My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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ok my friend called me up and told me theres this party like right up the road from me!! it starts at like 8..but im not going to ask my mom if i can go..cuz how would i word it? if you have a good idea on how to word it ..thats an automatic 5 for you guys. I was thinkin..if not to just sneak out later on. (my dad works the night shift and my mom is usually asleep by 10:30)
What would you guys do? I've never really been to a wild party..usually i jus go to small parties or sweet 16's ..that stuff. My parents would want to know if someone is home..and who knows if they would actually want to talk to the parents being that the party is right up the road from me. (link)
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You probably aren't going to like my answer. But I wouldn't go. If your parents found out you'd be in big trouble, and they'd lose trust in you. I don' think it's worth it. But that's just me.
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A little while ago I made myself throw up cause I didnt like the way I looked.I promised my friends I would stop so I am,but my so called best friend wrote on her xanga that im bellimic and that everyone says I was just doing it for attention and for those who dont know wat an xanga is its like a website u can write things on and EVERY1 reads it cause alotta my friends have them and I didnt want any1 to know.Now I know that was wrong of her to post that on her xanga but I got really mad at her and I wont talk to her and we were just fighting last nite and we were cursing eachother off and I called her a backstabber.Do you think it was right for me to get mad at her? Do you think I should just let it go and apologize? I kno this gurl wont apologize to me cause thats how she is,but i dont know wat to do cuz I dont really wanna lose her as a friend but shes just really gotten on my nerves lately and she hasnt been a good friend to me.Thanks for reading this! (link)
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Well, it depends. Do you feel she is worth staying friends with? If you asked me, it was very wrong of her to do that, and you have every right to be mad. If you decide you want toremain friends with her you can apologize. But I wouldn't trust her right away. "It takes years to gain trust, and seconds to throw it away". If anything you should gain trust in her little by little. I would tell her how upset she made you though. You said you were trying to stop. It's not easy to stop, I know. I would recommend going to a doctor though. You could be bullimic. And if that's the case, it's not good. It eventually will ruin your esophogus and other insides of your body.
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well i have a boyfriend and he loves me and i love him but im kinda afraid to call him b/c every time i do we have nothin to talk about. so what should i talk about with him on the phone???? (link)
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Whatever you want. Maybe you could talk about school, sports, music, friends, family.. whatever. It all depends on what you like too. Once you get on a topic it's pretty easy to keep on talking.
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im 13/f and have been gettin discharge for more then a year...buti havent gotten my period yet..is this normal? (link)
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As everyone else said, yes that's normal. You usually get discharge 1-3 years before you get your period. So yours will probably come sometime in the near future. I'd carry around a pad or tampon ins your purse or backpack just incase it comes.
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ok im 13 female and i started cutting because family and friend problems and i stopped 4 like 2 weeks and then i got so mad and deprest i cut again and now i want to really bad but i promised myself i wouldnt do it again because im scared someones going to find out about it and send me to a mental home or something beause of it and i have thought about killing myself one or twice but i havent gone threw with it yet but i trie to hide it from my mom and my teachers so i dont wear shorts or anything and i wear a jacket most the time so that no one see the scares but i really need help and i was going to tell someone about it but im to scared so can anyone give me advise because i could really use some right now??? please help (link)
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Well, good job for not cutting. The right thing for you to do is tell someone. If you're having thoughts of killing yourself and you're cutting, you need help. Many teenagers go through this, you're not alone. You could ask a close friend to tell your guidance counselor, and they can contact your parents. Or you could tell your parents, or guidance counselor. Or even write your parents a note, or e-mail them. I think you need to go to a doctor, see if they diagnose you with depression. You could be given anti-depressents. Feel free to IM me anytime!
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Lately i have been sad and mad.. basically depressed. all i wanted to do is cry and i couldnt even enjoy easter... thats the day when i get PRESENTS FOR MY GOSH DARN B-day!! my b-days april 16th... anywayz, the only time i was havin fun was when i was outside...like when me and my brother were playin frisbee or when me and my friend and my neice and just everybody was outside it was fun!! but thats just because i miss havin my brothers live with me and the only reason i enjoyed being out there was that my bro was out there with me like "old tmes" i just dont kno why im soo sad or mad!! please help!! i dont even kno why im sad or mad!! (link)
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I can't tell you exactly why you're mad/sad.. I'm not a doctor =\. But I can suggest some things as to what you could do about it! Try talking to people about how you feel. Like a parent/guardian, close friend, guidance counselor etc. Maybe you should go to a doctor to see if you are depressed. It's a common thing with teenagers, and it isn't something that just goes away. You need the proper help an everything. Maybe you need to go to a counselor. Feel free to IM me anytime if you want!
