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Q: Hey i love my jeans with holes in them and i have a couple pair of jeans without holes in them. i was wondering how i could put holes in them so it looked natural not like i just took scissors and just cut a hole in them. thank you! xoxo_*

well what i do to give my jeans a natural look is by taking my jeans and rubbing them against something it give the worn out looks or you could just buy them looking holed natuyrally try going to the mall or kohls

Q: What the hell is a break...I am a 16 year old female and my boyfriend(or w/e hes called at the moment is 18) and he said that i hurt him (inside on this is that...we were talking and he said i dont trust him but i really do trust him i just made a joke after he said it saying i didnt), and that he really wants things to work, but we are going to go on a break for this week and then talk and see where we stand as a couple and what we want to do about the realtionship. Im really hurting, i cry all the time, and i want to stop...what should i do to stop the pain? What is a break? and how can i save the realtionship?? GUYS HELP PLEASE

a break s bacially like seeing other people or taking a break from your relationship like not dating for a while if it's really hurting you you might want to tell him that you don't think it's working out between you guys because if you can't trust me to trust you

Q: Say you are thinking about someone, and about whether there's any chance they still like you or will ever talk to you again....then a big truck comes past with their name on it in Big Red Letters...and you get stuck in traffic so you can constantly see their name next to your window...
Would you consider that to be a sign?
And what would it MEAN?

naw probably just a coicidence in my religon if your thinking about a person and they appear befores you(but you didn't know they were coming) that means they'll live a hundred years

Q: is there any way to make your boobs look bigger like when im wearing a cami? like pushup bras, but those dont really help me that much.. any good advice?

have you ever tried those natural bras that they advertise on tv that click in the front but not in the back or they all so sell breast enhncing pills which make your breast get bigger or you could go the expensive way and and do surgery

Q: i am in skool right now and my friends are next to me. they got an e-mail that has a song on it, they are singing along and won't shut-up! how do i gewt themn to shut up?! now they are also dancing, even the teacher says they should shut up (IN NICE WORDS) and now i am going to kill them! wtf, they won't sahut the f***ing up!

tell em' nicely at first or just ignore them and they i gurantee you they'll stop

Q: this might be an odd question but when did some of you girls like what age where you when you stared to wear a thong? i know this is wired but i just need to know.
ill rate high if you answer

13-16 years old

Q: I was three days late for my period so I took two home pregnacy test and they both came up with a very faint positve. I then got my period like an hour after I took the second one. Is it possible that the test were wrong or can you be pregnate and still get your period?

if it was a faint positive and you got your period after the second test it might be an mistake and it could be false or what could have happened was that after the second test there could have been loose blood but there is always the chance that if you keep getting for number of consecutive days you got your period meaning that you are not pregnant!

Q: Wow okay. well these 3 friends made me cry today. im in 7th grade and i dont cry normally and they were yelling and making fun of me today and yesterday. one girl said i ditched her when i was waiting for my other friends and then we went to go swim with them and then they left us and it kept happening. my best best friends now hates me and called me a fake today beacuse she thought i was saying alot of chit about her, and i wasnt i spend almost everyday with her in the summer i went to basketball team with her i dont hate her or anytihng! and then the oither ones i dont know, but i dont know what to do now, and they made me cry today and i dont wanna lose them as friends but i also dont wanna continue being best friends with them, but they can get the whole school turned against me. and i dont want that. they arent as popular as they seem but they have a way to get everyone else mad at me. i just dont know what to do, i ask my other friends but they dont know either. it seems as if everything is always blamed on me and now i dont know what to do beacuse they wont believe me on anything. i really need some help, if you could please give me some advice.

maybe they aren't yuor real frnds anymore

Q: I have this friend which I've been (sort of) best friends with since we were 2. We're both 14, and she's a couple months older than me. During this past year, for some reason we didn't get together as much. But those few times we did [get together], we had a lot of fun gossiping about crushes (she goes to a different school), surfing the Internet, etc. Then we exchanged email addresses. We carried on about 25 emails between us, and it was coming along fine...until one day, I was telling her about my world record, and she suddenly emailed back, calling me a freak. I got angry, and then she replied back saying “You have to face the truth sometime.” It really hurt my feelings. I get that a lot with other kids, and now my best friend!!! She’s never done anything like this before! Advicenator, help me!!!

