Hey Everyone! My name is Taryn but people call me T-bear! I have a a pretty rough roller coaster in my life but have made it to the top and love where I am at today. I have a beautiful family and am able to smile again everyday. I love helping other people keep the faith and know what you are going through and where you can end up. I love my fiance who I am about to marry here in 20 days and adore my one year old son. He reminds me why I continue to appreciate my breath here on earth. I am here for anyone at anytime. Just ask away!!! Luv u all!!
E-mail: tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com Gender: Female Location: Wyoming Occupation: Full Time Mommy Age: 25 MSN: tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com Member Since: November 13, 2006 Answers: 61 Last Update: April 16, 2014 Visitors: 6216
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So does Ortho Evra (the patch) make you gain weight or loose weight?
i have no clue.
i looked on good but it says both so idk.
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Ok so birth control can make you gain weight but because it makes you feel hungrier than normal. I was on the patch and didnt gain wait only because I watched what I ate and got my daily exercise. But trust me I have seen people gain about 50 pounds from using the patch. So as long and you eat healthy and maintain excersise you should be fine. Hope I helped
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I am a guy, 17. I have a friend, 16 and her boyfriend, 17 looked up gay porn on her computer. She found it while looking on the history. She dumped him for a couple of hours and took him back. He acts childish and talks down to her and calls her names in front of her. She takes the crap. Sadly I was kind of happy she dumped her boyfriend, but then she took him back a couple of hours later. We start school tomorrow, September 1st... and when she told they talked it out and got back together I pretended to be okay with it. Should let it go or tell her how I feel? I've been friends with her since fourth grade and we have been friends since then.
WHAT SHOULD I SAY OR DO?
Thanks,
Onebirddog2000 (link)
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Honestly this sucks but you have to let her do what she wants to do and just tough it out and then be there for her when and if he does break her heart. Trust me she thinks he is the one right now and if you are the one that gets in between it she is just gonna think you are jealous acuse you and it will ruin your friendship. She is the only one that can make the decision.! So sadly your gonna have to wait it out and let her make her own decision!!! good luck
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My hair is about 4 inches past my shoulders and i have long side bangs that go to my lip. i am always either putting my hair in a headband or pulling my bangs back in a clip but its just getting boring doing the same hair style. And oh yea my hair is straight.
And also if you guyz know any ways to curl my hair, tht would be great. i just want it to look natural. i have a curling iron but idk what i should do to make the curls look natural.
So i just need advice for my regular hair and how to curl it. so yea. thanks so much :) (link)
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I have long hair too. Anyways what you can do is the bangs put them all to one side. Put all you hair up in a high messy bun with bobby pins holding some up. then take the bangs that are all to one side and pull them down and clip them to the back of you head underneath your bun... i hope you got that. its really cute. After you get out of the shower get ssome mousse and scruch your hair it will make it curly or get some curlers and put them in at night or something. well i hope I helped!!!
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okay... so i use to have a major crush on this guy and then all of a sudden, i see this whole other side of him that im not liking so much. yesterday i told him that i also like girls. then last night i asked him what he felt towards this girl that im into and he said he thinks that she is cute. then he asked me how i felt about him and i told him how i use to like him. then he started talking about the other girl and he was a little jealous because she likes me more than him. then i asked him how he felt towards me and he didnt reply. then i texted him again that there are no double standards since i told him all of this. still, no reply which was expected now. then i told him how i wasnt sure that i could trust him with the other girl's secret that i told him earlier that day. i really do regret telling him her secret but i also wanted to know how he felt so i figured if i told him then he would come out with everything. now i just feel that i put my trust into someone too soon. i reallly dont care how he feel towards me, i mean i know hes a manwhore. and i know what his type is and im not that because i don wear slutty clothes. i really need to know what to do now, now that i blew everything because i had a little crush on this guy. where does that leave he and i? i cant just blow him off because he knows too mcuh... he know her secret that I told him. and if he went up to the other girl and say too much then im screwed. this girl wont ever speak to me again. (link)
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Well I someone told you their secret because they trusted you, you tell someone that secret because you trust them, how do they trust you if you can't keep another secret. You got yourself in a mess. That was completely wrong to choose a crush over a friend that is probably gonna be there for you longer than this manwhore you refer to. I'm sorry to tell you this girl but your introuble. I really would go up to the girl and tell her what you did, apologize for it. Hearing it from you would be better than hearing it from a million other people. You did it and now you need to face up to the consequences. Your tough enough to tell the secret then you are tough enough to see what happends. you need to tell her. good luck
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16/f
I'm not trying to sound conceited when I say this, but I am a really good friend. I have helped people stop cutting and feel better about themselves. (only my close friends who tell me things) I tell them to get help and try to help them as much as I can to the best of my ability. I'm kind of like the go-to person, the one they vent to, then one they can trust.
