um, well i like giving advice. i think it helps me as well as others. oh, and this is the best site ever
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Since I have been giving a lot of advice, I thought I would like some of my own.
Alright here's the dilemma, Last year I was dating a guy name SOMEBODY. He was my first true love so to speak. I did everything with him sexually, and then when our 1 year came around, we broke up because we were fighting too much.
That relationship ended in March and I found somebody else in May. We have been dating since then and now I think he's cheating on me. They aren't big big hints like lipstick on his collar or underwear in his car but sometimes when he is texting someone, I'll lean over to look and he'll immediately close out of the text. He says it's nothing but it BUGS ME.
He says he wants to marry me, have kids with me. Granted, I am only 19 and so is he, but it's different from my last relationship.
I'm not sure maybe it's just my personality or something. (link)
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maybe its just a privacy thing. a lot of people hate it when they feel like someones invading their personal space. and although he may not have anything to hide, it might just be annoying for him.
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There's this girl in my class, and we were just sitting around talking, and she pulled a dollar out of her purse while she was digging for her phone and set it down for a minute, so i took and my uncle had taught me how to, so i made a ring out of it because i was bored, lol, and i set it back down. she smiled, and took it and was like, "aw, yes, i will" and we started laughing about it. Well anyways, later, i was singing 'I Want to Hold Your Hand', by the beatles, and i got to the part and said, "i hope you'll understand" and she was like, "I understand!"
Those are two specific things, but we flirt sometimes, and I asked her for her number so I could text her, and she gave it to me, but maybe just because we're friends. IDK!!!! ha, so, do you think she likes me..? (link)
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probably. go out with her, but don't specifically say its a date, and see how she reacts. if she assumes its a friend thing, then she probably thinks of you as a friend and that's it, but if she says yes and seems interested, then maybe she's thinking along the same lines as you. gd luck.
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My 16 year old son began using drugs about a year ago. After several groundings, I told him to either follow the rules or he would have to go live with his father (what I assumed to be the ultimate punishment...and that he would be back and ready to follow my rules withing a few days.) He has now been living with his father for two months and will not speak to me because I "kicked him out." I miss him. His father and I do not speak so I don't know if he's getting the help he needs. What should I do? (link)
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speak to the father. i know you have your reasons and they are probably very valid, but, come on! your son is worth it isn't he? (if he isn't, then there may be some issues!) but i grew up with my mom who didn't speak to my dad. he left when i was 13. and when i was with him, and she wouldn't call in case he would pick up, it made me really pissed. i did a lot of things i regret because my parents (in my mind) were acting like little kids, who refused to put away small things aside to concentrate on the bigger picture. i kinda hate my dads guts, so if my mom sent me to my dad's it would only be for something bad. but you wouldn't send him to his father's unless his father was responsible, so i'm sure the two of can at least discuss your son like adults. if not, then i think i can really relate to your son, because i used to do a lot of shit, and still do. but it might not have been that way, if my parents had at least acted like parents.
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hey im 18/f im in college. well i go to community college. i have crush on this guy named Chris. he's really cute, but he thinks way to highly of himself. in other words he's cocky, but he's really quiet and doesn't talk much. in class i said to him oh you must think your really cool and he said i don't think im cool i know i am. and that really got to me cause even my friend James who sits behind me was laughing. I talked to Chris on facebook and we talked about how i thought that he was insecure so that's why he acts cocky. but he denied it. he also told me that he has 2 older brothers, and i think that's why he is the way he is. and he lives with his mom. but when i was talking to him on facebook it was weird because i felt like i was doing all the talking. i kept asking him all the questions and i kinda felt like i was being annoying. So how do i talk to someone who is really quiet? and is it bad that i asked him a lot of questions? for ex. i asked him when his birthday was and he just told me it was in October. he didn't say what day. i have a really bad habit of getting way too excited when i talk to a guy, i talk too much, i start looking at their facebook constantly. and i ask way to many questions. and i don't want to mess this up. and i asked him if he wanted to hangout like after class and he said he couldn't because he has work. He has 2 jobs. so i tol d him to let me know when he can hangout but he hasn't so far. so help. sorry this is really long. (link)
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yeah i agree with the previous columnist, but also, that he might start to like you, but you really need to play it cool! and don't try to analyse everything about him, like his family. if you get way too excited, then let it out in small bursts. for instance, ignore him for a couple of days then show an interest. im guessing you arent planning on asking him out, so make him spend more time with you, but don't go into full army plan mode. just find a time where you can causally ask him out wiht you and your friends, but then act as though, you aren't obsessing about him. but yeah, most of all, DON'T analyse him!! guys really hate it. especially if they were thinking of asking you out, because it's a turn off, since it gives him ideas on what kinda girlfriend you might be.
