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Well I'm a high school student trying to answer that big question, "What do I want to do with the rest of my life." This past year I've really become interested in mental illness's and how your brain works. I'd like to go into a career with something to do with helping people with mental illness's such as skitzophrenia(spelling?) anyways, anyone out there who has some career advice for me I'd love to hear from you. And if you could also include how you go to where you were (college/university, etc) that would be awesome. (link)
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wow i think you should work in a group home as a caretaker or in a day program as an instructer. its great training this is what i do. it doesnt pay much but looks great on a resume. in that setting you will see so much mental retardation and mental illness that you may change your mind . in this job you deal with the therapist and there families and you actually really get to know them and thier behaviors. look into it and if not take a behavioral science class or go to your local social services office or apply at a school district as special ed severly handicap aide . you get hands on experience
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I dont have nothing to draw!!
Do u have anything that u can think of that i can draw ?
PLEASE dont say draw people. (link)
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you should draw what you think love is.. like an abstract picture. where you can see all the different forms of love
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Ok so I had asked this questions before:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=414395
The thing is, I am really dependant on him to the point that pretty much everything I did was for him (i.e. buy a Guess top because he loves Guess or go to wherever because he might be there) so all my thoughts revolved around him.
Now I'm trying to get over him and I can't because I can't stop thinking about him. I've never had to force myself to get over someone ever so I don't know what to do. Pretty much everything I think about ends up being about him and then I get mad at myself for it because I'm trying to make myself stop thinking about him.
Does anyone have any tips to try to stop it? How am I supposed to get over him if I'm obsessivley thinking about him? (link)
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you CAN get over him. just keep busy go out with your gilfriends meet new men and have fun and learn to enjoy the fun . just pretend you are having fun and eventually you will. whether you believe it or not you can and will survive this it always seems impossible at first but the besttttttttt thing to do is stay away from him as much as possible.
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How can I find the best way to make my boyfriend to open his soul and heart in front of me?We have a relation since 9 years and we have now this problem. I'm a female and I'm 28 (link)
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well i think that its a question of had he opened up to you in the past and suddenly shut you out or has he always been this way. because if he has always been this way its honestly hard to change a person into a chatterbox. i had that issue i was with a guy since i was 15 married him at 25 had his kid and it just got worse and worse cause he never communicated and we are now divorced and i am totally in love with a man that never shuts up. and now im happy. i hope all goes well keep me posted
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ok so in november i got a puppy from the animal shelter...she was 19 weeks when we got her...she deffinately has terrier in her and we think beagle and maybe a little greyhound...but she bites like crazy and she is very wild...does anyone know like what we can do to train her...because we bought books but nothing has really helped... (link)
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i know that when they are puppies they are teething so they like to chew and naw on things. i once asked the vet what to do when my dog would bite my hand when i held him and the vet said offer the puppy a bone or plush toy while you are holding him and say when he bites you say no bite and put the bone or plush toy in the puppies mouth and he will settle down like a baby with a pacifier
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I'm in iraq and my wife is at home in the states. we talk often but it obvious we are slipping apart. I love her very much and it will be a long time before i can see her again. Is it possible we talk to much and the lack of conversation is causing me to over think or am i doomed to a failed marriage because of the military? (link)
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Hmmm
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okay this is probably really gross & long but i really need help. well see, lately i've got into this habit of masturbating. (yes, im a girl and i finger myself and this is EXTREMELY embarassing to talk about.) but anyways, i did it for about 4 days in a row everynight. but i dont do it for long at all. maybe like 10 minutes? and sometimes i do it kind of hard cause well hey, it feels good. x: but anyways, i was supposed to get my period on friday but i didnt so i figured it was gonna come late. well anyways, then on saturday i masturbated and then again on sunday. but on sunday, i masturbated a little longer than usual and i was more into it. but then afterwards i went to the bathroom and i was bleeding. so i figured i had gotten my period. but i only bled for like 5 minutes & then it stopped, and hasnt come back, and its now wednesday. i dont think it was my cherry that popped because my boyfriend has fingered me before and we have had sex (only once though). im afraid something happened & caused my period to mess up because of me masturbating? i don't know but i am really afraid and embarrassed to tell anyone, especially my mother or something. does anybody know what could be going on? thanks so much, i'll rate high. (link)
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dont be embarrased its completly natural! you just have a big sex drive i can understand that. its better to masturbate then to sleep around with every tomdick, and harry! well as for your period.... i dont think that could make you not have it. i am sure the blood was maybe some torn tissue from the roughness.. go easier next time or trim your nails. now did you take a pregnancy test? all it takes is one time of having sex on the right day to get pregnant. keep me posted and i hope everything is ok with you
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Ohk i have a serious question.
And sorry its going to be kinda of long but i would really appreciate if you guys took the time to read this.
i Just watched True life the one about obessive Compulsive disorder. Well alot of the Things those People were doing kinda reminded myself of me. Like not what they would do like count and retouch things because it didnt feel right but heres some things i do.
