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Q: If I did start to bleed, then should we ignore it or keep going? If not everyone bleeds then does that mean I did something wrong? and if I did put on a tampon then how would I know if I tore it? please help me

you probably wouldnt bleed for a while and you would probably want to stop because it will be hurt a little or be sore. No nothing is wrong, everyone is just different bleeding and not bleeding is totally normal and you cant be sure if you broke it inserting a tampon it all depends how fragile it is but im sure you will be ok sorry for not answering that part before anything else just ask!

Q: Ok I love guys. I have plenty of guy friends but whenever a guy shows intrest in me or hints he wants to go out some time I totally head for the other direction. I start to ignore him and stop talking to him. I don't know how to become more open and I am only really open when I'm around my friends. I don't know how to change this and not be so afraid anymore. I mean he trys talking to me and getting me into conversations but i don't know how to respond. someone please help me

I use to be just like you. You want the attentiuon and crave it and then you will get it and u run off and beat urself up about it. I think you should be with those guys while you are with friends and have them help you be more compfortable. Than maybe next time have less and less friends and get to know the person better before you go all flirty with them. Just breathe and pretend like hes just a friend asking a normal question or fidget or you can practice with a friend ik it sounds corny but hey anything should help.

Q: 15 f & bf is 18

After ditching school to go to my bf's house one day, my parents found out and my mom said to me "I hope you two aren't having sex, but if you are I at least want you to be on birth control". Her mom was all about "don't do it"..but, duh, people have sex eventually. My mom just wants me to be safe.
I haven't had sex yet, but I am ready for it. I'm comfortable with my boyfriend and we talk about sex and birth control and what we would do if I get pregnant.And since he has had sex before, he went and got tested for AIDS and well, the whole deal really.. - Me and my boyfriend see eachother once a week, if that, because his parents don't like me, and my dad doesn't like him.

My question is this: If we only see eachother once a week, will I still have to take birthcontrol all week long? And if so, why?

Yes you will... you should take birth control at least a week BEFORE having sex. If you don't know this much yet I think you should wait until you learn more about it in a health class but birth control tricks your body into being pregnant and if oyu are going to have sex you should continually take it otherwise your body will get all messed up Your period will be off and you could also feel sick. Birth control releases hormones about being pregnant and it take a while for those to take an effect. Hope I helped

Q: OK.im a 14 year old female, I have herd that after you have sex you bleed. well, how long do you bleed? and if you do start bleeding do you just ignore it and keep going or stop? if you do it with out a condom will i get pregant? I am sorry i don't know this stuff... my mom is strict and my boyfriend is probably going to be ready soon. I am right now but im not so sure about it.

Not everyone bleeds the first time you have sex. When people mention "popping a cherry" it is a term for tearing the hymen which is a tissue between the vagina and close to the cervix. Some people never get torn and some people tear it while inserting a tampon. You will learn more about it during high school. You have a very high chance on getting pregnant without a condom and if you use a condom correctly (which most teens dont) it is only 80-89% effective. You shaould open it carefully and what not. If you are not so sure than don'tdo it. You want to be ready and sure. You can have many boyfriends but you can only give your virginity once. Hope I helped

Q: ok so me and my boyfriend have been together a year, im really happy with him, but other than that my life pretty much sucks. He just moved to go to college and now i haven't seen him in two weeks and he is meeting new people having tons of fun and im letting him bc he needs to experience that but when i try to go somewhere he asks who and what and all sorts of questions. I dont know if he gets jealous or what, but now that he always does that i feel obligated to like call or text him while im out.. then my friends or forever tell me to get off the phone bc they hate that i do that, i mean i love him to death and he says he trust me but does it sound like he doesn't or what should i do. Im NOT happy anymore unless im with him and i hardly get to see him, any other time im in a really bad mood or down or really ready to get out and do something but its like im nervous to or something, idk. i just need advice or something. anything would be great.

I am pretty sure he trrusts you. He probably just doesn't trust the people around you. You have been with him a year. You are both committed and both probably worried about temptation and what not. I mean if you left and went to college wouldn't you think that maybe your boyfriend feels that you are leaving him and you are free to do what you want. That is probably what he is feeling. He probably feels that you think he will leave you or some sort. You need to have trust and push out the bad things in the relationship because without trust it will never work. I hope I helped.