So today, my best friend and I were talking on aim. and we were talking about how we felt we were drifting apart. we got mad at eachother at first because she accused me of judging her (when I don't, I really don't judge people, everyoneis who they are) and she wasn't acting herself. Then we got to the point in the conversation where she told me that she wasn't going to beg for me to be my friend, and I told her that I'd always be her friend, no matter what. Because she's been having a hard time lately, and has been going to the shore drinking alot and hooking up with random guys at random parites, and it's just not her.
Then she always blames everything on her ex boyfriend, how he screwed her up so much. and he did, he really messed her up, but i said she had to stop blaming him for everything, and that it's not her fault at all but that part of why she changed was because of the shore and summer. well, I guess that set her off, because she told me something that I cried when I read...
Her ex boyfriend, you would never suspect he would do this. He forced her to do stuff to him. (she never told anyone, this happened a few months ago) he told her that she didnt trust him and that she didnt find him attractive if she didnt give him a handjob. I knew that part, but I also knew that he ate her out when she told him she didnt want to. and he fingered her when she didnt want to be fingered and said so. He would get very violent with her and shove as many fingers as he could and finger her, and she tried to stop him, and tell him no but she couldn't breathe and he was bigger than her. Then she told me that one time, she was in his car and they were fighting as usual, he was telling her like, "oh i went to third for you and you won't do the same to me?" and she said, "i didn't want you to do that to me!" and he was like, "well it's been 2 or 3 months and if you loved me you would do this for me." so my friend ended up being guilted into saying she'd make it up to him by giving him a handjob. after she said that, she didnt know how it happened, but he pushed her head down to his pants and held her head there while he unzipped and he made her give him a blow job. she told me she was crying while she did it and he wouldnt stop. (i feel horrible not only because he did this to her, but because we talked about blow jobs and how id never give one ever and how she wouldnt either.. i felt bad she didnt tell me this!) so then like whenever they hung out, apparently he would just jump ontop of her and hold her down, and hump her, and shed say get off, but he wouldnt listen. and then when he was "finished" she could go home.
she told me that he told her he was gonna kill himself. she was scared. she was trapped inside a relatiosnhip with this guy. isnt that RAPE?!?! I told he to tell someone, she won't. I want her to get help, I told her she should get therapy, that i'd help her. but she said telling me helped her feel better.. but she was pretending this entire time that she's fine. but she told me she's depressed. I rpomise her I wouldn't tell anybody about this, but THIS IS RAPE. isn't it?! It is. my best friend was raped. and now all she wants is attention from guys. shes really screwed up because of this. Shes drinking because she doesn't think about her ex and what he did. I don't know what to do. please help me. I'm the ONLY ONE who knows. the only one. so what do i do?! I know I should tell someone, but who would I tell? and there's no proof he did that, so how would i be able to help? I promised her I wouldnt tell anyone, I know I should, but at the same time, she says she's not wasting her time on him. But if I was her, I would want to tell someone. I couldn't just hide that. I'm so lost. She acts like it's no big deal now.. just because it has been a few months. But it IS a big deal to ME. she's my best friend and he raped her. Well, I consider it rape. Ugh. help?
