I am Samantha.
I am a friend.
I am a lover.
I like books and the weekend. I like summer and music and flowers. I don't like school or being cold. I don't like rejection or mood swings or bad hair days.
Website: Facebook
Gender: Female
Location: D-town
Occupation: Student/Cashier
Age: 16
Member Since: February 3, 2008
Answers: 80
Last Update: April 28, 2009
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Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for a year on May 12th. I'm really in love with him! But I dunno what to get him. It's been the same way with his birthday and christmas. But I feel like since it's a year it's BIG!! So what should I get him? Any help? (link)
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Best present? For my anniversary with my boyfriend, I got him this photo cube from www.personalizationmall.com and I wrote a poem to him on top (you'll have to get the one where you can customize it). Then I put in pictures of us from throughout the past year. Also, I picked out about 20 songs that are "our" songs, songs that are kinda an inside joke, and just songs that remind me of him. In between each song, it was me talking to him. It was like a musical story! I recorded on my phone and sent them to my computer. He LOVED everything!
Hope I helped you out!
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Okay so this may be kind of long. So ill just start I was dating a guy we'll call him "T" So We dated around 8 months almost 9 months and it just recently end well actually i broke up with him the week before valentines day. (We broke up one other time before that to where he came back to me) This time It turned out that he had cheated on me wayy at the beginning of our relationship. When i found out and askd him he got defensive and i loked 'into' it and he had lied so i broke up with him. It wasnt like we had a great relationship either we always argued n he was insecure and accused me of cheating because i guess its what he did. He didnt always treat me good and i know i deserve better. but that has made me super insecure no matter wat i tell myself. So we've been broken up for two months but i cant to seem to get over it, I miss him and think about him alot. i Cant seem to get him out of my mind. I wasnt in love with him but its like i want him to want me again or be with me like the first time we broke up. im just confused and want some advice on what i should do.
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When someone abuses you, it leaves a scar. Especially since you were with him for such a long time, it was almost a habit to feel down about yourself as he abused you. As hard as it is, instead of thinking of him, do something. Keep yourself occupied, especially with other guys. Someone will show you that you are worth respect. You'll get what you deserve if you start to look at other options other than him. Best of luck!
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so i've never had a guy eat me out before and i've been dating this guy for about a year and i want him too but i'm afraid i'm going to smell down there.
how do i know if i smell?
and if i do, how do i change that?
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You shouldn't smell unless you have an infection or if you have bad hygiene. Shower before he comes over and I probably wouldn't use scented shower gel because it may irritate the sensitive skin down there. Just use a bar of soap and really clean it! Don't worry, you shouldn't smell.
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OK! I'm going to rewrite this for any of you people assuming I only like her for sex -.-
No I do not but heres the qwestion..
I really really really like my girl friend and I know she really likes me.. Small problem -.- When ever we are making out I tend to well.. you know get a Cof Cof* boner Cof Cof* but Annnnyway the point is I know I love it when we make out and I know she likes making out but how do I know if she is well... (horney) Once again! I'm stating that im 14 -.- I dont want to have sex yet -.- So for any girls out the that feel like helping =] HAVE AT IT! :o (link)
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You'll know if she's horny if she's into it! If she's barely kissing back or keeping it short, than she's probably not turned on. She might breathe real heavily... But you should know. Let's put it this way, if you can't tell she's horny, she's probably not. Good luck!
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Okay, Well your advice is 100 percent relevant and good advice, BUT i just tried to talk to her actually today, and all she does is throw it in my face that OH YOU USED TO DO IT and stuff, and its not like i ask her to stop, because i dont mind that she smokes, because i know that it is fun, i am no trying to tell her what to do, or stop i just rearly think that everyday is a little unneccesary exspecially when her sister was like that and really messed up her life, and its like when you have proof right in fron of your eyes why wont you just you know ease up? i dont know i may have been thinkin that next year, i should try and meet new freinds like me, i love my freinds, but i guess i have changed alot, and i shouldnt try and change them, and maybe just find new freinds .. with more in common? i guess it would just suck to lose a best friend (link)
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You don't have to lose her, necessarily. But looking for new friends is always a good option, whether you need them or not. When you and her hang out, try to find things to do that can't involve smoking and maybe she can see how life can be sweeter when you're not high. Sorry if I didn't help, it's a tough subject. Good luck, though!