Q: her name is claire. i've been very good friends with her for three years now, but we've known each other since third grade. up until freshman year, she attended a private school but we knew each other outside of school through our parents, who are friends (they are how we met originally). in private school, claire tells me that she had only one friend who was not even reliable, spent most of her time studying and hardly ever went out with friends. so basically she had no life. she came to my public school freshman year, where we immediately hit it off. my friends and i accepted her into our little “circle of friends” and everything was fine. ever since then, she got rid of her glasses and got contacts, she now doesn't have a dress code anymore so now she wears pretty clothing, etc etc. she's honestly one of the most beautiful girls in our school. she dated one guy for almost 6 months and then broke up with him during the summer entering into sophomore year. my problem starts here, at the beginning of sophomore year. we had grown inseparable, but the one thing that always upset me about her was that she flirted too much, and said she would never do things past second base, but ended up doing them anyways (even with random guys). i always told myself that she was making up for all those years in middle school when she had no life. then through playing soccer she met this guy named paul. just like every other guy in the school, paul fell for her. he's very, very quiet, keeps to himself and doesn't flirt much with any girls. paul knew claire and i are the best of friends, so i guess he sort of be-friended me in order to find out information about claire, or so some of his friends tell me. he started talking to me on AIM and then in person and soon we got really close. i started to develop a crush for him, and i told claire, but she still had no idea paul liked her. a few months later, after i became fed up with her flirting, i realized i REALLY liked him, and i told claire that paul had always liked her, even though i swore to paul i never would. he still doesn't know that she knows, even now. anyways, i told her how she always really upset me, unintentionally of course, when she flirted with him and such. she was surprised and she told me she didn't realize she was doing it, and i believe her. she said she would stop doing it, and it did stop for awhile. but now it's like it's happening all over again, and i don't know what to say. i try so hard not to get jealous because know the last thing she wants to do is hurt me, but i can't help feeling a little jealous. i'm really, really in love with him. we talk every day, about touchy subjects and about nothing, and i consider him to be one of my best guy friends. i think about him during most of the day, even though it's awful because i don't have any classes with him. they have classes together and i see them walk up and down the hallway all the time and it makes me want to cry. a lot of times she's hooking up with different guys and crap like that, and i look at him and just want to cry because she doesn't love him like i do. i love this boy so much, and i can't tell if he has an idea or not. sometimes we'll have days where he goes past me in the hallway without a hello, and it just tears me up inside. i really can't help feeling jealous, though i've tried. i tried talking to her, and even though it worked for awhile, she's doing it again. what do you think i should do? should i talk to her about it AGAIN? please help.

well honestly yes that is probably the bert you can do really tell her how you feel and u seriously can NOT take it any more or write it to her sometimes that gets better sorry this is short but i have to run!

Q: is it okay to go spray tanning at night and if you were to straighten your hair or srunch it would it mess it up and you would have to take another shower after it ?

its ok to go spray tanning at night yes and no you dont have to wash your hair but i would recommend it because it will be all yucky

Q: ok so homecoming is coming up
but like my boyfriend goes to a diff. high school than i do.. so i dont know what i should do.. because if he went 2 my homecoming it would be really weird because he doesnt know ne of my friends but like my friends know about him and they would like be annoying me the whole night.. especially my guy friends. but then if i went to his.. it would be weird too. i know a bunch of his friends but like all the girls hes friends with hate me { even tho i dont even know them } just because im going out w/ one of their friends and im from a diff. school. i really dont get it.
but ok what should i do?????!?!?!

thanks xox

My boyfriend goes to a different highschool too and we are both going to our homecomings with each other=) I would say go but otherwise talk to him about it don't let other people antagonize you

Q: ok well i just kind of feel stupid cause i told him that i have made out with a guy before wich was really stupid but i mean he has done more then me i mean he is a virgin but he has gotten a blowjob before and yea i know he is who he says e is cause he went to school with my sister in 4th grade and i kind of knew him then but do you think i would be better off with a "nice"guy???? caus ei really do like him but i feel stupid about lieing to him and i feel bad about lieing to him errr please help

well it all depends on how much oyu like him . . . doo you think you would be more compfortable with another guy or are you head over heals with this one ? and what kind of girls does he usually date? if he usually dates ones that are always makin out with him everywhere he goes and such you would probably be better off with a different guy and dont lie to them next time I understand how you feel stupid too if not just be like hey i really like you and i like you so much tht i lied ...ive never made out before or something like that

Q: ok so there is this boy who is two years older than me (im 16) he has a gf who is 20, they pretty much only date for sex.
i like him ALOT and i have liked him for a long time. he is always flirting with me and being nice and all of my friends swear that he likes me. he has told me he thinks im pretty and that if he didnt have his gf he would date me. it almost hurts me inside because of how frusterated i am. i am a very prude girl and wouldnt take advantage of a guy, (his girlfriend treats him like dirt) he told me that he has trouble breaking up with girls because he doesnt like to hurt them.
if i have an opportunity to hook up with him should i go for it?
p.s. his girlfriend cheats on him

I would say try it out but don't get too attached to him .. ive heard similar stories and they dont end up well. . . he might just want to date oyu too for sex you know. . guys put girls in a trance very easily wether you want to think its true or not and if he tells you that what would stop him from saying that to other girls if oyu were together? think about some things first alright hope i helped