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About a year and a half ago I was raped through intercourse. Any forceful sexual contact any body part entering another is considered rape. Honestly I know how you friend feels, shes scared. It is up to her to tell. You being a good friend, should convince her that telling someone should be the best thing. What my friends said to me, was "what if he does this to someone really close to you?" You need to make sure she knows that the next girl in his life could go through the exact same thing, but she can put an end to it by reporting him. Going to the authorities doesnt always work, because they could come back with the he said she said. But its always worth a try. Stand by your friend talk to her, and just be her shoulder. Drinking is the easy way out and the sleeping with guys and getting attention is all just a cry for help. you need to also be stern with her and tell her drinking can just lead to that too. If it gets to bad to the point where you friend needs serious help... you need to talk to one of her family members before you take it into your hands, that is not your deal and if you try to handle it you could end up in the same boat STRESSED. So good luck and let me know how it goes
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Alright so I just started college about a week ago and I'm all settled in. I've already been through a week of classes, but I absolutely hate it here. I'm about two hours away from home at a pretty big university. I was wondering if it was possible to transfer schools right after beginning classes. If not, what are some other options that can be used to get me out of here asap? Thank you for helping =] (link)
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Hey I am in college also. What is it that is bothering you so much about the college. It's only been a week, can't you give it a little more time. I didnt like it here for a couple days but then I met people. I don't believe that you can switch colleges only because if you recieved grant money it has already went to the college you are attending. If you quit school, all that grant money will have to be paid back to the government out of your own pocket. My suggestions are maybe trying gettig involved in some activities or go talk to a school couselour and tell him/her about your situation and ask if there are any solutiouns to it. Anyways hope I helped and good luck
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do you find people to really be any different under the influence of alcohol from personal experience? (maybe it depends on amt consumed) (link)
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of course they are different. someone who isnt drinkng can do normal everyday things. yes it does also depend on the amount, but a person under the influence have difficulty driving, say things they wouldnt say sober, are more of a risk of fighting and engaging in unprotected sexual activity. They don't make very wise decisions and don't have the mind set to, often that is how pregnancy in young teens can be caused. You could also end up thinking someone may really love you and they just said that because they were drunk and wanted to get down your pants.
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Hey,I am 15/f and my homecoming is september 19th. I need my mom to sign something so I have to wait til saturday ( 3 weeks before homecoming ) to start tanning. I am farely white, not pale, but it's hard for me to get tan sometimes. I wanted to know how long I should go in the tanning booth for if I go almost everyday for 3 weeks? I have an orange homecoming dress so I really need to get a shade or 2 darker at the least, but I dont want to get burnt. I am not using sun tan lotion because it's super expensive at the salon. Thanks! (link)
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If this is your first time goin tanning do not exceed for over 5 minutes the first week or you will look like a zebra with red stripes. That what I did. Start at 5 minute the first we and gradually work you way up to 10 minute is the second week by the last two days you may be able to work yourself up to 15 minutes depending how you are doing it depends on how fragile your skin is. Those rays can be very harmful so plz take it slow you want to look perfect for your prom, not like I did with red stripes.. haha anyways good luck
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can I get a job at 16 , thats not fast food. I know like retail stores and stuff, but im having a hard time thinking of names, i need actual specific names like safeway, jamba, baskin robbins, which ive already applied for. walmart is too far away from where i live.
So what are some other places I can work? (link)
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well i dont know where you live, but if you go to google.com and type in Job searches for (your town) It should tell you what jobs and the age requirements.... good luck!