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Recently, my boyfriend and I have been having a lot of trouble in our relationship. Things came to a head and after a painful couple of days of arguments, we talked everything over and made the decision to stay together while making a few changes.
This all happened about a week ago and since then we've been trying to get back to normal and being natural around each other but things still feel weird. I feel slightly awkward around him and being sweet to each other/saying 'I love you' seems a lot more staged than it was before.
I know that this is to be expected after such a big argument but does anyone have any advice as to how we can regain more normality between us and start to feel more comfortable again? (link)
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How big are the changes? If you have to change yourself to the point where you feel uncomfortable, than something isn't right. Are his changes making him seem like someone he's not? This could make you feel like he's not even the boy you loved. Try going out with lots of people for awhile, because if he's around his buddies and you're around yours, you will both feel tons more comfortable. Good luck.
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Ive been going out with this boy named Eric for about 4-5 months now, and were always going on dates and everything and just this weekend [Saturday] I went over his house alone... well we've been kissing for a while but thats it I mean IM ONLY FOURTEEN and Eric put his hand up my shirt, and I donno if it's normal or not but I sorta freaked cuz its the first time anything besides kissing has happened to me.. and I was like Woah and he like continued so i was like oh umm im sorry but can you stop. So kinda mad I think he did, I let him"feel me up" on the outside of my shirt so he wouldn't get to mad, but then he tried un-buttoning my jeans and thats when I was like WOAH! What are you doing?? and he was like weve been going out for so long now why can't you go further then kissing me it's not like we'll have sex or anything.. and i donno I just didnt feel comfortable but I do like him. And I was like Im sorry.. and hes like You do like me dont you so I said yes! and he was like okay then. and Tried putting his hand up my shirt again then it was like No.. i dont feel comfortable ill just walk home and he got really mad at me. I tried telling him Crawling leads to walking, and Walking turns to running and I dont like running not yet atleast IM ONLY FOURTEEN!!! Well I feel violated right now, but then it's like would I have gone all the way if I let him? Would he have?? and I needed to talk to someone and my best friend Adam--yes it a boy was like WHAT and wanted to kill him but I made him promise not to. And this weekend oim going back over... and I dont want to go any farther then we did this weekend but I donno if Eric will accept that and I know if he doesnt break up with him but shouldnt I atleast do something? Like handjob? like satisfy him?? I dont want to.. but to make him happy I will... I donno what to do i really like him, and I dont know why I cant just let him do what he wants with me, but I cant... I know I cant.
and Im not a slut.. im only 14, I know ive dated him a long time but I thought he was happy with just kissing... now its like how long has he wanted this? Why didnt he tell me before? and Im just scared you know? Maybe I shouldnt go back to his house without a parnet and my and his parents are being super cool with letting me over because they do know! and I promissed my mom Id keep it PG-13...
Anything would be helpfull really. (link)
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If you don't feel comfortable with something, than don't do it. I understand how you feel violated, because you were. Just because you like him doesn't mean you have to give yourself up to him. If he feels you up or touches you below the belt, it doesn't necessarily mean you're going to have sex. But if you don't feel like letting him touch you and if you don't feel like touching him, than don't do it. Try expressing your love to him in other, nonsexual ways and he should get it. If not, give him the boot.
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So i have been best freinds with this girl (erika) for 5 years, we have always been close, and we always have fun and i could always go to her for help, and trusted her, and believed she was a realy good friend, well last summer she realy betrayed me over and over again, but i mean we were best freinds and i love her - so i forgave her, because i believe in forgiveness . altthough inever realy felt the same with her( im not a lesbian lol) okay but i use to smoke, get high, and drinnk a few years back, and she didnt smoke, but now i have changed alot , and just stopped smoking, and getting high, and NOW she is geting high ALOT, like everyday and coming to school high and smoking in school, and to be honest i realy dnot like it, its wierd but i dontl ike being around her when she smokes , and its just kind of annoying, and she has cheated on her bf ( her x now) , and she acts like its nothing and i dont like that either, it seems like shes careless about EVERYTHING that would seem important to me -- im just confused of what to do..so any advice is appreciate (link)
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Obviously you went through a phase where you thought you were bad to the bone. And now she's going through that phase. Eventually, she'll get over it. But if she doesn't, just let her know (without lecturing her) that you are worried about her. Let her know about some of the reasons why you stopped and maybe you can convince her to stop as well. It's one thing to get high every once and awhile, but when it's your life, there's a problem. Just talk to her about it, she should be willing to listen.
