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16/female
normally i dont need help but this is like serious haha. my exboyfriend & i went out for 2 years.. im finally over him after 6 months. of course there are a cute guy in atleast 1 of my classes, but most of the cute ones are in honors.. surpisingly. haha well this one boy lets call him shae, is in my math class but sits on the other side of the room. hes REALLY quiet, but i kinda am too cause i dont talk to alot of people in that class. ive only talked to him twice lol. i asked him if he talks and hes like yeah i do i just have no friends in this class.. and i asked if he got a haircut and he said yes and i told him i liked itt lmao. i really dont know how i'm spose to talk to this boy who sits on the other side of class.. same with alot of other boys. & we have assigned seats. s0o how do i talk to the boys that arent in my classes.. or sit on the other side of the room lol =) (link)
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assigned seats are horrible first of all.
and good job on getting over your ex :]
but you can probably figure something out.
first, try to get to class earlier so you can strike up a conversation before class. also stay a little behind so you can run into him after class. and say did you get that at all cause i didn't. and if he does maybe you can ask for him to help you later, hopefully getting his number or screename. another thing you could possible do is find out who they hang out with so you can find out if his friends are in any of your classes so you can become cool with them and then they can introduce you.
hopefully something works for you.
& if these don't work just try things your friends have done to get with thier guys.
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Ok so I just broke up with my boyfriend this weekend. We're both 16 and it had been a 3 month relationship. I told him we couldn't keep being together because I don't treat him the way I should. I would always act distant towards him and never very enthusiastic. At first I didn't but gradually the feelings began to fade and the attraction wasn't there anymore. It all seemed very routine to me but I couldn't bare to let him go. We've become extremely close in the past months. But I finally did the deed, and now at school he's all alone. I was the person he would hang out with everyday but I guess he doesn't want to do that anymore. Every time I see him it really hurts to know that it's really over and that it's because of me. And it doesn't help that I know that he is extremely upset about the whole thing. I spoke to him today but only briefly because I saw him at our locker. We both agreed to still be best friends but that isn't happening at the moment. I know we probably need time away from eachother now, but I don't know what is the best way to handle this situation. This is my first real lengthy relationship so I've never been in this situation before. But I care so deeply about him and I just want us to both be happy. :/ (link)
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it's going to be hard for a while because he obviously had strong feelings for you. so he probably can't handle being around you and won't for a while. its easier if you just give him his space. eventually he should be comfortable with you again, and then you guys can work on having a friendship. it's going to be hard to stay away from him but you have to do it, for him. just imagine if it was you in his place. give him some time and try to become friends again.
hope i helped.
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18, female.
sooo i've been in a messed up situation for about three years now. i have a good guy friend, known him for years now and have always had a crush on him but he's been going out with his girlfriend who i dislike of three years now. within the past few months they have taken a break, got back together and then broke up and after a month are now back together. i hate how he puts me through this though because he always say "wanna fuck" and hes being serious. he knows im a virgin, he's only had sex with his girlfriend yet he still wants to get with me. i have NOT done anything with him. but im done putting up with his crap, i'm not doing this anymore. i'm not getting hurt, i'm not waiting for him to be done with her. how can i let him know i DONT care anymore, how can i show him he wont always have me there when he cant be with her 24/7 or when they're fighting, or when they're on a break? i mean yeah i still want to be FRIENDS with him but i'm done with wanting to be more. next time he asks if i want to have sex im just thinking about saying, sorry i dont have sex with people who have GIRLFRIENDS, but i'll let you know how it is when i have sex with someone else ;) just to piss him off. i want to say something like that to get back at him for all the stupid stuff he's done to me. but i can just see him acting like he doesnt care and be like "ok" or just not say anything back. how can i get to him? soon i'm getting my hair dyed, i'm going to dress REALLY cute whenever i'm going to see him just to make him mad and realize that theres more out there than his annoying girlfriend. any other suggestions? (link)
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the best way to show im you don't care is to stop talking to him. like ignore him. it will really get to him. and i know you still want to be friends, which will happen. cause then he'll eventually start apoliogizing, play hard to get for a while. and then you can evntually forgive him and be friends with him. but thats it. make that clear to him.
henaaa :]
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Ok All i have been doing to far is answering advice so i figure for once Id ask it. K well Me and my Ex are good friends now but there is still the akward moments and silences but we have alot of fun. ALso once in awhile we seem to do this thing where we kiss and makeout and hug and just lay with eachother for hours but then act like nothing happened. Im not even supposed to be seeing him actually..Im not allowed to but Im 17 and I still love him.Hes a bestfriend of mine now. Truthfully Im suprised he even stuck around..My fam tried to run him over and have tried to seperate3 me from him multiple times.But hes a wonderful person and even if we arent dating I love his company.Recently though ..Im single and he is single and we have been though alot.which i will tell at the end,I mean I like being single but Im beginning to want to date him again,of course he doesnt wanna date anyone right now or anything like that. but yeah I miss him in that way and dont ya think after all of this if we can still be in contact and things keep happinin(falling in love,kissing,developing feelings) that maybe it means something???? because thats what I have been thinking I dont believe in coincidences and I dont like to leave things to chance cuz just sitting around you could lose just one moment that affects you whole life so I have just been enjoying his friendship and hoping maybe one day we will be more.