---Hurt

well maybe she's growing up jus' a little fraster
and she wants yuo to know whats ahead for you isn't going to be pretty

Q: okay well my boyfriend loves me and im not sure if i lvooe him like sometimes i reallly do and sometimes its iffy! we barely ever see eachother because we both play for select teams! or im with my family in branson or illinois! well tell me what to do pleeeaaassee!!!

maybe it's because of your untseady relationship and you need to be with someone who you can be close with all the time and your okay with by going away

Q: ok well.. my boyfriend [of about 1 and a half years] birthday is comin up in july. and i hve NO clue what to do for him.. like where to go/what to get him.. that sorta thing.. last year for my birthday we met at a pizza place then went to the movies and he gave me a really pretty necklace w. matching earrings.. i want it to be special u know.. even tho we hve been together for 1 and a half years we werent "together" for his birthday last year.. someone please help me! and i want all the details.. please.. thanks in advance!

well if you know what he likes/loves give it to or you could do something public for him like have a birthday bash and something private like go to a expensive dinner or a picnic and the fire will start

Q: I have never had any guys that have really liked me except for one. And I don't mean to sound self cenetered or anything but I am pretty. I have so many friends that are guys too, and they always say I'm hot. But everytime I like a guy I always end up getting hurt. Like I like a person and they don't like me or someone likes me and then when I finally like them they don't like me anymore. Is there any way I can prevent myself from getting hurt so much?

yes if you know someone that likes you for you and you maybe don't like them tryto get to know them and go out i guarantee it will work out

Q: how do i get these gurls that hate me and want to beat me up to be my friend again!! and im scared to even go up to them because they are tougher than me please help me!!!! i rate high if your answers are good!

what i do to avoid people is that i follow their scedule and go to the opposite side of school and if that doesn't work try telling an adult (i know i know its embarassing) anyways most girls are just talk and no action

Q: where do i get those henna necklaces? you know..the cool ones that look like tattos on your neck that are black...is there anywhere that would be at a mall (such as claires or something)! i rate well!

you could go to any amusement park like six flags or lake compounce and gte them there

Q: Is there anyway to stop sleeping walking or talking. Cause il be in bed one miniute and il wake up and find myself in another room. one time i was outside ma house in ma boxer shorts how embarrasin ay? so is there anyway that ya can stop it from happening?

thankyou
englandsfinest

try taking medication if that doesn't work just strap yourself to your bed with duct tape then of course someone will have to tape you and untape you

Q: Dear advicenators,

Age:13
grade:7th going into 8th
I have a father that abuses me but i really don't know what to do i've tried being sucidal but it didn't help at all i also know if i consult the police he will deny it and he will abuse me even more so what should i do?

i am sooo sorry for you. you should ask to stay over a friends house and then tell your friend. ask her mom to take you to the police department for a very serious reason that you wish not to tell her. I am your age, so i know this stuff. i havent been abused but i have seen it a LOT on reality TV shows. I really think you should just show the police any marks that are not in certain private spots. i wish you the best of luck and if you dont have any marks, then allow your father to hit you, not TOO bad, of course so that you have proof, otherwise the police will NOT beleive you. Suggest to them a lie detector test and tell them what your father does to you. do this ASAP because if this gets out of hand... well you know. if your dad does this because he gets drunk, suggest that a person you know and trust goes out with him wen he goes out to make sure he WONT drink. again, best of luck, stefanie
tell me what happens @ donnakearns@sbcglobal.net

Q: I like this girl and she used to like me to, but we haven't see each other in a while because she lives in a different town and now I don't know how I can get her to like me again. We talk on the internet but its hard to impress someone online. What can I do or say to get her to like me again?

like they always say, just b yourself!

Q: I'm 17/f. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are going to a concert this summer and I really want to lose my virginity to him soon, so I figured why not that night? After the concert, I was wondering how I could somehow initiate it or give him a sign that I want to have sex with him THEN? I dont want to kill the moment by discussing it beforehand because I know it'd make him AND me feel uncomfortable knowing. I want to let it happen on it's own without making it seem awkward. How do I initiate the moment?

First of all, i tink you should first consier the fact that you should both get checked together for std's just in case. (you never know, some ARE deadly) and that you should definatly use condoms. i think you should just flirt until your a legal adult of 22

Q: Ok..what are you supposed to do if the guys dick doesnt fit? Haha I know it wont. Trust me. I have stuck things up myself before and they didnt always fit and they were smaller than what a dick is. Haha it would be like so embarrassing and stuff. What are we supposed to do? Is it everrr going to fit? Help!

First of all u shouldn't be putting stuff up ur vagina it's kind of wrong you might feel "right about it" but people are gonna think you touch your self and that's kind of stupid how old are you anyways? Second of all the dick doesn't go all the way inside

Q: mmk, so i really need to go to my friends house really bad because we havent seen eachother in forever...(okay okay like 1 week but ya no, its my bff) and my mom wont let me ebcasue she says that i have to stay home with my sister. my sister is 10 and isnt 10 the legal age to leave ur kid home? well i need reasons...like why i should be able to go...im already gonna clean the house and everything...I need advice FAST!! PLZ HELP!!

show your mom that your sister can be trusted alone by suggesting that at first she hire a baby sitter or that she spends a day alone with your sis(tell your sis to make a good impression for your mom) i wasnt aloud inside the house alone after school until i was eight, but i no moms have different opinions. If your mom let you in the house alone at the age of ten, tell her your sister is just as responsible in ways like this.