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okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him. (link)
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Personally, I think you just need to learn how to punctuate and express yourself, because clearly, that's a problem for you. Once you get passed that, you should probably consider growing up, because what you did was immature, thoughtless, and hurtful. Think before you do stupid crap like that, because guys have feelings. Good luck! :D
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when you give an hj,do you use your whole hand or just first finger and thumb,or what. (link)
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Every guy is different, just don't squeeze his dick.
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Okay I want to do something different to my hair because I always do the same thing, what would look cute on me?
This is what I look like:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v330/MqSoCcErSwEeTiE/wow046.jpg
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v330/MqSoCcErSwEeTiE/?action=view¤t=n583148295_88537_6926.jpg < thats from last year
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v330/MqSoCcErSwEeTiE/?action=view¤t=wow160.jpg
I was thinking about doing black on the bottom and then my normal highlights on the top, but my mom isn't too fond of that idea. What do you think? Pictures would be great! (link)
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I think the last link from the previous person would suit you very well! Mommy's right, black on bottom with highlights on top just looks really trashy. It looks like you can't afford to highlight the rest, in my opinion. Anyhow, if you want to do some crazy blonde highlights with your hair, cut it short. Because if you're going to get an extreme color, it'll look absolutely ridiculous on your long hair. Soo that's my advice. :D
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I'm a 16 year-old girl and my 15 year old (first) boyfriend says that I should change myself COMPLETELY just for him. And when I asked him why he's still with me and why he doesn't go to someone else he says it's because of all the sexual things he wants to do with me. I'm like..wtf..You don't respect me. You want me to change for YOUR sick pleasures...Well, I'm not going to change. It upsets me...because everything I seem to do, he's not happy with. The way I dress, act...He LOVES the way I look. And that's about it.
I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. We've been together for a month and 2 weeks. Do you think I should give him another chance? (link)
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You should not give him another chance. He is obviously using your for your body, and that's not what any girl deserves. Nobody should tell you to be something that you're not. Not a friend, not a boyfriend, not a teacher, not an enemy, not even your parents. You recognize that he doesn't respect you, but you need to respect yourself and break it off as soon as you can. Look for someone who respects you for WHO YOU ARE, because I'm sure there are tons of boys who will.
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okay so for some reason my tampons hurt when i pull them out...is this normal. and this is the first period that i've actually used a tampon (link)
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Yeah, it's normal because it expands when it's inside of you, so it's bigger than when you put it in. Are you using the smallest size for your period flow? Make sure you're not using a super if you're only bleeding a normal amount. When you pull it out, is it full of blood, or do you see a lot of white? When it's dry (lots of white) it really hurts to take out. Hope I helped.
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whenever i know that my boyfriend CANT finger me, like when his parents around or we're out in public, i get really turned on because i want it so bad but i know i cant have it. sometimes if i know he can finger me i still get wet and turned on like while he just runs his hands like against my thighs and inside my legs. then for the first minute or so when he's actually fingering me, like inside, the wet just goes away, and im not really turned on anymore. any advice how to stay turned on through the whole thing? (link)
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Being sexually aroused when it's not appropriate is actually really common! But when he actually starts, and you get turned off, this might be a problem with your boyfriend. Either he's not doing it right, or you're more attracted to the idea of being pleasured than HIM pleasuring you. If it doesn't feel good when he's doing it, maybe lead his hand in the right direction or something. It could be that your sexual chemistry with him just isn't right. Or maybe that's wrong. Try doing things to put you in the mood. Like turning on music, undressing him, pleasuring each other at the same time... I hope I helped.
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Hey, I'm 15/f and I have absolutely no libido. I've made out with people, but it didn't 'turn me on', and I've even tried masturbating, but nothing.
I'm pretty healthy at 5'7 130 pounds with muscle.
It's not much of a problem, but it makes getting into relationships awkward, because I have to explain that I "don't do sex", and my parents always give me lectures about sex, as well.
