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Ok here's my embarising problem I'm a 39yr old male and I have reoccuring hemroids I checked on line and found out there is inner and outer and in my case its outer the swelling is bad at times like right now as I speak iv tried everything over the counter but its only temporary it will eventualy clear up on its own but takes weeks to do so then it will come back .I don't know what to do it robs me of daily activities where its so painful at times that sitting down is unbareable I don't want to see a doctor if I don't have to but its getting to that point so what other options do I have .can anybody give me some advice please . (link)
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see a doctor, they'll solve your problem in minutes. simple advice but straight to the point.
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Okay, so a couple of days ago, I had a really weird dream.
I was in our classroom with my seatmate. He was sitting on a chair and then I sat next to him on the same chair. The next thing I knew, he grabbed my shoulders and pointed me towards him. I saw his lips leaning towards me, and we ended up kissing. I woke up shortly after that. (If anyone can interpret this dream, it'd be really great!:D)
Anyways, pretty much after that dream, I couldn't stop thinking about it and him. Although I know it's a dream, but for some reason I can't get it out of my head. That's when I started to wonder if I liked him. Did my subconscious mind tell me that I liked him or am I just making stuff up? Since he is my seatmate and everything, I do kind of think of him in that way sometimes, but it never got serious. Like my heart was never pounding when I'm around him.
Whether I genuinely like him or not, I still can't seem to stop thinking about him. So maybe I do like him..a bit. But it might be the dream's fault.
So, my problem. Do you guys think what I'm feeling is real? Or am I just fooled by my dream? And in case I do like him, what should I do? We don't hang out in the same group, I think he's kind of brainy, so he hangs with the smart people. I'm not sure what I'm feeling and I'm not sure what to do. Help? I'd really appreciate it. (link)
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okay, your dream does NOT necessarily mean you have a crush on this guy, i've had a dream about a guy i have no feelings about what so ever. when you have a thought or meet someone, that thought or person kind of goes into a little drawer in your head and that drawer can stay closed for years however when you fall asleep some of these drawers open randomly and that is what you dream. so it could just have been that you had seen this situation happen in a film and your mind has just replaced the characters with yourself and this guy (something along those lines).
but if you are curious about this guy, talk to him, get to know him and see how it goes.
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Every time my teacher is around I blush, how do I stop it?its embarrassing. I have no desire to do anything illegal with my teacher. I just have a huge crush on him and I blush all the time. he's gorgeous and so nice. I have no desire to act on my crush, 'cause you know, it's illegal and I doubt he feels the same way. I blush whenever he talks to me or smiles at me. Yesterday he told me that I had a Pretty smile and I just blushed the whole time and it was embarrassing. Its embarrassing and he knows that I like him. how do I stop blushing or hide it? (link)
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okay, i think pretty much everyone has been through this, i know i have, so all you need to do is, either avoid him as much as you can and the crush will fade or talk to him like to talk to anyone else instead of making it a big deal when you do(i'm just presuming you do this). if you do decide to just act normally around him make sure that when he complements you, you don't just stay silent with a big smile on your face - say thank you or even say something nice back as this will cover up your blush (he'll be too busy listening to what you're saying). are you sure he knows about your crush because not many teachers would then tell you something encouraging like you have a pretty smile.
anyway my point is, this will fade, well not completely you always have a we soft spot for a teacher crush but you won't feel the same.
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Okay, so on facebook, everyone is doing the status' that say; "like this and i will say what i like about you" etc. and when i like my friends what they say about me is well... mean. I mean I know that sometimes they are kidding or whatever, but it really bothers me. They all say i'm mean. I'm not mean. I'm sarcastic but it is funny. It's not mean saracasim. And everyone is saying about how i'm mean etc.
Well I don't want to be precieved as mean. SO! How can I be nicer? I really don't think i'm all that mean, but I am willing to change if it makes peoples preceptions about me change.
I don't know what I'm really asking here. I just want peoples opinions on the matter etc.
However, I don't really want to change my self but I don't know.
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okay well i completely know how you feel because this happened to me, i'm very sarcastic aswell, but it did all work out, my friends know i'm only joking when i say things and realised that i am actually and exceptionally nice person. basically all you have to do is when you make a joke, pay attention to people's reactions so you are aware of who can handle certain jokes and who can't, for those who can't, just learn a bit of self restraint, you know bit your tongue - not literally - when you think of something funny to say. its all just about knowing people, and their sense of humours.
then again did you ever consider that maybe your friends are joking when thay comment on how 'mean' you are? just something to think about. =] x
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Hello 14 f
I was wondering if it was possible for me to learn piano on my own? I have one of those piano sets that the keys light up..well I really want to learn, I don't want to have to pay for lessons... would like to write a song for my bf and play it for him..Really I would like to know? is it really that hard? (link)
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i learnt the piano on my own, then had to write a song for music class. however i would wait until you can you know hold a tune before writing a song, this is merely because there are some notes which just shouldn't be played together, and also so you know how many beats to give a note what timing should the song be in, that kind of thing - just broadening your music knowledge.
