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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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my dog is still peeing on my carpet how do i discipline him
Never, ever rub a dog's nose in it's pee! It won't work as it will not associate your actions with what it's done. All you're likely to achieve is to make it scared of you.
You don't say how old the dog is, so if it's a puppy it needs training, if it's an older dog it needs retraining. An older dog will quite often do this if it's been upset and feels the need to mark it's territory. It may be worth taking him to the vets just to check out that there's nothing wrong, something like cystitis can cause this, even males can get this.
Take the dog outside regularly so his 'tank' is emptied often. Praise him every time he does his business outside. Clean the carpet with either a preparation bought from a pet store or you could try undiluted white vinegar, bicarbonate of soda or a clear alcohol. Blot up the excess first and as fast as you can after the 'accident'. If your dog keeps returning to the same place to pee, after cleaning it, put something in way whilst it dries, then either put a bowl of dog food there, (they don't like eating in a toilet any more than we do), or spray the area with citronella. They hate the smell.
Remember to always treat an animal as you would like to be treated. Good luck.
I'm 16 and have had a yeast infection since I was at least 7 or 8. I've tried monistat,creams, and a prescribed medication. I wan to know how rare this is. How else an I treat it? Can it cause infertility? Does it reduce sexual simulation? Any additional information.
Yeast infections, Candida, are quite common and can usually be treated with over the counter medications or prescriptions; however, occasionally there will be a persistent one that is hard to shift or you can develop a recurring one. It may also affect different parts of the body and occurs when the natural 'bad' bacteria we all have overwhelms the 'good' bacteria. It affects men as well as women and can be passed during sexual contact, and so, can be passed back and forth. I'm assuming, due to your references, that it is vaginal in nature. These infections love the dark, moist environment provided here.
Firstly, you need to ensure that you are extremely careful with hygiene 'down below'. Always wipe your bottom front to back to avoid fecal transference. Secondly, whenever possible, wash the area after every time you've had a bowel movement, again, front to back. Wear cotton undies, not man made fibres, as cotton allows the area to breathe. Wear trousers and tights (pantyhose) as little as possible for the same reason. You need to get as much air to the area as you can.
Diet is also a big contributor to persistent Candida. The general rule is you need to stay on a special diet one month for every year you've had the problem. ANY slip-ups and you set yourself back. It is a very hard diet to follow and needs a strong sense of willpower to follow as there are always temptations out there. The benefits from following it though will hopefully outweigh the hardships.
There are various acidophilus preparations you can try. These reintroduce healthy bacteria to your body and help with rebalancing. Candida is acidic in nature so all foods that are also acidic make things worse. Avoiding sugar as much as possible should help as it feeds the bad bacteria, you could even find yourself craving sugary products. Now, if you're ready for the list, here goes.
AVOID All sweets including hidden sweeteners in processed foods, such as soups, all fruit and fruit juice. Avoid grains such as prepared flake cereals sprouted grain cereals such as: Amaranth, Buckwheat, Corn, Millet, Rice, Rye, Spelt, Wheat.
Avoid Granola, Pearl barley, Instant oats, Cornmeal, degerminated Hominy grits, degerminated Microwave popcorn Blue corn meal
Pasta Pasta is flour and water, the flour may be white bread flour and it may be durum flour made from semolina. All types of noodles are made from the same base and they should all be cut out of the diet, with Bufin, the Japanese noodles, Ramen instant noodles, farina, semolina and white flour noodles and pastas.
Baked goods and Breads Avoid all cakes, pastries, cookies doughnuts or other processed baked food containing sugar. This list includes white bread, or any bread containing wheat, which includes parathas, nanas bread, pita bread, white flour tortillas, wheat dough tortillas, sourdough, or any other ethnic bread made from wheat. Mochi the sweet unleavened bread made from brown rice should be avoided.
Legumes Avoid beans and peas with sweeteners, bean sprouts, tempeh which a type of fermented tofu, tofu and textured vegetable protein.
Nuts & Seeds Coconut, Peanuts, Pistachios, Walnuts
Dairy Products Buttermilk, Soymilk (sweetened), All kinds of cheeses, Cottage cheese, Kefir, Milk, Sour cream Creme fraiche Sweetened yogurt.
Fruit Never eat dried fruit, and when you start the Candida cleanse diet it is best to avoid all fruit because of the fructose the sugar it contains. Once you have eliminated the current Candida infection then eat fruit with a moderate amount of sugar. Low sugar fruits are apples, grapefruit, melon, and strawberries.