Thourgh Out the day i make sure all the doors are locked all of them- i dont know why it just bothers me
-Before i go to bed i make sure the doors are locked and the closet on the first floor. When i go in my bedroom i check my closet and make sure my window is locked. Like two days ago i had to make sure my door was locked because i heard something out in the kitchen.
Im afraid of someone coming into my house and taking me. I watch alot of law and order and Csi.
But i dont think that would have any thing to do with it.
-im terrified of needles. When i go to get blood drawn or shots. I start to cry.
-When i see needles on the tv i have to cover my eyes or look the other way. My mom is diabetic and she has to use insulin with the needles i looking at her while she does it.
When i was little i had this dream of me and my friend getting kidnapped by a doctor and he shoved needles in us and i died.
-i Cant throw-up if i do by getting sick or something i won't eat nothing for like the next three days.
-At school with my lockers ill lock them and then check 5-6 times to make sure theres no way anyone can open the locker - I have had my purse stolen from me and my locker broke into before like 3 years ago.
-At work I have to sign off the register everytime i walk away form it. I constantly walk to make sure im off.
I dont really know if this could be ocd. or its just being a strange person. Im 17/f
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i think to some degree it is but it can be avoided im not sure how though. i also lock things up. my big thing i do is i check the gas stove to make sure it wasnt left on because it can make u die in your sleep. i got like that after i heard as a kid that my brothers girlfriends dad died from carbon monoxide. so ever since i will keep getting up to check the locks and the stove
it is aweful ill agree. just try to relax check it once and write it on a piece of paper like this.
doors locked -yes
windows locked-yes
that way you wrote it down while you were looking at them and you KNOW you saw them locked it may help. good luck
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ive tried confronting her about this but all she does is get mad and askme why do i keep bringing this up? i tell her its cuz i care and just tonite it happened again with the questions and she told me when shes hungry she has to use the bathroom. now my concern level is WAY UP THERE..
you answered s question of mine before and i thought you would be of good advice (link)
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well it is good of you to have such concern for your friend. it is a serious matter and even if it pisses her off keep loving her and keep and eye on her. like any guilty person they will get defensive when they know someone is on to them and knows whats up. just keep on her until she is up front about it. people with this disorder are good liars so just look for the signs i told you about. i hope all works out and keep me posted.
best of luck
luckybutt32
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I have two cats that are a little over a year old. a while ago one of cats have started peeing and pooing right outside the litter box. (they are indoor cats).
my question is, can you train a cat to go in the litter box even though they are over a year old? And if you can. How do you train them. I got my cats after they had been trained by another lady.
thanks for the help. (link)
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well for starters cats are very territorial animals some will not share a litter box with another cat. if the litterbox is dirty cats dont like using it i had cats that would go right outside the box also. it may be that they dont like the litter you are using . try switching brands or whatever. also yes you can train an older cat to go in the box. just put him in the box after meals and sleep and take his paw and make him scratch around with it in a while they will begin to do it when they pick up thier own scent. do it alot like everyday till the cat gets the hint. kittens learn from watching thier mama scratch in the box so if you help they will see
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Hii! WeLl i just got my period like yesterday afternoon..and i was just wondering is it normal to feel like really fat? i mean like i know its called feeling bloaded but its not that i feel bloaded its that i feel fatter than usual and like im always hungry! but i like try and hold back because i feel so fat..and like i shouldnt eat! sorry if this is a stupid question.. (link)
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yes hun i have felt that way many times during my period. its water retention
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Okay so I've had a cat for quite a while now and lately he has just been bugging me like crazy! He wont eat! No matter what kind of food we place in front of him he just leaves it and then complains some more...I just can't get my head around it and then my parents bug me for not taking good enough care of him. Any ideas on a kind of food he'll really like, and ways to make sure he eats it? (and shuts up?!) (link)
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ok maybe he has dental problems is it dry cat food? i know some cats can be finicky eaters. try eukanuba its avaliable at pet care stores
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okay. i am in desperate need of a new screen name. mine is like 5 years old. and its stupid. so, could you guys please suggest something cute, please?
i like screen names like.
x dramatical love.
x forogotten memories.
x pathetic hearts.
-- and things like that.
but those are taken.
thanks!. :] (link)
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Ok, i like this guy at my school and he used to bark and me and all this wierd crap well evrytime imj not at school or not aroudn he's always around..and today i missed school to go to the doctor's and he was all around my friends and they were talking with him ALOT today...well my friend and him were walking and he's like so where's your friend, and my friend K* goes uhh ur gonna have to narrow it down..and he goes the one with blue eyes...K's like o ya (my nick name) nd he's like thats her name..nd K's like no it's C*...he's like ya C..where is she???
Ok sorry if that confusing..but anyway do you think he lieks me? I mean how often does a guy actually notic eyour eye color!
*I rate!!