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I am a 19 year old guy who has fallen for a 16 year old girl. It is a bit strange of a situation but I really do love her. She is amazing and beautiful. I would do anything on earth to help her or to make her happy. We are not officially BF/GF, I think we are both holding ourselves back, for fear of what it would mean. I know she loves me, I don't know to what extent. I can't seem to find a good way to ask/find out either. I have never really had a girlfriend before her, although I was always very observant of others and feel I know most of what I need to about relationships. She was outgoing and I was shy so we kinda met in the middle. We fit each other very well, have a lot of the same beliefs, ect. But the fact that she is still 16 really bothers me. It's not like I want to have sex or anything, I do not agree with premarital sex, I just worry about legal things. I hate to say it but, I almost feel guilty for dating her. Like I don't deserve such a wonderful person. What is everyone's take on this? (link)
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Thats only 3 years age difference, are her parents ok with it. If they are I say go for it. I have seen way worse than that this girl i went to school with is now 19 and she married a 40 year old. There was this 22 year old and 14 year old. (ick), that didnt last to long. It sounds like you do really like her but your right dont move in fast cuz sixteen year olds are pretty vulnerable and it could upset her badly, but also don't push her away either. Just have a normal relationship and see how things go. And you have to ask her how she feels about you there will never be anything there if you are afraid to talk to eachother, just sit down with her and tell her how you feel about her and ask her what her feelings are... that may give her quite a bit respect for you, whatever you do don't get to cheesy and say you would die for her and stuff like that, that might scare her away. well good luck
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Ok here goes I'm 21 yrs old female and I've been really thinking something over lately. Over a year ago I meet what I thought at the time my dream guy.And almost instantly we held some things in common. We cliqued so well, I mean my family adored him, and he did so many things for me. We were togeather adleast three or four times a week. And he and my brother became bestfriends. Before we were togeather. I was in an verbally and physically abusive relationship. So when I meet him I thought I was in heaven. But a year later, he left me after an argument. He never even told me it was over, he just quickly moved on with his life and later he started dating his ex girlfriend again, whom his mother adored. Which I think she had ahand in getting them back togeather in the first place cause, she never really cared for me anyway. And now he and his ex girlfiend stay togeather. It's been over a year since we've seen each other or spoken but, it's not a day that he doesn't run threw my mind. I must admit that I'm still in love with him and, even though he and his current is staying togeather. I haven't giving up the fact that we will reunite one day. I can't even have a healthy relationship because, I don't want anyone but he. I find myself bitter alot, and actully hating the women he is with now. Cause I wish it was I. I was a great girl to him and I can't believe he just left me. Please tell me, am I wasting my time, or is there some sort of hope. Thank you.
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Honestly I am in the same situation right now except the guy i think i am madly in love with slept with my best friend. I forgave him and we started talking again but now we are arguing again. there is no reason to let yourself hurt for one guy. you are only 21 and there will be a guy that comes into your life that you couldnt imagine losing and you will look back on the situation and laugh. I still sit here and find myself imagining what life would be like if we were together and hope that he will fall for me as hard as I have fallen for him. I love him soooo much but the saying if you love them let them go is true. dont waste your time you deserve better then that. it will hurt like hel* at first but just be strong and stick to it, you will feel much better about yourself and other people will see that and be able to come into your life. you cannot be happy with anyone until you are happy with yourself dont let him make you wait.... start moving on, i have faith in you and good luck! if you ever need to talk my email is tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com
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i'm 19 years old female and i've never danced with a guy before!
i'm a really pretty girl, so i've been told by every guy hahaa. but i just like never have "dirty" danced with a guy before. i always think i'm going to look stupid. i've been to the club once, and didn't really dance that much because i don't know how.
i don't think i have good rhythm. and my crush is sucha GOOD dancer, its crazy. and hes always like can you dance?:) and i'm just always like hahahaaa.."yeahhhh" because i don't wanna look stupid so he'll just like randomly dance at someones house and he'll be like come dance with me!
and i'll just laugh and be like haha noo!!!
i wish i could dance. but i dont know what to dooo! (link)
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first of all your gonna make yourself look stupid if you think your better than the others around you. its ok to think you pretty but you dont have to know you are, if you know what i mean. just get comfortable and dont think so much about if your doing it right or not. just listen to the music and move with him and the beat it's not too hard, just dont think and just do it
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Okay, So I was awarded 3 scholarships. They totaled to about 800 dollars. The thing is, I may not be able to go to college in the fall, but I'd still like to attend college in the spring semester. So, would I still be able to keep the scholarship money in order to use for the spring semester?
Thanks!
Oh, I would ask my mom but she knows NOTHING about college, etc. (if you're wondering) (link)
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I'm in the process of going to college right now also. The scholarships you were rewarded will go to the college not to you. You can't get a hold on them. When you are ready to go to college than you will have to reaaply for them unless when you applyed for the you specified that you needed them for spring semester but usually what you have to do is apply every semester and that you attend. I would double check but that is how my financial aid and scholarships go!! Well good luck. I wish you the best
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13/f
This'll take a while, so you might wanna grab a cup of tea or something.
I moved to a new house about two years ago, and I had a lot of babysitting experience where I used to live. When I came to my new home, I joined a church and met TONS (60, tons) of little kids there. One of my new friends here is really experienced in babysitting also, so we decided to create a babysitting club. There are two things that I need advice on.
