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Q: There is this guy that is my friend. His name is steven. he doesn't know i like him. and there is a friend of mine erica. Steven likes erica. Erica is not his type and she doesn'tlike him. I am more of stevens type than erica. how do i tell steven he has a better chance w/ me than w/ her? i don't want to loose our good friendship.

>Random Leigh
I hate to sound cliche but guys will come and go, if this guy like your friend talking her down to him just makes you look bad. If you really like this guy tell him how you feel but don't diss your friend to make yoursself look better. No boy is ever worth a friendship (unless he is rich and famous) but seriously go for the guy you would have more fun with, it only matters the quality of the time you spend together not the quantity.

Q: how long after sex is the morning after pil effective??? do you have to take it the very next day?
You have to take it w/in 24 hours of unprotected intercourse and it is highly effective. Depending upon what state you live in it may have to be prescribed by a doctor if it is available at all.

Q: Both of my great grandma's just died. I went out shopping with my best friend all day yesterday after going to a doctors appointment with her dad. I feel terrible about not helping my dad with the funeral stuff... Should I feel bad?
You and your Dad are going through a rough time right now and the best way to help your Dad is to just be supportive and share your feelings. As far as arranging the funeral that is part of his responsibility as an adult, if he has asked you to help he may not be thinking clearly. Just do what you need to grieve and your Dad will to, whatever you do don't feel guilty, that is one more emotion you just don't need right now.

Q: k me and my boyfriend had sex lat night...and we didnt use a condom but he pulled out right bofore he came. but i was kind of worried because he got a little "stuff" right below where he puts his....well you know...is it possible for something to happen? or does it actually have to be inside the girl?? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
Regardless of what a guy says 9 time out of 10 they can not tell if they have "pre-cum". Most guys that can tell have been having sex regularly for many years and are very familiar w/their bodily functions. Even if you are just rubbing a guy genital to genital you risk pregnancy not to mention a host of STD's. Genital warts and herpes can not only be passed through intercourse, but rubbing together, and from mouth to genital contact. Statistically a woman has a 20-25% chance of becoming pregnant during regular, unprotected sexual intercouse so the chance of you being pregnant is pretty slim. Just remeber to always use a condom, the consequences are far more severe if you don't. A good resource about preganancy and sex etc...are Planned Pregnancy and Web MD sites they have more accurate info. than an advice column.

Q: what is the right age to have sex and what are some good things to do?
There is no right age to have sex. A good way to tell if your ready (emotionally) is if you can talk about sex without getting embarrassed and if you can go but condoms w/o freaking that someone will see you. Also, are you financially prepared for the possibility of getting pregnant? Do you know if your potential partner has any STD's, make sure your protected even so, you can still get gentital warts and/or herpes from contact with another persons genitalia (just something to think about) And as far as being physically ready, most guys under 18 don't know what they are doing and most girl's under 18 are to afraid to say anything.

Q: Hey theres this girl that im just dying to be with and she knows that I like her. Im 16 and shes 14 but her parents dont let her date guys my age cuz theyre more near her brothers ages. What should i do to get her parents to let her be with me?
A good way to show her parents you are genuine is to show her brother's you are a good guy. Since the brother's are your age, strike up a conversation and just let them know your intentions are good. Also, make friends w/this girl, show her parents you can be trusted. The worst thing that can happen is you will have some new friends.

Q: I met this guy at a lacrosse camp.. I thought he was really cool and everything and we were flirting and he asked me out and of course I said yes.. after that week I haven't seen him but ive talked him on the phone.. hes a total Jock and always plays sports.. sometimes i think he likes his sports better than me.. I really like him and I know he likes me too but I want to see him.. is that being selfish? should I explain it all to him?
When it come to guy's who like sports, getting his attention can be pretty difficult. My guy friends idea of bonding is sitting through an entire football game with maybe a sentence or to actually directed at one another. Guys respond differently in these situations, it would really make an impression on him if you showed an interest in the sport he likes, go see his games, even if it bores you to death. If you really like this guy get interested in his hobbies and he will get interested in you...guaranteed.

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