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yea sounds like he is inquiring about you which shows interest id say yeah he likes you
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I wake up in the middle of the night or around like 3 am usually and get up and just drink so much. Like this morning, for instance, I remember getting up and drinking two cans of coke a cola and then a glass of chocolate milk and then just going right back to sleep. I usually do this very fastly. It seems like i cant control it, i just get up and do it without thinking. But i dont even wake up when i need to use the potty!!
Is this/Am I Normal?
What should I Do?
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maybe you dont drink enough during the day or you are getting to much salt intake. i do know that colas will make you dehydrated so maybe switch to water it will satisy you more.
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ok so sorry this is sorta long. well i came downstairs today and my mom is sitting at the computer looking at flights and she goes, "ok so there is this mothers weekend thing at ur sisters college, but its the weekend of your birthday." (she was asking me what i thought, but ovbiously she was already looking at flights so she wanted to go there.) so i told her it was fine whatever, to go. then i just walked away. then i hear her quickly call my sister and say, "shes fine, im coming." i am so mad. not only is it my bday its my sweet 16. its like she likes my sister better and cares nothing about my birthday. would anyone else be offended/upset if this happened? i just dont know what to do. i feel like crap. (link)
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im not sure but i think i know someone who suffers from bulimia. i really want to know. i have confronted this person about it but they just deny it. i told them facts about doing this and how bad it is for thier health but i still think they do it. is there a way to tell if they do it without confronting them and if so is there a way i can help
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yes i had it or should i say still do. the behaviors may go away but the mentality stays a lifetime. its controling it thats the factor. ya see the person with bulima eats alot. they will not eat for days then binge. when this happens they feel guilt. its not all about being fat. sometimes bulimia comes from being told they are fat as a child or comparisons made about them and another person or simply from media and social expectations. now some people do it for the reasons i did. ya see when a person has a crazy hectic upsetting life they cant control it. so what happens is this"i cant control my life but i cannnnnnnnnn control what i put in my mouth "mentality. so it becomes a way of feeling in control of yourself. to know why she does it you will have to find some of that stuff out and understand the disease. now signs that shes doing it....easy they are good liars for one when it comes to this. usually the person with it will either not eat at all on some days then all of a sudden have intense hunger and eat alot. then the person will normally immediatly go to the restroom after the meal...run the faucet so noone will hear then gag themselves till they throw up all they ate which releases them of the guilt of overendulging. then they will brush thier teeth so noone smells it. most of the time the enamel on thier teeth will wera off from the stomach acids. they normally will have a red face when they come out of the bathroom from the gag reflex. another sign of it is laxatives. people with bulimia think they can rid themselves of the food they ate by taking large amounts of laxatives which is very dangerous. these laxatives deplete your body of much needed potassium.whatever is happening to your friend i hope she gets help and admits to it. its a terrible disease. it will always be there its a matter of admitting you have it and controlling that instead of ignoring it . i hope i helped
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Do women find a guy with a hairy chest attractive? I'm 24, hairy, but not out of control hairy. I'm not overtly self-conscious, but I get the feeling that body hair is considered unattractive. ???
Don't hold back. I want real answers. Hopefully, from real women. Thanks. (link)
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i think its sexy. my man has a hairy chest and legs and i love it i even told him id be mad if he waxed or shaved it. i like the feeling of it when i snuggle up to him at night it lets me know i have a man in my bed not a boy and it gives me a secure feeling and he doesnt know that while i caress his hairy chest i think "damn hes sexy i love his hairy chest"haha! its great so like men women have thier preferences. i choose my mans hairy mound of love on his chest. just dont go hairy downstairs women dont like the caveman genitals.just a tip
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im a 21 year old male and my girlfriend is 19 and 8 months pregnant.She's thinks i dont find her attractive anymore because it seems like ive lost my sex drive!!what should i do?? (link)
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just be patient with her she is feeling all kinds of emotions right now. try to remember the cgood luckhanges she is going through. im sure she misses the fact that it was once just you and her now she has to share her body and its a lilttle odd to a first time mom. she probaly has fears just like you...like whether you will still love her and such. as crazy as it might sound that is how most pregnant woman feel when delivery is coming near. just hang in there and be very interested in her pregnancy... or shall i say your pregnancy because you are BOTH pregnant so you both will go through alot of ups and downs but always remember the reward is great and its what life is all about.
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well, theres this one chick. and shes hot. but thats besides the point. i like her and i THINK she likes me, but she doesn't want to date. she told me some crap about how shes bad with relationships and she wanted to be fwb. I was all like...um, idk. so now were just sort of like...more than friends but less than other stuff...that whole thing. and the other day she told me that she was going to be all protective of me and stuff. and to me, thats like...WHAT THE HELL!? cause its like, you dont want to date me, but you dont want me dating anyone else. so idk what to do, because I really want a relationship. i tried telling her this but she just told me that she's bad with relationships. (link)
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i say move on i think she just likes the attention and doesnt want you to have the attention from other girls. im 32 i know what im talking about
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