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Q: I have light brown hair and I was wondering what I could do to get blonder hair. Not totally blonde but light blonde or dirty blonde. And I dont really wanna buy something. Maybe I could make something.

you could try using lemon juice. just put some in your hair and make sure your in the sun, then it will make it lighter.
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Q: I have always wondered if you burn calories when you talk, sing or laugh. I know this is a weird question!

yes because any time you move or use a muscle you are burning calories not much, but a few.
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Q: My cat goss around the house yell!loud i mean loud!she has the two cute kittens. She screams when she wonts them is this normal? ;)

i would say it was. she is being a mother and she is telling her kittens that she wants them near so that she can protect them. as the kittens grow older she will probably not do it as often.
hope i helped

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Q: I'm 18 and I've been told plenty of times that I have the face of a 15-16 year old. I wear enough makeup to try to enhance my features, hoping I'll look my age, but I must be doing something wrong. Any specific makeup tips or techniques that you might suggest I try? (Ex: Stay away from any colors, etc)?

the older you are the more natural i would go with the colors. like browns with black eyeliners. alot of people straighten their hair, which makes them look older. but to look older i would definitely stay away from the playful colors like blues and purples.
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Q: Hi, everyone. I'm trying to diet, and I know water is key. I can usually only drink 2 bottles a day, and I really have to force myself to get it down. (I hate the taste of water..none) Haha, so I was wondering, are there any other drinks I could have that maybe include lots of water but have some taste to them? I've heard unsweeted Iced Tea & Lemonade, Gatorade. I also have these little Koolaid packets I pour into water bottles, and that makes me drink them so fast, & they are only 30 cals! Any other suggestions?

there is really good flavored water by propel they keep coming out with new flavors too. i think they are pretty good and i really like to drink them so maybe that will help.
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Q: Well, I had cancer when I was little. I was 3 and dignoised with Luekiema ((i know i spelled that wrong..) and the type I had was ALL. Very cureable. Well, Lately, I have been throwing up in my mouth, and bruising without hitting myself on anything. It's been happening for maybe 2 weeks? But what is confussing me is the doctor's said I had a 99.9% chance it won't come back. But I'm always at risk to get another kind. WHat I am expeiencing now sounds like the cancer I had. But well, I'm not sure if it's even cancer at all. Can you guys help me, is it cancer? Do I need to see a doctor?

next time you go back to see the doctor tell them what has been happening and ask what it could be form there is a chance that you could have it again. i know a really good book about a guy who had some of the same symptoms and he ends up getting his cancer back you should definitely let the doctor know whats going on so that if you have it again its not to late to let to get treatments and get better.
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P.S. the book was called The Time Capsule By: Lurlene Mc Daniel

Q: after i went to my friends house and went swimming and was in a bathing suit all day and i came home, i noticed that the skin on the back of my neck was VERY dry and flaky. i've been putting moisturizer on it like 2-3 times a day and it just WILL NOT go away. it is really annoying and gross. and if i scratch it it just flakes off and hurts. what can i do to make it go away?

oh and if it helps i'm 14/f and when i went to my friends house my hair was up in a bun all day.

it was most likely sunburn. that has happened to me before and i was about to be in a wedding. i was so freaked out because i didn't want it to show i kept putting aloe vera gel on it and after a few days it went away jsut not in time for the wedding. lol for the time being when u wear something that shows your back and you'll be in the sun wear you hair down over it and plenty of sunscreen.
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Q: i have a boyfriend and we've been on and off for the past 2 years.I found out he cheated on my 3 times.Stupidly i got back together with him 1 week ago and now he sais he didnt know we were dating and he got a different girlfriend.He also tried to kiss me afetr he told me this!What should i do?

i think that you should tell him that you don't want take the risk at getting hurt by him if he cheats or "decides" y'all aren't together and gets together with another girl.

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Q: See this girl I just became friends with at the begin of summer wants me to break her up her boyfriend whos a jerk. But the thing is, i used to like the boy, and he knew it. I'm afriad if i do that, he'll think im lying or I want him or something. but I dont like him anymore. Also, I dont want to do it. I dont think I should be the one to do it. But I dont think she'll do it and he's an ass. Should I do it or should I just ask him to talk to her?

i don't think you should have to break up some one else. if she got into the relationship she can get out of it. you can tell her that you see why she wants to break up with him, but you just think she should do it its her boyfriend not yours.
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Q: Okay, so my mother is allergic to everything except like...20 items total on this planet, and is extremely against all forms of chemicals such as nail polish and hair dye.
HOWEVER...
My roommate got a free salon-type-thing from her boyfriend, and on it, it says you can bring a friend, so we kinda decided she was bringing me...Lol. So we're getting our hair done this weekend.
I'm thinking
Thinned, re-layered, Cut a liiiiiiiiittle longer than shoulder length (or exactly shoulder length, not sure), side-sweeping bangs.
Now here's the hard part.
I kinda wanna get highlights. I'm thinking brownish red highlights 'cause I do have red in my hair.
My mother, however, would MURDER me if she saw highlights in my hair or knew that I borrowed my roomie's shampoo to see what effect scent had on my hair.
What do you guys think I should do? Should I get highlights anyway and beg them to make them as not-noticeable as possible? Or forego the highlights and possible making-worse of hair until I'm far away in grad school?
Should I ask them if they have temporary dye so I can see what they look like?
Opinions, please. ^_^

if you have a roomate you most likely are old enough to live by your own rules and you don't live with your mom. your mom wouldn't be around all the time and would probaly not even see them unless she looked extremely hard, that is if they look natural. i would say go for it if you're living out on your own why not live by your own rules.