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To be honest with you, you probably just didn't have chemistry with the people you've made out with. Even if they're the hottest kissers ever, sometimes there is just nothing there regardless. You don't have to explain that you "don't do sex" because that is probably not true! Maybe you just need to explore your sexual life a bit more until you find out what turns you on! Try putting on music next time you're with someone. Might put you in the mood. ;)
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Okay so this is like the second day of my period, i started yesterday...But i have been on my period for about 4 years now and its done it before but im still kinda wondering...
Okay well in my pad there was like these clumps of blood, like two of them a little one and a big one, and i kinda feel them but it just feels like i let out a lot of blood at one time. What are these?? and another thing do these things help you period get over with quicker? And is it true that the more you cramp the quicker the blood gets out?? thank you!! :) (link)
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Clumps are totally normal. It could be parts of the lining of your uterus, or just hardened blood. Pretty gross, but normal, nonetheless. These things do not make your period go faster. Also, doctors don't even really know why cramps happen. I normally have cramps, but my period usually lasts 7-8 days. So I don't think the more you cramp, the quicker the blood comes out. Hope I answered your questions sufficiently.
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16/f. Hi I'm a junior in high school and I like this guy, let's call him Nate. He's also a junior, but he's dating this girl, lets call her Jen. She is a senior though. Nate and I met at the beginning of this year but have actually known of eachother for a while. We've had Chemistry class toghether all year and have always worked in the same lab groups. There has always been flirting and playfulness between us. We have hung out 3 times out of school. The last time, Jen was there. A week later they started going out. It has been like two weeks since then. I seem them in the halls together before and after 2nd period. Then during 6th period(chem), we flirt a lot. I've had so many people tell me he and I need to get together and that we'd be so cute. I really like him, what should I do? Thanks. (link)
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Well, if they are together and happy, don't get between them. That's just rude and it won't get you any points with Nate. Just give them time, and see how things work out. Don't be too flirty with him, because that's disrespectful to Jen, whether or not you like her. Remain his friend so that you don't lose your chances of being with him.
But think about it. Do you really want to be with a guy who continues to flirt with girls other than his girlfriend? If he does it to her, he could do it to you if you two date. Keep that in mind. Hope I helped!
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I have a crush on this guy at my school and I guess we are friends but I just want to know how to make friends with guys, I mean I can hardly talk to boys. I hang out with a group of girls and like only one boy in our group. So I just want advice on talking to guys. I can hardly talk to my crush and I am shy. Well I'm not shy with my friends. I am really loud and outgoing but thats how I really am with people I know. I know a lot of guys but we don't talk very much. I just would like some advice on that. Thanks! (link)
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Lots of people are shy when they're not surrounded by supporting friends. What you have to do is tell the boy friend you hang out with is to bring his friends. If you start hanging out with masses of people, you'll slowly become close with them. This is a good opportunity to make friends both guys and girls. As for your crush? Just ask how their weekend was or something.. and talk about what's going on. Like, it's class time? Talk about how wacked-out your teacher is. Something really crazy happen to you lately? Tell them! Did you see some girl trip down the stairs? Talk to them about it! Guys like to hear that girls have a sense of humor, even if it is stupid. Especially if it's stupid, actually, considering boys your age are immature. So good luck, just be casual cool and you'll have it!
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i have side bangs but they keep splitting, i have tried to pin them up and leave them for a few days but it just splits again. In this picture (the girl in the yellow shirt with the brown, curly hair) i lovveee her bangs...how would i get them like that??
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Well, you definitely have to straighten them in the direction that your bangs go in. Make sure to curve the straightening iron like a rainbow when you do it so that it curves. Also, when your hair is wet, put your part in so that it doesn't dry straight in the middle. If you just got side bangs, it might take them awhile to settle. But do you have a cowlick in the front? Because if so it will just never work, sorry! Hope I helped.
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What are some designer (jeans) that fit tinyand are similar to paige and frankie b.?
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Do you have a "buckle" near you? It's a fantastic jeans store. Honestly, you walk in and they'll help you soo much! I went in just to browse, and they got like, 10 pairs of jeans for me to try on! Go there, it's the best.
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You commented me saying not designer? Does this mean you don't want designer? Because they sell tons of designers.
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