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OK ive been to a few sweet 16's this year and everyone has the same thing : music and food for like 3-4 hours. People who arent the dancing queens and are dancing all night..tend to say they are bored, etc. For mine..i def dont want that to happen.
Is it a cool idea to go swimming for 2 hours at the hotel(im having my party there) with my closer friends ..then a half hour later the actual party starts? There are showers and i could bring a hair dryer (its a nice place) so my friends could do my hair so its not sopping wet. Also, there are a ton of pretty cool games i found off the internet which i was figuring would keep everyone happy.
Examples are :
(twister,hula hoop contest,game where two teams and together as a train..everyone has to walk to the finish line in single file while everyone has a bananna they have to get across without using their hands..they have to press it against the backs of the other ppl,
guy belly dancing contest, dancing/singing contest,pinata,limbo, and the human string relay, where there are two teams in a single file line. The first person has a spoon tied to yarn, and they have to put it down their shirt and pants..pass it back..same thing happens,,whoever is done first wins, "Roast" where people get up and tell funny story about guest of honor (me), game where as guests come in..you give them a necklace and tell them if they say any form of "yes" then the person who hears that can take their necklace away..person with most necklaces at the end wins.
for all these games i was thinking spending $50 on prizes for the night and for the winners i would hand out prizes
if you dont like these could you give me an idea on how to keep everyone happy and for my sweet 16 to be different and unique? thanks!! 5's for everyone who isnt rude because i know this is super long..but its really important to me
thank you again! :)
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I think that's a good idea! It sounds like it'd be fun and everyone would have a good time. I don't think you need any help to keep everyone happy, sounds like you've got it all planned out well =)!
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my sis' sweet 16 is coming up and my mom and i wanted to surprise her with a few things. im gonna make a powerpoint about her thru the years but i need to find a song about friends. i cant find any that really "work". me and my sis always fight but i wanna do sumthing nice cuz its a special occasion. ne1 no of any songs about friends? (link)
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I can't think of the name =(. The song "I'll be there, when you're not strong, I'll help you carry on" etc. Anyone want to help me out with the name =\?
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I go to a private school, and my friend did also, but then she went public. i still keep in touch with her and she is still a really great friend. But now i have this other great friend in school with me and i'm not sure wiether to think she is a better friend or not. Should i replace her? is it bad that i do not feel as close to my previous best friend?
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I wouldn't say it's bad if your friend that switched school isn't as close with you anymore. I mean, you just don't see each other as often. However, I don't think you should stop being friends with her. I think you could keep in touch with her, maybe by IM, e-mail, mail, phone, or by hanging out every now and then. Because you guys don't see each other as often I think you'll both find other people you become close with, but that doesn't mean you guys should stop being friends! If you want, you can IM me anytime.
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okay... my dog died about a couple months ago.. and i'm getting a new dog this summer.... but don't know what kind of dog to get..if anyone knows a good dog to get... can you tell me??
also... i kinda want a small dog* thanks
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I have no clue how to spell it but a: pomeranian.
Or here are some others: Chihuahua, Boston Terrior, Bichon Frise, Dachshund, Pug, Yorkshire Terriers. P.S sorry about your dog =(.
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OK, thanks 4 the advice. But I had this huge 2 hour phone call w/ her like last week. And she just kees on going. I mean I've told her so many times. And I've been thinking about telling her that this has 2 end and that we can't be friends. I mean, I've been best friends w/ her for like 4 or 5 years, and we deeloped a really close relationship. But I still don't know what to do. i am actually kinda scared 2 tell her cause she gets mad REALLY easily. I mean I don't want to lose her as a friend, but she makes me feel SOOO depressed and unimportant. So I still don't know what to do! HELP!!!!!! (link)
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If she truly was your friend she wouldn't be treating you like this. I think the only thing you can really do is try making new friends, and gradually move away from her. It doesn't seem right that she's making you feel depressed and unimportant. Friends are supposed to make you happy, and be there for you. You get what I mean? You can IM me anytime if you want.
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any tips on planning a sweet 16? like what kind of dress to get, howm any to invite, what kind of place too have it in..hotel..or wherever..any details or personal experiences..tips..all appreciated. 5s for everyone ! -ty- (link)
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Well, I can't really help you with the dress, because I don't know your style. For the number of people, invite as many as you want, but it also depends on where you have it too. For place you could A) Rent a hall B) Go to a hotel C) Take a limo and then go to a resutrant.