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Q: I really want to wear thongs because I tried my friends on once and it felt SO comfortable. I don't want one just because my friends wear them, because thats just stupid. I really like the feeling of them, but I'm afraid if I wear them, it'll seem like I'm a slut. The farthest I've gone with a guy is just a PECK on the lips, one time and thats it. So I'm no where near a slut. My mom doesn't care if I wear thongs, she actually even bought one for me. I want to wear it, but I don't want to feel slutty or people to think a slut. But I love the way they feel, they are good for when I wear tighter clothing, and my mom approves of them and I have one in my drawer already, so should I wear it or not? I'm 13 and female if it helps.

i thnk that if u feel comfortable in one and you want to wear one you should. know one would know you were even wearing one unless you told them or showed them so don't worry about what people would think about it when they don't even kow about it!!!!
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Q: My computer saves every thing ive been to up to a certain number on Aol 9.0 and it is really annoying . I want to know how to delete everything thing ive been to so it isnt there every time i get online . Please help !!:)

when you open uo and internet page, go to the top and look for the clock with a green arrow, then click it and you history will come up then you can delete your history of where you've been.

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Q: How do you keep your friends step brother from being so mean? Any ideas! Im stumped!

you can try talking to your friend about her step brothee, and see if she can talk to him about it. maybe you should even give the step brother a chance because he might just have his moments like some people i know.
hope i helped

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Q: I cuss a lot, and I want to stop. How can I stop cussing so much?

i have a friend that cusses alot too and i know she really wants to stop also, a good way to do it would be to say them in another language (if you know abother language0 until you stop saying the actual word then you just don't really say the english cuss word as much and will casually grow off the other languages. you can also do what caramella says and have friend puncj=h you really hard.
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Q: Ook, I want to go to a tanning booth so bad! I know they arn't safe, and everyone tells me I'll get skin cancer, but so many people tan outside in the 100 degree weather and thats just as bad! Nothing in this world is 100% safe, and thats the chance you have to take. Should I go tanning? And how dark does it make you? And since this is my first time how long should I go in, and do I have to take off all my clothes off?

for the first time, if your skin is pretty fair i would suggest no more hatn 15 mminutes. and you can waer your bra and under wear or you can wear a bathing suite just make sure you wear the eye protection. the more you go the darker you get, but if you are worried anbout getting skin cancer you can get a spray on tan.

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Q: i have like a bunch of random whiteheads and little zits in random places on my face but i wash my face 3 times a day...in the morning with clean & clear morning burst, at night or when i get back from work or something with neutrogena oil free acne wash and before i go to bed with a noxzema pad but they like wont go away and more keep popping up and its getting annoying...help???

you can boil a pan of water and holf your face over it and that will open up you pores, and after that try washing it. you can also go to salons monthly and get a facial they will use a machine at al ot of them that sucks the blackhead so ut. i also use pro active and that has really helped my skin.if you don't go to a dermatolagist you can go and have them look at your skin and see what they would suggest.
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Q: Are smoothies with strawberries and bananas and milk bad for you? I heard they were, but I dont get how they would be.

i eat them all the time so i hope not, but when uo start loading on the sugar and sweet things, they get too be. use sweet n low if you like them sweeter .
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Q: I just asked a question earlier today about my white & light brown chihuahua. Here are the two names I have chosen.

1. Princess
2. Isabella (Bella for short)

What do you guys think? 1 or 2?

i would definitely go with isabella but i would call her bell for short instead of bella.

Q: I am falling behind! My life is a bomb right now. I dunno what to do. Should I tell someone bout this?

you could see uor schools councelor and see if she/he can help you find out whats letting you fall behind if you don't already know yet and when you find out she/he can help you fix the gaps. you can find a way to make time to study so you don't fall behind too often.

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Q: I really want to become a Professional Golfer and play on the LPGA (ladies pro golfers' association) tour some day. I am optimistic because my grandpa coached a girl that is currently on the Futures Tour, but also a little hesitant because i am afraid i won't be good enough. My uncle has a pro shop in Michigan, and has helped me a lot, but i don't seem to be getting much better. I don't play much, because i don't have time. Should i give up my dream, or keep going for it?
PLEASE SOMEONE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!!!

i have jut recently started playing golf, i am not that good but i think it would be fun to play on the LPGA. if thats your dream you should definitely go for it, but i do know tht if you don't continue to practice your swing gets messed up so practice as often as you can. i am trying to start practicing at the driving range at least 2 times a week you probably go more than me though. I definitely don't think you should give it up I think you should go for it. then i can say i gave somone on hte lpga advice lol Good Luck :)
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