Tell her, "And aren't you supposed to be my friend? Is a friend a person who forces her friends into situations that you weren't a part of in the first place? Because that's the kind of friend you're being." If she doesn't understand, then she's not worth having a friendship with. I'm sure you have other friends.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
One of my friends lets call her Sara knows this kid lets call him Ray. Well Sara doesnt actually know Ray, but she met him on myspace, because on of Sara's friends actually knows Ray because he is friends with her boyfriend. Well Ray just came to our school this year. When I asked my friend Sara who Ray was she told me and said that she doesnt like him, hes not very good looking and she's just talking to him. So one day I sent Ray a friend request and he immediatley started talking to me, and now we talk ALOT. My friend Sara has not talked to him (on myspace) in a couple months and when me and him started talking she started talking to him. She brought it up to me like "why are you taling to MY boy" when she doesnt and has not ever gone out with him. I dont get why she is getting so jealous when from the beginning she said she didnt not like him. What can I do? and how can I get to know Ray better? He goes to my school, but ive never seen him one because my school is HUGE (3,000 plus kids) i want to ask him to hangout and stuff, but i dont want to come off too strong or act like im trying to rush what could be a good friendship or more. please help!
Well, since you talk in MySpace and are good Internet buddies, tell him casually, "I've never seen you in school before." And the conversation should lead to you two hanging out after school somewhere. Or just, "Want to hang out after school?" would do. It won't seem in any way freak-ish.
As for your friend, well she's just being self-centered. Next time she complains, tell her, "Uhh... YOUR boy? What are you talking about? You guys aren't even going out. And he's not some property. He's more 'mine' than 'yours' because we're closer. What's your problem? You said before you didn't even like him and thought he was ugly. What's up with you now? All of a sudden, you're all over him? Look, I'm not trying to be a bitch but you sure seem like it. You can't chose who I talk to and who he talks to. I'm tired of you whining about the two of us all the time."
Take it and make it nastier (not too nasty or you'll be asking fopr a slap) or make it sweeter (not too sweet or she won't get it) but my point is to get it across her head that you want to be friends with this guy and, while you still want her as your friend, she can't stop you.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
In the mornings at my school we always wait in the gym. When I was getting up & walking towards the door (I was in a huge crowd.) someone tapped my shoulder, but when I turned around I looked too quick, so I couldn't see who it was. A few seconds later I heard a guy yell, "ASK HER OUT!" I just kinda forgot about it until I was at my locker. I had just opened and I heard the same guy (it sounded like the same voice.) say, ""Oh, there goes your girlfriend, Matthew." Then whoever Matthew was said, "Nooooo. I'm good." and sort of laughed. Does it sound like he meant that in a mean way? or what?
I don't think it's something you should worry about. It could've definitely been a mean, corny joke between this Matthew person and his friend. Or whatever. But it doesn't matter. It's not like you know him. Forget about it.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
ok so here's the deal:
i have a crush on my girlfriend's best friend. . .and i'm pretty sure she's likewise, with the way she acts around me.
anyway, i really love my girlfriend, and i don't want our relationship to end. i need some advice on how to get over her.
it's not that i want to date her. it's that i have a crush on her.
she's my friend too if that helps.
thanks
Put a little bit of distance between this girlfriend's best friend. Not as much that'll give her the message that you don't like her, but as much needed for you to have more time with your girlfriend. It's good that you want to be faithful. That's a start.
Whenever you're with this girl, think of your girlfriend. Remind yourself about how great she is and how it would feel to lose her. When she flirts with or acts a little TOO friendly, edge away. It's hazardous to stick around when she's flirting. Plus, she's being disloyal to her friend.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
Everytime i talk to this boy online I start crying a little. He used to love me very much but then he started playing girls and stuff and then finally found one and has gone out with her ever since. She lives on the other side of the world. They aren't even a good couple, and they only talk about once a week. I talk to this boy every day about, and we have a better relationship. I already know I'm jealous about this girl.
He said he could dump her but he thinks its too cold hearted. I know its hard to dump people and I'm not forcing him but he talks about her alot and I tell him and he ALWAYS promises not to talk about her but he still does. I dont even know what he sees in her--once I talked to her and she was downright rude and mean.
But I am just letting my jealousy get the better of me. I feel like its ruining my life in a way. What should i do?!?!