Beverages Alcohol, Cereal beverages, Coffee both regular and decaffeinated Fruit juices Soft drinks including the diet soft drinks. Processed tea drinks such as lemon tea. All fruit teas, Black tea
Condiments and Sauces: No Ketchup or catsup or any type of tomato sauce Cream sauces such as Alfredo Steak sauce, NO Capers, Dried or powdered garlic, Miso, Dried or powdered onion, Pickles or chutneys, which include anything made with sugar and distilled vinegar. Spices, Distilled vinegar Sauerkraut.
Proteins: Meat products such as beef chicken or pork have added antibiotics and hormones and they should be avoided if you want to eat meat then eat free-range organic products. Smoked meats such as bacon, sausages and salami products such as pepperoni have added sugar and should be cut out of your diet.
Vegetables:
Avoid - Beetroot Canned tomatoes Carrots Cucumber skins, Mushrooms (all types), Potato skins, Prepared soups, Canned tomatoes.
Now the good news on what you can eat.
Beans, Broccoli, Brussels sprouts Cabbage, Cauliflower, Celery, Cucumbers Green pepper, Kale, Lettuce Onion, radishes, Parsley, Peas, Rocket or arugulla Spinach, Tomatoes.
Foods you should definitely eat when you have Candida:
GRAINS in moderation Whole Amaranth and flour; Whole Barley, Flour and hatomugi; Buckwheat flour and groats; Undegerminated Corn meal (fine or coarse grind); Masa Harina; Popcorn (air popper), Whole Millet and flour; Oat bran, flour, Groats, Quick; whole Quinoa and flour; Wild Rice; Brown Rice (long, med. or short grains), Brown Basmati Rice, Texmati Brown Rice, Wehani Brown Rice Rye flour, Groats, Cream of rye cereal; Whole Spelt and flour; Whole Teff and flour; Wheat Berries, Unprocessed or miller's wheat bran, Bulgur, cracked, Durum, Graham wheat flour, Whole wheat flour. Corn, Quinoa, Saifun (Japanese noodles), Soba (buckwheat), Udon (Japanese noodles), Whole wheat.
Acceptable BAKED/PREPARED PRODUCTS:
Any whole grain unsweetened, unyeasted bread product such as chapatis, whole wheat flour, corn chips, quick breads, unsweetened rice cakes or crackers, tortillas made from brown, corn or whole wheat. Ryvita contains no yeast.
LEGUMES: Dried or frozen Black-eyed peas, Chickpeas or garbanzo beans, Lentils, Soybeans, Soy flakes, Split peas
Acceptable dairy: Unsweetened soymilk. Almond milk Plain yogurt with added acidophilus culture.
NUTS & SEEDS: Almonds, Brazil, Cashews, Hazel, Macadamia, Pecans, Pine nuts, Poppy, Pumpkin, Sesame (tahini), Sunflower.
Small occasional amounts of fresh lemon, lime, tomato, and aubergine (eggplant).
Eat Vegetables: Beans, Broccoli, Brussels sprouts Cabbage, Cauliflower, Celery, Cucumbers, Green pepper, Kale, Lettuce, Onion, radishes, Parsley, Peas, Rocket or arugulla Spinach, Tomatoes,
BEVERAGES: Almond milk Mugicha, Toasted whole barley, Coffee substitute (without malt), Unsweetened soymilk, Unsweetened Taheebo Pau d'Arco tea, Water (plain).
CONDIMENTS AND SEASONINGS: Chicken broth without sweetener, Fresh garlic, Fresh ginger, Fresh herbs, Fresh onion, Pepper, Salt, Tamari (unfermented soy sauce), Raw organic apple cider vinegar
ANIMAL PROTEINS: Beef, buffalo, caribou, chicken, deer, duck, eggs, elk, all types of fish, frog legs, game hen, goat, goose, grouse (partridge), guinea fowl, moose, mutton, peafowl, pheasant, pigeon (squab), pork, quail, and turkey.
I have included American foods as well as I don't know where you live.
Antibiotics are bad news for Candida sufferers. So if you have any conditions that really necessitate you taking them on a regular basis, you need to try to balance out the effect on the yeast infection as quickly as possible when the course has finished. Talk to your doctor to see if there is a lower dose you could take or an alternative. If you have a compromised immune system this can also promote the growth of 'bad' bacteria. Eat unsweetened, plain yoghurt and you can also apply it to the affected area. Exercise will boost your immune system.