anyway just buy yourself some piano books and start playing, it doesn't take long for it to start sounding good. =] have fun, hope he appreciates it. x
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This one really hot guy asked me out and his friend asked meif i like him and i said NO i rather date this really ugly guy but i want to give him my number so we can talk or something and i will never see him again but i don't know how to tell him i like him but i kind of don't want to go out (link)
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just clearly explain to him that you are flattered - i'm just presuming you are - but don't feel that way about him, if he takes it well, then tell him you would like to be friends, if he doesn't take it well, then leave the friend thing for a while because suggesting it when he's embarrassed about being rejected would be like a kick in the nuts.
give it a go with this less attractive guy, there's usually a personality to make up for the lack of apearance. =] x
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so im not the best at startin conversations no matter who im with, an i can tell it annoys me best friend and i dont wont her think im boring. so anyone got any tips on how to start an interesting convo ? (link)
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if she's your best friend i doubt she thinks you're boring, but anyway, how about something simple and pretty pointless like if you saw something funny or shocking on tv, tell her about it, or you could ask her about someting she's doing or if you're still in school talk about a subject or a teacher who really annoys you. remeber consevations merely to pass the time, it doesn't have to be a life changing thing. good luck =] x
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okay i'm 14/f and i already have my ear lobes pierced. today i asked my mom if i could get my cartilage pierced and she went off and said no. i was like wtf? the only reason she had was that ears aren't meant to be pierce their ears there. i even offered to pay to get it done but she still wont budge.. how can i get her to let me get it done? im about to just do it myself.. (link)
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try and find facts on how often little it goes wrong or if you know someone with it ask them, if she sees that there's little risk then she's got no leg to stand on. but can i just say, my friend got it done and she said it really hurt - still hurts actually, especially when she puts and earing in it - and that it so wasn't worth the money, so just think about whether you really do want it or not first. good luck =] x
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17/f..naturally.
I've been with my boyfriend for about five months now, and just recently we became sexually active. We talked about sex quite some times before, and we were both ready and he uses a condom and everything.
My mom is totally ok with him, and she thinks I've been having sex with him for a lot longer than I actually have. But I know she's okay with it and everything, just tells me to be careful and to use a condom, seeing as she knows our relationship is serious and he's a responsible guy.
However, due to the irritating irregularity of my period, but also the fact that I'm now having sex, I'd like to go on the pill.
I know my mom will be okay with it...I just have no idea how to ask her this.
It's not like we have a very open and casual relationship, thus I am finding it hard to ask her about it. I'd rather not do it behind her back, because there's no need for it.
Just looking for any tips or ways on how I should approach her about this?
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you should ask her to go to the doctors with you when you get it. i did that with my mum - we're not exactly hardcore best friends either - and she was really pleased because i wasn't hiding it from her. so yeah, just a little thing like that. or you could outright just say, mum, i'm going on the pill, it doesn't sound like she'll have a hissy fit or anything. good luck =] x
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Last Saturday my friend and I went to the mall, I met up with my boyfriend of a year there, well we were sitting on these couches and a bunch of straight edge kids came up and yelled at us, saying we were stupid and disgusting and needed to get the eff out of the mall. My boyfriend got mad but I said to be mature and let's meet up with his friends then leave.
So his friend met up with us ones 15 ones 16 my boyfriend is seventeen i'm sixteen and my friend is sixteen. We're all relatively young and these guys that kept coming by and yelling at us seemed to be 17 and 18.
Well we decided to leave and we left the mall, all of the sudden they came around the corner and started beating up my boyfriend. Two of them pulled out knives on his friends and the rest just started stomping his face and kicking him.
It was almost eleven and really dark. I tried to pull them off my boyfriend and they pushed me down and kicked me a few times and now I have bruises, my boyfriend has a black eye and a scraped up face along with a few sprained fingers.
Well after they beat us up they all booked it. Everyone keeps talking about it and I want everyone to drop it and just forget about it. It really stresses me out for some reason, because one of them goes to my school, and He talked to my friend today and it really made me nervous, I wanted to cry because I was scared, he was the one that kicked me.
I don't want to confront him and I don't want to tell my boyfriend because I know he'd go after this kid, and I know that another fight would start. I know they have knives so I'm afraid they'd hurt him.
It's been almost a week but I can't stop thinking of it and it gives me terrible anxiety, I feel like crying, I'm afraid I feel overwhelmed. I don't know what to do. I want to leave the situation how it is but I don't want to feel this way.