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Hi! 14/ f
I'm a writer:) I write books, and my mind is totally fried! lol i dont have any ideas of what should my book topic be. Can you people help me out? I usually write in the generes drama, horror, or romantic. Thanks for whoever helps! (link)
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try new style such as gothic and stuff. learn to write in intense styles. then try and switch to light, humorous styles. learn the basics of different topics and styles and everything from characters descriptions to subplots and language, symbolisms. don't just try to write a whole book. if you want to to come over your writers block and write a book that you have had some practise with. try things that you might never want ot write, just so you have an understanding
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So yesterday (sunday) my sister had plans to go to her boyfriends house for a bbq. (16f) My mom bought an apple pie and a cute small pot of flowers (yellow) for her to bring. She flipped out saying its so stupid and nobody does that, and all her friends say its dumb and "gay." I thought it was a really good idea. Anyway she was late, and almost didnt go because she got into a huge argument over it with my parents and refused to take them. She wasnt even going to call her boyfriend to tell him she couldnt go. We even tried to get her to just bring the apple pie. My mom ended up bringing it when she dropped my sister off, but it was almost such a waste, we bought two apple pies one for us and one for them so it wasnt like we could just eat it.
Opinions? thanks. and help. (link)
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you have to understand, when you r in a relationship, you show a side of yourself that even your parents and family don't get. i know it seems stupid and trivial but little things can make you feel like your parents don't get you and your life. plus hormones can really screw you up. i can't tell you how many times i yelled at my mom for something dumb
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It's sad, but it's the second real week of school and I already feel inadequate. I'm a junior and in 3 AP classes: Chemistry, European History, and English, as well as Honors Pre-Calc and Honors Italian 4. I'm okay in the Honors classes, and this isn't the first time I've taken an AP class -- I took AP US History last year. I just feel like in the AP classes, I'm not doing that well. I'm guessing I'm just worrying, but I just don't feel smart. I got straight A's last year, and now it's all mid-B's.
English is worrying me the most. It makes me feel like crap that I work pretty hard and I only get 85's. I know, it's an AP class and I'm probably lucky to get that grade even if I did work really hard. It just makes me feel bad because I've ALWAYS been good at writing. I love writing poetry and creative stories, however, I'm pretty bad when it comes to informative pieces. The comments on my papers (things like "Too wordy", "Awkward sentence structure/wording", "Not specific enough/too specific") hit me really hard, hah. I know it's just constructive criticism, but I don't know. I'm just usually good at stuff like this, and it's not like I have time for extra practice. I volunteer at the hospital, am in a lot of clubs, have classes basically all day on Saturday for this Upward Bound program I'm in, and I have to babysit all the time for a boy my family took in (2 yrs), among other things. I'm worried I'm a terrible writer now and I should just stop trying to write that book I've been drafting for a while.
Maybe I'm just worried because it's Junior year and I don't want to slip. I really need my grades to be high, and I want to get into an amazing college. Not only that, I just don't want to feel stupid. :P
I'm sure I'm just being a wuss, but anyone have any opinions on this? Thanks! (link)
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85's are fine. if its ur 1st month and ur doing fine, then u'll be great. the first moth or two is always hardest when you have to work hard. its amazing how easly u'll pick it up
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hello, 16 f
i really want a really good video camera. becuase i just learned how to play guitar and would love it if someone recommends a good sound quality camera becuase i need it to upload videos into youtube the one i have now really sucks even if you put it in HQ the sound is horrible.
also, i have windows XP computer. and i really want garageband becuase i heard it records soo good and you can play with music. but i heard its for mac. are there any programs like garageband? i dont care if i need to pay i just want great quality videos. and sounds for my music. or if garage band has a program for windows thats great also please send me links. thanks soo much. i do rate just in case. (link)
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panasonic S20
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I'm a female guitarist and I want to start putting videos on youtube but I have a horribly singing voice. I'm looking for someone who can sing without sounding like a dying goat, who's preferably a teenager or early adult. Where can I look to find someone like this? Or is anyone on here interested? Please let me know, I'm getting pretty desperate. (link)
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ha, well i won't ask you 4 ur address, but which country?
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Hi,
My house uses a D-Link wireless router to connect to the internet. Two days ago, the router had a problem and none of the computers in my house were able to connect to the internet. We restarted it, and everything was fine, except on one computer. That computer in question uses a NETGEAR wireless USB 2.0 Adapter (http://www.bestbuy.com/site/olspage.jsp?skuId=6825233&type=product&id=1091101527998) to connect to the network. I've uninstalled and reinstalled the adapter software, and even did a system restore on the computer but nothing is working and I still can't connect to the internet. Any ideas on how to fix this?
Thanks.
PS- If you need any additional information, please let me know. (link)
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because you reset it, all the settings on your router will change. you need to call the company helpline and insist you talk to a secondary advisor. they'll reset the settings properly. okay?