Pure garlic or garlic capsules are great for fighting Candida, swallowing it or inserting a garlic clove every few hours, probably when you're not going anywhere for a while would be best! It's a natural antibiotic and it hates Candida. You can also try apple cider vinegar, one cup in a bath of hot water. Don't apply directly to the skin, it will hurt more than you could imagine! Do not use any other type of vinegar. Drink LOTS of water, non chlorinated and preferably use a filtration system. You may need to take multi-vitamins whilst on this diet to ensure you are fully covered, but check that there are no added sugars.
Birth control tablets can keep the problem going, so if you are sexually active, talk to your doctor about alternatives. Don't douch or use feminine deodorants, these make it worse.
If this problem has caused you to develop vaginitis, a thick white or yellowish odourless discharge, it can cause itching in the area and burning or pain during intercourse, so yes, it can be a problem here.
The really bad news is that left untreated it has been indicated in causing infertility and female related problems. Your doctor will be able to talk you through all this. If you do have a sexual partner, it is very important that he is treated at the same time or you will never be rid of it.
I hope this has helped, a rather longer answer than I suspect you expected, but it is a complex issue.
Good luck with this problem and I do hope you successfully rid yourself of it permanently.
Months ago my best friend confided in me that his marriage was not going as planned. I felt bad for this because he's really a good guy. I decided to keep my eyes opened when it came to their relationship to try and figure out what the fuss was all about because he was very confused. I know that since then he has talked about his wife coming home really upset after work, staying out much later than expected, not having sex with him for weeks, and other clues to her possibly cheating.
A week ago I was out and actually saw his wife. My girlfriend was actually the one that pointed her out to me as we were dining. His wife was all over another man, kissing on him and everything. I didn't recognize the man at all.
I actually went outside and grabbed a camera that we keep in the car for road trip moments and took a few photos of them kissing and leaving together hand in hand. The photos are surprisingly clear and I am still shocked that we bumped into this scene.
Should I tell my best friend?
It's quite possible that neither of them would thank you for interfering and you could end up being blamed for maybe ending a marriage, however unfair that may sound.
If, however, you feel you do need to say something, talk to the wife about it. Tell her what you saw and ask her to talk about it. There is always a chance it wasn't what it appeared to be. Or there could be severe problems at home of which you are totally unaware. Even if she is having an affair, it is up to her and her alone to tell her husband. You can only be supportive and wait.
My friend gave me a bunch of green tomatoes. I am not really fond of them and would like them to be ripe and red. Is there a way I can ripen them now?
Put them on a window sill or anywhere they will catch the sun. They should ripen in a couple of days with enough sunlight.
I use to love the Disney Channel and could sit for hours watching it. On the weekends I would be glued to that television! When I was little I watched things like The Care Bears, My Little Pony, and The Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh but later I watched The Proud Family, That's So Raven, and Even Stevens (Shia LaBeouf is awesome). Now, I can't stand to watch that stuff! Especially with the Jonas brothers and Hannah Montana / Miley Cyrus. I can't even STAND to watch The Suite Life of Zack & Cody!
I'm 14 though and, like I'm saying, I use to LOVE Disney. Why don't I any more? My friends like it...
Put simply, you're growing up! Children's programmes no longer hold you as you need more in your life. Your friends will catch you up but it sounds like you're the leader in this!
hey, i live in the uk, and i basically want a car. i don't give a shit how comforatble it is, or what it looks like, as long as it wont cost me much. it can be used, dumped on the side of the road, for all i care. i just want want it to be cheap and not give me hassle for repairs. oh and has a low fuel consumption, if possible. i dont care if its a rusty crap box. really!
The problem with a cheap car is that it will be old and will probably cost more in repairs. Low fuel consumption is also an issue with older cars. The newer ones tend to be designed to be lower on this.
Look for a small car with an engine size of no more than 1.2cc as that will use less fuel and should be lower on insurance. If you find one that's around 10 years old, so an X or Y reg, that should also help with the price.
You could look at Corsa's, Seat's and Micra's as they are good starter cars. The only other problem with a 'rust bucket' is that not only is it likely to cost a lot in repairs just to keep it roadworthy, it might not pass it's MOT. This is compulsary for any car over 3 years old. If the police were to stop you and you did not have the relevent paperwork you could end up with a fine, the car could be seized and your insurance would go through the roof. You also run the risk of a ban.