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you need to tell the police. you can't let these guys do this to someone else because next time those knives may actually be used. no one should have to deal with this, let alone a buch of sixteen year olds so seriously, tell the cops, or at least your parents. xxx
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hi! I have 34dd boobs but i am not really fat or anything. is this a good size to be? do guys like sized 34dd breasts? so far i noticed that it is really hard to find a good bra in my size and so i am feeling like i am the only one in the whole world with boobs this size. :( (link)
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i would say its a fantastic size!! i'm exactly the same! my boyfriends have all loved them, so i would say yeah guys do like them. for bras ou could try bravissimo, new look, next, or even primark does some. x
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I don't understand what it is that if a guy is popular all my friends go crazy about him. He can be ugly as a stump but if he is "popular" then they say he is hott. If the same guy wasn't with the in crowd for some reason then they would be making fun of him.
Why are most girls like this? More importantly if that is how girls are supposed to be why am I not like that? So can anyone give a good answer: why do girls like popular guys?
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most girls like them because if you're going out with a popular you become a popular, and others just like them because they have bad taste -or the guy might actually have a nice personality. the reason you - i didn't either - don't like them is because you aren't that sad. you obviously don't care about popularity which is a very good thing. also tell your friends to get a grip - thats just what i would say! =] x
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i just recently was dumped by my boyfriend. We decided to be friends and im okay with that. But today he gave me a hug, and when he did he asked (kinda whispered in my ear) if i hated him. i said no(we were still hugging). then he kinda 'embraced' me and looked in my eyes and was like, promise? and i felt my stomach drop and i got kinda weak in the knees and it freaked me out. I didn't know what to do so i said 'okay were too close' and i backed away. i think he was kinda offended by that. I honestly dont think i can trust myself to be that close to him yet. i had the urge to kiss him, and i can't do that anymore. He sent me an email asking what was up with it. Do i tell him the truth? Also what do you guys think of the situation.
Thanks a bunch
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i would say you are still in love with him, and i think you should tell him that you just need to keep a bit of space between each other. i don't mean not seeing each other, i just mean don't come into close contact. and as its pretty obvious he still cares he'll want you to - this is going to sound harsh but - get over it so you can be proper friends.x
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okay, im a nineteen year old female and i really want a baby. im NOT old enough, and i know im not ready, but i cant help wanting one. there is no way that i will have one right now, because i dont want to hurt the chances of my child's future, so i WIll wait to have a child. i was just wondering if anyone has ever felt the same excitement for motherhood so young, like me. and, if you have, i was wondering how you deal with it, because its been making me sad lately. (link)
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hahaha when i was 15 and my friend 16, we both had the same feeling! so definately (hopefully haha) normal. =] is there anyone you can offer to babysit for? that might help a little, but me and my friend just used to discuss it - alot! =] the time will come, don't worry. x
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im a fairly good writer, actualy i am quite good at it.
i took a writing class last year and i produced some of my best work their, however, i was not the most delight to teach. i did talk to my fellow classmates, and i did hand in some things late HOWEVER i overal felt i did nice in the class.
i asked the teacher today for a recemmendation and she replied EVILY. She told me i did not improve in her class (to which i replied i got an A- on the final paper... how is that nor imprroving?!?) she just kept trying to pick at minor things i did wrong and it really got to me;so much that i cried. no thats an understatement, i SOBBED. it really hurt to have a teacher who you thought appriciated your work to reject you and in such a harsh way! i mustered up the courage to ask her, when i knew things were a tad rocky with her, the least should could say was a simple no! instead she really hurt my feelings and left a big big scar on me. she really made me question myself and it just really overall hurt.
i spoke to my advisor and she told me shell help me find a different teacher (although i told her NONE like me)
but what are your feelings on what occureD?
(my mother is FURIOUS.)
was she right? wrong?
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its simple - she was unprofessional. but have you ever thought about why the teachers don't like you? think about it, it might help you later on in life. but anyway she was wrong.
by the way, that title is REALLY misleading! i was thinking reject in a different way. =P x
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ok, i'm 19f. i dated this guy [19m] on and off since i was 15, mostly on. we were both virgins when we started dating and still are. he was my 1st for everything else [except kissing] and i was his. we've been broken up since march, but everytime we see each other, which isnt too often because we still have problems, mainly with him always being with this other girl who he claims not to like and says he still wants and loves me, yet shes always saying she loves him and stuff [theyve never even dated], anyway whenever we're actually in each others presense, we're fine with each other and usually fool around.
so fast forward to now. im in college 3 hours from home. two weeks ago i met this guy at a bar and have seen him everyday since. he's so sweet, caters to me in every way he can, and i enjoy spending time with him. he wants to date me, but i dont want to rush into something serious, so we're still "talking". he's been with 17 girls! which he said is a thing of the past and now he wants a relationship, and feels bad because i usually pick at him for having such a big number ha. but he knows im a virgin and is fine with the fact that i told him i wont be giving it up to him any time soon.