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OK, so I have this friend who is being mean. Ever since these two new girls came into our class, she has been hanging out with them. I am always left out and she makes me feel SO unimportant. I have tried to tell her about it, but she doesn't do anything about it. I mean she was a great friend, and I don't want to tell her that we can't be friends anymore because she has hurt me way too much. What should I do????? (link)
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I would try talking to her again, but if it doesn't work, I would try finding new friends. You don't deserve to be treated that way by your "friend". You could try saying to her "I think we've both changed, and our friendship isn't working out" or something like that. But she really doesn't seem like a good friend, and I think you deserve better friends than her! You can IM me anytime if you'd like!
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okay so this is the same person about the girl with the bulimia friend. okay i told her parents but they are like on drugs..so they really didn`t care.. i told my parents & i thik they might help.once they get there butts off the sofa..but like yea my friends is really really really mad at mee for telling on her but atleast she won`t die..right?
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Good job for trying to tell someone. It's the right thing to do, and real friends would do something like that. I would tell a teacher or your guidance counselor at school, I think they'd help her out. Goodluck.
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okay, so i have this friend, and she cuts herself. it really scares me, because one time she cut so deep that it wouldnt stop for a while. her dad abuses her, and she doesnt get along with her mom very well. her boyfriend went away for spring break and she misses him a lot. she cut herself again because she thinks her life is so fucked up, and she thinks she should die. i really want to help her, but i dont know what to do. please help!!! (link)
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You NEED to tell someone. It's not right at all that her dad is abusing her, he's probably one of the reasons she cuts. Try to be there for her too, it's always nice to have someone to confide in. I would say she needs to go to a counselor. You can IM me anytime if you want!
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i am having a dance for my birthday but i dont know what kind of songs to play. HELP? (link)
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I don't really know =\. It depends on what kind of music you like.. and not too many teenagers like the music I do. Some fun dancing songs are: Cha Cha slide, Electric Slide, Cotton Eyed Joe, & The Marcarana. If you want, I can try to answer this better if you ask another question and tell me what kind of music you like. I like rock, pop-rock, classic rock and stuff like that.
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well i decided to have a sleep-over but i dont know what i should do or what movies i sohlud rent.. pleez help me out here. if u say truth or dare please give examples. (link)
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You could go to the movie theaters, then back to your house for a sleep-over. Or maybe go bowling and then sleep-over. Idk what kind of movies you and your friends like, so I can't really help you there =\. You can play board games, and just talk about stuff. Whatever you decide to do you'll probably have tons of fun!
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Ok i am 15 yrs old am i am very small. My friends push me down and twirl me around. I am getting sick of them doing that. They think its so cool to be small but it's not! you always get underestamited!but I still wana be there friends!
What should I do?
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Try telling them that they're aggravating you. Stand up for yourself, and tell them to stop. Or push them back (not too much so you cause a fight), and they'll probably get what it feels like to be pushed around. But I wouldn't let them keep treating you like that! If you need anything else just IM me or drop another question in my inbox.
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Does anyone know any inspirational sayings? I am in need of inspiration.
~Nokomis~ (link)
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http://www.quotecraze.vzz.net/frames.html
Under Life Quotes; the 8 pages of advice
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I'm 15 years old, and 2 months ago, I was involved in a serious car accident. My friends and I were out having fun, the car that I was in had 5 people in it, and I was in the back, there was 3 people in the other car. It was about 11 at night so there wasnt really anyone on the roads so they decided to race. We were going about 80+ side by side on these curvy roads and it was icy because it was after a snow storm. After a couple minutes it started to get really scary and I was just getting really nervous because my parents had no idea where I was, and I kept screaming Slow down. They wouldnt slow down. The next thing I knew I woke up on the ground next to my boyfriend in a lot of pain and crying. I realized that we had gotten in an accident, I laid there trying to wake my boyfriend up. I heard sirens after what seemed to be an hour later, but was really only a couple minutes. I got rushed to the hospital with minor injuries, and after I got taken care of, I got the worst news of my life. The only survivors of the crash, were me and my best friend who was the driver of the other car, and my boyfriend but he was in a coma. I stayed with my boyfriend everyday and just cried and cried, he didnt wake up, he never woke up. His parents decided to just let him go because they wanted him to go peacefully and not have to deal with any pain. It is soo hard dealing with this, I look at pictures of the accident everyday just reliving that whole night, I'm sorry this is long but I was just wondering if anyone has had an experience like this and wondering how you dealt with it..? Please and thank you.. (link)
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Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that =(. I would suggest talking to someone; your parents, a close friend, a teacher.. whoever. Maybe you should see a counselor, many people deal with deaths that way. I hope you feel much better, just remember, he's in a better place now.
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