How do they take the animal fat from animals to make the soaps if it is something that is animal friendly and not tested on animals or not killing the animals to make it? Thank you for the clarification.
Any soap that contains animal fat is NOT animal friendly as the animal has been killed and this is a 'by product' of the meat industry. Therefore anything claiming to be animal friendly that does contain animal fat is not being honest. Most products have been tested on animals at some point. Those that have not are usually labelled as such. There is a five year rolling law that some companies go by, which means that they only use ingredients that have not been tested on animals in the last five years. There are alternatives that are used by ethical companies and should be relatively easy to find, depending on where you live. They will be clearly labelled and advertised as such.
Take a look at these.
http://beauty.suite101.com/article.cfm/animal_friendly_beauty_products
http://www.geocities.com/jillserena/crueltyfreelinks.html
http://www.caringconsumer.com/
There are many more sites that will give you information and you should be able to find an outlet near you that will sell animal friendly products.
How will 2 male cats get along, one is 14 years old and one would be 6 months old?
It's always difficult introducing another cat to the home of an established pet, but it will partly depend on their individual natures.
Have they both been neutured? If not, it may be a good idea to have this done as it will not only calm them down bit will avoid certain health issues in later life. You will need to keep the new car shut away for a few days until he settles down and feels happier about the move. The first cat will hang around as he can smell the new one and is keeping an eye out to see why there is an invader on his territory. The resident cat has been placed in a potentially dangerous position, (according to him) and will possibly be stressed for a while.
This is likely to be a long process so you need to be prepared to have patience with them. You will also need to keep the new cat indoors for at least a couple of weeks so that he settles down, accepts his new home and won't disappear, never to be seen again as soon as he is let out!
They need to stay separated for the time being as forced interaction could lead to some serious problems. When the resident cat is also feeling more settled with the situation, you start off by stroking the other cat with a soft piece of material and then stroking it on first cat, then vice versa. This will get them used to scent of each other without meeting. As they groom themselves they will 'taste' the other one's scent as it mingles with their own. They are still likely to be upset but should calm down after a few days of doing this repeatedly.
Next, you could feed them on each side of a connecting door. Start off with the bowls some distance away and over several days, gradually move them closer to the door. They should start to accept each other's scent and associate it with the very enjoyable occupation of eating. Eventually, you could prop the door open enough for them to see each other, (but not wide enough for them to get through), as they are eating. The first time you do this, it may be worth feeding them a special treat so that they are more interested in the food than each other.
When they seem happy with this, try switching the cats to the other's space for a day or a night. This gives them the chance to have a really good sniff around and get more used to the smell of each other. If they are ok with this and settle with each other's bedding, you're ready for the next step.
When you are happy they are ok with this, you can let them see and smell each other without being close enough to feel threatened. Whether this is in the arms of family members, trusted friends or through a gate is your choice. However, they both need to feel safe at this time.
If they then accept this and you're sure they're happier with each other, you could let them meet up on neutral territory where you can intervene if things look like getting nasty. Maybe a bathroom or another room that the original cat does not regard as 'his'? Don't worry if they have a small disagreement, they need to set their own boundaries and learn each others signals. If they decide to have a full-on fight, don't try to pick them up, you're likely to get damaged. Have a water squirter to hand and spray them. It doesn't hurt, they probably won't realise it came from you and may even associate it with fighting! Give them some time to calm down before trying again. Let them have their own bolt holes to go to.
If all this does not work and they are going to continue to fight, sadly, you may need to look at rehoming the more recent of them.
If this does work and they do decide to tolerate each other, ensure they have a litter tray each and they are kept clean. You also need to make sure that whichever one is going to be the dominant cat is not able to ambush the other one when they are in the litter tray. This is when cats are at their most vulnerable as they can't run away when they are toileting. They will also need separate feeding and water bowls, with you keeping an eye on them, to start with to check that the dominant one does not take the food of the other.
You could also look at having several toys as a distraction for them and a variety of sleeping places at different heights. They need opportunities to be able to escape from each other when they want to.
Lastly, keep in mind that cats are very territorial and this process could take weeks or even months. Even when you think they are settling in together, it may not wise to give them free range for several months when there is no one at home. Put the addition back in a room on his own until someone is there to keep an eye on them.
