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Ex/Boyfriend.
I'm dating someone now in my group of friends who I've dated before. My ex and I broke up about a month ago (he broke up with me.. I tried to fix it but he refused). So the ex and I aren't fighting, but we don't exactly get along. He used to be my best friends, and for some reason it's just now getting to me. I really just want to be friends again without the fear of any left over feelings, whether they be romantic or hostile. For example, he keeps staring at my new boyfriend and I (they're friends, maybe he's just trying to figure out if we're dating or not? idk). I don't really miss dating him, just keep having dreams about it. That, and I used to be the one he talkd to about pretty much everything. Now if I see he has a pessimistic song lyric, I either think it's my fault (I know it's not, I'm just parnoid), or that I should be able to ask him what's wrong.
Is this odd of me? That this stuff is bothering me so much? I mean, we were in love at one point, but I was over him before we even broke up. Now it's getting to me. So yeah, is this normal, and will the feeling let up? It's bugging me and getting in the way of my current relationship, because I sometimes almost feel guilty dating someone new, though I know we'll be very happy together.
I guess it's an issue that comes along with falling in love again?
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Ok. It's not odd you just want your friend back since the relationship didn't work, but you shouldn't feel guilty at all.
Me and my boyfriend broke up 1 year, 2 months and 13 days and I'm still not over him completely but that doesn't mean i love/like him, no it's just that we were best friend then we dated for couple of months, and he moved on (he dumped me but i was wrong because i hurt him). So afterwwards we became friends(until now) we act as if it's okay and all, but it's very uncomfortable, and everytime we hug (like saying hi or bye) we would get all this nasty thoughts of doing more you know, not that we haven't after the break up, but we would always start over again and it never works.
So i think you should let it go, don't try becoming friends it won't work and he doesn't seem like a good news i mean he ended it and now you have to feel guilty for it.
You have nothing to feel guilty about, okay? (It shouldn't get to you either)
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I completely understand what you are talking about, it just recently happened to me. I don't think you should feel guilty at all. You just miss him, and I can't blame you I mean he was your best friend. So I think you should try to reconnect with him. Just enough so at least know whats going on with him and how he is. This way you won't always be wondering what to do and what hes doing. That way you'll also feel less guilty. And also try to keep it to simple talk. Try not to bring up your new boyfriend, because he's probably jealous and that could cause a fight. Just stay cool with him. And don't feel guilty, you can't help feel what you do.
Good luck.
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okayy, well i believe that if you have "fallen in love" that you never "fall out of love"
some people believe dreams have a way of telling you something...
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also maybe you were never over him.. even though you may have felt that you were.. maybe you just buried your true feelings...
i think maybe you should just call him.... as a true friend.. and ask really sincerly what is wrong with him and why he keeps looking at you.. i'd say looking.. not staring.. some guys get really offensive.. but be a true friend.. and don't go into bitch mode.. its not worth it.. hope i helped!!
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