Q: Ok, this might be long so I'm sorry hehe. Im 15 and female and have been with my boyfriend for a year. When we first got toegther he was really romantic and sweet (imporant thing for me) and it was great and we were getting on really well. Now it seems as if he couldn't care less about us. We only see each other twice a week...if that. Everytime he leave to go home I end up in tears because i feel like things are beyond repair. He often makes little comments which make me feel like crap, he also brags a lot which make me feel worse because he has a lot of money and gets a lot of things. He spends a lot of time with his mates and has said in the past that they come before me, which is fair enough. He doesnt very often make the effort to see me so I'm always changing what I'm doing for him. All the romantic stuff is gone, and I guess I just feel like he would rather be with someone else. I havent told him any of this because in the past if I have had a problem with him he acts like he is perfect and thats its my fault and then makes me feel like im some kind of paranoid-weird girlfriend. I want this to all work out because I love him so much and I know deep down he loves me too. But if he doesnt start showing that he cares then I'm going to have to let go..... if i can that is because its failed int he past.... any advice is very much appriciated! thank you! :)

Well I have been in a situation like this one before but not the same . . . forst of all if you know deep down that oyu really honestly and truly love each other it should be perfect in the end Have you been acting any diferent? if so that might be a problem too there are 2 things that can be weighable here either he is letting go of you which it doesnt seem like or maybe and probgably that he is afraid too. . . you should tell him the exact same thing oyu posted up here . . . he is probably so afriad that if he gets any closer to you that he will lose you and he doesnt want to lose you because it will kill him tell him what you said and how oyu really feel about him and let him know that nothing can come between love. . . hope i helped feel free to ask any mopre questions and tell me how it goes

Q: ok so alot of people my age have had there first kiss and alot more but i have not actualy had a real bf is this normal i mean i am just really nervous around guys when it comes to that stuff cause i am just scared i will do something wrong or something and i am in this long distance relationship but i kinda lied to him about what "base" i've gotten to like 1st base 2nd base 3rd base and so on now i told him the farthest i have ever gotten was making out but i have never even kissed a guy or been kissed what do i do should i try to get a guy out here to like me and try to get experience before me n my long distance bf meet???i mean i know he is not some 30 year old rapist cause he is friends with my sister cause they met in 4th gradeso please any advice will help please help me i need help??

Well first off. . . kissing isn't hard at all . . . You basically just lock lips and slip your tongues in mouth and it wont be hard. . . It will come naturally you'll know how to do it and just be yourself and hey . . . guys also like it when they know they are their girls first kiss and stuff like that hope i helped if oyu have anymnore questions just tell me

Q: my cat is like, 5 months old, and she is gray and fluffy with big green eyes. cute, right? well she wont quit biting me and climbing all over me. i know shes playing around, but i just wanna know, is there anything i can do to calm her down??!! I HAVE BITE MARKS AND SCRATCHES ALL OVER MY HANDS!!

Well...Have you tried catnip? They Love it and all their energy is brough tout on it and that should calm them down otherwise you can try holding on her belly and rubbing it and her face otherwise I am sorry you ahave a hyper kitty

Q: Okay, so i'm a 14/f. About 4 months ago, i was 125 pounds, and i was disgusted with my body. So i decided i was going to lose weight. Well i chose the wrong path to take. I basicly cut down on food. Well, now i am 115 pounds. And today i realized something was wrong.

I was starving, and my friend, my boyfriend and my mom went to the mall, we ate there and i had about 4 peices of orange chicken and like 3 pieces of broccoli, and a fork full of rice, and i was full and i thought i was going to throw up because i was so full.

And I'm not like that, usually, i can eat pretty well. Is there any eatting disorder that can relate to this, because i'm 99% sure i'm not Bulemic or Anorexic.

And please don't say "just eat more", it's harder than you think.

Help please?

I know you can't "just eat more" i hate it when people say that. I used to be anorexic myself n its been year and I am still overcoming it. Your stomach has shrunk. Its the same thing that happened to mine. Even if you didn't mean to im sorry but I think it has and what you do is take an extra bite each day once you feel full . Yes it is hard I had to sit there for 2 hours and not move because I ate so much to stretch my stomach out n not moving was the only way i wouldn't throw up. Yes it is tough and I am sorry but i hope i help . If you have any questions don't hesitate to ask me.

Q: I want to get highlights for my hair. I'm female 13 blue eyes amd light brown hair. I want to get a lot of medium brown streaks, and then also a few blonde streaks. I'm not sure if this will look good so I need opinions if thats a good combination for highlights?

That should look good ... Getting more than one color also makes you rhair appear to be thicker and full of volume.