the problem is, i've always said i'd regret it if i lost it to anyone but my ex. we have almost 4 years of history together, we were each others first loves. he'd be so disappointed if he knew i gave it up to someone else, and i think i would be too. he was a big part of my life, and i still want to lose it to him. everytime we're together, it almost happens, and last weekend when i saw him, it really almost did, but didn't. i just dont know what to do now. if i lose it to my ex and my new guy finds out, im afraid he'll be crushed and leave me, which i dont want because im really starting to like him a lotttt and could see myself officially dating him pretty soon. on the other hand, my ex doesnt know about my new guy. and im afraid if i lose it to him and he finds out ive been talking to this other guy all along, he'll be pissed. but im more concerned about the latter. what to do here? by the way, im not trying to rush anything. i am 19, and it's bound to happen sooner or later. (link)
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okay, in my opinion you basically answered your own question, i'm referring to "he WAS a big part of my life". Your ex is exactly that, your EX, so i don't think you should be specifically holding out for him as there is a reason you broke up in the first place. Also, ths other guy sounds so nice, the fact that he's willing to hold on until you're ready, shows that he does like you and guys that sweet i'm afraid to say, aren't that common. Now, i'm just going to presume here but you and your ex may fool around every so often but you're not going to get back together, where as there is a very good chance you and the other guy are going to get together, and you sound very compatible so i say give it a go. =] long answer, i know but i had to explain myself. the other guy! x
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I'm 14, in 10th grade now, and I'm due to have my cervical cancer vaccination, Gardasil, next friday, but since a girl died from it recently I've been looking into it more. I'm now having second thoughts because of some of the facts. Turns out that the Gardasil vaccination only helps to prevent four of the HPV strains out of over a hundred. That doesn't sound like such great odds to me anyway. Out of 700,000 girls 1,300 have had adverse side effects which includes paralysis, sight problems seizures, and sudden death. They haven't researched what the vaccine may do to you in the long-term future either...like the morning sickness shot they gave pregnant women years ago, that left babies deformed in the end! I'm afraid that this shot may cause other serious problems years later for me. I'm really scared about having it done! They say it only lasts 6 years so I don't really see the point in having it done if I'll be 20 when it wears off and haven't even had sex before then. I plan on waiting until I'm married before I have sex anyway. It's just my beliefs. Please help me figure out what I should do about the shot! What should I do? I don't want to do it now but I feel like I should or something...but then again I don't...ugh!!!!! HELP! (link)
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the girl that died had underlying health conditions by the way. i just got the injection and nothing happened, it wasn't even sore. the side effects aren't as serious as those - those ones are VERY rare., as for long term damage, they have made sure that nothing in it is harmful long term. there are other ways of getting the cancer, its not just through sex. also, any amount of protetion is better than none right?
so, all in all i think you should get it.
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It's been a difficult situation so I wanted to see what some anonymous people think about it. I'm a 21 year old guy and there's a girl that's been really kingly and wants to go out with me. I'm having trouble just avoiding her and I'm really not into her, but it seems she's kind of obsessed with me.
The problem is I've recently been spending time with her best friend which I'm really getting close to. I know her friend is interested, but I'm hesitant and she is also to get into a relationship because I don't want to be in the way of their friendship with each other.
I feel like bad to be messing up their friendship, but on the other hand I feel it's not my fault and I was never interested in the first girl and it should be ok to go out with whoever I want.
I want to know what people think of the situation and how they view it. Would you try not to cause a bunch of conflict or just go with it and see what happens??
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i don't think it would be wrong for YOU to do anything but it would be wrong for the friend to do that to the obsessed one. i guess it actually would be wrong for you to make the friend even contemplate doing that to the other one. so basically, i'm sorry to say this as you seem a really nice guy - because you were actually worrying about hurting someone - but i think you should stay clear.
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Recently, my friend has been talking about how "hot" he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room having excuses just to walk by her, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and "jerk off" at any pictures of her in them. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to molest him he'd be all for it. This sounds extremely creepy and unhealthy to me? I always thought a teacher is someone you respect, not look at in that way. Is this normal? Should I do something about it. (link)
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it is a bit extreme, but nearly everone has a wee thing for at least one teacher. my friend has a thing for our chemistry teacher, i actually had a sex dream about my english teacher - seriously!- and i know someone else with a thing for his biology teacher. so, i can safely say it's normal. but if its freaking you out just tell him to shut it. xxx
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do teens do it will i be able to stop is this wrong (link)
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yes teens do it as it is perfectly natural. it's called experamenting. there is no need feel like you have to stop, but if you want to just concentrate on something that will occupy your mind and the urges will fade.
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