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Well, I have a less than perfect body and homecoming is coming up, so I was hoping someone would help me find me a dress that has sleeves, not too long but not too short, ya know. My legs I can show off since they're okay, but bacne and fat arms is not.
So yea, suggestions please? :) (link)
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uh, go for a 3/4 length sleeve.
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Hi,I am 13 and I really need some help.
All of my friends have matured, and....they...look...drop...dead...gorgeuos.
But, then there is me, I have matured also(I have hips.I HATE them!) But that is the only place I have matured. I do not want to have a chest I just want to be tall (I am only 4'11)
and to have cheekbones.I am more of a round girl, and all the time I try to lose weight, I do but thenit never is the amount I want,and it comes back on. I just want to be the size that I was back in grade 6.
alright sorry for such a long introduction but, I think my real question is is it natural for in 1 year to go up 3 sizes in pants? Or ,4 depending on the pant.
My friends are all so nice like they gain weight but, not as much as I did.
I have cut back on my food but, that is not helping.
I also work out so much it kills,Do you know why this is happening to me?(Sorry that is 3 questions)
-N. (link)
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you are 13. sorry, no offence, but everyone nowadays looks at magazines and automatically wants to look like models immediatley. wait till you r 16, At Least! then if you feel the same, start thinking about it seriously. don't worry about height. it will kick in about 15/16 at average. relax! enjoy yourself.
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can you get pregnant by giving a guy a blow job? (link)
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1. did u mean to send this to me?
2. no you can't. don't worry =]
jamz
but u can get an STD
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I hate myself and want to die. There is no way out. There is no definite answer to anything so how can you ever be right? Why do my friends always want to know what i am thinking when they dont care, they dont listen so why ask. Counsellors get PAID to listen to you. no one will remember me a year from my death. Anti depressants leave you numb and emotionless. Doctors dont issue sleeping pills coz I am a depressant but I cant SLEEP all i do is stare into senseless nothing seeing nothing but black shadows. The only releif is a razor blade and salt. Nothing will ever get better i will have this hopeless feeling of nothingness and desperation for somekind of peace of mind which i wont get. Things will always be the same and then ill die anyway. Im a selfish ugly fat bitch and the only way out is death. nothing can help me. im searching for a solution to get past my pathetic problems asides from counsellors, therapy, rehab, cutting, not cutting, anti depressants the only thing i can think of to a solution is death. no will will ever be able to stop this drowning feeling (link)
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yeah, well counsellors are shit. wow you sound like me. um, well yeah. i don't have much advice really because i'm kinda living my life through films and tv. which isn't exactly healthy, but whatever, i'm still alive right? um, i was wondering about the razor blade and salt? salt? oh and if you cut, has anyone noticed because if someone noticed then you could talk to them, i guess. if youre not talking to someone who is being paid, it might be easier. and you can't be invisible because , well i'v never met you but peole aare responding to this because they care, right?
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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this is a hit answer but try emailing this link t o him. it will takes somne guts but he will probably get a good insight into your perspecitive. its possible the reason he's 'moving on' is because he thinks its what you really want.
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prob. wrong categorie, idk..
15/f
basically, i hate myself.
i hate my life and everything about it therefor i hate myself.
i have absolutly NO real friends.
my family is so f**ked up its not even funny..
i mess up BAD with every nice, decent guy i meet, screw up every relationship i'm in..
my parents hate me, legit.
i dont wanna tell you my life story and all the reasons im like this.. and im not trying to be dramatic, i seriously do have a bad life. the only thing i can think good of about me is that i'm pretty. but it doesnt even matter because people dont think i'm pretty when they look at me, they think im a miserable, mental, bitch.
i dont mean to dump all this on you, but i clearly have some depression issues.. that have been diagnosed by my therapist.. and my mom 'doesnt believe in depression medicine' so i cant even take a friken prozac to make me happy. >:o
ive even tried turning to religion..
and i have no one to talk to..
idk what to do with myself anymore..
the other day i ran away from the school and went missing for 2 days.. clearly im going insane and need help. i have counceling.. doesnt work..