It seems to me that this guy likes this girl a lot. Truthfully, I think you should leave the relationship alone and put a distance between you and this guy so he'll realize what it's like not having you around. Maybe this will spark something in this guy. Envy can get ugly. Think this way: If you're going so crazy for this guy and you don't even have him, what about the other halfway across the world? What do you think she feels about him? They wouldn't be in a relationship in the first place if there were no emotions between them
Ignore the guy when he starts talking about this girl. Stop hanging out with him as much. Maybe he'll develop feelings for you when you slowly began to drift away. He'll open his eyes about what it's like with you not being around him. Maybe he's taking you for granted.
But if he makes no effort to make a relationship between you two after you've left him, I'm sorry to say this, but he just doesn't care. Or maybe he came back to you but just in that friendly way, then he just thinks of you as a friend. If that happens, move on. You can't hang on to this guy forever.
If all goes well, then great! =D Hope you have a happily-ever-after ending!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
this kid, who i used to be best friends with, but then this thing happened & so i figured he hated me [because he blocked me for one] so i didnt talk to him anymore. [but i kinda turned him down, to like him.. is that maybe why...] anyways, i switched schools & now go to his school. & people told me he was excited i was coming. & i was like .. oh great, he'll probably pick on me.. so then anyways, when i get there, about 7 or 8 people asked me if i knew him, if they remember that i dated him, if i was still his girlfriend, & what i thought about him.
when i saw him, all of his friends were like "no way!" & staring at me. & stuff. i didnt really get what that meant..
what was happening therE?
Wait for this guy to make a move (positive or negative) so you can see if he likes you (just friends or more?) or not (enemies?)
DO NOT go after him. Don't be the one to talk to him first. This guy might ignore you. He might enjoy having you chase after him. Make HIM come to YOU. So if people asked those questions, just say, "Before we were together. I don't know now."
If he was actually excited for you to come like you heard, it's probably a good thing and he'll most likely approach you if he has the guts.
If he doesn't make a move, show him you want to fix things. Smile sweetly, a polite kind of smile that you would give to a teacher. If you give a bright smile, it'll send the message that you're flirting and maybe he won't want that. Show him you want to at least be friends.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
My mom and Dad hate each other. My Dad is an ass and my mom always complain that I am just like him just because I agree with what he says. And it isn't because of any reason I just think that his ideas are smarter then hers. Like for example: i was doing my homework and i didn't know this answer so she said to just ask the teacher and he'll give me all the answers but my dad said I should look at the answers at the back of the book cuz then I'd try and see how i got the answers and then I'd get it. And then she told the whole family (aunts, everyone) that I like Dad more then her and now everyone hates me because I like my dad more then her and it's not even true! And she asked me to fix the remote but I said I didn't know how and I meant it and she yelled back, YOUR JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER! God! someone help me feel better because she's a bitch but I always cry and get depressed.
Isn't your mother the ass? Looks like it.
Tell your Mom how you feel of course! Write it in a letter, e-mail it to her, or just talk nto her face-to-face. Tell her what you told us. "Mom, you're starting to be really irritating to me. Aren't you supposed to be the mature one? Because you're not doing a very good job of being a mother to me. I love you as a Mom, and I love Dad too, equally. It's just that I agree with him because he has better ideas than you. I think I know about who I like better than you do. Also, if you seriously think I like Dad better, this is the wrong way to handle it. By acting like this, it's getting me to think if Dad is a better person. Only because you're acting like a drama queen about it. If you want me to like you two the same, which I do already but, treat me better. You make me cry and don't comfort me about it. You make me depressed about something untrue. I'd like to know what kind of Mom treats her kid this way." Do something like that. Take it and make it nastier (not too nasty or you'll be digging your own grave!) or sweeter (not too sweet or she won't get how much of a bitch she;s being to you!)
And be calm about it. If you're going to talk face-to-face, cross your arms to show her you won't back down and look her straight in the eye, but don't give an attitude or it'll give her the message of, "I'm asking fcor trouble." You have to tell her as her daughter about what a bad Mom she;s being.
xoxo
-Jennifer Choi ♥
This is the deal; I'm a prep.
Flat out, okay... but, in my school prep's are targeted. BIG TIME. Teachers make us write papers on how bad cliques are, and in class room meetings we disucuss the groups and every time people bring up prep and look at me. I have a certain group of friends and I sit with them, but i get along with almost anyone. Just beacuse someone has on all black and chains comming off their pants doesn't mean i hate them... I DONT ! BUT EVERYONE THINKS THAT?
Is anyone out there non-prep can you explain to me why people would assume that? they dont even know me.. and its not that im mean or stuck up in any way.
That's so harsh of your school!