(what we went through)
Ok well like I said there was the running him over deal..that I hated.Scared the hell out of me.Raj had hurt me many times though.Our 1st breakup he did onlline over myspace...wow huh?? and I was devasted(first breakup for me)and couldnt stop crying for longtime.Then we did this annoying back in forth thing that completly toyed with my heart and hurt like hell.I put up with his yes and no back n forthness,new gfs calling and txting me when they were with him or in bed with him...all kinds of shit.But he says that doesnt matter because what I did was worse eventhough it was just one thing I did(it was pretty bad though) but I think we are even. I did something Horrible to him once..we were "talking"and he finally had said he loved me but we had gone back in forth so much that all it did was scare me and I had invited him to this party but he said he couldnt go that he had to be with some friends so i invited my ex who was just a friend because he said he wanted to come so i was like fine we can chill out there and apparently Raj(the one I love)had called me druring the party...and I well..I wasnt really drunk I just had some khalua and my ex was begging me..and I was scared bout wat was going on with raj(didnt want to get hurt again) and for some reason...He started kissing me and It made me think of Raj and how we used to be and then I really fucked up..I got caught up in that thought and let him take my virginity in the back of a party....It wasnt for long cuz I got to my senses real quick and thought how stupid it was and i made him get off me quickly and ran back inside the party and he went home.The next day I called Raj and I told him..I wasnt sure how to be about it but I knew I could never keep something like that from him.I hurt him really bad.I wish I could change it but I cant.The past is the past.
So yeah some help would be nice.We are good friends but I cant help but think of all this when we kiss or there is even talk of us being together....Im completly scared as hell (link)
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ok, so i'm going to tell you what i tell myself. i dated a guy on and off and we still hook up sometimes. so obviously somethings still lef there. and if you can trust him and he trusts you and you really do believe you want to give you guys another chance then go for it. because then you guys will just end up having all these random hook ups which will mean nothing. so why not go for a real relationship. and then if it doesn't work, it doesn't. then you know what you are missing, nothing.
hope everything works out.
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Hi all, I want to first say thankyou so much for reading this, and I'd just like to hear your opinions, personal experiences, etc. I know this may be a little awkward, so sorry! I'm usually not this open about my personal life but I need advice and words of other people.
Okay, I'm 16/f and my boyfriend is 15/m. We are in the same grade and have been happily dating for 7 months.
Well, recently my boyfriend has been getting a little frisky when we're together. However, I have yet to expose myself to him because of some feeling I've been having:
A.) I feel like that when I do expose myself to him (removing my bra, etc..), I'll have lost a part of my innocence. I know that when he starts getting frisky, I tell him to wait, and he really respects that and says okay (we're both "goodie goodies", if you will lol) and I am so beyond thankful for that. But obviously I know that he won't wait forever, but I know that feeling of my losing innocence will still linger. I don't know why I feel this way, I mean, I care for him beyond belief, I'd risk my life to save his. I'm not ashamed of my body, I guess maybe it's because I'm afraid of what he'll think? I'm not sure, have any girls ever had this feeling before?
B.) I'm not IN love with him, or I don't believe I am, but I do love him as a person and a boyfriend and I know he likes me so much (I asked him how much he liked me and he responded "to the moon and back" so I took that as a very good sign), however, we still haven't told each other that we have love for one another. I really want him to say it, because I can't just fully unclothe myself to someone who doesn't feel the way I feel about them. I'm a pretty moral person, and that'd be 100% going againt what I believe. So what should I do to try and provoke him to say it? Should I ask him? I don't want him to say it if he doesn't mean it, but I just want to know before I do anything with him. He's a really really good kid, as am I, but this is our first real relationship and I just would like the aspects of other people.
Thank you soooo much in advance! This truly means a lot to me, so thank you for taking the time to read it :) (link)
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i respect you for having the ability to say no. and it's good that he respects you. just wait till you are truly comfortable with it, so you won't regret it. and hopefully if he cares he will wait with you. if he decideds he can't anymore than that's his problem, not yours.
you can't really provoke him to say iloveyou. for all you know he wants to say it he just doesn't have the guts either. so if you believe you're ready to tell him you love him then say it first and see his reaction. if he can say it and it sounds meaningful then maybe things are ready to go to that next step.
it's all up to you, and when you feel you are comfortable with everything to happen. so if you have any regrets wait till you don't.
hope i helped.
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what is your take on strippers do you think their trashy or do you have any level of respect for them? (link)
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i feel that it's up to them. if they are okay with it then it should be fine. also sometimes you're just put into that situation where you have to do things that others wouldn't like, but thats ok. especially if they are ok with it.