anyone know how i can make myself happy? im sick of being like this and crying 247.. someone be my friend..? (link)
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this aint advice, but jeez i know what you mean. i sat on my roof (on the corner so no one could see me) for 32 hours till my mom found me and dragged me inside. parents just don't give a SHIT. plus peole either blank eye me or get in my way. why cant they just choose one and stick to it? but yeah. i hope you et a firend cos im in desperate need of one. let me know if you do. jammy369@msn.com
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A girl from my school and her boyfriend just died in a car wreck. They were 16 and 17. For some reason, though I didn't know them personally, this really makes me sad. I did know one of her best friends though, so I just sent a little "I'm sorry" to her through email. I'm sure she already has a lot of those. There was also a bulletin posted in her memory asking everyone to re-post it and ave a moment of silence for her. I didn't feel like reposting it, but a lot of people did. Well, I got a reply from my "I'm sorry". The friend got really mad at me and said I didn't even know this girl and everyone should stop acting like they did. Now, I know she must be going through a lot of pain, but is really that bad for me to say I was sorry? She also posted a bulletin on myspace this morning about how no one knew the girl like she did and everyone should stop pretending like they cared. I really don't want to start something, and I know what she's going through (I've had family deaths and severe injuries related to car accidents), but this is sounding a little rude to me. I mean, if I were to die, or a friend were to die, I would want people to care. Please help me understand, why in the world this girl is hating everyone for caring? (link)
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my aunt and grandma died in cosecutive weeks and eople came up to me and said that they were really sorry and i hated it because they didn't know them. and i didn't say anything but i was pissed off inside. you have a right to be saddened but don't take it personally. she sounds upset and she is reacting normally to a close friends death. it is upetting for her so just be nice to her and instead of saying your sorry, give her time and just talk to her about things, offer to help her, pair up with her in classes because she doesn't have a best friend to help her. Do Not replace her best friend because she will hate it but hel her in sublt ways. don't make her depend on you but be nice to her becaus e she needs it. and her being rude to you just means she is taking her friends death badly, it's not your fault AT ALL!
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14/f/uk
Hey, I'm having a party in a weeks time. Practically everyone is talking about it and I get randoms coming up to and asking if they can come. I know people from like Leeds and Birmingham are coming down and I live in Norfolk.
Basically, I want a lot of tips on how to make it crazy (:
Oh, and just in case you think, 'oh you're only 14, you won't want any alcohol etc.' (as a lot of americans seem to, and I know this is an american site), let me tell you something about british teenagers; generally we like to get completely pissed and stoned, will do almost any drug you offer us, are usually up all night, make out with everyone no matter what sex they are and it is not uncommon to find ourselves starting the night and not knowing where we're going to end up or being chased by police cars.
Just thought I'd say in case you were going to give tips on how to make it a tame party.
So yeah, any ideas would be appreciated.
Thanks, x
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hey, i'm british, and i don't do that. only twice and it wasn't that fun. but good music
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I used to be best friends with this girl up until about 1 year ago. We had a lot of problems in our friendship, because we had differing ideas about where we wanted to go. She was hell bent on becoming popular, whereas I was not. She basically kicked me out of her life.
On top of that, just recently, she dated my ex. She was my best friend while we were together. That really upset me.
Anyways, I've noticed this, for a long time. My former best friend is lost. And I mean that. She is utterly, and completely lost within herself. She pretends to be happy, and is trying to promote this happy, "sexy" (wearing revealing clothing) version of herself.
Other people may buy it, but I don't. I can see right through it. She is not happy. In fact, I will go so far to say that she is extremely depressed.
Should I be doing anything about this? I feel bad for her, and feel like I need to help her.
I think, "It's my duty as a friend..." but then I realized..we aren't friends.
Currently, we don't really talk.
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unlike the previous answers, i think that you should help you former best friend. i know that you have problems with the other girl dating you ex. i may have this completeley wrong in which case you should e-mail me at jammy369@msn.com and tell me what happened bewtween your former friend who is currently depressed and why you are on the terms you are on with her. i may have a one sided view on this but i used to be best friends with a girl during junior high but then she completeley pushed me away and there were a few other issues but we don't need to go into that now. worst part was she had plenty of friend and until recentley i had none (though my new friend has no moved to hong kong so i'm back to square one!)so i had to hate her inside. but even before that hapenned i suffered from slight clinical depression which got worse while this happennes.
Anyway, i pretended i was fine , with a few lapses, but really i weas getting worse, including a suicide attempt. all in all, i had a rough time. Now, your friend may not be having such a bad time, and it may be thing at home, not you or school or friends, but it can NEVER be a bad thing to be extra friendly, maybe ask her stuff about her life , you know, to get her talking, because when i had some one to talk to it was so much hmore helpful. because depression is an Exetremeley sensitive time. even going for an hour with out taliking to anyone or being ignored, sent a spiral of bad thoughtss my way and it goes in a cirlce. i don't mean to mke you fee guilty, cos you shouldn't but a friendly face always help but don't make it TOO obvious. i am often depressed and i know how awful it is.
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Hi there!
I need advice on what to put in a scrapbook.
It's for my cousin, he's turning 20.
Not stuff like:
Flowers
Decoration
Paper
But stuff like:
Favorite music
Memorable Quotes
like that
I really really need help becuase I have no idea what to put in it. It's 14 sheets (28 pages), and I'm really stuck. Please help!
Kkytha - 14/f (link)
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hey kytha it'z jamz!!!!
use the pretty blue paper u showed me the otherday!!! it's cool
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