I don't believe in labels, but I assume I'm "un-preppy", but I don't put down "preps". But I know why some people do. It's because they're shallow and arrogant, which is exactly what they think of "preps". The usual description of a "prep" is: bitchy, usually rich, wears A&F, popular. People only assume that because they've had bad experience with "preps," but they're only acting ignorant. They just take one look at you and think, "That girl's a bitch because she's prep." In a way, it's like racism.
Don't let them get you down. You know you aren't what they think. Eventually, they'll notice your positive qualities and their judgement will change. They won't think low of you forever, as long as you keep your good personality. Trust me, they'll find out your inner girl as long as you be patient.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
Our class is getting ready for a spring trip to New York and today we picked the people we are rooming with. This girl I know, we'll call her Lucy, is one of the people I am rooming with. I used to be really close with her, but then we stopped talking. We starting hanging out again just this year. We signed up to room together with another one of my friends. Later, I find out that Lucy said I was annoying and she doesn't want to room with me because I'm "annoying," even though she has been acting like my friend the entire year. I think she's being very immature and two-faced. I want to confront her about this, but I don't want to get carried away and become immature myself. How can I talk to her about this rationally? Would it be reasonable to just blow her off and room with someone else and leave her all alone?
Oooh, if there's one thing I know about, it's bitches. And you're dealing with one (there was no need to mention that, sorry, since you probably knew that already). Of course you confront her! She'll be a very easy person to combat, as all two-faced people are. You have to face this girl and say, "I heard you called me annoying behind my back, and it surprised me because you were acting all sweet with me, and you're calling me annoying? Don't deny it, because it'll only show me you're a coward. Well, I'd like you to tell me your opinion in my face, and I'll return you the favor. Unles you're afraid to. In that case, just don't say anything at all." Don't go to another room. This way she'll spend the trip silently being frightened by you, as you hang with your friends.
If you don't want to be like that, just talk to her calmly about it. Tell her you heard you heard that you said bad stuff about you behind your back, and that you'd like for her to just leave you alone. But be firm about it, don't be a softie and go, "Just don't do it again, okay?" because you have to show her that you won't stand for it. Then change rooms so you won't have to deal with Lucy.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
I have a serious hate for people where I live. They use labels constantly & it's annoying. I don't get what joy they get out of degrading someone else for their music tastes & clothing choices.
What's the deal with labels? And why do people use them? I don't get it. But labels should die & so should the people who use them. Nobody's a soup can.
I'm not sure what you're asking for, but I seriously agree with you. Labels are used to classify people into different groups, and it's a seriously low thing to use, almost like racism. Some people just like to use labels to be labelled themselves in one of the "good" labels (though none of the labels are actually good), or just to make a person feel bad.
It's retarded, but it's also life. People use them all the time. Just don't use them yourself, and just try to deal with the rest of the world. If you know that you're not low as the rest of them, it's fine. =)
xoxox
-Jenny C ♥
i have a bigg crush on one of my good friends brothers. she knows, and she swears she doesnt mind, but i think she does. should i go for it with him, or lay off and respect the relationship i have with my friend?
thanks!
Talk to her. Don't make it awkward, like pulling her into the girl's bathroom and start privately talking about it. It'll create an uncomfortable chatting place. Pass notes to her about it or slip a letter in her locker, saying something similar to this in your own words:
"Okay, I know you said that you don't mind about my crush on your brother and I don't want to annoy you about it, but I have a feeling you do. Please be honest with me because I'm your friend and I really don't want to dump our friendship over a guy. Tell me the truth."
If it turns out she really actually doesn't, then go for it. Flirt with her brother and do whatever you want with him...
But of course, if she does, well, friends before crushes. You adore your crush, but you love your friend (or, at least, your supposed to) so respect her feelings and try to get over the guy. Move on. I know it'll be hard, even though I'm making it sound simple, but there wasn't a relationship blooming yet, so stop your emotions before your hormones get it to.
XOXO
-Jenny C ♥
does anyone have any good tips on how to flirt with a guy but not making it to to obvious?
thaankkss a llott
Giggle at the guy's jokes. Don't over do it, or you'll look like an idiot. Smiling works well too, when passing him in the halls or when you're talking to him.
Stare at him until the guys catches you, and when he does, quickly look down shyly. This is a big but not-too-obvious hint to tell him: I'm Crushing On You!
Look at him "up-and-down" and make sure he sees you. This might be a small sign but a really nice flirt if you don't want to b obvious!
XOXO
-Jenny C ♥