Q: i would really like some tips on giving a hand job. i have done it to my boyfriend about 10 or so times but i would like to know some little things i could do to make it even more enjoyable for him. please help

oh yeah.. and the other day i was with my boyfriend and i was strateling(sp?) him when he was laying down. and i was basically sitting on his area and i had no shirt on. he said he has never been so turned on. any tips on things i could do while doing that too

thanks

"How do I give my guy a hand job?"

Q This may sound silly, but how do I give my guy a really good hand job?

A Pleasuring your man manually -- whether it's a prelude to penetration or an erotic act in itself -- is an incredibly sexy sack skill that's often overlooked. When you and your man are fooling around, have him lie on his back and straddle his thighs. Then, gently rub some water-based lube on his penis. To perform the basic hand job, firmly, but gently, wrap your fingers around his member and move your fist up and down his shaft in a slow, steady motion.

Variety is one of the key ingredients to a moan-worthy hand job, so mix up your speed and pressure as his arousal grows. Don't forget to pay special attention to the super-sensitive corona (the ridge where the head meets the shaft) and frenulum (the thin ridge that runs the length of the underside of his penis). Periodically massaging them with one or two fingers will make him swoon.

You'll also want to try using both hands in tandem -- think of it as doubling his pleasure. To give him an incredibly erotic two-hander, form a ring with your thumb and forefinger at the base of his shaft and gently tug downward, while simultaneously fondling his TLC-craving testicles with your other hand. Another make-his-toes-curl strategy: Handle his member with both hands working in precision, first one hand scaling down his shaft followed directly by the other. Make a gentle twisting motion on the way down, and his head'll spin. Or, wrap both hands around his member and move them in opposite directions as you work your way up and down his shaft. As he nears orgasm, continue stroking his shaft with one hand, while you gently massage his perineum (the nerve-packed stretch of skin between his anus and testicles) with the pointer and middle fingers of your other hand. You'll set him on fire.

Since no two guys are alike, you'll have to experiment with different moves to discover exactly what sends your man over the edge. Just ask him what feels good. Or, have him give you a hands-on demo of how he likes to stimulate himself, then follow his lead. Remember, just as important as technique is attitude, so try not to get hung up on "performance anxiety" and have fun. The fact that you're so willing to please your man is as big a turn-on as any hand job.

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Q: i really want to lose weight on my arms and my stomach and my legs any ideas please help.!!

You should do 3 sets of 10 push ups each day and gradually move your arms closer together as u go and playing DDR helps a lot. Swimming is a big one too and also doing lunges. Go into a lungs position like you are about to run but go straightn into the air and that shall tone your thighs. Land with leg bent on pointed toes. Do 3 sets of ten. Jumping jacks as warm up and cross sit-ups help too! good luck

Q: hey, well im thinking about starting to wear eyeliner. so i have a few questions about it. the first one is when you apply eyeliner do you apply it on both the top and the bottom? what looks btter? another question i have is when you apply eyeliner do you apply it above or below your eyelashes. also what color eyeliner is best? black or brown? last thing is should i use liquid eyeliner or the regular kind? thanks in advance.

-caitt

Well first of all...i prefer black. I think it brings out your eyes more and it will stay on better if you put it on top and bottom. You should put it above you lower lashed and under your upper ones because otherwise when you blink it will come off onto the ledges do just load both of them up. You should use regular eyeliner, preferably the twist kind but only use liquid eyeliner above you upper lashes ONLY and you add more above and below depending on how noticable you want them to be. I hope I helped. Good luck!

Q: i wear a padded bra..so my boobs look bigger than they actually are.is there any way to make my boobs look bigger in a bathing suit so it doesnt look like i stuff my bra or something?

well you could easily buy a bathing suit with pads in it or you can buy a little bikkini with horrizontal stripes tend to bring out the bust

Q: Long story short... Im kayla and i recently started going out with this boy Damien. On october 23. About 3 days after i met him we started hitting it off(hooking up) hes best friends (or was) with these 3 guys JC-18, Paul-24
and chris-18. Jc started talking stuff on me saying that im a h** and all this other stuff and he doesnt even know me. He just thinks he does. Chris is just plain mean and goes along with JC. And paul? well hes just immature anyways. Ever since ive been going out with Damien hes been not hanging out with them. Because i told him not to. and now when they see Damien and me together they call him wipped. Damien was upset when i told him to stop hanging out with them and he cried. O and im 14 and D's 16. He seems like hes in love with me. But now since i made him stop hanging out with his friends he wont let me hang out with mine. So now i think its just gunna be me and him in our own little world. and i dont like that. but i also dont like him hanging around with JC PAul and chris? What can i do to get him to let me hang out with my friends. Please help! i rate 5 for good and polite answers.

Thanx so much

X0-Love-0X Kayla