You will need to put a lot of time and patience into this but if it works it will be worth it. You'll have a happy home with two cats that get on with each other.
Recently my dog developed and itch on the upper part of her belly, when she stands up its almost as is she feels something biting her and darts from the spot to get away, i found a couple fleas on her but then gave her a thurough flea bath and she has been getting the over the counter flea and tick killer/treater for the past 4 months, she has little blackish/brown specks on her belly but again i havent found maybe 4 fleas on her and i check her over everytime i get my hands on her, any ideas what this could be, its killing me to see her like this and not be able to do anything. please help!
A good way to test if she has fleas is to put some water on the specks that you have found. A moist tissue will work. If it comes away stained red, it's fleas, as the specks are dried blood, flea poo!
If you have found four fleas on her, there are going to be quite a few more that you've not spotted. The person who said that the fleas will be in bedding, carpeting, etc is correct as fleas only go on an animal to feed, they live and breed in your soft furnishings. They can lay up to 50 eggs a day, so you can see, if you have even one flea, you have a problem!
Over the counter flea killers are not normally very effective as fleas build up a resistance to the ingredients quite quickly and so they become useless. Your vet should be able to recommend the best to get. There are also flea growth retardents, which stop the eggs from hatching. However, the problem with these is that as the incubation period can be rather long, (up to eight months), you would need to spray every couple of weeks to stop the problem, which could get expensive.
A natural way to get rid of them is to use salt. Sprinkling salt on your carpets etc will dry out the eggs so that they won't hatch. This would need to be done and vacuumed every three days for at least nine days as flea eggs hatch every three days. Nine days would take you through a fleas life cycle. As above though, the incubation period is very long so would need to be taken into account. I can't guarantee how effective salt would be but it does avoid chemicals and cost.
If your dog does have a flea allergy, one flea is all it takes. If it gets any worse with symptoms like licking herself into raw patches, scratching herself raw etc, she will need to see a vet as she then becomes at risk to secondary skin infections which will need antibiotic cream. Bath her regularly whilst dealing with the flea problem as this does get rid of some of the fleas and can sooth her skin. But the longer you leave the problem, the worse it is going to get.
I was instructed to give my dog hydrogen peroxide to induce vomiting and I gave him way too much. Now he is vomiting blood. I can't afford to go to a Vet, but I am extremely concerned. Is this life threatening or is there something I can do at home for him?
Who instructed you to give an animal hydrogen peroxide to swallow? This is extremely dangerous and potentially life threatening. If a dog needs to be made to vomit, and it would have to be a serious problem if this were the case, there are other ways to do this without causing further harm to him.
Whether you can afford it or not, your dog needs to see a vet asap, or you may not have a dog much longer. Vomiting blood is not a good sign, please stop treating him yourself and get him to a vet?
My 1yr old german shepard puppy scratches her hair off and creates scabbed up bald spots, but when we check her, she does not have fleas.
She is an inside dog so she hasnt been exposed too much to the outside unless its to go potty and thats it.
We dont hve the cash to take her to the vet just yet, but i was wondering if anyone has any ideas on what it could be.
could it be psycological? mites?
does anyone know of any over the counter or department store medicines that could help ease her itch and heal her sores??
desperate
It could certainly be due to allergies, food, environment, shampoo etc and all of the previous suggestions are really good and these should always be checked first.
However, I just wanted to ask something. You say she is a 1 year old GSH who is an indoor dog. How much exercise does she get and does she have loads of playtime. Sometimes animals will lick themselves raw through boredom or stress. GSD's need a fair amount of exercise and, as they are an intelligent breed, a lot of intellectual stimulus as well.
If you try all the allergy advice first, Wafcol Salmon and Potato is an excellent anti allergenic food and comes in different sizes,but if the problem persists, you may have to consider the alternative. There are playballs where you put dog treats inside and the dog has to work out how to get them out. It can keep them occupied for hours. The best exercise though would be taking her for walks a couple of times a day. If this is not possible, throwing toys for her to chase could substitute this.
I've included a couple of websites that give other suggestions for indoor exercise.
http://www.helium.com/knowledge/42401-indoor-exercise-for-dogs
http://www.dogchannel.com/dog-activities/dog-exercise/article_21216.aspx
I'm 17 female. Ok so for the past 2 weeks everwhere i go i have been really hot. I can be in a room that is 50 degrees and im still not cooled off. I move around too much and i start sweating like crazy.... I used to never be like this.... It used to take alot for me to get hot like this....