First, I am kind of nervous because all of the kids that I have babysat for in the past, I had known well before. Two jobs in specific, I'll give as examples, I babysat for two boys, a 1-year old and a four-year old, until they were 2 and 6. The older one loved me and the younger one was so good you never had to worry about much. The other example was I babysat for two girls in my old neighborhood, one five the other 7, until they were 6 and 8. They both idolized me and would do whatever I wanted, so I never had many problems with that. (I'm not trying to brag or sound snotty, I'm just saying that those kids knew me, so it was easier) I am going to put up fliers in the church and in my dance studio, but I know only some of the kids in both places. I know two boys, 6 and 8, at the church, pretty well, and they like me a lot, but my older brother babysits for them. (Damn it! L0L) So basically, the kids that I'll be babysitting I won't know like I'm used too. (Or I won't know them A LOT!) So my first question is, how should I deal with the new situation?
Second, are there any ideas for a system for a babysitting club that my friend and I could do? Right now I'm Secretary and she's Treasurer, but we don't have much past that.
And also, what are other places that I could put up fliers other than my church and dance studio?
I know it's long, and I'm sorry. (link)
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First of all, you dont have to apologize for a long ? thats what this site is for hun! Life is all about taking chance and challeges. If life was easy and you could always get and do what your comfortable with, then life would just be plain boring!!! You are 13 and there are going to be much scarier expierences out there that you babysitting dilemma so start preparing yourself for this now. When my friend and I started up a babysitting club when we were younger. We put up signs at the local grocery store, shopping stores, an popular places that may have a place you can hang something at. We just put our names, our expierences and what we were looking for when someone called, they would specify who they wanted or we would take turns.... We both just kept the money we made and saved it up. If that something you wouldnt like to do you could always do something like BABYSITTING CLUB give them a number and anytime someone called you would take turns on who goes save all the money and every week or two split it evenly... anyways I hoped I helped and REMEMBER never be afraid to take chances it will prepare you for life and only make you stronger!! good luck let me know how things go
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Help me make sense of this!!!! Two years ago I told my friend I had feelings for her that went deeper than friendship. (We are both females) She said she was SHOCKED when I told her. Although I don't think she was shocked at all. Keep in mind we live 1300 miles apart and she is in an unhappy marriage and has been for about 8 years, she has been married for 37 years and got married to get out of the house and away from her step-dad. (nothing sexual there, he was just mean). She is 55 years old and I am 48. Anyway at that time 2 years ago she denied feeling the same way towards me. We email often and just last week she flew up here to spend the week with me on vacation, left her husband home. During our time together that week she told me she had fallen out of love with her husband some time ago and she wished she would win the lottery so she could buy a summer home in the town I live so we could be closer. She also has told me if she was younger she would leave his hind-end in a heartbeat. We drank some wine and I told her I don't let myself get to tipsy anymore because I am a big flirt, but she kept saying to me through the week, hey let's get shit-faced, let's get a matching tattoo to commerate our vacation together. Now why would she want me to get shit-faced when I told her I get flirty?? And why would she want us to get matching tattoo's? She also touched me alot, putting her hand on my knee during a time when we had someone take our picture together, grabbing my arm etc. and I caught her looking at my legs and eyeing me up. She told me she didn't want to go back home and that we should have taken 2 weeks of vacation instead of one but if we did take 2 weeks vacation she wouldn't go back home. She called me a few days after she got home and back to work, she said she told her coworkers she had to pee and then called me while she was in the bathroom. She mentioned again we should have taken two weeks of vacation and she missed me alot and couldn't wait to see me again and get together again. What I don't understand is first, why would she spend a week with me, tell me how unhappy she is in her marriage, touch me alot and sometimes even in a baby tone of voice tell me how much she was going to miss me if she KNOWS how I feel about her??? She knows my feelings are stronger than friendship so WHY this behavior. Am I over reacting to her actions or is she into me but can't or won't admit it??? Sometimes I think she likes the fact that I am in love with her and she wants me to be. Where do I go from here? I do believe she is in love with me. Having said that, the whole marriage thing she is involved in makes it impossible for her to admit her feelings to herself much less me. I wonder and please tell me what you think!!! If I make myself less available to her and let her know I am going out and having fun with other friends of mine if it will push her into revealing her true feelings for me. One way or another I need to know and I know she won't tell me even if I ask her straight out. I wonder if maybe she starts to feel like she is losing me if she will step it up so to speak and tell me how she really feels.
