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my best friend is hurting me more than helping me
her name is claire. i've been very good friends with her for three years now, but we've known each other since third grade. up until freshman year, she attended a private school but we knew each other outside of school through our parents, who are friends (they are how we met originally). in private school, claire tells me that she had only one friend who was not even reliable, spent most of her time studying and hardly ever went out with friends. so basically she had no life. she came to my public school freshman year, where we immediately hit it off. my friends and i accepted her into our little “circle of friends” and everything was fine. ever since then, she got rid of her glasses and got contacts, she now doesn't have a dress code anymore so now she wears pretty clothing, etc etc. she's honestly one of the most beautiful girls in our school. she dated one guy for almost 6 months and then broke up with him during the summer entering into sophomore year. my problem starts here, at the beginning of sophomore year. we had grown inseparable, but the one thing that always upset me about her was that she flirted too much, and said she would never do things past second base, but ended up doing them anyways (even with random guys). i always told myself that she was making up for all those years in middle school when she had no life. then through playing soccer she met this guy named paul. just like every other guy in the school, paul fell for her. he's very, very quiet, keeps to himself and doesn't flirt much with any girls. paul knew claire and i are the best of friends, so i guess he sort of be-friended me in order to find out information about claire, or so some of his friends tell me. he started talking to me on AIM and then in person and soon we got really close. i started to develop a crush for him, and i told claire, but she still had no idea paul liked her. a few months later, after i became fed up with her flirting, i realized i REALLY liked him, and i told claire that paul had always liked her, even though i swore to paul i never would. he still doesn't know that she knows, even now. anyways, i told her how she always really upset me, unintentionally of course, when she flirted with him and such. she was surprised and she told me she didn't realize she was doing it, and i believe her. she said she would stop doing it, and it did stop for awhile. but now it's like it's happening all over again, and i don't know what to say. i try so hard not to get jealous because know the last thing she wants to do is hurt me, but i can't help feeling a little jealous. i'm really, really in love with him. we talk every day, about touchy subjects and about nothing, and i consider him to be one of my best guy friends. i think about him during most of the day, even though it's awful because i don't have any classes with him. they have classes together and i see them walk up and down the hallway all the time and it makes me want to cry. a lot of times she's hooking up with different guys and crap like that, and i look at him and just want to cry because she doesn't love him like i do. i love this boy so much, and i can't tell if he has an idea or not. sometimes we'll have days where he goes past me in the hallway without a hello, and it just tears me up inside. i really can't help feeling jealous, though i've tried. i tried talking to her, and even though it worked for awhile, she's doing it again. what do you think i should do? should i talk to her about it AGAIN? please help.
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ok, i think you should tell her how you feel about him. Don't ask for her permission (cause its pretty obvious what she'll say), just tell her your going to tell him so she knows. Then, tell him how you feel. The worst he can say is he want's to stay friends, so the worst has nothing lost. Hope I could be of some help<33EAS
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well honestly yes that is probably the bert you can do really tell her how you feel and u seriously can NOT take it any more or write it to her sometimes that gets better sorry this is short but i have to run!
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