It could be a low grade virus causing it. As it's been going on for two weeks you should get it checked out just to make sure it's nothing more serious.
We can't diagnose here as we're not doctors, we can only give you some ideas.
Those pills (vitro) or whatever do you know if they'll work for someone who has had chlamydia in the past. I have a boyfriend and weve been trying to get pregnant for awhile and nothing works. I know it has something to do with my past STD but is there anyway I cant fix it?
Without knowing the exact name of the pills it's difficult to do any research; however, I found a few websites that have said that the chances of pregnancy can be affected by Clamydia.
You really do need to see a doctor to get a proper diagnosis of your chances and for specific help in this area. Due to the huge increase in Clamydia sufferers, 1 in 10, a lot of work is going into this at the moment.
I've included a link with general information and tips on this subject but you really do need medical guidance. I wish you well for a future pregnancy.
http://www.drspock.com/faq/0,1511,15315,00.html
I am a Christian and last night it occured to me that God may not hear me, as I pray 'in my head' rather than out loud. Is my theory correct?
If you go along with the theory of an all seeing, all hearing, all knowing God, then your prayers would be heard whether spoken or thought.
i'm from hongkong;
male 28 yrs.
after two years of good merried life my wife told me that she slept with boyfriend during college days and was not virgin when got merried ,
however i was virgin before the wedding, i feel cheated ,and do not feel to love my wife any more ,please help?
How have the last two years been? Did you love her before you found out?
If you think you no longer love your wife because she had a relationship before she met you I don't think your love can be that strong. You should love her despite what happened in the past, not fall out of love with her because of it. If you had had a relationship in college would you expect her to accept it?
There is absolutely no reason for you to feel cheated. She probably didn't tell you before because she was worried how you would react. It seems her fears have been justified.
Your wife is so much more than that incident. Think about why you married each other, has she changed?
If you are going to let this ruin your lives together you need to think long and hard about your next move. It's not as though this happened when you were already together. Accept the fact and move on. Life is too short to hold onto things like this.
Enjoy your lives together and make the most of each day. Forget the past and don't let it have a hold over you. There's nothing you can do about it now.
Well this has been happening to me for as long as I can remember and its complicated but I'll try my best to explain so you guys can tell me what to do, because I am so confused, but I'm 16 years old now, and about every 3 months I wake up in the morning feeling dizzy. This lasts for about 5 days on the average, and it really is terrible, I can't get out of bed otherwise, if I'm walking I start to get naueasous(and if I keep walking will eventually throw up) and I start to get hot, to almost a sweating point, so I pretty much have to miss school and lay in bed the whole time. This has been going on forever, and no matter what I do it doesn't go away. I can kind of feel it coming on a few days before so I know when its going to happen, and I know its gotta happen sometime this week. Next week is warped tour and I can't bail it, so I'm worried its going to interfere with warped and I'm so upset over it, I just want it to stop happening to me, I can't live like this, I just dont know what to do and I need help. My mom doesnt even know I still get these feelings, because she would make me go to school when I got them and I would end up throwing up in school. She doesnt think its anything serious and doesnt believe me, and tells me to tough it out. But she doesnt understand, this isnt something you can tough out. Also: I noticed that my right eye gets kind of inflamed, from the inside of my eye to the part where color starts is an inflamed red stripe. I want the dizziness to stop forever, and I want to live my life, I need quick relief, somebody, help me please?
You really do need to see a doctor. If it's been going on this long it seems unlikely it's going to go away without proper treatment.
No one here is going to be able to diagnose you and it would be wrong to try. You appear to be old enough to go to a doctor by yourself, but not knowing which country you're from, it's hard to say what the rules are. In the UK children from the age of 12 can go unaccompanied to a doctor.
You cannot keep trying to 'tough it out', this needs medical attention. I'm all in favour of not giving in easily but you need to know when it's the right time to see a doctor, and this is it!
Does you mother know about your eye? Maybe if you showed her that and told her about all the other symptoms that are re-curring, she may realise something needs to be done.
Warped tour may be important to you at this point but your long term health should be of more concern. Please do everything you can to see a doctor and get this sorted out. If it turns out to be nothing at least it should stop you worrying.
Two Terrible Two questions...
Can you explain what the terrible twos are, exactly?