Please help!!!!!!!! Thank you so much!!
Kelsi
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I think that your should be honest with her if you hide things and just pretend nothing is bugging you than things are gonna get worse and you guys will start becoming distant with each other and from the sounds of you question it doesnt seem like either of you want that. Really just talk to her tell her one more time how you feel, the vibe you got from her when she was on vacation with you. WARNING: It could be that she was only telling you all these things because you are such a great friend and shes feels comfortable talking to you and you are a comfort to her and make her feel better so she likes being around you. You never know that and bringing it up is better that sitting around and wondering what could of been and not taking the chance!!!! good luck I hope everything works out for you!
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Ok Well I had sex about a week ago and i think im pregnant! i got off my period the day before i had sex... and i have cramps now..could i be pregnant? (link)
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Honestly very seldomly do I hear someone having sex and then showing signs of pregnancy after a week. i doubt you are really pregnant. And you may think you are having signs because now you are making yourself think that you may be. You couldnt even take a pregnancy test right now because its way to early to show up but if your worried, wait a few weeks and take one. hope I helped and good luck
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(sorry if this is gross :( )
i feel so stupid. i cannot for the life of me put a tampon in.
im 16 and ive had my period for three or four years and i keep trying but i cant get the applicator in more than halfway. i know HOW to put one in but it just wont go in! any advice on how to make this easier? thanks (link)
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first off what size of tampon are you wearing??? email me at tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com if you still need advice
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I have spent so long knowing people talk shit about me behind my back both because of my different personality and my physical appearance. I just want the physical appearance thing to stop ... I can't handle it sometimes ... why are people so cruel? It's not like I am really fat at all, but I'm a big guy ... I just hate how cruel the world can be when even close friends talk shit behind your back about shallow things like the way you look ... why? (link)
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usually people are like that because they are some damn miserable with themselves that they feel it is the best idea to find someone they can bring down with them. And since you wrote this it kind of seems to me that you care what other people think of you. They see that you don't have confidence in yourself and they thrive on that. So they pick at you. It will be hard but let that roll off your shoulders. tell them sorry you feel that way and walk away. The people that matter in your life the most will stick behind you and stay true. The people that decide to try and break you are not worth anything in your life. Hey just think of it as they love you so much that you are the center of the world.... oh yay... haha anyways best of luck and always stay strong. If you ever need to talk just shoot me an email tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com/ I know exactly how you are feeling and you can get through it it will get better
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16/f
well to start off, its takin me a while to build up trust with my mom again. shes caught me with drugs and drinkin in the past, and now im finally on her good side. the only thing recently is that she found out me and my boyfriend are havin sex.
now heres the problem, i have to tell her im pregnant. my mom means the world to me and im scared to break her heart, plus she could fuck over my boyfriend because we arent legal. shes the kind of person that you need to let her think before you talk to her about somethin, so i was thinkin i would slip a note in her purse tonight for her to read tomorrow and then ill talk to her after work. orrr, id wait for school to start and send her a text.
what do you guys think would be a good way for someone like my mom, whos very fragile and needs to think about things for a while before you discuss them with her ?
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absolutely not..... that is the most childish thing you can do/// you got pregnant you take responsiblity... if you are to tell your mom over text or letter... she will not see your reactions and you will not see hers... it will be more likely for her to take legal action if you are not there to calm her..... its gonna be scary but something you have to do
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17/f. -ok my best friend and I
Were getting mcdonalds and she
Saw her cousin and her cousin was like oh how are we all going to the water park can your friend come and there was a short pause and she was like oh do you want to come? And she
Never mentioned this to me and she does have another best friend and she started making other excuses how she wasn't going to go anyway. I just feel insecure and I know she doesn't have to take me but I don't know what do you think? Oh and she has ditched me in the past.. (link)
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wow doesnt really sound like a friend at all. you need to be straight up tell her how you feel and then give her a chance to talk also. Don't fall for the first thing she says bcuz then you will be the friend she can walk all over....... well good luck
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