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15/f. i do volunteer work with friends on saturday. i met these 2 guys a few weeks ago(noah and matt-theyre good friends).they don't go to my school. when i first met them i was attracted to noah. we were flirting alot but he has a girlfriend. i saw them again this past saturday (3/14). matt & i were talking alot & flirting. he gave me his number and we were texting. long story short, i ended up telling him i was interested in him and noah. he asked me who i liked more and my friends convinced me to tell him i liked him more because noah has a gf. i completely regret telling him that now. we texted from about 9:30-1:30 that night. the conversation was kind of awkward and i can tell he doesnt trust me, i guess he has a reason not to though. meanwhile, noah and i started talking around 11:30. we stayed up until 3 IMing each other. he was dropping hints during the convo that would imply he's interested. he even told me he was confused with what he felt about me(because he has a gf). the convo flowed smoothly and wasnt awkward at all. i really like him but i feel bad now. matt is kind of clingy and he's always asking me questions about what i'm doing.i don't want to hurt him but its not fair to him if i tell him i like him when i like noah. what should i do? (link)
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first off, you should tell matt that you do like him but you don't know if you think you could imagine yourself in a realationship with him. avoid bringing up noah because that will hurt him. just make sure you don't go out with noah too soon. also you need to tell noah that you really like him but if he has no intentions and just wants to stay with his girlfriend then he should tell you now because you don't want to end up getting hurt.
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I like my guy friend from school, (he doesn't know, and he might like me but i'm not sure) and we talk everyday and stuff. We already have each other's phone numbers but we haven't really texted a lot, we talk mostly in school. But I do want to get his screenname and I want him to have mine, but I don't just want to randomly be like "Oh what's your screenname?" cause I'm shy about that type of thing. We both have blackberries and can go on AIM with them so I guess I could sortof initiate getting his screenname through that. Any suggestions on how I can sortof get his without being totally obvious about it? (link)
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maybe when you're with him you could pull out your blackberry and get on aim. make sure he know you're on. if he doesn't end up giving you his be like hey do you have an aim? and then like ask him to put it in since its already open.
hopefully it works.
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ok so saturday(3/7/09)i called my friend to see if she wanted to hang out. just to let you know i havent talked to her since before thanksgiving. but any way the third time i called her dad answered. he asked how i was doing then he told me the bad news. my best friend had moved into an assesment home. it was required by the court,because she was in adoption and got adopted in 2005. anyway i cried for like three hours because i had just lost my bfff. and the fact was that no one decided to call me and tell me. i am on her call list so she couldof called me. but anyway she is bipolar. and my mom talked with her mom and she said if i called her she might just tell me to f*** off and i am affraid to call her but i really need to talk to her any advice about how i should go about doing this???? (link)
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If you call her with no expectations and she might tell you off it would help a lot. It will probably hurt you to hear all of this coming from your best friend but you also will know she has a problem. Just trying calling her because you probably miss her. And if she yells at you and you can't take it just back off for a while. At least you'll know you tried.
hena :]
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so i know this has happened before, but it's a lot more complicated than i thought it'd be. he's 100% catholic, i'm 100% atheist. we've had the long arguments before about who's right, etc. i mean, i know religion doesn't come in every day life for us, but still sometimes it bothers me when it does. so, how could i overlook this? (link)
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Obviously you both are very into your own things. But if you really love eachother you have to compromise. I don't mean you have to go and change for him, no wayyy. Just stick to what you believe, but don't tell him he's wrong. Because we all believe in different things, and no one knows who is actally right. So if you guys just both agree to stop fighting and understand that you guys have different religious views it could help a lot. And then you won't even have to worry about it.
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I'm dating someone now in my group of friends who I've dated before. My ex and I broke up about a month ago (he broke up with me.. I tried to fix it but he refused). So the ex and I aren't fighting, but we don't exactly get along. He used to be my best friends, and for some reason it's just now getting to me. I really just want to be friends again without the fear of any left over feelings, whether they be romantic or hostile. For example, he keeps staring at my new boyfriend and I (they're friends, maybe he's just trying to figure out if we're dating or not? idk). I don't really miss dating him, just keep having dreams about it. That, and I used to be the one he talkd to about pretty much everything. Now if I see he has a pessimistic song lyric, I either think it's my fault (I know it's not, I'm just parnoid), or that I should be able to ask him what's wrong.
Is this odd of me? That this stuff is bothering me so much? I mean, we were in love at one point, but I was over him before we even broke up. Now it's getting to me. So yeah, is this normal, and will the feeling let up? It's bugging me and getting in the way of my current relationship, because I sometimes almost feel guilty dating someone new, though I know we'll be very happy together.
I guess it's an issue that comes along with falling in love again? (link)
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I completely understand what you are talking about, it just recently happened to me. I don't think you should feel guilty at all. You just miss him, and I can't blame you I mean he was your best friend. So I think you should try to reconnect with him. Just enough so at least know whats going on with him and how he is. This way you won't always be wondering what to do and what hes doing. That way you'll also feel less guilty. And also try to keep it to simple talk. Try not to bring up your new boyfriend, because he's probably jealous and that could cause a fight. Just stay cool with him. And don't feel guilty, you can't help feel what you do.
Good luck.
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