My toddler is not two, yet his behavior makes me wonder if this is what the terrible twos is.
And if it he is experiencing the terrible twos at not yet a year and a half old, do I seriously have this to look forward to for another year?
He's a very sweet boy, but my word, does he have his moments...
Please... Share your experiences and your advice.
I just don't know what to do some days.
The terrible twos and threes - I remember those with no regrets. I had twins so double the angst!
From what the doctor said to me, you should take heart. You are raising a child who is not afraid to question or push boundaries. Despite the trauma it may be causing you at the moment, this is worth it. He is not afraid to express himself.
He has started to realise there is more to his little world than mum, wants to explore and find his feet, but because of his age and limitations, discovers it's not so easy. Then he gets frustrated and takes it out on the people he feels safest with. Really, it's a compliment, if he didn't feel safe he wouldn't do it!
Children seem to be developing faster these days, so they may very easily start the tantrums earlier than two. It can go on past two but it should start to ease up by the mid threes. However, be prepared for it to go on longer if he is an emotional little soul. He sounds perfectly normal to me, just hard work for now. The time will pass and it honestly will get easier. It just doesn't seem like it at the moment.
I used distraction with mine, sometimes the more bizarre the thought the better it worked. You can get to be quite an accomplished actress with the "Can you see that enormous pink cat by the hedge? Oh, you've just missed it, if you keep very quiet and keep looking it may come back". By the time they've got bored looking for a mythical large pink cat, they've forgotten the tantrum and what it was about.
I also played lots of learning games with them. They've only recently realised that this was what they were, and they're 23 now. Some of the earliest of the games I played was to put the names of household objects on the items, television on the tv, radiator on the radiator etc. They learned the look of the word along with seeing what it was on. We could then play 'find what starts with this letter'. Flash cards distracted them too and music. We danced a lot, they can't have a tantrum when they're jumping up and down to Nelly the Elephant by the Toy Dolls. :)
Here's the link if you want to try it.
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=eti21PVHXrg&feature=related
Okay, so my family has a 4 year old female yellow lab. She is a part of our family but is locked in the kitchen when we have to go out or when we go to sleep. Many times lately my parents have walked her at let's say 4 then at 6 found a little puddle of pee on the floor. She is trained not to and these past few months have been the first time since she was only a small puppy. My mom called the vet and the vet told her it is probably just the dog being spiteful. Now my parents are getting fed up and saying that they are giving her away soon. I love my dog so much but I don't know what to do to make her stop peeing on the floor. Help?
I very much doubt the dog is being spiteful as that is a human emotion and alien to dogs. Generally when dogs urinate indoors it is either because they have a medical problem or they are trying to tell you something.
If she has not actually been seen by the vet, I would suggest having her checked out first to rule out medical issues. It could be a UTI and easily treated. I would however, consult a different vet to the one who gave the diagnosis of spite. To say that shows a distinct lack of professionalism and lack of insight.
If there is no underlying medical cause, you will need to look at what is bothering her. Have there been any changes lately that could have unsettled her? Different people in the house, different furniture, decorating, other animals etc?
Is she spending too much time alone and is feeling isolated? Dogs are pack animals and do not do well on their own. A human family becomes its pack and wants to be with them, where it feels safe. A stray dog will usually find others of it's kind to become a pack. This is a basic instinct that you could (unknowingly) be depriving her from fulfilling.
Any of this would be enough for her to mark her territory in an effort to make herself feel a little happier with her surroundings.
I can understand your parents becoming fed up with this problem but investigations should be made before making any final decision.
In the meantime, spend as much time with her as possible, take her for walks regularly so that she can empty her bladder. Make a fuss of her and play with her, let her feel loved and secure and that may do the trick.
My son is 16 months old. I've been tossing the idea around to start trying the whole potty training bit to see if he's ready.
Is that too young?
Any pointers and tips would also be appreciated.
I've found this web site with a quiz to see if your child is ready. It's a fun way to find out.
http://quiz.ivillage.co.uk/uk_parenting/tests/potty.htm
i have a pet duck that i would like to housebreak. he comes inside with me and lays in my bed and on the couch with me and it would be nice if we could do that without him crapping all the time. someone told me that you can use cat litter and train it like that. does anyone else have any other ideas? thanks!
I've found this web site which may give you some useful information on house ducks. It also lists house geese so you'll need to scroll past that section.
http://www.thegoosesmother.com/