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So yesterday (sunday) my sister had plans to go to her boyfriends house for a bbq. (16f) My mom bought an apple pie and a cute small pot of flowers (yellow) for her to bring. She flipped out saying its so stupid and nobody does that, and all her friends say its dumb and "gay." I thought it was a really good idea. Anyway she was late, and almost didnt go because she got into a huge argument over it with my parents and refused to take them. She wasnt even going to call her boyfriend to tell him she couldnt go. We even tried to get her to just bring the apple pie. My mom ended up bringing it when she dropped my sister off, but it was almost such a waste, we bought two apple pies one for us and one for them so it wasnt like we could just eat it.
Opinions? thanks. and help.
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Like someone else said, at her age things that may seem polite and expected to you may seem out of this world and embarrassing to her. Instead of getting upset, try talking to her about what happened. Ask why she didn't want to bring the gifts and hear her out before accusing her of being unreasonable. Then explain to her why you thought she should have brought the gifts. Let her know that even though her generation may see that as strange or outdated, his parent's generation would see it as a very nice gesture. Then explain to her how important it is to have the blessing of her boyfriend's parents and next time, that would be a good way to do it.
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you have to understand, when you r in a relationship, you show a side of yourself that even your parents and family don't get. i know it seems stupid and trivial but little things can make you feel like your parents don't get you and your life. plus hormones can really screw you up. i can't tell you how many times i yelled at my mom for something dumb
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How is it dumb or "gay" to bring a gift when visiting someone's house? I would've thought it was a polite thing to do.
If your sister spends a lot of time at her boyfriend's house, it might seem unnecessary, but it was rude for her to tell your mom that it's stupid. Your mom was trying to do her a favour.
An important message for your sister is to think about why people do things. Keep in mind the good intentions even if the actions are not appreciated. Also, chill out. It is unnecessary to make a big deal out of an apple pie.
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